THE FORUMS
I often ask myself the same question...'what the hell do I talk about now?'
I've been able to go on a super pimp night and just ask chode questions/small talk, and then bounce the conversation from her answers. I even take the meaning of PLOWING as to just power-through by asking questions and then jumping on her answers.
But then there are those nights where my game is 'Off' and I ask the same chode questions that work for me, but they end up leading nowhere. I literally have about 10 chode questions and if they don't lead to a full-blown conversation (based on all her answers which I often expand upon by teasing/relating to/finding common ground/asking for her to elaborate/being interested ETC) then I feel that it is now time for ME TO START TALKING ABOUT WHATEVER I AM THINKING/FEELING.
So now I am at the point of thinking about wtf to say, because the conversation was good but its now running out of steam. We have already made out, and Im sitting there looking at the girl. She is looking back, waiting for me to pull her into my world even more.
But where do I go from here? I don't want to ask more questions, I know enough about her for now and i;'m not interested in finding out more about her anyway, so why ask more? I want to talk about something FUN and RANDOM but the topic (and the way i say it) needs to be CONGRUENT with who I am, because it will just sound fucking weird otherwise.
I mean, do i look at her extremely high heels, then look back into her eyes and talk about some fucked up bullshit like:
'I've always wondered how long it takes those circus-people to learn how to walk on those massive stilts. When I was a kid I used to have those little bucket-shoes that have straps attached that you can walk on, so it's as if you are walking on bucket-stilts. I could never get the hang of it, I practiced for what seemed like HOURS but I'd always be that kid that always tripped up and landed face down in the mud. When I was on them I thought I was really cool, like I'd go to parties, set up my bucket-shoes and cruise through all the crowds of kids on my bucket shoes as they stared at me in awae. I'd walk up to one of the girls i fancied there thinking I was hot shit, then BOOM, i'm face down in the mud. *roll eyes* Seriously, it baffles me how retarded I was as a kid...even those po-go sticks, I could never work out those weird contraptions. I guess I'm just not circus material. Actually I suppose I have just described myself as some kind of retarded clown...maybe I'll dye my hair orange tomorrow and tell people a clown and see what reactions I get. Anyway, have you ever been to Cirque de Soleil (sp?) ?
(and now I can lead into how I have been to one in hong kong blah blah blah)
Seriously, if this is all I have to do, then I am going to make myself 5 different routines. I will use them untill I dream up more, because it's a lot easier to type that out, than to say in out-loud and in the moment. I recon if I told the same story to a girl it would be shortened by half (due to me forgetting to elaborate on details and emotions) and then she will laugh/respond/be creeped out and THEN I WOULD HAVE TO BE THINKING OF ANOTHER STORY - OH GOD SO STRESSFULL
I've been able to go on a super pimp night and just ask chode questions/small talk, and then bounce the conversation from her answers. I even take the meaning of PLOWING as to just power-through by asking questions and then jumping on her answers.
But then there are those nights where my game is 'Off' and I ask the same chode questions that work for me, but they end up leading nowhere. I literally have about 10 chode questions and if they don't lead to a full-blown conversation (based on all her answers which I often expand upon by teasing/relating to/finding common ground/asking for her to elaborate/being interested ETC) then I feel that it is now time for ME TO START TALKING ABOUT WHATEVER I AM THINKING/FEELING.
So now I am at the point of thinking about wtf to say, because the conversation was good but its now running out of steam. We have already made out, and Im sitting there looking at the girl. She is looking back, waiting for me to pull her into my world even more.
But where do I go from here? I don't want to ask more questions, I know enough about her for now and i;'m not interested in finding out more about her anyway, so why ask more? I want to talk about something FUN and RANDOM but the topic (and the way i say it) needs to be CONGRUENT with who I am, because it will just sound fucking weird otherwise.
I mean, do i look at her extremely high heels, then look back into her eyes and talk about some fucked up bullshit like:
'I've always wondered how long it takes those circus-people to learn how to walk on those massive stilts. When I was a kid I used to have those little bucket-shoes that have straps attached that you can walk on, so it's as if you are walking on bucket-stilts. I could never get the hang of it, I practiced for what seemed like HOURS but I'd always be that kid that always tripped up and landed face down in the mud. When I was on them I thought I was really cool, like I'd go to parties, set up my bucket-shoes and cruise through all the crowds of kids on my bucket shoes as they stared at me in awae. I'd walk up to one of the girls i fancied there thinking I was hot shit, then BOOM, i'm face down in the mud. *roll eyes* Seriously, it baffles me how retarded I was as a kid...even those po-go sticks, I could never work out those weird contraptions. I guess I'm just not circus material. Actually I suppose I have just described myself as some kind of retarded clown...maybe I'll dye my hair orange tomorrow and tell people a clown and see what reactions I get. Anyway, have you ever been to Cirque de Soleil (sp?) ?
(and now I can lead into how I have been to one in hong kong blah blah blah)
Seriously, if this is all I have to do, then I am going to make myself 5 different routines. I will use them untill I dream up more, because it's a lot easier to type that out, than to say in out-loud and in the moment. I recon if I told the same story to a girl it would be shortened by half (due to me forgetting to elaborate on details and emotions) and then she will laugh/respond/be creeped out and THEN I WOULD HAVE TO BE THINKING OF ANOTHER STORY - OH GOD SO STRESSFULL
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bparry
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Join Date: 04/14/2012 | Posts: 20
If I tell a girl "hey" and just smirk, unless she's already attracted to me just 'cause I happen to be her type or
something, she won't give a shit. I'm pretty goddamn sure of it. Taking a cue from you, icewahine, if I start talking
about how fucking cool the Yngwie model guitar is, but how it's hard to play 'cause the frets are actually scalloped,
which means you must really press very lightly, I probably won't get past the first few words. She'll just turn around
and give her friend a look like, "This fucking guy, is he gone yet? Shit, I can't believe he's talking to me."
The 'hey' would definitely have to be said with a powerful commanding tone, so go louder than you think you need to and keep it deep. If you can do it so that it cuts her attention and interrupts whatever she was thinking of or saying, then if you're just standing there she'll have to start thinking about you. After that i'm not sure though, i guess a little pause with strong eye contact to escalate the impact a bit after she is looking at you then ask what her name is and tell her she is cute or something - you must have wanted to talk to her for a reason. Then what you follow on with would depend on the situation and response you get, but if it's something directly relatable (ie if shes got an accent, or if you're at a concert) it will be easier for her to keep up the conversation - I think if you start talking straight away about the guitar - even if she is into you, she wont know what to say cause you haven't really left an opening for her (unless she knows guitars) - but I'm still pretty much a choad so there's a good chance its completely possible and my view of how it can happen is still fucked up, just a disclaimer