THE FORUMS

(I posted my original Success Story in my blog only)

Let me preface by saying if you’ve read the reviews and are remotely interested in taking a bootcamp, just fucking do it and don’t wait. I don’t care what you know, or think you know, this will only help you internalize big concepts that would otherwise take a lot more of your time to cultivate on your own.

Friday
I arrive at the hotel lobby we’re all supposed to meet at Friday night and first met Nathan’s assistant Dave at the bar. We shot the shit w the bartender there and soon, Nathan arrives. Turns out, the other students canned on the bootcamp so I was the only one on bootcamp. Haha so between the instructor, two assistants (Dave and Jeff), and myself, I had a really good student-to-instructor ratio. Not a bad start. So Nathan informs me that this is a bootcamp and like a military bootcamp, there will be commands that you have to obey, like it or not, for your own good. So there will be times when he says: “Right here, right now. Go.” I better do it. We do some exercises and we’re off to the first bar.

As SOON as we arrive, its “right here, right now” with these two asian cuties. I approach, Dave comes to wing a few minutes in, but we get blown out. Nathan explains he did that so I’d know what it feels like to go in and within the first thirty seconds of walking in a club, talk to the hottest chick (or group of chicks) in the venue. The point of this exercise is so that everything flows better throughout the night and it helps to get you out of your logical mindset early on. And if you get blown out, it takes the sting out of getting blown out from other chicks later in the night. I’m going to start doing this more often, cuz it really does help.

After that, I’m approaching more and more throughout the night. The balls’ rolling now. Haha in fact, I think my ball is rolling too fast. It wasn’t even 11:00 yet and the “blow outs” were starting to affect me. So I chat up this Korean girl for a while the guys are entertaining her friend (This in itself was huge for me, cuz I’ve never seen what good wings look like, because my friends back home genuinely suck). So I’m dragging her around everywhere, LEADING, being a man, demonstrating that I have a dick. Overall good interaction, but I wasn’t smooth enough to overcome her little shit tests.

So, we leave the first bar and go to this place that’s similar to a bar I frequent back home. A lot more hipster types here. After 30 min or so Jeff and I go outside and play the “30 second game” (a game I’ve played at home since this boot camp). I start chatting up these two girls at the bar, one of them being just my type: dark raven hair, big eyes, and an amazing ass (okay sure, that’s probably A LOT guy’s type, not just mine). Haha her hotness is actually fueling my manly aggressiveness. We talk just long enough to be able to drag her over to the dance floor. Make out ensues. Everywhere I drag her to after that she and I can’t keep our hands off each other. I attribute this to my dominance in the situation. She can’t get enough of it and I feel the same. She then introduces me to her friends and they all love me. I ask her “know of any after parties?” she turns to her friends and says: “Let’s have an after party at my plaaace!! Woooo!” It’s all coming together now ;) we dance some more and she’s telling me how bad she wants to fuck the shit out me. I pull her hair back to where she is now looking up at me and I tell her how I knew she likes her hair pulled, just way harder than this (I was going easy on her). So before I leave out for the after party, I get to put her address in my google maps on my phone (b/c I don’t know Austin and I’m bad at directions). Its 2am, and the bars closing up. She’s riding w her friends and I’m parked in the opposite direction a few blocks away. On my way to her place, I notice I’m ridiculously low on gas and my phone is close to death w/ no car charger (Logistics, fellas). FINALLY I find a gas station open at that hour, but my phone (which is also my fucking map) dies. It’s almost 3am and I think I’ve blown it: I’m lost, she either fell asleep, went to another party, or something by this point, and even if I DO get to her apt complex, what apt number is it? I have no way of contacting her. I was feeling defeated, but something clicked and I said “NO. FUCK THIS. THAT CHICKS GONNA GET LAID TONIGHT. AND SO AM I.” Somehow, I had a vivid vision of the map I saw on my phone and all the streets leading to her complex. I went from having the sense of navigation of a bag of blind cats, to motherfuckin’ Magellan. I think pussy has that effect on guys… I miraculously get to her complex, haha park in a handicapped spot b/c of lack of parking, and now I’m looking for any signs of a party going on. Then I see them all by the pool . She sees me and gives me a huge hug and kiss, and after some weirdness w her gay friend (side story: while I have my feet in the water sitting next to my girl, he swims up like a fat, gay jaws, starts sucking on my toes, and then says “show me your balls”. I stand my ground and never show him my balls and somehow get him off my toes without kicking him in the face, ruining the mood with my girl) we go up to her room. We fucked for hours.

Saturday
The next day, I meet the crew at a local hamburger joint to review what happened the night before. Nathan shows me video of me talking to sets at the first bar where I’m leaning in too much. He explains I need to be more like a “pillar” that SHE leans into. This is actually going to be kind of hard to change for me, so I need to practice this more back home. Also, my tonality is something I really need to work on. He gives me a lot of great advice, but these are the two biggest things I was doing wrong the night before. After the meeting its 3 hours for shit, shower, and shave, then time to go out. I get to the bar before the rest of the guys, but I still managed to approach a set within the first 30 seconds of entering without any prodding by Nathan. Most of the interactions go well enough. At this point in time, I’m just trying to be social and have fun. There was a moment where I was felt so attracted to a girl I felt like I had to have her. She was caboose in her long line of friends walking past me and I stopped her, but my hands around her waist and said “Wait. I have to meet you.” She looks at me, smiles like I just saved her life, and right then I go for the make out. The friend in front of her turned and saw this, dragged her by the arm and said: “C’mon slut…” as the girl I just made out with is still looking at me smiling. At this moment, I feel like I’ve got a golden cock, but then I stopped and realized I have to stop this ego bullshit before it gets crazy and screws me up for the rest of the night. My attractiveness that’s been working for me so far has come from me feeling so attracted that I use that as energy to fuel my interactions, not ego fulfillment.

So it’s on to the next bar and I’m pumped. Because of the sheer number of girls that were taken (bfs/engaged/married) I didn’t have any success as far as make outs or closes go. BUT my improv skills were fuckin awesome (if I do say so myself). I was making up the craziest scenarios with these girls and just having a blast. Because they were taken, I didn’t escalate or show intent. I was letting my goofy/funny/crazy side out without any worry of having dancing monkey syndrome, or whatever.
I had the same situation at the next bar we were at, but at this time I was approaching so many attractive girls that were taken I felt like I was getting beaten with sticks, like a muay thai fighter trying to build callus on his body. I was feeling really defeated, the totally wrong attitude to have when your only goal is to go out and have fun. 10 min before closing time, I see this blonde girl talking with her friends. I approach (I forgot how I opened. It’s almost always some dumb bullshit tho) and we start talking, touching, arms around each other, eye fucking. In the middle of the interaction, I thought “didn’t she have friends she was talking to?” I turn to acknowledge the friends and give them an overdue introduction, and they’re all staring at me with daggers. I ask one of her gay dude friends his name, and he grabs the girl and says “Leaving”. What a cunt this guy is, right?? So by this time its closing time and the resurrection crew and I head out for a late night debrief.
The guys also noticed that there were a crazy number of taken girls that night and that never happens. With some critiques mixed in, Nathan gives me a lot of encouraging words and its taking everything I’ve got not to get a big head. According to him, I’m way better than I give myself credit for. This is probably true, because I second guess myself constantly. “You’ve got something I can’t teach” was the best compliment I heard in a long while. What was even better was hearing the things I need to work on.

Sunday
Meet up with Nathan at my hotel lobby and we discuss a lot of in depth topics. Masculine and feminine polarity, the dynamics of the club scene, life, etc. I could go on and on about our pow-wow session, but I would take up too much space. It’s one of the most interesting and conversations I’ve had. This guy has a lot more life experience than I do and his stories were educational and compelling. It was good to talk to someone who’s already been down many of the same paths I’m just starting out on. Seriously an amazing weekend, and like I said before, if you are thinking about taking a bootcamp, especially one in Austin w Nathan, do it. You won’t regret it. Thanks to Dave, Jeff, and especially Nathan for everything that weekend! It was everything I needed!

- JG Wentworth

FOLLOW-UP!
Ok, guys here’s my follow up to my bootcamp I took last summer: I’m at a place where I can go anywhere and get girls flirting with me, interacting with me, following my lead, playing around, and FEELING EMOTIONS. Nathan really exposed my weak points (tonality, not drawing her in, relating as a man to a woman, etc.) until now they’re pretty much eradicated (and if I DO fall back into those old patterns, I’m at least conscious of it and I fix it). It was also good that Nathan showed me what things I already had going for me, what was working, and how I could make them better (eye contact, physicality, leading, etc.). My only problem now is I’m too big of a fish in my (very) small city. I’m actually getting a reputation for being a player (haha these are quality problems, fellas), but after more guidance from Nathan over the phone, I know what I need to do to fix all that and I’m going to make a conscious effort. Nathan has been an awesome mentor, and I definitely needed his guidance because 1) Everyone around me SUCKS with women and 2) HE’S BEEN THERE BEFORE. This type of coach was invaluable to me because he can see my sticking points better than me, or anyone else I know. I’m still trying to get better and I don’t think I’ll ever be done improving myself, but guys, a bootcamp will take YEARS off of your learning curve. If this area of your life is really a priority, make the investment and take a bootcamp. Let Nathan whip your ass into shape. Also, Austin is a REALLY cool city :) you’ll definitely have fun too.