THE FORUMS

December 9th, 2016
~ 30 days of adventure ~
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Realman

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Oi!
I want to ask you a question:
What would you do if you had all the information you need to be successfull in pick up and you knew exactly what to go after? Would you use it and transform yourself?
Everyone would say yes, but the reality is different. Julien says it is about 20%. Why? Because most persons are weak and do not want to change.

I went to the Hotseat in Paris with Julien and that was life changing because I now know what exactly is attractive to a woman and why. 14 hours of infield videos and literally 31 pages of notes.
He advices us to do a 30 days challenge after such an event.
So, LET'S MAKE THIS HAPPEN! idea

The rules for the 30 days of adventure:

1) NO EXCUSES RULE: You are tired, it is not an excuse. You are sick, it is not an excuse. You have a headache, it is not an excuse. Nothing is an excuse. Never, never give an excuse for not going out.


2) Go out everyday or night for a minimum of 30 minuts and approach a minimum of 3 sets per session. It starts on the 09.04.12 and it ends the 09.05.12.
3) I have 31 pages of notes I took at the hotseat and I want to use the concepts, so everyday I must rewrite my notes on my computer for 30 minuts so that it can refresh my brain.
4) Sunday is a day off.
5) Never forget rule number 1.

Feeling of fear and excitement teeth
Tonight will be Day 1 teeth
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Day 1: Night Game on Monday
I drove to the city and while driving I was pumping myself speaking alone in my car. i was saying things that pumped me up and that I thought were fun at that moment. I realized that if a woman would have been in my car at that time, it would not have been much different because:
I was saying things for me and for my own fun. Self amusement.
Then I arrived in the city and had to wait 30 minuts for my wing. So i started walking down the streets, I wanted to try a " HEY, you look like you know how to party!" à la Tyer and then hugh and spin her BUT I was feeling very nervous because I was in my head saying, this stuff is not normal, it is not normal etc.
Then I saw a girl sitting in a bus stop, Zero reaction time ✔, and at that time my INTENT ( clarity in your words, thoughts and actions) was on being social and start being less constipated, so I was congruent with my INTENT ✔, I opened with something like " hey, I wanted to talk to you , my friend is late and I want to start being social, whats up". It went well but and I stayed congrent with my intent because I did not want to make a move at that time on that girl.
Note: it is very important to be congruent with the state you are in and do not force it.
Then I met my wing and we went to a bar, there we saw two girls, zero reaction time ✔( you act and then you deal with what happened because you cannot predict a reaction). We opened, I was congruent with my INTENT ✔, I touched her when i wanted, said what I wanted for me because I thought it was fun, did not react to her because i value my words more than them, sometimes I used her words to pump my own state, i spoke without filters saying what was in my mind at that moment then i dealt with what happened
She shit tested my a lot but I stayed unreactive because I was unreactive and I valued my words more than hers.
At the I stood up and told her to stand up because I wanted to HUGH her ( congruence with INTENT ✔) and at that moment she said no and then looked in my eyes if I flinched or not ( if I was certain about my behavior), I was certain because my INTENT was aligned and she stood up and I HUGHED her for as long as I wanted.
I noticed that she was reacting a lot because my reality was stronger. She was not very attractive so I did not want to go for the kiss at that time with that girl.
We then left and I was feeling very good, i was pumped ( because I did the actions for me and my own fun) and I started having momentum ✔, we were screaming in the streets. At that time, I wanted to do a " HEY, you look like you know how to party!" and then physically grab the girl but we did not met a girl in the streets ( they were very empty).
Momentum and I noticed that my INTENT changed through the night from " oh be social" to " hey, I want you!"

3 sets tonight. I started to understand the power of reference points. Tomorrow, day game and then night game. SKOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
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Day 2: Night Game on Tuesday
What went well:
- I approached 5-6 sets
- Used the jerk off theory
-My wing and I went in a set and there was a hottie in red and I noticed that she tried to tease every guy around her and then she looked in their eyes to see if they flinched/ reacted to her. That was awesome to see that, when the man reacted, she was not attracted, when he did not react and looked deeply in her eyes withouth reacting, baam attraction. Mabe it is a way that woman use to select the sex worthy man.
What I have to do better nex time:
- I wanted to experience state again like yesterday so i was focused in getting in state. State did not come. For next, time do not think am I in state or not? If you take actions, it will happen. Assume that it will come.
- After the hotseat, I have so much theory/ concepts i want to apply/ things I can see in an interaction that I do not enjoy the moment any more but instead i am in my head analyzing how I interact with the woman. I am thining, am I reacting to her? Am I the buyer or the seller? Is it a shit test? How is my state? ETC Because I want to change my old behavior and internalize the new ways of interacting. But , in this way, I stay focus in my head and it sucks!
How can I change my behaviors( aka internalize the new concepts) and enjoy purely the moment without thining at it if I am not consious about it?

Thanks for your answers ! :)
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IMO you should focus on the one most important thing you got from the HS, and work on it until it's handled and internalized. 
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Thanks Paris Boom Boom for your answer!
Day 3: Night Game on Wednesday
The bars were empty, only unattarctive girls. I did not approach because I had a realization, I do not want to approach to be social, I know how to do it and am social. I want to approach to select a hottie, if I want for sex. And it changes a lot of things.
You do not approach to internalize the HOTSEAT concepts to be awesome but you use the HOTSEAT concepts to have sex with the girl. BOOM.

Today there was no hotties so I did not want to approach to be social( and gain momentum) because I knew that there was no hotties. I was more interested in vibing with my friend that meeting random fatties. My RAS ;)
I NEED and WANT to practice my game on HOTTIES. Because with the fatties etc, I am clear in my intent, am the buyer and feel entitled.
So, no approaches tonight but big realization, I am doing it to fuck hotties and not only to internalize the HOTSEAT concepts.
Tomorrow, Firday and Saturday are the nights where you can find the Hotties in my town. So let's do it!
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I feel that my life is changing.
Day 4: Night Game on Thursday
I approcahed 20+ sets tonight. My reaction time is getting closer to zero. I love doing the "hey" give her my hand, be fully congruent with it, when she gives me her hand, I pull her close to me and say random shit then hugh, spin and I carry her.
What i loved tonight:
- I start getting closer with the woman and that gives me boners. Great. very important. Cut the space and speak right to her hear. Also take her hands nd put them around your waist or on your shoulders, hold her, or hold hands.
- Appraoch only if you are excited by her.
- I was dancing with a hottie and her friend came and hughed her and told me " we are togehter", I hughed the blond one and told her friend " Oi, she is mine, get the fuck out of here! She is mine, I am a nice man, 2 seconds", her friend left and I stayed with the blonde.
- I speak for myself and because I think it is fun
- Unreactive and set the rythm of the interaction, that's it ;)
What I can do better next time:
- Work on my MAN 2 WOMAN conversation. I was in front of a girl, I wanted to kiss her ( INTENT) but started choding with irrelevant sentences I did not want to say. Next time, kiss her and deal with it after. Do what I want to do with her.
- Also, when I am in frint of a woman, I have to work on expressing my INTENT and that I want her. Have to work on that too.
- If I numclose, i have to tell her " when do we meet " etc set a date and not like I did tonight facebook close with chode purpose. BAM TAKE RESPONSABILITY FOR DAY 2.

Also, calibration is very important because a woman told me ( early in the night), You do not make me feel comofrtable, I am uncomfortable. I got too agressive and went too hard. But calibration has to be done by practising...

This afternoon, I did not want to go out , i felt anxious and wanted to stay home. I remembered Julian saying that your old reality will try to hold you back . Break into the new reality. Never give up. And the night was awesome, because I took action, had feminin energy and had fun.
Tonight, will be night game aagain. Excited.
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Day 5: Night Game on Friday

10+ sets.
I was in a very high level club.
What I did good:
- Approached
- Was congruent with my state
- Had a lot of fun
What I can do better next time:
- Open immediately after I enter the club otherwise I am in a spectator mode
- I did not believe in what I was doing ( the hand of god) for example
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Day 6: Night Game on Saturday
I start having macro momentum and it takes less time to get in state.
I had a huge shit this morning waking up. When I was going to club, i was like " let's pick up women" and with this attitude you become dependant to her, you need her.
So tonight, I went with the atittude " I am going to have fun with my friends, I will have fun with them and if there is a hottie, I will go and express myself".
I also had the realizazion that I do not need to act like Tyler or Julien to pick up women because it is not my personnality. I started doing things that I am congruent with.
I had the realization that you celebrate your personnality with yourself and there is feminin energy celbrating it, you express your personnality freely and she will be a part of that. But you do not need her at all, you do not need anything from her. You are enough by yourself. Everything you do or say is for your own self amusement and not for hers. PUmp yourself first and then express.

I also have to think less and act/ do what I want.
I started the jack off theory, I gave eye contact with a hottie who was dancing with a man, I stared at her, I was full ON, I immediately gave her two kisses on the cheek and the grabed her head and we started making out while she was still dancing with the man, then I left and continued building my moemtum. It happened in 2 seconds. Was ON. i was acting fully on my intent and I was not conscious.
IT WAS HAPPENING. I WAS BEING MYSELF.

I also started saying things for my own amusement without responding emotionaly to her but still responsive to the situation. I apprach , tap tap, make a heart with my hands and then say " you are my last chance for love!" " If not, I will masturabte with my own tears as lubriciant!" BOOM it is ON.

I also had the realization that when you think about what to say to a woman, you are wanting to make an impression and that kills the attraction. Just go with nothing in your head and express freely, she will appreciate the authenticity.

i also started opening with random shit and then grabbing her head to kiss her( because I wanted to ) and then calibrate after. A lot of fear but it is worth it.
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Today i sunday is a day off.
I almost finished to write all my HOTSEAT notes on my computer. Awesome.
But what i discovered is that I do not have to use Juline's lines or tyler's line because it is not my personnality. I have to start to use my lines/way of acting/ voice tonality so that it is congruent with my personality. If you go to a girl and think about something to say, you are trying to make an impression and it will not work. Go in, be fully present and express. Put your personlaity on the line. Say what you want in the moment, do not prepare what to say. I do not prepare what to say when I meet a friend so I am not going to do it when I will meet woman. Go in as fast as possible and say what is on your mind at that moment for you. BAM attraction.
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Day 8: Nightgame on a Monday
I drove to the city in order to hit sets but there was literaly not sets. I found 2 female friends at a bar, two hotties so I sat on their table and applied the new concepts ( self amusement for me and not for her, no emtoional reaction, pure self expression).
I also finished writing my 31 pages of notes from the hotseat. i literally have everything I need to be good at this, what I need is tons of reference experiences so let's do it! yeah :)
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day 8: Daygame on a Tuesday
First, i feel really centered in myself, that's awesome.
Today, I approached a hottie at the metro station, but the sticking point I have is that I do not say things for my own un but to make her like me and I try to impress her with my stories SOOOO I have to work on pure expression without impression and self amusement ( saying things for me that I think are fun for my own fun). But the problem is that when I see a hottie I " try" to game so my mission for tomorrow is to apprach fatties and work on these two concepts ( of course, if there is a hottie, i will go and approach her!).
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