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Come in this thread if you're a perfectionist who doesn't put forth 100% because of a fear of failure
double post, sorry.
I think you wrapped a mental concept around one idea:
going hard, or staying at home. All or nothing. Hit it hardcore. Not letting resistance even knock at your door.
going hard, or staying at home. All or nothing. Hit it hardcore. Not letting resistance even knock at your door.
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Being a Pimp doesn't mean that you don't get afraid, being a Pimp means that you don't let fear stop you. Your life consists of single days. Your days consist of single moments. If you try to be your best self in every moment, you will realize your full life potential. Every big journey consists of small steps.
that is me. perfectionists are pussies and being a perfectionist not rational. It's trained into us by school and such bullshit. I am on Anthony Robbins right now, now habbit, will check that out. I am doing great tho. Training my willpower and my muscle to take action and plan my day is going ok so far. The now habit sounds cool. I love people who go: Why not right away and call that person now/ type that up now. Leaves procrastination no chance.
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JUST FUCKING DO IT
Seriously, just fucking do it.
My complete transformation:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/209686
Seriously, just fucking do it.
My complete transformation:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/209686
fuckk i am on rsdnation instead of finishin my assignment. at least we notice it and acknowledge. ;) now i'll take a short nap :DDD
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JUST FUCKING DO IT
Seriously, just fucking do it.
My complete transformation:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/209686
Seriously, just fucking do it.
My complete transformation:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/209686
yeah I can recognise this in myself, you gave a helpful breakdown of the thought processes.
btw what's up with this trend of everyone dismissing everything that's slightly introspective... yes, excessively theorizing things is mental masturbation. action is super important. but sometimes you have to back down and take a look at where you're going, not just blindly go steaming ahead.
btw what's up with this trend of everyone dismissing everything that's slightly introspective... yes, excessively theorizing things is mental masturbation. action is super important. but sometimes you have to back down and take a look at where you're going, not just blindly go steaming ahead.
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yeah I can recognise this in myself, you gave a helpful breakdown of the thought processes.
btw what's up with this trend of everyone dismissing everything that's slightly introspective... yes, excessively theorizing things is mental masturbation. action is super important. but sometimes you have to back down and take a look at where you're going, not just blindly go steaming ahead.
Somebody correctly did it once in an overly analytical thread and now everyone has to do it on every thread to prove how cool and relaxed they are and how they don't take anything too seriously because relax bro, it's just mental masturbation btw what's up with this trend of everyone dismissing everything that's slightly introspective... yes, excessively theorizing things is mental masturbation. action is super important. but sometimes you have to back down and take a look at where you're going, not just blindly go steaming ahead.
overcoming yourself is by far the toughest challenge. especially for a self-driven area of your life. i always hold a deep respect for successful PUAs as it actually requires tremendous discipline to go out regularly and push yourself. i would like to know how to be better at doing everything i should be doing. maybe finding a way to instill a sense of urgency or seriousness into it.
Hang in there. And don't give up. You're at the right place. Good luck everyone.
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"It is not enough to know YOU MUST DO" -Bruce Lee ; "I do and I understand"- Confuscious (Got that from Jeffy show hehe)
"Every sentence written or spoken,action, everything in the universe can be a rabbit hole to master" Me
"Don't take this too serious or be serious out there. It can work against you.GO OUT TO CLUBS,PARTIES,ETC. Relax, have fun, have "sucess with women".Trust in the process.Trust in the time you put in. 'Be positive always'. Focus on "the positive" and you will learn faster. Obviously the more time you put in the better and faster the learning and result will be.Trust in the knowledge you're aplying because the 'RSD/PUA knowledge' is probably the 'best truth' we have today.The process is fun and everlasting
." I think this is true
"A woman can feel a similar powerful emotional and physical response that's similar to the one we feel when we see an attractive woman.....A woman can feel that in response to something....Okay instead of trying to logically convince a woman to feel attracted.They must 'trigger it'...'Personality' is the primary way that attraction is 'triggered inside of women' " David D! Best of wishes to you sir wherever U R.
"Never put any girl on a pedestal no matter what anyone else thinks. Don't 'be' , 'think' and 'feel' like ' they ' ( 'chodes' ) do. Be 'comfortable' with them around you because you 'know why they are like that.' Never be in that ' 'chode' headspace' "
"Always have Abundance mentality. 1.Alot of girls will always like you. The more you meet the more will like you.Always have freedom from outcome 2. You can have the exact same great connection with many many girls. There is nothing special about any girl and connection you made with her. Fuck and forget "everything" about society,social conditioning,songs,media,movies that go against abundance mentality"
"Never-attach-too-much-meaning to interactions with girls for example if you like a girl always go for her phone number" ; "MOVEMENT IS LIFE" RSDNathan
"Before enlightenment, chop wood and carry water.After enlightenment,chop wood and carry water." Ancient Eastern Adage
PROCESS!PROCESS! "Build it as well" ; "You're already living the "dreamlife". Some of you just don't realize it" I think this is true.
"Everything is a learning experience"
"The guys that get humor. Learned it from books" Jeffty AKA JLAIX
"It is not enough to know YOU MUST DO" -Bruce Lee ; "I do and I understand"- Confuscious (Got that from Jeffy show hehe)
"Every sentence written or spoken,action, everything in the universe can be a rabbit hole to master" Me
"Don't take this too serious or be serious out there. It can work against you.GO OUT TO CLUBS,PARTIES,ETC. Relax, have fun, have "sucess with women".Trust in the process.Trust in the time you put in. 'Be positive always'. Focus on "the positive" and you will learn faster. Obviously the more time you put in the better and faster the learning and result will be.Trust in the knowledge you're aplying because the 'RSD/PUA knowledge' is probably the 'best truth' we have today.The process is fun and everlasting
." I think this is true "A woman can feel a similar powerful emotional and physical response that's similar to the one we feel when we see an attractive woman.....A woman can feel that in response to something....Okay instead of trying to logically convince a woman to feel attracted.They must 'trigger it'...'Personality' is the primary way that attraction is 'triggered inside of women' " David D! Best of wishes to you sir wherever U R.
"Never put any girl on a pedestal no matter what anyone else thinks. Don't 'be' , 'think' and 'feel' like ' they ' ( 'chodes' ) do. Be 'comfortable' with them around you because you 'know why they are like that.' Never be in that ' 'chode' headspace' "
"Always have Abundance mentality. 1.Alot of girls will always like you. The more you meet the more will like you.Always have freedom from outcome 2. You can have the exact same great connection with many many girls. There is nothing special about any girl and connection you made with her. Fuck and forget "everything" about society,social conditioning,songs,media,movies that go against abundance mentality"
"Never-attach-too-much-meaning to interactions with girls for example if you like a girl always go for her phone number" ; "MOVEMENT IS LIFE" RSDNathan
"Before enlightenment, chop wood and carry water.After enlightenment,chop wood and carry water." Ancient Eastern Adage
PROCESS!PROCESS! "Build it as well" ; "You're already living the "dreamlife". Some of you just don't realize it" I think this is true.
"Everything is a learning experience"
"The guys that get humor. Learned it from books" Jeffty AKA JLAIX
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This is something I have struggled with all my life.
I normally go about 50-80% and when I get decent results, I am happy. I can rationalize it as "well I got pretty good results, but not super awesome results because I didn't try my hardest."
But if I do try my hardest and fail, that sucks. That fucking blows ass. I know that it's not a bad thing and that it is necessary. I know. But to a perfectionist it's a different kind of pain that regular people don't understand.
I am trying to make it my goal to fail massively. Not like put forth a little effort and fail and who cares, I mean try something FUCKING HUGE and fail at it.
This applies to me both in pickup as well as in business.
I own my own business but half ass it and don't do as well as I could because my mind creates a million reasons why I shouldn't put forth 100%, and I know it's to protect my ego from a possible failure.
A failure from 50% effort can be rationalized as "well, I only put forth about 50% so who cares."
A success from 50% actually BOOSTS your ego, because it's like "well I did ok, but I know if I had put forth more effort I would've done even better because I am awesome."
But a failure from 100% sucks in a way non-perfectionists don't get.
Overcoming this is one of my goals for 2012.
edit - I am making this thread instead of working on some business stuff I have been putting off for the last 3 days.
Bro you just described me to a T.