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December 18th, 2014
How come the community doesn't talk about nuances like perceiving body language, vibes and social cues?
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Knoxville

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Something that has benefited me socially is feeling vibes, interpretting facial expressions, body language social cues and reactions that result from weak shit I used to say/do. I never find articles regarding this area. I just notice some guys being clueless to certain situations. Like they just dont "get it." Or they are not in tune with someone elses emotions so they do not recognize when they are offending or turning people off. 

I feel like these tools are invaluable and some guys could really benefit from it all. 
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rake_god

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They do talk about it. Its called calibration.
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-destroyed

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because it's gay to talk about it.




just do your own thing and think somehow good of yourself. everything else will fit into places.
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situation500

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 Watch BLUEPRINT
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Robertozico

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Because it autocorrects!

When u feel more selfconfident, ur bodylanguage will change...
So love urself more... Gain more love for u and it will autofix it...
No more stange movements because u wanna impress... No more
closed bodylanguage because u believe in urself and take space..
Because u feel u have value to give to everyone!
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Adil

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Because calibration is way overrated. For a newbie it's better to go-go-go without analysing shit as "finding clues" in a girl's facial expression will put him in a reactive mode.
With more experience, as already said above, it autocorrects.
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UtopiaFive

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Probably because it doesn't make for a lotta interesting soundbytes.  

Yeah, this stuff isn't really talked much about in terms of "how to" though its mentioned in passing, like how Jeffy talks about "the mind in the eyes" and how "years of going out" makes this go up.  This is stated as fact and just accepted, but the truth is, you have to make it a FOCUS for some period of time, to be improving in this area.  (Or at least once I personally did, I saw a lot of shit get a ton better.)  If your eyecontact is 100% 100% 100%, you'll figure this stuff out.  If its wavering and you break eye contact, you won't learn this as much.  Its mentioned (as I'm mentioning it now), but its understated, because, well...EVERYONE knows "oh yeah eye contact" but until you're "doing it right" you just don't realize how goddamn key it is.  And there's also probably some element of "it takes years to develop" so if you're doing the rapist eye contact but your emotional shit is not handled, you blow out a lot of shit...but I'm just hypothesizing here and probably just justifying anyone's newbie faggot behavior, so...man up, and just look eye to eye no matter how you feel.  Hard sometimes, but its where its at.

Also, Tyler talks about meditation a lot which is supposed to improve your emotional regulation (e.g. how you respond emotionally to various things).  

Manwhore talks about emotional projection and emotional dominance/leading so read some of his shit too if you're interested.  
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you obviously haven't watched many RSD vids. They talk about it a lot.
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Knoxville

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UtopiaFive wrote:
Probably because it doesn't make for a lotta interesting soundbytes.  

Yeah, this stuff isn't really talked much about in terms of "how to" though its mentioned in passing, like how Jeffy talks about "the mind in the eyes" and how "years of going out" makes this go up.  This is stated as fact and just accepted, but the truth is, you have to make it a FOCUS for some period of time, to be improving in this area.  (Or at least once I personally did, I saw a lot of shit get a ton better.)  If your eyecontact is 100% 100% 100%, you'll figure this stuff out.  If its wavering and you break eye contact, you won't learn this as much.  Its mentioned (as I'm mentioning it now), but its understated, because, well...EVERYONE knows "oh yeah eye contact" but until you're "doing it right" you just don't realize how goddamn key it is.  And there's also probably some element of "it takes years to develop" so if you're doing the rapist eye contact but your emotional shit is not handled, you blow out a lot of shit...but I'm just hypothesizing here and probably just justifying anyone's newbie faggot behavior, so...man up, and just look eye to eye no matter how you feel.  Hard sometimes, but its where its at.

Also, Tyler talks about meditation a lot which is supposed to improve your emotional regulation (e.g. how you respond emotionally to various things).  

Manwhore talks about emotional projection and emotional dominance/leading so read some of his shit too if you're interested.  


Thanks man! Super helpful post. A lot of value given as opposed to a one sentence "you dont watch RSD videos do you" kind of posts...lol. Your post makes me want to post helpful stuff for other people on RSD. Okay. The reason I asked was because a buddy of mine has struggled with picking up on social cues. (hes also ADD, I'm ADHD and later found out that we don't pick up on social cues. He definitely does not pick up on it. I've gotten super good over the past few years since realizing this, but its crazy how more in depth this awareness continues to grow. When I vibe out an pick up on micro flinches, it freaks people out in a good way). I've talked to him about the importance of it all and actually seeing it all. 

The whole rapist eye contact and having emotional issues has been SO true for me in the past few months. Since I realized my emotional chatter and garbage and have taken major strides in my emotional circuitry, girls response to my eye contact has been fucking amazing some nights. Meditation and deep breathing has worked wonders.
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