THE FORUMS
hit up toronto today with fader and juggernaut92
-lots of sets, will only talk about cool ones
-open this two set, fader comes in to wing, im getting my girl's #, she throws out the test "i dont think my bf would like this" i say "its fine" she gives it, FUCK YEA TAKE THAT TESTS!
-open this one set, cute girl going to work, tell her we'll go for coffee, and if we like each other we will go fuck at my place, she laughs and starts resisting a bit,
i tell her if she lets me go she'll never see me again, she says she doesnt normally give out her number, i tell her doesntmatter doesntmatter, she gives it, if i fuck this up ima be CHEESED
-phone died, so fuck the phone number
-hit up quite a few sets
-open this brown girl, very friend to friend, FUCKKK
-open this latina, UHH HI IM UHH CHRIS UMMMMM -----> blowout
-open this one girl, bring fader in for shits and giggles
-open this two set of milfs, full out tell them "i was feeling cool like a second ago, but now im not so cool" LOL they validate me and i walk, CHODEEEEEE!
-lots of blowouts, especially towards the end.
-go home, time to read :)
V:
-opened 195/1500 sets
-was TOTALLY AUTHENTIC <3
-passed congruence tests like a baussss
-went for the insta date a bunch of times
L:
-authenticity is fucking SWEEEEEET!
-don't chode, EVER
-when you get blown out, dont rationalize it, you got blown out, period. take it like a man and forget it
-lots of sets, will only talk about cool ones
-open this two set, fader comes in to wing, im getting my girl's #, she throws out the test "i dont think my bf would like this" i say "its fine" she gives it, FUCK YEA TAKE THAT TESTS!
-open this one set, cute girl going to work, tell her we'll go for coffee, and if we like each other we will go fuck at my place, she laughs and starts resisting a bit,
i tell her if she lets me go she'll never see me again, she says she doesnt normally give out her number, i tell her doesntmatter doesntmatter, she gives it, if i fuck this up ima be CHEESED
-phone died, so fuck the phone number
-hit up quite a few sets
-open this brown girl, very friend to friend, FUCKKK
-open this latina, UHH HI IM UHH CHRIS UMMMMM -----> blowout
-open this one girl, bring fader in for shits and giggles
-open this two set of milfs, full out tell them "i was feeling cool like a second ago, but now im not so cool" LOL they validate me and i walk, CHODEEEEEE!
-lots of blowouts, especially towards the end.
-go home, time to read :)
V:
-opened 195/1500 sets
-was TOTALLY AUTHENTIC <3
-passed congruence tests like a baussss
-went for the insta date a bunch of times
L:
-authenticity is fucking SWEEEEEET!
-don't chode, EVER
-when you get blown out, dont rationalize it, you got blown out, period. take it like a man and forget it
This is inspirational, keep it up homie
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@untld: thanks bro will do!
hit up local mall
-open this two set
-ugly girl is resisting me and trying to take cute blonde away from me
-so i BEAST ugly girl
-try to go for cuties number, no go
-see a hot girl, dont approach
-to be honest, i havent been texting the numbers ive been getting, IKNOWWW, im sorry guys, ive been acting like a pussy
-so i texted a sexy asian girl whose number i got sunday, shes down to meet
-go on a day2, told her i was going to fuck her in OG interaction, so i know shes dtf
-tells me shes fighting with her bf, so now shes SUPER DTF
-dont escalate, dont get sexual enough, fuckk i suck, havent been on a day2 in a while
-meeting her again sunday, ill try again but if no lay then ill leave her alone
-go home, end game
V:
-opened: 196/1500 sets
-went on a day2
-beasted a cutie
-made a second date with cute asian
L:
-ESCALATE
-get more sexual
-don't be a fag :)
hit up local mall
-open this two set
-ugly girl is resisting me and trying to take cute blonde away from me
-so i BEAST ugly girl
-try to go for cuties number, no go
-see a hot girl, dont approach
-to be honest, i havent been texting the numbers ive been getting, IKNOWWW, im sorry guys, ive been acting like a pussy
-so i texted a sexy asian girl whose number i got sunday, shes down to meet
-go on a day2, told her i was going to fuck her in OG interaction, so i know shes dtf
-tells me shes fighting with her bf, so now shes SUPER DTF
-dont escalate, dont get sexual enough, fuckk i suck, havent been on a day2 in a while
-meeting her again sunday, ill try again but if no lay then ill leave her alone
-go home, end game
V:
-opened: 196/1500 sets
-went on a day2
-beasted a cutie
-made a second date with cute asian
L:
-ESCALATE
-get more sexual
-don't be a fag :)
goal: get over my sticking points, get the pussy.
Sticking points:
1. trouble keeping up the conversation/plowing - i can now easily hook most conversations, but im having trouble vibing with the girls, im also getting fucked in the ass by congruence
tests, but im starting to beat them :)
2. not enough physicality - i can squeeze in a hi five or i a hand spin or something, but the claw or even hugs, almost completely insane for me, at least right away.
3. NOT LEADING - sometimes i can, others i cant, its kinda on and off.
4. Playing to NOT lose - this isnt about my ego protection bullshit, i wanna get laid
5. asking questions - as opposed to making statements
6. not being the CAUSE of the emotions - im still a bit too reactive to the girl
7. LACK of intent - ive noticed that i half ass some sets because "my dick isnt fully in them", gonna work on clairty of thoughts words and actions :)
8. entitlement - im still stuck in this rut where i somehow think a girl is above me, its fucking with me
im sure i'll discover more as i go alone but for now this is what im gonna focus on, if anyone has any words of advice please feel free to share
the adventure begins tomorrow....
kay so i thought id go over where i am and what ive gottenSticking points:
1. trouble keeping up the conversation/plowing - i can now easily hook most conversations, but im having trouble vibing with the girls, im also getting fucked in the ass by congruence
tests, but im starting to beat them :)
2. not enough physicality - i can squeeze in a hi five or i a hand spin or something, but the claw or even hugs, almost completely insane for me, at least right away.
3. NOT LEADING - sometimes i can, others i cant, its kinda on and off.
4. Playing to NOT lose - this isnt about my ego protection bullshit, i wanna get laid
5. asking questions - as opposed to making statements
6. not being the CAUSE of the emotions - im still a bit too reactive to the girl
7. LACK of intent - ive noticed that i half ass some sets because "my dick isnt fully in them", gonna work on clairty of thoughts words and actions :)
8. entitlement - im still stuck in this rut where i somehow think a girl is above me, its fucking with me
im sure i'll discover more as i go alone but for now this is what im gonna focus on, if anyone has any words of advice please feel free to share
the adventure begins tomorrow....
got over my #1 sticking point, BARELY run out of shit to say, and i can plow and get through most congruence tests, like a boss
ive been handling the lack of intent, sometimes it depends on how hot the girl is, sometimes its in my own head, will get more consistent on that
got the entitlement DOWNNN, never walk up to a girl thinking "i dont deserve her", im a G
i do ask questions, but that is only to structure opportunities for her to speak, otherwise nothing but statements 24/7
problems:
soo i am getting physical in my interactions, but i kinda restrain myself, so its like "oh i got a hug, i dont have to escalate because now im a pimp"
LOL writing that down im laughing about it but thats what is going on, i do not CONTINUE escalating, gonna read ozzies book and try to put it into practice
also im having trouble leading, i am gonna try to read some shit on it before i continue as idk how to lead the conversation, although emotionally no one can
take me down
my reactiveness has dropped a lot, i am mostly the cause but sometimes i border on entertainer kind of deal, so it is fucking me in the ass
the next few weeks will be awesome, ive pulled three times now, no close but i am getting better and it will come, as my chemistry teacher said: patience young grasshopper
MONTH 1 DOWN THE DRAIN, MONTH 2 HERE I COME!
hit up the pen today to see my bro
theres some chick there balling her eyes out
without thinking i bring her some tissues to wipe her tears
we get to talking, her bro was locked up for armed robbery and the rents want nothing to do with him
i tell her my own bros story
we talk, shes 25 years old
she lets out everything, she tells me all her insecurities everything, im basically just listening
when she mentions finding the right guy i kinda just click so i decide to be FULLY authentic
i tell her about the girls, about my troubles, about who i used to be, about the last five months, about last night, everything, she even knows my username on here.
we go to see our bros and come out together
she feels better, and so do i in a way, its been a while since i had let someone in like that and im glad it was her
didnt go for the number, just kinda wanted the moment to stay like that
went home
end game
theres some chick there balling her eyes out
without thinking i bring her some tissues to wipe her tears
we get to talking, her bro was locked up for armed robbery and the rents want nothing to do with him
i tell her my own bros story
we talk, shes 25 years old
she lets out everything, she tells me all her insecurities everything, im basically just listening
when she mentions finding the right guy i kinda just click so i decide to be FULLY authentic
i tell her about the girls, about my troubles, about who i used to be, about the last five months, about last night, everything, she even knows my username on here.
we go to see our bros and come out together
she feels better, and so do i in a way, its been a while since i had let someone in like that and im glad it was her
didnt go for the number, just kinda wanted the moment to stay like that
went home
end game
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@tom: umm thanks, LOL at your sig
went out today
spent a total of 13 minutes infield today :)
opened one cutie, plowed but couldnt hold so i left
V:
-harvard and MIT are hosting free online courses, YAYYYYYY <3
-lol opened 197/1500
L:
-umm, prioritize time better? :P
not a hot day, tomorrow ill either be at my old highschool or downtown for a few hours, if i reach HS then ill have to beast the mall later, OH WELL!
went out today
spent a total of 13 minutes infield today :)
opened one cutie, plowed but couldnt hold so i left
V:
-harvard and MIT are hosting free online courses, YAYYYYYY <3
-lol opened 197/1500
L:
-umm, prioritize time better? :P
not a hot day, tomorrow ill either be at my old highschool or downtown for a few hours, if i reach HS then ill have to beast the mall later, OH WELL!
went to rich mall
saw too many people i know
choded
no approaches
i am gay
until tomorrow
saw too many people i know
choded
no approaches
i am gay
until tomorrow
went out to downtown yesterday with fader
hit up a three set, mostly because i liked the dog
chatted then ejected
opened a married chick, screamed out NOOOOOO! at the top of my lungs, she was dying, let her go
opened a french 10, she was nice, had a bf whose name was mason so she was telling the truth, fudgeee
opened some arab chick, her jealous bf abdullah would've had a problem with me picking her up, got her digits anyways
lots of in between sets, most were not memorable
opened this two set who were both 10 years older than me, LOL failed the age shit test but they still said i was charming, validation ftw
fader left, opened a few more sets, nothing memorable went down
got on subway, fell asleep, woke up in sauga
V:
-opened 212/1500 sets
-every single set was totally authentic, no struggling to find something to say
-i felt very right
-a lot of calibration, even defensive sets dropped it after a while
-FLEW past most congruence tests, a few threw me off but for the most part i was passing them like a bauss
L:
-plowing is awesomeeeeeee
-screaming: WHAT DID I DO WRONG!? makes life so worth it :P
-gotta go for the number more, i couldve gotten like 4 more had i just asked
-going with a wing is fun, but i should be able to do the exact same thing solo - august i'll work on that
hit up a three set, mostly because i liked the dog
chatted then ejected
opened a married chick, screamed out NOOOOOO! at the top of my lungs, she was dying, let her go
opened a french 10, she was nice, had a bf whose name was mason so she was telling the truth, fudgeee
opened some arab chick, her jealous bf abdullah would've had a problem with me picking her up, got her digits anyways
lots of in between sets, most were not memorable
opened this two set who were both 10 years older than me, LOL failed the age shit test but they still said i was charming
, validation ftwfader left, opened a few more sets, nothing memorable went down
got on subway, fell asleep, woke up in sauga
V:
-opened 212/1500 sets
-every single set was totally authentic, no struggling to find something to say
-i felt very right
-a lot of calibration, even defensive sets dropped it after a while
-FLEW past most congruence tests, a few threw me off but for the most part i was passing them like a bauss
L:
-plowing is awesomeeeeeee
-screaming: WHAT DID I DO WRONG!? makes life so worth it :P
-gotta go for the number more, i couldve gotten like 4 more had i just asked
-going with a wing is fun, but i should be able to do the exact same thing solo - august i'll work on that
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but im doing this mostly so that i can write out my thoughts and see if there is any substance or if im just being gay.
so here we go:
what is the cause of my performance anxiety?
A: highschool. in highschool i made it my mission to look like as much of a pimp, it was all an attempt to get one girl, so i told everyone how i was having so much
sex and that i got women, of course the cool hot girls saw right through this bullshit and rejected me, but some were dumb enough to believe the stories i told. because
my only friends consisted of people who i told i was a pimp to i built an identity out of it, little did any of them know i was a virgin. so to all the people i loved and cherished,
i was a pimp, even to my only girlfriend for a little while i was a pimp, then it all fell apart when she cheated on me. i lost that pimp image, lost all confidence, and fucked up
almost every single relationship i ever had with anyone. my mind still wants to think of me as a pimp, but seeing a lot of ACTUAL pimps all around me, my brain is constantly
reminded that im not THAT cool yet.
why have you not been laid yet?
A: Fear. more than anything else i was afraid. ive had three instances in my life where i couldve closed but didnt. one was with a girl that was fucking my bestfriend, afraid
that would kill our friendship i didnt do it. next was with my gf, people would talk if i did it, so i didnt, and when i wanted to i couldnt. third time i didnt escalate hard enough the first time,
second time i came too early due to her jerking me off, and by the time i started getting better game she got a bf. all three times i was afraid to act and therefore i didnt.
what do you have to do to get there?
A: hit up more day2s, start texting the girls whose numbers i get more often, on insta dates try physically escalating much more. again only fear holds me back, i know this will come with time,
but i want to take out as much of the learning curve as humanly possible.
how can i help myself NOW IN THIS INSTANT?:
A: stop being butthurt, guys have been in the game 2 years before they got laid, so i will do just as much before i give up on this, stop being attached to the results,
focus on my actions and let shit happen. also keep going out with dudes better than you, although there may sometimes be envy its great to learn from guys better than you.
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