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December 16th, 2017
forced laughter, forced smiling -- good or bad?
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UtopiaFive

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Hey guys

I'm sure you've heard Tony Robbins talk about having people smile at themselves for something crazy like 20 minutes in the mirror every day...

I've googled and seen a lot of links that say people forced to smile (in social situations though) are doing something bad to themselves, like they end up more stressed over time (maybe its cuz they're smiling at like rude customers when inside they really think "this sucks, fuck them").  

I've been doing this "do a simple habit every day for 2 weeks" thing, and I'm pretty sure next habit up for working on my shit is "smile at myself in the mirror in the mornings for a few minute" and "laugh for a few minutes on the way to work in the mornings, or anytime I'm driving."

Yeah, sounds weird, but I'm obviously not above doing weird shit.  

So uh anyone have opinions or better yet EXPERIENCE doing this "fake smile at yourself" shit or similar kinds of things, and understand this disagreement in the research?
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smoked2much

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Get some of that tooth whitening Cream, it works, and Do,it as practice for social situation.,youll get a killer smile, and laugh. Win the smile everyrime andmake something out of it. The psychology i dont know
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LucidDic

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UtopiaFive wrote:


I've googled and seen a lot of links that say people forced to smile (in social situations though) are doing something bad to themselves, like they end up more stressed over time (maybe its cuz they're smiling at like rude customers when inside they really think "this sucks, fuck them").  


Yeah, sounds weird, but I'm obviously not above doing weird shit.  

So uh anyone have opinions or better yet EXPERIENCE doing this "fake smile at yourself" shit or similar kinds of things, and understand this disagreement in the research?
yeah, no shit they are doing something bad to themselves when FORCED to smile in social situations. That's kinda the underlying error here in and of itself is that whole thing that people doing this think they need to do something in the first place during an interaction in their social world. fuck em. put yourself out there and let the chips fall where they may instead of being try hard for someone attention like youre being in your article. just sayin
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It's one of those pieces of advice I've never understood. It fucked up me up big time, for years. Made me emotionally stifled. Always felt that I had to force a smile on my lips. Weak.
"smile more" "you need to smile in the club, james bond doesn't work" "always put your game face on, don't leave home without a smile"
Really? Yeah sure, smiling IS attractive because being happy is attractive. But you can't choose to be happy if you're not.
It's scientifically proven fact that you can't fake a genuine smile. So telling people to smile makes no sense whatsoever to me.
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LucidDic

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 yep
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LucidDic

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good example shown below. hungover, tired and sleep deprived im accepting it and doing what i gotta do..make calls, get a bite to eat and film this for u 

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 Lucid, I just wanna let you know that your videos fucking suck. What did I just watch? Also, I'm sorry about your girlfriend. You okay? 

PS: Let me join in on the boat. 
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Atonus

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Learn to smile without a reason so you dont have to force it, you boring fuck.

get some weed or something

maybe buddhism

maybe watch blueprint before asking, everything is answered there, check the "feel good in own body" part:)

edit: Oh my fucking god, youve been a member for 3 years and made 3k posts and youre still asking something this trivial ? I wonder how many retarded shit you have posted in advice to newbies 
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zippykremlin

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I made a whole thread about this a few months ago but I never knew Tony Robins talked about it.

Yes it works when you laugh and smile ALONE. Ive done it and it works awesomely well. It's changed alot for me I highly recomend it. Ill find the link to my thread about it later.

But I would never EVER do it while in a social situation... EVER. But on the way to a social situation it's absolutely awesome.
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 @U5: Sounds like a way to train yourself how to be incongruent.

U decide whether it´s good or bad.

U sound like a newbie, cough cough noobie tounge

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MastahDeft

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In Cambodia and Thailand everyone smiled all the time, I thought they thought I was a huge or something hahaha, as I got more into the culture it turns out that they are actually happy most of the time because they have been brought up on a religion that promotes joy and love.(At the same time they are corrupt as they come but good people after all).

Peace.
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