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I'd say keep lifting more weights and heavier, do compound exercises like squats that'll produce a shit load of testosterone (I personally find that I'm hornier on days that I lift). Also try to jack off only once a week. Pick a date to jack off, like a Friday or Saturday and wait 7 days before ejaculating again (sex or jacking off). On the 7th day, studies has shown that your testosterone levels will jump 150% your normal baseline. To get that boner just try to flirt a bit innoncently first before going straight to hook up. I find that whenever I go straight for a hook up i can't get boners but if I flirt around a bit before and keep the tension up my boner is rock hard haha. Good luck!
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are you aroused when you're about to have sex? are you actually turned on?
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- It''s gotten to a point where I'm afraid of sex. I'm afraid of failing again. It has become a stress for me.
You need to learn how to LET GO of the stress and fear. Learn how to accept shit, gow with the flow. once you relax your body will too. When relaxed your body starts acting and reacting in natural ways.
Your fear is you won't get hard - Then tell yourself, SO WHAT, big deal... don't stress over it. Don't try. Just fucking let go...
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Yes you might have an issue with the person you're having sex with. E.g. get a new one. Or two
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Look at manwhore. The guy is so ugly that I think he's face was on fire and they put out the fire using a baseball bet.
But he has the `energy`.
-rsdn
Get the Manwhore Text Displayer app from Google Play. And learn Text Game I know what you are.
Say it.
Manwhore.
Are you afraid?
No.
You shouldn’t of said that.
I'm the world's best predator, aren't I? Everything about me invites you in - my voice, my face, even my smell. As if I need any of that! As if you could outrun me. As if you could fight me off.
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its anxiety my friend.
Anxiety is causing all of this, ask yourself why are you scared of sex ? are you scared of not being good in bed ? scared of her leaving you for this little problem ?
Think about whats going on your mind, pay attention to your thoughts when this happends again.
Anxiety is causing all of this, ask yourself why are you scared of sex ? are you scared of not being good in bed ? scared of her leaving you for this little problem ?
Think about whats going on your mind, pay attention to your thoughts when this happends again.
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are you aroused when you're about to have sex? are you actually turned on?
I might be thinking more about my dick being soft instead of my desire to have sex.
You need to learn how to LET GO of the stress and fear. Learn how to accept shit, gow with the flow. once you relax your body will too. When relaxed your body starts acting and reacting in natural ways.
Your fear is you won't get hard - Then tell yourself, SO WHAT, big deal... don't stress over it. Don't try. Just fucking let go...
I can't do that bro, I can tell my mind not to think of a pink elephant you know it will. How exactly should I be able to achieve this?
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Anxiety is causing all of this, ask yourself why are you scared of sex ? are you scared of not being good in bed ? scared of her leaving you for this little problem ?
Think about whats going on your mind, pay attention to your thoughts when this happends again.
Anxiety is causing all of this, ask yourself why are you scared of sex ? are you scared of not being good in bed ? scared of her leaving you for this little problem ?
Think about whats going on your mind, pay attention to your thoughts when this happends again.
I'm scared that I'm not going to be able to get an erection. I'm scared that I'll feel even more like a complete loser.
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next time you go to have sex and it doesn't work, feel inside whether you are turned on or not. i've had problems before, and that's one of the key things that caused them.
if i was in the mood, it would shoot up pretty quick and we'd be good to go. if it didn't go up, then i was either feeling shitty inside (tired or eaten badly or whatever) or i wasn't aroused (which might be the same thing really). sure i could get her to make me hard but it wouldn't stay hard, even during penetration without a condom. it would take a heroic amount of concentration to keep it hard.
i still haven't worked out a fool-proof way around it but one thing that worked was just chilling and making her stroke me VERY slowly, taking her time. i found that very arousing, which solved the problem. that might not work for you, but you probably know something similar that will do the trick.
don't accept the stereotype that if you're a man you should be good to go at the drop of a hat. everyone is different. your cock is probably 100% fine - you're not suffering from erection problems you're suffering from arousal problems. sometimes you're just not in the mood, and you can't really force it. just eat her out and go do something else.
if i was in the mood, it would shoot up pretty quick and we'd be good to go. if it didn't go up, then i was either feeling shitty inside (tired or eaten badly or whatever) or i wasn't aroused (which might be the same thing really). sure i could get her to make me hard but it wouldn't stay hard, even during penetration without a condom. it would take a heroic amount of concentration to keep it hard.
i still haven't worked out a fool-proof way around it but one thing that worked was just chilling and making her stroke me VERY slowly, taking her time. i found that very arousing, which solved the problem. that might not work for you, but you probably know something similar that will do the trick.
don't accept the stereotype that if you're a man you should be good to go at the drop of a hat. everyone is different. your cock is probably 100% fine - you're not suffering from erection problems you're suffering from arousal problems. sometimes you're just not in the mood, and you can't really force it. just eat her out and go do something else.
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"You need to let them know what kind of man you are, so they know what kind of woman to be."
"Fear is always a constant, but accepting it...makes you stronger."
"Once you done slayed 20-30 of them hoodrats, now you ready to go up to the upper echelon type ho."
"I've got no game. And every face looks the same. They've got no name. So I don't need game to play. I just say whatever I want to whoever I want. Whenever I want, wherever I want, however I want."
My personal philosophy: You need to step to every single girl like a fucking bomb. You need to have presence. You need to stand out, and not in a surface level way such as what you're wearing, but as who you are and the way in which you communicate. You need to be unforgettable. You need to create a sense of urgency, that you are now or never. You need to push and at the same time be completely willing to walk away. It is essential to disidentify with the ego, otherwise the inherent rejection associated with pickup will destroy you.
"You need to let them know what kind of man you are, so they know what kind of woman to be."
"Fear is always a constant, but accepting it...makes you stronger."
"Once you done slayed 20-30 of them hoodrats, now you ready to go up to the upper echelon type ho."
"I've got no game. And every face looks the same. They've got no name. So I don't need game to play. I just say whatever I want to whoever I want. Whenever I want, wherever I want, however I want."
There are two possible causes.
- Outcome dependency. Instead of accepting things as they are, you are trying to fight this problem. This is a psychological problem. Try to meditate overcome outcome dependancy. You can also try train your mind to become numb to your fears by doing what Ozzie teaches, up until they point you are like "wtf, I don't fucking care, me horny, me want to fuck you"
- Lack of chemistry. One chick had a problem with me and once I had a weak boner I stopped meeting her, though she was hot according to people's opinions. The other times a chick has such a nice voice, skin, body, smile and vibe, that you can't help your little brother to calm the fuck down because he likes her as much as you do. Maybe you shall start seeing other girls before she starts to meet another "working" dick?
You may also try building tension with her. Flirt with other chicks, let her enjoy the company of other people, and bang her without getting naked. Sometimes getting full naked is like giving out the whole resume - it becomes boring and predictable and sets you in the outcome dependent frame (see above).
- Outcome dependency. Instead of accepting things as they are, you are trying to fight this problem. This is a psychological problem. Try to meditate overcome outcome dependancy. You can also try train your mind to become numb to your fears by doing what Ozzie teaches, up until they point you are like "wtf, I don't fucking care, me horny, me want to fuck you"
- Lack of chemistry. One chick had a problem with me and once I had a weak boner I stopped meeting her, though she was hot according to people's opinions. The other times a chick has such a nice voice, skin, body, smile and vibe, that you can't help your little brother to calm the fuck down because he likes her as much as you do. Maybe you shall start seeing other girls before she starts to meet another "working" dick?
You may also try building tension with her. Flirt with other chicks, let her enjoy the company of other people, and bang her without getting naked. Sometimes getting full naked is like giving out the whole resume - it becomes boring and predictable and sets you in the outcome dependent frame (see above).
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I'm sorry for cutting to the chase but I just can't deal with this shit any more. I'm 21, I have a girlfriend for 7 months now, and I have a huge problem with my erection.
Back when we began dating I never imagined that this would be a problem. I don't have ED, of course we had sex many times in the 7 months we've been together, she would have left me a long time ago if we didn't. But my problem is huge and it's sucking every ounce of pleasure out of sex.
So here I go...
- Every time we have sex I'm struggling to get it up.
- Every time I get it up I'm struggling to maintain it hard.
- We couldn't have sex on many occasions because of this.
- We had sex last week. Yesterday and the day before, when she hugged me my dick flew to the sky, it was amazingly hard. We were supposed to have sex today but even though she was on top of me completely naked my penis wouldn't react.
- I have no fucking idea why I'm hard when we HUG and why not when we're suppored to have sex.
- It's not an intimacy thing, We've been naked around each other many times in the past 7 months.
- I was smoking 1 pack of cigarettes daily up until a month ago. I quit on the 2nd of February and haven't smoked a cigarrette since. I've been doing exausting exercises every single morning since then (cardio and weight training), I've also been eating healthy since then (almost 100% Paleo + I drink milk and eat 1 bread for breakfast).
- My erections were not that hard before this, but since I started living healthy they've gotten a bit harder. I like to see if it gets hard in the morning, and it does, and sometimes it maintains itself 100% for minutes without me touching it. But when I'm with my girl I whack it and I jerk it and I struggle but it won't budge.
- The girl is not the source of the problem. First off, she's a 9 by my standards, the type of girl I was afraid of in highschool. She's very nice and understanding, she keeps reminding me that it's ok and she won't leave me for it.
- It''s gotten to a point where I'm afraid of sex. I'm afraid of failing again. It has become a stress for me.
- I searched google for this but it didn't help. Most people just offer viagra or tell me to relax. I CAN'T FUCKING RELAX, I feel like a total fucking miserable fuck.
I'm offering a million dollars to anyone who helps me on this. I'm serious. If I had the money I'd give it up for a solution, this shit is ruining my life. Please help me.