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Talking about your past oneitis experiences with current GF???
Had a similar story of my own. Mine is a little different in that she framed herself in the " What would I do if you left me?". This is a little more bs because of the obious deflection and passing on of responsibility of the "end" to me. Throughout our relationship weve had our ups and downs and she has thrown the "maybe we should just end it" line to which I've naturally been like, "What?"
Anyway, I've responded with the "my life is more full now so and i've got lots of abundance now so it wouldn't be as hardcore being broken up with now etc etc". The trick was to portray this message in a way that didn't make it seem like the relationship was disbosable, which I think I have done.
So, I reckon the answer to whether or not you've handled the situation in the "best" way is not the correct question. The correct question would be to ask wether or not you've convincingly let her know that you are committed to the relationship and that you are present with her on the adventure you two are on.
Anyway, I've responded with the "my life is more full now so and i've got lots of abundance now so it wouldn't be as hardcore being broken up with now etc etc". The trick was to portray this message in a way that didn't make it seem like the relationship was disbosable, which I think I have done.
So, I reckon the answer to whether or not you've handled the situation in the "best" way is not the correct question. The correct question would be to ask wether or not you've convincingly let her know that you are committed to the relationship and that you are present with her on the adventure you two are on.
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PSyKaD4LiC
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However, sometimes it gets brought up. My current GF knows that somebody in my past really hurt me before. I explained to her it was because I was an idiot who gave up too much of my own identity and put all of my happiness into being with somebody else, and that I'd never be so stupid to allow another woman to hurt me like that again. She jokingly said something like "well what if I leave you". I replied by telling her that was just how I acted when I was much younger, and explained how I would be very sad if she left me, but it wouldn't be nearly as bad because I have other things now that are important to me in my life, so that it wouldn't be the end of the world.
I'm not sure if this was the "best" way to handle this from a seduction point of view but this is what I did. What do you guys think.