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December 8th, 2016
The Truth About The Journey
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RockNRollPUA

RockNRollPUA

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Join Date: 12/14/2008 | Posts: 1955

There will be no rushing this process.  All of the books, forums, PUA products, in the universe will not help you take shortcuts.  There is only one path to mastery and that is the field.  The more you are in the field, the faster you will progress.  At best the advice here at RSD will point you in the right direction, but there is no way to actually learn this skill other than going out, getting owned, and pushing yourself to the limit.  For some this will take months at best, or years and years for the really hardcase guys. You can do it though.  Don't be like those faggot haters who give up  and then get mad at the instructors for not fixing them.  If you don't get good at this it is your own fucking fault.  In fact, if anything in your life sucks it is your own fucking fault.  Don't blame shit on anybody but yourself, take responsability, and do what needs to be done to correct whatever it is that needs to be fixed.

What will guarentee that you will never learn this skillset is sitting behind a computer screen every night, reading tons of useless books, and making up lies about how good your game is.  You are not in this shit to impress your friends, or to become cool.  You are in this shit to have SEX WITHWOMEN.  If there is any other motivation besides SEX WITH WOMEN, quit.  Quit right the fuck now, don't waste your time, buy a fleshlight and jerk off to porn.  Get self actualized somewhere else.  This road is too hard and too long to waste your time mentally masterbaiting your way to enlightenment.  It is only going to turn you into an even wierder fuck if you aren't in it for the reason pickup was developed.  I have fallen into every trap in the book and stuck with it long enough to get passed the bullshit, the only reason I did it, was because I liked stick my dick inside SO MUCH that I was willing to sacrifice anything for this skill set.

Every single motherfucker on here, should have a field report journal that gets updated every single fucking week at minimum.  Every single motherfucker on here should be going out 3 nights a week minimum regaurdless of being new or advanced.  There is no valid reason for you to spend all your time reading about pickup and fantasizing about being the fucking man, and not to be actually going out and documenting your progress.  I know how fun it is, I did it to, but you are better than that.  You know that you haven't been living up to your own expectations.  You need to take the leap and come at this thing 110% full force with unshakable faith in the process.  Personally I am an Athiest and faith is a word I don't take lighyly, but I think for most guys going through the pain period, faith is what you will need.  You won't believe it works 100% until you get it to work.  Once you finally land that first really cute girl from cold approach, have sex, date her for a while, you will never go back.  This is a 90% action and experience oriented skill.  This is not a mental or theoretical game.  
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http://www.rsdnation.com/node/208534/forum

If you are a Newb READ THIS FIRST, THEN GO OUT:
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Whatever I thought might hold me back, I avoided. I crossed girls off my list, except as tools for my sexual needs." - From the 1977 autobiography "Arnold: The Education of a Bodybuilder" by Arnold Schwarzenegger
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FoodBuddha~

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I'm going to ramble a bit.

There's another truth about the game that nobody wants to talk about, not even me.  I hate how lonely I was a lot of the time.  And worse than that, often LONELIEST in the midst of my biggest successes, largest numbers of girls in my rotation, etc., all the shit I harp on here day after day like a broken record.
That's because I was growing up... maturing... whatever you wanna call it.
 
Just when you think you have life figured out, it shifts underneath you.

That's the other deepest truth about the game and life in general... right when you get a handle... it changes.  Learning to adapt to the ever shifting sands is probably the biggest challenge life has to offer. Resisting changes and new realities is the cause of MUCH personal suffering.  No I do not have it mastered yet, because when I do I'll be... dead.  But in spite of this, I have learned to enjoy the journey. This journey is all I have.

When life is taken from me, I don't get to take anything with me.  I don't believe in heaven.  I believe in blackness.  So I'm going to milk every last drop out of life while I'm still here.  That one fact fucking DRIVES me.  It scorches my every day.  I wake up excited and I wake up driven and ready.  Some days more than others, but all days at least some.  I go to bed looking forward to tomorrow every single night, counting my blessings.

When I was the loneliest, I also dug the deepest down and found this one fact of death to be the biggest motivator to get out of my funk.
Simultaneously, that horrible fact of death that can seem so debilitating and depressing is my prime motivator.  Realizing it again and again makes all loneliness seem trivial.

That's how I deal with the loneliness, and how I learned to love it and love life.  The loneliness, the failure, the negative all serve me.  They delineate the boundary.  Where they end, love, success and goodness begin.  Without the contrast, life would be nothing.  Nothingness can wait until after I die.  Right now, it's life.  Beautiful, awesome living.
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The only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved, desirous of everything
at the same time, the ones who never yawn
or say a commonplace thing, but
burn, burn, burn,
like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding
like spiders ac r o s s the stars.

-Kerouac
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Ballgames

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Join Date: 07/25/2011 | Posts: 2584

+1 to both of these posts.
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 The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars

A man may fall down many times, but he won't be a f ailure until he says someone pushed him"

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Rosebuddpoo

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Join Date: 08/20/2011 | Posts: 22

brilliant posts, rsd needs more posts like these and less chode shit
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flux

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FoodBuddha~ wrote:
I'm going to ramble a bit.

There's another truth about the game that nobody wants to talk about, not even me.  I hate how lonely I was a lot of the time.  And worse than that, often LONELIEST in the midst of my biggest successes, largest numbers of girls in my rotation, etc., all the shit I harp on here day after day like a broken record.
That's because I was growing up... maturing... whatever you wanna call it.
 
Just when you think you have life figured out, it shifts underneath you.

That's the other deepest truth about the game and life in general... right when you get a handle... it changes.  Learning to adapt to the ever shifting sands is probably the biggest challenge life has to offer. Resisting changes and new realities is the cause of MUCH personal suffering.  No I do not have it mastered yet, because when I do I'll be... dead.  But in spite of this, I have learned to enjoy the journey. This journey is all I have.

When life is taken from me, I don't get to take anything with me.  I don't believe in heaven.  I believe in blackness.  So I'm going to milk every last drop out of life while I'm still here.  That one fact fucking DRIVES me.  It scorches my every day.  I wake up excited and I wake up driven and ready.  Some days more than others, but all days at least some.  I go to bed looking forward to tomorrow every single night, counting my blessings.

When I was the loneliest, I also dug the deepest down and found this one fact of death to be the biggest motivator to get out of my funk.
Simultaneously, that horrible fact of death that can seem so debilitating and depressing is my prime motivator.  Realizing it again and again makes all loneliness seem trivial.

That's how I deal with the loneliness, and how I learned to love it and love life.  The loneliness, the failure, the negative all serve me.  They delineate the boundary.  Where they end, love, success and goodness begin.  Without the contrast, life would be nothing.  Nothingness can wait until after I die.  Right now, it's life.  Beautiful, awesome living.

death and boredom are both great motivators
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uncharted

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Join Date: 01/28/2012 | Posts: 63

One thing I remember foodbuddha mentioning in one of Haze's post is that some people are late bloomers and will get sucess eventually but just takes them longer.

This was definitely the case for me. I started learning about pick up in high school and even tho I was a pretty cool guy and had the balls to approach, I was deeply entrenched in social conditioning similar to Alexander when he first started out and had major health problems similar to meetjoeblack, (acne and mental issues).

Even though I was getting results from my approaches and I knew had the potential to get really good  I needed to deal with and fix the problems in the other areas of my life. That took me about 2 years to accomplish that... Now that I have my shit together emotionally and physically, I am starting to feel really good about myself, and am getting very good women as a bonus. Since I already feel good about myself  it a lot easier to get girls because they can sense that I am solid with who I am and on my path. I am not trying to game them, I just am who I am, so when I approach its much more natural and I am coming from a screening frame. It makes things a lot easier and simple. I am not coming from a position of scarcity and trying to get girls to fill a void in my soul. I just walk up the same wasy Tyler does and see if I have chemistry with the girl. If I do, it's on. If I don't , who cares, move on to the next girl. 

So my point is, if you are doing everything right and still not getting success, maybe you need to confront your darkside (like jeffy did in jeffy show and nineball) so you can identify what the fuck is wrong with you and figure out how to fix it. Then and only then can you reach your potential. 
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Rocking_Novelist

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Join Date: 01/13/2013 | Posts: 6

Props RockPUA for inspiring me to take action.
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-Seneca
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#7

badmotherfucker

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Join Date: 12/26/2008 | Posts: 314

5 stars!!.
Pretty much of what i've been saying for years in brazilian foruns when guys whine and cry like little babies.
It's a men's game. It takes time,perseverance and a lot of unsucessfull approaches to get really good at it.
Most guys can't survive the pain period.
They don't have the will,the balls and the guts to do it.
Unfortunatelly most unsucessfull guys will read it,agree and do nothing about it.
Only the strong survive. the weak cries like a baby on internet foruns.
great thread congratulations.
best regards.
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Swell

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Join Date: 10/16/2012 | Posts: 176

 awesome post, and the second post is brilliant too, good stuff
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Ghettoguru

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Join Date: 12/28/2011 | Posts: 429

Yup, the in-field EXPERIENCE is many folds more powerful than any book. It's all about APPLICATION.
I was so happy with my recent progress all thanks to the stuff I learned and APPLIED.

Last night I was at some college party. Ran into a girl from the basketball team whom i kissed for new years.
I had my 1st successful attempt at diffusing a girl's ASD... It was a total CLASSIC CASE.
She said something along the lines of "come with me to my dorms, we'll hook up but we won't have sex, I think you're really cute blah blah blah"
I agreed then she tried to have me pinky promise.... In my head I was like fuck that.
I flipped the script and told her she better not be pulling any moves on me, i'm not having it. We'll only cuddle.... She laughed, agreed and started gathering her team mates.
I ran into logistical issues at the end so I could not close, shit was fun last night tho! :)

Keep updating you kickass FR man!
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seannycage

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Join Date: 06/06/2011 | Posts: 118

Gotta love the journey and embrace it
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