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August 30th, 2014
SHOULD I BE REACTIVE TO HIGH VALUE PEOPLE OR NOT?
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Rubennnnn

Rubennnnn

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Join Date: 12/30/2011 | Posts: 98

 Hey,

I have some high value friends, and I have noticed that when I hang out with them, they are really fun, they have this vibe, they give lots of value.. I LIKE IT.
I really like spending good time with these people. But hanging out with them feels like me being beta-male, I join their reality, and puts  me on second place?
My question is:  Should I be reactive? (this means I will enter their reality and take their value)     or should I be unreactive and rather be the 'value-giver' instead of taking value of others (tips how to do this torwards high value people?)
They have a strong reality and it is hard to give value to them, cause they dont  need external value..

Any advice;)?
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Haze~

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Being reactive or not is not something you can control regardless.

Ultimately this question is exactly the issue. You're exhibiting your reaction through caring.

The answer is to genuinely not care, but that's not exactly something you can fake. You simply have to grow and hope one day you cultivate that irreverence.
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#2

Turok

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Join Date: 06/08/2010 | Posts: 578

keep hanging out with cool people for sure
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MastahDeft

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Cut the alpha/beta crap please, if they are your friends you want to have some fun brosky, non analysis.

High value, lower value, please dont start looking at the world through that lens these are people you are talking about, you like them, have bad days, good days.

If you really want to be a part of this *new* wonderful world you think cool people live in, then you must focus on the positive and I mean  in every aspect of your life, you dont have money well laugh about it and look at productive ways to get some, you want to be cooler, laugh about it and be happy with your situation and look at things you can do to add to the vibe and be a nice guy.

And that doesnt mean you have to be the most charismatic guy, not at all, it just means that you look at the bright side of things without being a pussy and you give in whatever way you think could add to the situation, maybe you want to crack a joke or invite your friend something or whatever, a story, you know, at the same time you are cool with recieving whatever people invite you which is very important in its own way.

Once you realise that Highvalue or low value means shit through experience then you can start doing other fun stuff.

Peace.
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Join Date: 07/02/2011 | Posts: 85

i like what mastahdeft said. KEEP It REAL YALL!!!!!!! im sick of weird advice.
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Rubennnnn wrote:
 Hey,

I have some high value friends, and I have noticed that when I hang out with them, they are really fun, they have this vibe, they give lots of value.. I LIKE IT.
I really like spending good time with these people. But hanging out with them feels like me being beta-male, I join their reality, and puts  me on second place?
My question is:  Should I be reactive? (this means I will enter their reality and take their value)     or should I be unreactive and rather be the 'value-giver' instead of taking value of others (tips how to do this torwards high value people?)
They have a strong reality and it is hard to give value to them, cause they dont  need external value..

Any advice;)?


The reason why your friends have high value is because there acting through there own attentions, there  all about self amusement, they don't care what people think.   Learn not to give a fuck, if people like you ..then they like you ..if not meh.  Learn to self amuse, say whatever you think is funny, do whatever entertains you.  Even if someone thinks your retarded, fuck it.       No one likes hanging out with people who give there power away, think about it.  Do you like hanging out with people who try to be your friend or suck up to you?  In reality people like hanging out with people on the same value.  Like what mastahdeft said "high value or low value means shit with expereince".   
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Rubennnnn

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MastahDeft wrote:
Cut the alpha/beta crap please, if they are your friends you want to have some fun brosky, non analysis.

High value, lower value, please dont start looking at the world through that lens these are people you are talking about, you like them, have bad days, good days.

If you really want to be a part of this *new* wonderful world you think cool people live in, then you must focus on the positive and I mean  in every aspect of your life, you dont have money well laugh about it and look at productive ways to get some, you want to be cooler, laugh about it and be happy with your situation and look at things you can do to add to the vibe and be a nice guy.

And that doesnt mean you have to be the most charismatic guy, not at all, it just means that you look at the bright side of things without being a pussy and you give in whatever way you think could add to the situation, maybe you want to crack a joke or invite your friend something or whatever, a story, you know, at the same time you are cool with recieving whatever people invite you which is very important in its own way.

Once you realise that Highvalue or low value means shit through experience then you can start doing other fun stuff.

Peace.
Yes, you're right.
 I shouldnt see everything in 'value perspective' , just be my self and have a positive mindset. 
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MastahDeft wrote:
Cut the alpha/beta crap please, if they are your friends you want to have some fun brosky, non analysis.

High value, lower value, please dont start looking at the world through that lens these are people you are talking about, you like them, have bad days, good days.

If you really want to be a part of this *new* wonderful world you think cool people live in, then you must focus on the positive and I mean  in every aspect of your life, you dont have money well laugh about it and look at productive ways to get some, you want to be cooler, laugh about it and be happy with your situation and look at things you can do to add to the vibe and be a nice guy.

And that doesnt mean you have to be the most charismatic guy, not at all, it just means that you look at the bright side of things without being a pussy and you give in whatever way you think could add to the situation, maybe you want to crack a joke or invite your friend something or whatever, a story, you know, at the same time you are cool with recieving whatever people invite you which is very important in its own way.

Once you realise that Highvalue or low value means shit through experience then you can start doing other fun stuff.

Peace.
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rogerhelms

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 Yes be reactive as hell
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