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Monday nights in my city are tough.. not a lot going on. I went out anyways and wandered the city for a little, went in some bar that looked like it had a few people. Unfortunately they were all a solid ten years older than me lol. I failed to approach one set of girls (the only set in there really, but im not giving myself a hard time on that one. Made it to the dive bar were all my college friends back were i live in my area, chilled with the broooos. No girls i hadnt hooked up with already were there :( but i had already gotten two girls in there, onelast year and the other about a week ago :) haha. Peaced went home now im writing this fr out and going to bed.
Bright side.. tuesday nights are fucking sweet here. TOMORROW!!!!
Bright side.. tuesday nights are fucking sweet here. TOMORROW!!!!
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I went to a college bar solo tonight... it apears solo aint my thing just yet, but it will be soon ;). I got there too early @10 30. The place was pretty desserted so i launch right into chode mode and just chill waiting for more people to show up. I neglected to open a two set that was straight chilling the entire time i was choding about. They were seated eating food and very very hot. More people show up by 11 so i rouse myself out of chode mode and fire off my first aproach with a hb blondie. Shes cute, i open with the standard "hey!! Im cam... (dramatic pause) your cute!" It hooks beautifully. Eventually the conversation is starting to die off and i realize i havent gotten pyhsical. I eject after about ten minutes. Open another set.. super drunk girl i dont think is that hot but her boobs are sooo out i couldnt stop myself lol. "Hey im cam your cute" again hooks beautifully. Shes touching me lkke crazy in hindsight i should have just gone hardcore pyschical with her straight to make out but i didnt. I eject eventually.. she really aimt my type. By this time im starting to get drunk, im intentinally using alcohol to pump my state a little. I open again after choding for about five minutes, it hooks solid but goes downhill from the open. Im rattled cause im drunk at this point. Open one last time and it was lame.... boooo. I leave humbled.
Over the course of the night i found myself not truly enjoying myself, i was just opening to open, to bet at least four sets in. Clearly.. that mentality blooows. When i do well its almost as if the girls need me, they just sit there waiting for their chance to talk to me. Tonight that wasnt thecase. I want enjoying myself.... i wasnt generating state from within. I talked to the girls just to stay in set longer and prolonge the convo. It appears its harder for me to generate my state when im solo, maybe solo exposes my weaknesses better. Whatever i like that... more room for improvement homie. No pain no game.
Super pumped i took action
Solo needs to be an area of focus... cause i suck at it (not for long!!!)
I open like a champion when i do actually open
Open even more!!!
Generate state from within
Over the course of the night i found myself not truly enjoying myself, i was just opening to open, to bet at least four sets in. Clearly.. that mentality blooows. When i do well its almost as if the girls need me, they just sit there waiting for their chance to talk to me. Tonight that wasnt thecase. I want enjoying myself.... i wasnt generating state from within. I talked to the girls just to stay in set longer and prolonge the convo. It appears its harder for me to generate my state when im solo, maybe solo exposes my weaknesses better. Whatever i like that... more room for improvement homie. No pain no game.
Super pumped i took action
Solo needs to be an area of focus... cause i suck at it (not for long!!!)
I open like a champion when i do actually open
Open even more!!!
Generate state from within
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I went to a college bar solo tonight... it apears solo aint my thing just yet, but it will be soon ;). I got there too early @10 30. The place was pretty desserted so i launch right into chode mode and just chill waiting for more people to show up. I neglected to open a two set that was straight chilling the entire time i was choding about. They were seated eating food and very very hot. More people show up by 11 so i rouse myself out of chode mode and fire off my first aproach with a hb blondie. Shes cute, i open with the standard "hey!! Im cam... (dramatic pause) your cute!" It hooks beautifully. Eventually the conversation is starting to die off and i realize i havent gotten pyhsical. I eject after about ten minutes. Open another set.. super drunk girl i dont think is that hot but her boobs are sooo out i couldnt stop myself lol. "Hey im cam your cute" again hooks beautifully. Shes touching me lkke crazy in hindsight i should have just gone hardcore pyschical with her straight to make out but i didnt. I eject eventually.. she really aimt my type. By this time im starting to get drunk, im intentinally using alcohol to pump my state a little. I open again after choding for about five minutes, it hooks solid but goes downhill from the open. Im rattled cause im drunk at this point. Open one last time and it was lame.... boooo. I leave humbled.
Over the course of the night i found myself not truly enjoying myself, i was just opening to open, so that i could fullfill my "quota" and be in at least four sets in. Clearly.. that mentality blooows. When i do well its almost as if the girls need me, they just sit there waiting for their chance to talk to me. Tonight that wasnt thecase. I want enjoying myself.... i wasnt generating state from within. I talked to the girls just to stay in set longer and prolonge the convo. It appears its harder for me to generate my state when im solo, maybe solo exposes my weaknesses better. Whatever i like that... more room for improvement homie. No pain no game.
Super pumped i took action
Solo needs to be an area of focus... cause i suck at it (not for long!!!)
I open like a champion when i do actually open
Open even more!!!
Generate state from within
Over the course of the night i found myself not truly enjoying myself, i was just opening to open, so that i could fullfill my "quota" and be in at least four sets in. Clearly.. that mentality blooows. When i do well its almost as if the girls need me, they just sit there waiting for their chance to talk to me. Tonight that wasnt thecase. I want enjoying myself.... i wasnt generating state from within. I talked to the girls just to stay in set longer and prolonge the convo. It appears its harder for me to generate my state when im solo, maybe solo exposes my weaknesses better. Whatever i like that... more room for improvement homie. No pain no game.
Super pumped i took action
Solo needs to be an area of focus... cause i suck at it (not for long!!!)
I open like a champion when i do actually open
Open even more!!!
Generate state from within
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Before i left to go out tonight...
I did some meditation. And dam you tyler! It helped a lot.
Roll to a bar were a girl i know works. Supposedly this place gets bumping and reaches capacity on thursdays. I arrive early so i dont have to wait for a line... but GUESS WHAT! There was a snow storm tonight so theres no dam line! I chill in the bar until 11 15 hoping people will show up. Theres a decent blonde i should open but im trying to delay as long as i can. A few people do eventually file in but theyre all asian.. hmm thats odd, so i ask somebody and turns out its asian night! Wtf. Random. No offense. So i figure at least get a couple dusty sets in. Open one girl with the standard hey opener. Eject after a minute immediatly open a decent blonde girl with her two friemds. I do a great job managing my emotions with this set, i feel great, she feels it. I get some solid kino in, the friends love me too. They all tell me to go to another bar they say is a lot better down the street... i think about it for a minute. Number close decent blonde and peace b4 they even leave. Unfortunately ive gotta get the last train back at 12 so i dont have to pay for a cab and not have enough cash for the weekend. Ive got about fifteen minutes... decision time. Fuck it. I book it to thebar down the street and tell myself "speed game," ive only got ten minutes! Walk in immediatly scan for targets. I see an intimidating brunette hb so i jump on it. Approach with great tonality but she blows me out immediatly, her bf is the bathroom so she says, whatever doesnt effect me i have no time this is speed game!! Haha. I see another cute brunette that i almost walk by but then i pull myself backwards and open like a boss. She loves every minute of it. Her friends all scatter immediatly leaving us isolated in about 30 seconds (this seems to happen a lot were the friends just peace and leave me the girl... idk why that is happening or if its good/bad). We vibe incredibly... i have no idea what i said to her but i do remember teasing and laughing a lot which is good. I number close and book it back to the train just as its pulling up. Ahhh yeahhh buddy. Fuck that was fuuuun
I had a ball tonight, huge contrast to tuesday night. I also mediated before that gave me some great chillness to draw state from. I should do that every time i go out!!! It just felt so clean tonight, couldnt seem to do any wrong. Fuck that was fun my only regrets are not being aware of that better bar earlier and not being to stay out longer. I would have had some serious momentum to rock and roll with if i even had just another half hour. The blonde girl from first number close just texted me as im writing this "we should meet up this weekend to play" haha. Ridiculous and all girls want to fuck so bad its not funny...
I did some meditation. And dam you tyler! It helped a lot.
Roll to a bar were a girl i know works. Supposedly this place gets bumping and reaches capacity on thursdays. I arrive early so i dont have to wait for a line... but GUESS WHAT! There was a snow storm tonight so theres no dam line! I chill in the bar until 11 15 hoping people will show up. Theres a decent blonde i should open but im trying to delay as long as i can. A few people do eventually file in but theyre all asian.. hmm thats odd, so i ask somebody and turns out its asian night! Wtf. Random. No offense. So i figure at least get a couple dusty sets in. Open one girl with the standard hey opener. Eject after a minute immediatly open a decent blonde girl with her two friemds. I do a great job managing my emotions with this set, i feel great, she feels it. I get some solid kino in, the friends love me too. They all tell me to go to another bar they say is a lot better down the street... i think about it for a minute. Number close decent blonde and peace b4 they even leave. Unfortunately ive gotta get the last train back at 12 so i dont have to pay for a cab and not have enough cash for the weekend. Ive got about fifteen minutes... decision time. Fuck it. I book it to thebar down the street and tell myself "speed game," ive only got ten minutes! Walk in immediatly scan for targets. I see an intimidating brunette hb so i jump on it. Approach with great tonality but she blows me out immediatly, her bf is the bathroom so she says, whatever doesnt effect me i have no time this is speed game!! Haha. I see another cute brunette that i almost walk by but then i pull myself backwards and open like a boss. She loves every minute of it. Her friends all scatter immediatly leaving us isolated in about 30 seconds (this seems to happen a lot were the friends just peace and leave me the girl... idk why that is happening or if its good/bad). We vibe incredibly... i have no idea what i said to her but i do remember teasing and laughing a lot which is good. I number close and book it back to the train just as its pulling up. Ahhh yeahhh buddy. Fuck that was fuuuun
I had a ball tonight, huge contrast to tuesday night. I also mediated before that gave me some great chillness to draw state from. I should do that every time i go out!!! It just felt so clean tonight, couldnt seem to do any wrong. Fuck that was fun my only regrets are not being aware of that better bar earlier and not being to stay out longer. I would have had some serious momentum to rock and roll with if i even had just another half hour. The blonde girl from first number close just texted me as im writing this "we should meet up this weekend to play" haha. Ridiculous and all girls want to fuck so bad its not funny...
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Pretty good night. Did about ten minutes of meditation but never really got in the zone so it didnt do much early in the day. My buddy left me tickets for his game so i went to that, sat with his parents and bro, good times. Had to go straight out from there to the bars, and by the time i got to the bar i was freezing my balls off and was literally shivering. Bruuutal.
Once i got into the bar im still fucking freezing so i immediately chugged a couple beers, hoping the alcohol would warm me up. It.took about a half hour before i wasnt frozen anymore... that was literally the worst and most annoying part of the night. I open a gir by the bar when im ordering my first beer, she wasnt that cute but i just wanted to open immediatly to get the first one off my chest. Talk to her for a little and eject. Walk to the dfloor and chill, still struggling with hoe cold i am. Two drunk dudes try and dance up on me from behind trying to tool me with some gay shit. One of them spills his drink on me. This pisses me off a little so i decide to fuck with them and tool them hard, although im pretty amused with it regardless. Its too big guys but i can tell just by looking at them their soft as a babies bottom. I get in their face and tell them to leave this part of the bar and not to come back. They actually do it lol. I was semi joking. This pumps my state a little (but i should be careful not to start shit). Im finaly warming up now, open a short blonde girl. She doesnt outrightly blow me out but kinda shuts me down. Open an easy target standing by herself right after but shes not as hot as i thought she was. I want to leave she tries to keep on talking to me. I peace walk around for a little trying to find a hottie to open. Eventually find one in a group on the dance floor. I open just standing not even attemtpimg to dance "hey your cute" and then a big shit eating grin, which really seems to help the open btw. She stops dancing completely get her ras focused on me instead of dancing. Yay. Go me. Umfortunately shes from germany and i cant understand a word shes saying, doesnt go well really (but her friends scattered after about fifteen seconds of me talking.. reacurrng theme there). Try to plow for a while but thats a no go. I peace. Go to the bar in front and find a cutie and open. Amuse myself the whole time, works well. Number close so i can find new girls. Walk to the back bar and i see a real hottie darker girl. Open and hooks perfectly. Turns out shes from brazil shes hot. Guy friend tries to protect her but cant do shit lol. I show her some gay stuff like the hand hug (like a high five but you each wrap you thumb around the others hand for a huge kinda.. they love it). She likes me but im falling too much into entertainer role/ dancing monkey. I number close any ways (texted her today no response). And its late and ive got to get out of there before i miss the last train. On my way out i spot orginal number close girl, so i dance up to her completely unstilfed. Some guy shes with tries to dance all over her to stop her from talkimg to me. I break out laughing cause its like some weird mating dancing ritual type shit. I cant take it seriously. I grab her hand and just pull her away from the dude into me for a huge. Chit chat some more good kino. Leave her and go to get my coat spy a hottie on the edge of the dance floor and i open her too. Cute blonde. Me self amusing and vibing i try for a quick number pull, she says its too soon laughing at me (i fucking knew tha
t but i have no time!!!). She tells me to go get and my coat and if i do actually come back she will give her number. Sounds reasonable. I get my coat and come back shes dancing with a dude. I try to pull her off doesnt work but i like that i tried something so ridiculous. I peace.and yet again make the last train, fuck im good with that lol.
Good stuff: opened a lot, think i counted about 7 or 8 opens on my way back that night. Tried some ridiculous stuff which is good. I want to keep on challlenging myself. Two numbers, one was solid. I OPEN INCREDIBLE EVERY TIME. Without fail i open and get attraction although i will start to loose it from there lol. I vomitted words pretty decent too a la brad style.
Bad stuff: i want the girl to game me more and invest more into me, they should be trying to win me over. I felt like i was entertaining a little too much. My first three sets all kinda sucked, maybe cause i was still freezing and uncomfortable? If i stayed out longer i would have had more sucess. Need more money for cab ride or buy a car or something... i also need to lead girls around once i can havent been doing that. More escalation.
Once i got into the bar im still fucking freezing so i immediately chugged a couple beers, hoping the alcohol would warm me up. It.took about a half hour before i wasnt frozen anymore... that was literally the worst and most annoying part of the night. I open a gir by the bar when im ordering my first beer, she wasnt that cute but i just wanted to open immediatly to get the first one off my chest. Talk to her for a little and eject. Walk to the dfloor and chill, still struggling with hoe cold i am. Two drunk dudes try and dance up on me from behind trying to tool me with some gay shit. One of them spills his drink on me. This pisses me off a little so i decide to fuck with them and tool them hard, although im pretty amused with it regardless. Its too big guys but i can tell just by looking at them their soft as a babies bottom. I get in their face and tell them to leave this part of the bar and not to come back. They actually do it lol. I was semi joking. This pumps my state a little (but i should be careful not to start shit). Im finaly warming up now, open a short blonde girl. She doesnt outrightly blow me out but kinda shuts me down. Open an easy target standing by herself right after but shes not as hot as i thought she was. I want to leave she tries to keep on talking to me. I peace walk around for a little trying to find a hottie to open. Eventually find one in a group on the dance floor. I open just standing not even attemtpimg to dance "hey your cute" and then a big shit eating grin, which really seems to help the open btw. She stops dancing completely get her ras focused on me instead of dancing. Yay. Go me. Umfortunately shes from germany and i cant understand a word shes saying, doesnt go well really (but her friends scattered after about fifteen seconds of me talking.. reacurrng theme there). Try to plow for a while but thats a no go. I peace. Go to the bar in front and find a cutie and open. Amuse myself the whole time, works well. Number close so i can find new girls. Walk to the back bar and i see a real hottie darker girl. Open and hooks perfectly. Turns out shes from brazil shes hot. Guy friend tries to protect her but cant do shit lol. I show her some gay stuff like the hand hug (like a high five but you each wrap you thumb around the others hand for a huge kinda.. they love it). She likes me but im falling too much into entertainer role/ dancing monkey. I number close any ways (texted her today no response). And its late and ive got to get out of there before i miss the last train. On my way out i spot orginal number close girl, so i dance up to her completely unstilfed. Some guy shes with tries to dance all over her to stop her from talkimg to me. I break out laughing cause its like some weird mating dancing ritual type shit. I cant take it seriously. I grab her hand and just pull her away from the dude into me for a huge. Chit chat some more good kino. Leave her and go to get my coat spy a hottie on the edge of the dance floor and i open her too. Cute blonde. Me self amusing and vibing i try for a quick number pull, she says its too soon laughing at me (i fucking knew tha
t but i have no time!!!). She tells me to go get and my coat and if i do actually come back she will give her number. Sounds reasonable. I get my coat and come back shes dancing with a dude. I try to pull her off doesnt work but i like that i tried something so ridiculous. I peace.and yet again make the last train, fuck im good with that lol.
Good stuff: opened a lot, think i counted about 7 or 8 opens on my way back that night. Tried some ridiculous stuff which is good. I want to keep on challlenging myself. Two numbers, one was solid. I OPEN INCREDIBLE EVERY TIME. Without fail i open and get attraction although i will start to loose it from there lol. I vomitted words pretty decent too a la brad style.
Bad stuff: i want the girl to game me more and invest more into me, they should be trying to win me over. I felt like i was entertaining a little too much. My first three sets all kinda sucked, maybe cause i was still freezing and uncomfortable? If i stayed out longer i would have had more sucess. Need more money for cab ride or buy a car or something... i also need to lead girls around once i can havent been doing that. More escalation.
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Saturday! the biggest night of the week.
I went out to a bar that is notoriously busy on saturdays. My buddies were in town (kid who left me tickets to his game friday) and i was planning on meeting up with them.
Got to the bar early at about 10 20 and there was already a line outside this place! money. I get in and go to put my coat in coat check without aproaching first, the line for the coat check was massive already. I stand in line for a solid twenty minutes, the entrie time debating bailing on it and going to approach so i don't freeze myself out. I stick with the line cause its getting longer and my coat is not good for walking around the club in. Eventually i check my coat and get out of line, go to open and i don't. Instead i go to the bar and get a beer. Walk around a little trying to find a target, spot a really cute blonde girl and open her. Shes with two friends, one a gay dude. I got an alright reaction from the blonde, gay dude strongly dislikes me. I try and talk for a little but i really don't get much from her, so i eject. Instead of immediately opening i chode around some more, walk around, eventually find a girl to open. (in hindsight theres literally sets all around me). I open a girl by the bar with her two friends, the friends give me a real shitty reaction kind of laughing at me, girl takes social cues from the two friends and kinda ignores me. I try to force it a little more but it doesn't work. Walk away and actually do open my next set quickly this time, a girl by the bathroom. I think shes hotter than she is, upon getting up to her shes not that hot so i eject pretty quick although she was attracted. After this girl i chode around some more and get a drink. Walk around and eventually open a girl on the edge of the dancefloor with her friends, goes alright, guy friend behind her tries to chime in a couple times but i ignore it. Decent attraction but doesn't seem to really go anywere, yet again i eject. At this point i'm rattled and just kinda wander around the club for a while not doing anything or talking to anyone, probally about twenty minutes. grrrr.
My roommate shows up with a couple buddies and a girl i've already madeout with about three weeks ago. Shes expecting to hook up with me and i'm alright with it. I knew she was coming and kind of seemed to be relying upon their arrival the whole night so i could just hook up with her. She shows up and and immediately starts touching me. I lead her to coat check and check her coat, lead her to dance floor and makeout and dance, lead her to front bar and get drinks. My buddy texts me saying hes coming with his brother and another friend from our old high school. I meet them with decent blonde girl and introduce her, my roommate comes over and says he's going to another bar. PERFECT. pawn blonde girl onto him so i can chill with my buddies. My two friends i'm now with are both division one athletes, tall 6'2 or 6'3, goodlooking. But we just kinda chode around the dancefloor not doing much. Eventually they get a little more social as they get a little drunk. I make laser eye contact with a kinda ugly blonde girl, she points at me and gives me the come here motion. Instead i just reach out and grab her hand pull her to me. Dance with her for just a second and tell her to get a girl for my friend, she tries but my friend doesn't engage fully so it doesn't work. Back to chilling with my friends. Follow my buddy to the bathroom (no homo lol) get distracted by a girl, open her. She looks pretty cute but i can't tell as its pretty dark. Turns out shes a ginocoligist (great spelling probally). Interaction goes well, I intend to follow up with her after i went to the bathroom but lost her. Get back to were my friends are and open a girl dancing behind me, shes older, much older. Asks how old i am when i say i'm 22 she realizes she just wants to dance with me. I try to wheel her a little anyways, and shes like this unreal dancer and keeps on making me dance formal style. gross. Lights come on and i tease her a little and walk away. Say goodbye to my buddies and catch a ride with my roommate home, his two friends, and decent blonde girl. Pull her into my bedroom when we get back. And start to get physical. She loves it blows me, we're dry humping and shit, i finger her till she finishes. The whole time she was telling me we're not having sex and i was like "yeah right whatever you say" in my head, fully assuming we would. LMR!!!! fucker. i really didn't believe her until she left the next morning and we NEVER HAD SEX. goddam lmr. She did blow the shit out of my dick tho, and i got her talking dirty while she was doing it. Awesome. Made her make me eggs at about 4 30 in the morning lol. She blew me while the eggs were cooking. GO ME.
So.... the night was an absolute disaster as far as cold approach was concerned. Hey at least i got my four sets in for it to count as a night of game!!
If i had to guess what happened was i got cocky going into the night and wanted "results" instead of enjoying the process. In short, i was likely opening to get the reaction from the girl and not opening her for the sake of opening her as a girl and me as a man. I was seeking reactions. Which sometimes still works for me because i'm a tall goodlooking kid whos got some stuff going for him, but most of the time nothing stuck at all. I'm thinking because i had been out all week I was identyfying with being able to open well. backfire. The bar/club i was in also was absolutely bumping and i seemed to be intimidated by the enviroment instead of "lording the club" like i do when i'm on fire. When i do well its almost like i'm better than the venue in my own mind. Last night i was intimidated by the venue.
Lesson for the night... the only criteria for success is opening. DONT SEEK REACTIONS. open as a man to a women. not to "validate my skillset."
Good stuff: I implamented looking distracted while in set, like the girl couldn't hold my attention. works beautifully. Opened a ton. Got some nice blowjobs. Bad nights give you way more stuff to work on, which is great news. All the more room to improve now. I'm pumped to tackle these problems and get back at it. Wish there was something to do on sunday nights :(
First full week of game and journaling, fucking love it. I feel like i'm destined to become absolutely great at this. I can't wait to keep on exposing more and more of my actual personality and really get that deep level idenity change they talk about. I feel like my personality could be absolutely awesome and draw so many people in if i could just work on grinding away all those years of shitty social conditioning. I love what i'm doing here.
I went out to a bar that is notoriously busy on saturdays. My buddies were in town (kid who left me tickets to his game friday) and i was planning on meeting up with them.
Got to the bar early at about 10 20 and there was already a line outside this place! money. I get in and go to put my coat in coat check without aproaching first, the line for the coat check was massive already. I stand in line for a solid twenty minutes, the entrie time debating bailing on it and going to approach so i don't freeze myself out. I stick with the line cause its getting longer and my coat is not good for walking around the club in. Eventually i check my coat and get out of line, go to open and i don't. Instead i go to the bar and get a beer. Walk around a little trying to find a target, spot a really cute blonde girl and open her. Shes with two friends, one a gay dude. I got an alright reaction from the blonde, gay dude strongly dislikes me. I try and talk for a little but i really don't get much from her, so i eject. Instead of immediately opening i chode around some more, walk around, eventually find a girl to open. (in hindsight theres literally sets all around me). I open a girl by the bar with her two friends, the friends give me a real shitty reaction kind of laughing at me, girl takes social cues from the two friends and kinda ignores me. I try to force it a little more but it doesn't work. Walk away and actually do open my next set quickly this time, a girl by the bathroom. I think shes hotter than she is, upon getting up to her shes not that hot so i eject pretty quick although she was attracted. After this girl i chode around some more and get a drink. Walk around and eventually open a girl on the edge of the dancefloor with her friends, goes alright, guy friend behind her tries to chime in a couple times but i ignore it. Decent attraction but doesn't seem to really go anywere, yet again i eject. At this point i'm rattled and just kinda wander around the club for a while not doing anything or talking to anyone, probally about twenty minutes. grrrr.
My roommate shows up with a couple buddies and a girl i've already madeout with about three weeks ago. Shes expecting to hook up with me and i'm alright with it. I knew she was coming and kind of seemed to be relying upon their arrival the whole night so i could just hook up with her. She shows up and and immediately starts touching me. I lead her to coat check and check her coat, lead her to dance floor and makeout and dance, lead her to front bar and get drinks. My buddy texts me saying hes coming with his brother and another friend from our old high school. I meet them with decent blonde girl and introduce her, my roommate comes over and says he's going to another bar. PERFECT. pawn blonde girl onto him so i can chill with my buddies. My two friends i'm now with are both division one athletes, tall 6'2 or 6'3, goodlooking. But we just kinda chode around the dancefloor not doing much. Eventually they get a little more social as they get a little drunk. I make laser eye contact with a kinda ugly blonde girl, she points at me and gives me the come here motion. Instead i just reach out and grab her hand pull her to me. Dance with her for just a second and tell her to get a girl for my friend, she tries but my friend doesn't engage fully so it doesn't work. Back to chilling with my friends. Follow my buddy to the bathroom (no homo lol) get distracted by a girl, open her. She looks pretty cute but i can't tell as its pretty dark. Turns out shes a ginocoligist (great spelling probally). Interaction goes well, I intend to follow up with her after i went to the bathroom but lost her. Get back to were my friends are and open a girl dancing behind me, shes older, much older. Asks how old i am when i say i'm 22 she realizes she just wants to dance with me. I try to wheel her a little anyways, and shes like this unreal dancer and keeps on making me dance formal style. gross. Lights come on and i tease her a little and walk away. Say goodbye to my buddies and catch a ride with my roommate home, his two friends, and decent blonde girl. Pull her into my bedroom when we get back. And start to get physical. She loves it blows me, we're dry humping and shit, i finger her till she finishes. The whole time she was telling me we're not having sex and i was like "yeah right whatever you say" in my head, fully assuming we would. LMR!!!! fucker. i really didn't believe her until she left the next morning and we NEVER HAD SEX. goddam lmr. She did blow the shit out of my dick tho, and i got her talking dirty while she was doing it. Awesome. Made her make me eggs at about 4 30 in the morning lol. She blew me while the eggs were cooking. GO ME.
So.... the night was an absolute disaster as far as cold approach was concerned. Hey at least i got my four sets in for it to count as a night of game!!
If i had to guess what happened was i got cocky going into the night and wanted "results" instead of enjoying the process. In short, i was likely opening to get the reaction from the girl and not opening her for the sake of opening her as a girl and me as a man. I was seeking reactions. Which sometimes still works for me because i'm a tall goodlooking kid whos got some stuff going for him, but most of the time nothing stuck at all. I'm thinking because i had been out all week I was identyfying with being able to open well. backfire. The bar/club i was in also was absolutely bumping and i seemed to be intimidated by the enviroment instead of "lording the club" like i do when i'm on fire. When i do well its almost like i'm better than the venue in my own mind. Last night i was intimidated by the venue.
Lesson for the night... the only criteria for success is opening. DONT SEEK REACTIONS. open as a man to a women. not to "validate my skillset."
Good stuff: I implamented looking distracted while in set, like the girl couldn't hold my attention. works beautifully. Opened a ton. Got some nice blowjobs. Bad nights give you way more stuff to work on, which is great news. All the more room to improve now. I'm pumped to tackle these problems and get back at it. Wish there was something to do on sunday nights :(
First full week of game and journaling, fucking love it. I feel like i'm destined to become absolutely great at this. I can't wait to keep on exposing more and more of my actual personality and really get that deep level idenity change they talk about. I feel like my personality could be absolutely awesome and draw so many people in if i could just work on grinding away all those years of shitty social conditioning. I love what i'm doing here.
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Almost forgot to write this down. When in set just enjoy the socializing. Do not actively try and "prolonge"the conversation and work to keep it going. Just open man to a women and then enjoy! Whatever happens happens. Also to get her to game u more and do more work look like she has to win u over (she really should have to win me over!!). I.e staring off into space or at some other girl while shes talking works great.
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Tuesday night's fr: reality
Well... essentially i went out tuesday ngiht and told myself i would draw state from within and not try to ping for reactions from the girls i open. I did just the oppositte. I opened four times and sebsequently got blown out to varying degrees each time. Not to mention i had to chug a couple beers to man up the courage to even open once, and then spend minutes in between each set trying to find an "easy" target to open. In short, it was the worst night of game that i have ever had. I dont think i've every gotten blown out three times straight never mind four. I usually never get blown out. (AND THATS THE PROBLEM!!) This is okay with me however, because there aint no give up here.
So... wtf just happened?!
I think i exposed a gigantic whole in my development... that i've got the fear. I'm pretty sure i'm still scared of rejection on some level. Which would explain a lot, why i've failed to open the hottest girls until i'm in state or it takes me a long time in between sets and i try and find a perfect "set" so that i don't risk getting blown out to preserve my identity as being good with girls. Or why lately i've been pinging for reactions.. i'm putting value on the interaction and the girl in particular. This is good news and bad news.. bad news because obviously thats a massive whole i gotta correct. Its great news because i think of how good i've been with that whole and i can only imagine how good i'll be without it. I'm also happy that i've discovered this problem now as oppossed to glossing over it and discovering it six months down the road when i've been hammering away at this for months already.
So... what am i gonna do? Read some of ozzie's fear stuff. right up my alley right now. I'm going to embrace my fear and run with it. Any girl i see that i get that "approach fear" is a girl that i'm going to approach. I'm going to use the fear as my guide and actively embrace it and TRY to find it, i'm going to go out looking for it until i do. Then i'm going to approach acknowledging it. Brings to mind a lesson from a pyschology course i'm in right now from about three weeks ago...
If you resist an emotion it only grows stronger
If you embrace it often times it relents
I think tyler has said the same thing at some point as well.
Found this online and is what gave me the inpsiration to conqueer my fear of rejection and my fear in general. Wrriten by trentman:
"I read this story on Monday after a bad day of failing to approach:
I ran into a friend of mine at the track once. We decided to have a friendly race…one mile.
Starting off, he pulled just ahead of me. I thought I would close the distance and pass him after a short bit, but could never quite do it.
The whole last lap my body was on fire, and I was pushing it as hard as I could. He crossed the line 10 meters ahead of me. He didn’t even look winded, just a dead-set look in his eyes.
Afterwards, I asked him how he ran that fast, and he told me that it is all in the motivation you light in your mind…imagining your own world and blotting out everything else.
So I asked, “What do you imagine?”
He replied, “What do you?”
I told him that to run faster, I like to imagine that I am being chased by a wolf.”
He smiles and says, “In my mind, I am the one chasing the wolf.”
Suddenly I realized that I'm being chased by my fear whenever I try to approach. I'm trying to outwit it by choosing easy sets, by making excuses etc. So I shifted my mentality. Now, I hunt fear. I'm going to search for the hardest sets because I want to kill my fear. The next day, I approached more than I ever have done in a day. I think it's quite similar to what Ozzy always talks about. It's definitely helped me so far."
i literally cannot wait to go out and apply this. Can't wait to see how i do
Well... essentially i went out tuesday ngiht and told myself i would draw state from within and not try to ping for reactions from the girls i open. I did just the oppositte. I opened four times and sebsequently got blown out to varying degrees each time. Not to mention i had to chug a couple beers to man up the courage to even open once, and then spend minutes in between each set trying to find an "easy" target to open. In short, it was the worst night of game that i have ever had. I dont think i've every gotten blown out three times straight never mind four. I usually never get blown out. (AND THATS THE PROBLEM!!) This is okay with me however, because there aint no give up here.
So... wtf just happened?!
I think i exposed a gigantic whole in my development... that i've got the fear. I'm pretty sure i'm still scared of rejection on some level. Which would explain a lot, why i've failed to open the hottest girls until i'm in state or it takes me a long time in between sets and i try and find a perfect "set" so that i don't risk getting blown out to preserve my identity as being good with girls. Or why lately i've been pinging for reactions.. i'm putting value on the interaction and the girl in particular. This is good news and bad news.. bad news because obviously thats a massive whole i gotta correct. Its great news because i think of how good i've been with that whole and i can only imagine how good i'll be without it. I'm also happy that i've discovered this problem now as oppossed to glossing over it and discovering it six months down the road when i've been hammering away at this for months already.
So... what am i gonna do? Read some of ozzie's fear stuff. right up my alley right now. I'm going to embrace my fear and run with it. Any girl i see that i get that "approach fear" is a girl that i'm going to approach. I'm going to use the fear as my guide and actively embrace it and TRY to find it, i'm going to go out looking for it until i do. Then i'm going to approach acknowledging it. Brings to mind a lesson from a pyschology course i'm in right now from about three weeks ago...
If you resist an emotion it only grows stronger
If you embrace it often times it relents
I think tyler has said the same thing at some point as well.
Found this online and is what gave me the inpsiration to conqueer my fear of rejection and my fear in general. Wrriten by trentman:
"I read this story on Monday after a bad day of failing to approach:
I ran into a friend of mine at the track once. We decided to have a friendly race…one mile.
Starting off, he pulled just ahead of me. I thought I would close the distance and pass him after a short bit, but could never quite do it.
The whole last lap my body was on fire, and I was pushing it as hard as I could. He crossed the line 10 meters ahead of me. He didn’t even look winded, just a dead-set look in his eyes.
Afterwards, I asked him how he ran that fast, and he told me that it is all in the motivation you light in your mind…imagining your own world and blotting out everything else.
So I asked, “What do you imagine?”
He replied, “What do you?”
I told him that to run faster, I like to imagine that I am being chased by a wolf.”
He smiles and says, “In my mind, I am the one chasing the wolf.”
Suddenly I realized that I'm being chased by my fear whenever I try to approach. I'm trying to outwit it by choosing easy sets, by making excuses etc. So I shifted my mentality. Now, I hunt fear. I'm going to search for the hardest sets because I want to kill my fear. The next day, I approached more than I ever have done in a day. I think it's quite similar to what Ozzy always talks about. It's definitely helped me so far."
i literally cannot wait to go out and apply this. Can't wait to see how i do
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Thursday Night
Went out to a college bar and it was pretty weak. Not too many girls my age, although there was a ton of girls that were all too much older than me to approach. Over 30 which is pretty much my cutoff, although i'm starting to wonder if i should just approach regardless.... there was some really hot waitstaff girls that i would have loved to approach but i don't have the skills for that quiet yet, they were all behind the bar and in areas that i couldn't really even get to.
I got to the area early so i went to grab a sandwhich. Eventually wander over to the bar around 10 30 10 45 but its still relatively dead. Theres a set that i should approach but i find myself just gripped by fear and terrible approach anxiety. I told myself to "just feel it and do it anyways," a la what i told myself after tuesday. Instead i got a beer. I chill waiting for girls to show up, another set comes in i should approach, although they much older than me too. FINALLY i man up and approach the original set that i should have approached to begin with (this process took muuuuch too long). I came in overly strong but then calibrated myself to their energy level and it hooked beautifully. Solid ten fifteen minute interaction. Girl was cute, and she was wearing a low cut shirt and a necklace that kept on drawing my attention to her boobs. dam. She tried to give me the douche bag i sleep with a little of girls frame, which i was more than happy to accept and just really went with it. Trouble was... she was a nice girl. I went for the number pull but it was a no go. I eject nicely. Funny thing was she kept on telling me how goodlooking i was... maybe a bf or something whatever. Once i had gotten the first approach in i felt a thousand times better so i started to wander around the bar looking for targets, spot a girl i already number closed last thursday but never hit up. I say hi and make it not awkward or anything. Wheel around the bar and find a girl to open hows way older than me, shes walking by and i just kinda yell hey at her. SHe doesnt stop, i keep on yelling at her, and she walks another twenty feet to her boyfriend. haha. (i got blown out!! my goal for the night literally!) This amuses me lol, so i run around the bar some more trying to find a girl to open and find a cutie trying to walk through a crowd of dudes behind her friend. I just point at her and i'm like "you! your cute! I'm cam... whats your name?" It works but she is like four people away from me in this crowded section so i cant really see her, eventually get to her and shes not that cute. eject. Wander the bar more but theres nothing to open. Peace. Get on the train home and theres a cute girl with headphones sitting a couple seats down and across from me. Eventually we make eye contact and i just hold it and so does she, she breaks it first. Back to just sitting. I made eye contact again after a minute and smile and wave and give her the hand signal to take of the headphones. SHe does, i introduce myslef move over to sit next to her. Chit chat and i tease her a little. My stop comes so i number close right quick.
Good things: opened on the train i never usually do that shit, usually too scared of getting blown out and then sitting there awkwardly. I did get blown out tonight!!! something i want to do at least once every night from now on. All my openers and stuff hooked. I approached as man to a women. way better. didnt look for reactions. all though i could let more of my actually personality out.
bad things: took waaayyy too long to get my first approach in. i need to find a way to open more, i should be less discriminatory in which sets i open. Need to challenge myself and deal with that fear of approaching and getting blown out more. Although i was happy i made it a goal to open and get blown out at least once.
Went out to a college bar and it was pretty weak. Not too many girls my age, although there was a ton of girls that were all too much older than me to approach. Over 30 which is pretty much my cutoff, although i'm starting to wonder if i should just approach regardless.... there was some really hot waitstaff girls that i would have loved to approach but i don't have the skills for that quiet yet, they were all behind the bar and in areas that i couldn't really even get to.
I got to the area early so i went to grab a sandwhich. Eventually wander over to the bar around 10 30 10 45 but its still relatively dead. Theres a set that i should approach but i find myself just gripped by fear and terrible approach anxiety. I told myself to "just feel it and do it anyways," a la what i told myself after tuesday. Instead i got a beer. I chill waiting for girls to show up, another set comes in i should approach, although they much older than me too. FINALLY i man up and approach the original set that i should have approached to begin with (this process took muuuuch too long). I came in overly strong but then calibrated myself to their energy level and it hooked beautifully. Solid ten fifteen minute interaction. Girl was cute, and she was wearing a low cut shirt and a necklace that kept on drawing my attention to her boobs. dam. She tried to give me the douche bag i sleep with a little of girls frame, which i was more than happy to accept and just really went with it. Trouble was... she was a nice girl. I went for the number pull but it was a no go. I eject nicely. Funny thing was she kept on telling me how goodlooking i was... maybe a bf or something whatever. Once i had gotten the first approach in i felt a thousand times better so i started to wander around the bar looking for targets, spot a girl i already number closed last thursday but never hit up. I say hi and make it not awkward or anything. Wheel around the bar and find a girl to open hows way older than me, shes walking by and i just kinda yell hey at her. SHe doesnt stop, i keep on yelling at her, and she walks another twenty feet to her boyfriend. haha. (i got blown out!! my goal for the night literally!) This amuses me lol, so i run around the bar some more trying to find a girl to open and find a cutie trying to walk through a crowd of dudes behind her friend. I just point at her and i'm like "you! your cute! I'm cam... whats your name?" It works but she is like four people away from me in this crowded section so i cant really see her, eventually get to her and shes not that cute. eject. Wander the bar more but theres nothing to open. Peace. Get on the train home and theres a cute girl with headphones sitting a couple seats down and across from me. Eventually we make eye contact and i just hold it and so does she, she breaks it first. Back to just sitting. I made eye contact again after a minute and smile and wave and give her the hand signal to take of the headphones. SHe does, i introduce myslef move over to sit next to her. Chit chat and i tease her a little. My stop comes so i number close right quick.
Good things: opened on the train i never usually do that shit, usually too scared of getting blown out and then sitting there awkwardly. I did get blown out tonight!!! something i want to do at least once every night from now on. All my openers and stuff hooked. I approached as man to a women. way better. didnt look for reactions. all though i could let more of my actually personality out.
bad things: took waaayyy too long to get my first approach in. i need to find a way to open more, i should be less discriminatory in which sets i open. Need to challenge myself and deal with that fear of approaching and getting blown out more. Although i was happy i made it a goal to open and get blown out at least once.
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Friday night.
Didnt chose the best venue friday, the part of town i went to was relatively quiet for a friday, but still got some good approaches in.
I spent about fifteen minutes wandering downtown trying to find one specific bar and did. Rattling. Went to another bar that is usual,y good but was pretty empty. I get in there its almost deserted but im early so i chill forna while waiting for it to pick up which it does eventually. Im leaning against the bar facing outward and some girl makes eye contact with me and i just point at her andim like "you!" And shes like yeah..? Then im like your cute blah blah now ive got attraction. I dont do much with the set and eject. Boooo. I walk around trying to find another cutie but its so dam dark in there its tough to tell. Eventually open again with "hey your cute" standard bs. It works it hooks. But i dont do much with it and eject becaue it started to go down hill when i start asking crappy repore questions. Open again, tall pretty brunette, it hooks and attraction. Then i lose it eventually. Grrrr. I venue change myself and as im walking in to the next bar which is actually much better i spot a pretty blonde punk girl. Make eye contact on the way in and i know its on. As soon as i walk in i open with just "hey im cam." She likes it but i really gotta piss so i tell her that ill find her. Piss walk around. Leaning against the bar some.crazy drunk girl opens me. Sebsequently the weirdest interaction ever. Shes with some dude who looks like her bf so im like is that your bf? She tells me no and keeps on talking to me, the chode meanwhile keeps inching up into the convo. So im like "dude.... is this ur gf?" He shakes his head no. Girl is crazy i tell her the guy is creeping me out and she apologizes. I try and isolate her with my body language. Motherfucking chode weird guy creeps all the way around me and renoses his way into the convo. Wtf. I ask wtf is wrong with this guy and shes like oh hes just my friend. I peace. Sooo weird.
Theres not too many hotties around but i find hbpunk. Turns out shes actually there with a cute girl from one of my classes a year ago that i had number closed. Dam. They both like me and since their friends i dont quiet know what to do. Flirt with hbpunk for a while but fail to get physical. I spot a couple people i knw from school and go say hi, a dude with two girls. Flirt a tiny bit with both girls but not too much i dont want to fuck over the guy i know. And im running out of tiiiime, gotta make the last train over to the other side of town.
Say goodbye to hbpunk and school girl, i tell her ill text her. They both give me big warm fuck me please hugs on the way out. Dammit lol.
Didnt chose the best venue friday, the part of town i went to was relatively quiet for a friday, but still got some good approaches in.
I spent about fifteen minutes wandering downtown trying to find one specific bar and did. Rattling. Went to another bar that is usual,y good but was pretty empty. I get in there its almost deserted but im early so i chill forna while waiting for it to pick up which it does eventually. Im leaning against the bar facing outward and some girl makes eye contact with me and i just point at her andim like "you!" And shes like yeah..? Then im like your cute blah blah now ive got attraction. I dont do much with the set and eject. Boooo. I walk around trying to find another cutie but its so dam dark in there its tough to tell. Eventually open again with "hey your cute" standard bs. It works it hooks. But i dont do much with it and eject becaue it started to go down hill when i start asking crappy repore questions. Open again, tall pretty brunette, it hooks and attraction. Then i lose it eventually. Grrrr. I venue change myself and as im walking in to the next bar which is actually much better i spot a pretty blonde punk girl. Make eye contact on the way in and i know its on. As soon as i walk in i open with just "hey im cam." She likes it but i really gotta piss so i tell her that ill find her. Piss walk around. Leaning against the bar some.crazy drunk girl opens me. Sebsequently the weirdest interaction ever. Shes with some dude who looks like her bf so im like is that your bf? She tells me no and keeps on talking to me, the chode meanwhile keeps inching up into the convo. So im like "dude.... is this ur gf?" He shakes his head no. Girl is crazy i tell her the guy is creeping me out and she apologizes. I try and isolate her with my body language. Motherfucking chode weird guy creeps all the way around me and renoses his way into the convo. Wtf. I ask wtf is wrong with this guy and shes like oh hes just my friend. I peace. Sooo weird.
Theres not too many hotties around but i find hbpunk. Turns out shes actually there with a cute girl from one of my classes a year ago that i had number closed. Dam. They both like me and since their friends i dont quiet know what to do. Flirt with hbpunk for a while but fail to get physical. I spot a couple people i knw from school and go say hi, a dude with two girls. Flirt a tiny bit with both girls but not too much i dont want to fuck over the guy i know. And im running out of tiiiime, gotta make the last train over to the other side of town.
Say goodbye to hbpunk and school girl, i tell her ill text her. They both give me big warm fuck me please hugs on the way out. Dammit lol.
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GAME1010
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Join Date: 08/30/2011 | Posts: 220
The ground rules: game AT LEAST four nights a week... (nights in which i don't get four approaches in don't count)
........ thats the only rule.
This is awesome.. the start of a journey with what is gurranteed to have many epic adventures.
With keeping track of the progress in mind i just want to try and elucidate were exactly i am starting this process at. In season (i play a college sport) i went out exactly once a week, every saturday night and gamed. I got some makeouts, even brought a couple girls home, three exactly lol, in that span. This past summer my best friend and i got after game pretty hard, we went out about 3-4 nights some weeks, although at this time we were both quiet unaware of the natural and rsd style game (routine style sucks dick). We had some good times, lots of makeouts and numbers, a couple fuck closes but nothing too crazy. On any given night when i'm doing well i can currently expect some amount of success, i've had a few nights when i really hit state but it doesn't happen too often. I still sometimes suffer approach anxiety, especially when i'm flying solo, and I fail to open good opportunities, specifically when i'm on the street outside the venue. GRRRH. If i have a decent night i'm liable currently to at least make out with one or two girls of varying hotness, i rarely pull girls home or fuck them.
Fuck... so there. thats exactly were i am currently. Lets see were this thing takes me.
GAMETIME BABY!!!