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Death of the 26 Year Old Chode!
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#71

BKW

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Jimbiz wrote:
I'm liking this thread, reminds me of my first thread last year, (I'm 29), only had my glory run and then ended up in a relationship, and concetrating on my finances. Be interested to see where you take this from here. Ps what happened to the other girls you fucked other than C?
Thanks man.  I've been writing on another forum about approaching and dates and stuff which is why I haven't posted any updates here for a while, but I definitely am sticking at it.

I basically stopped talking to one girl who kept wanting to see me.  "C" I am still dating because I really enjoy her company.  The other girls I haven't pursued much for reasons because of school, work, and also mainly because I started to lose interest in house dates and wanted to get back out approaching instead of dates all the time.  They are still in my phone and if I contact them I could probably meet up with them.  As of now, I need to do more approaches and meet more girls.  Lately I have been experiencing massive approach anxiety, which I am learning to overcome and master in my previous post.
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newstuff18

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yo man, loving the videos.  that is an awesome way to learn from yourself.  we should hit it up when school is out.
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#73

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newstuff18 wrote:
yo man, loving the videos.  that is an awesome way to learn from yourself.  we should hit it up when school is out.
Yeah man, finals is next week.  After that, besides work, I'm free for a montht ill summer school.  Hit me up
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#74

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Hey guys, haven't updated anything for a while so I thought I'd talk about what has been going on...

I realize everyone has their own personal style of game. Some guys like to go all out for as long as they can and get every night of the week; others like to get it here and there and focus on dates, etc. For me, as of lately, I am noticing I am comfortable with having 3 prospects in my phone that are solid. What I currently like to do is meet 3 solid girls, and then have dates with them throughout the week. The ones that I dislike the most or don't have very good chemistry with are the ones that I am first to stop talking to and then I find more solid prospects to date (and fool around with)--so yeah, I like having 3 girls to date. I realize in the future I may involve myself with more one-night stands, but as of now I thoroughly enjoy the company of getting to know the women I'm dating. If you guys remember C, I am still dating her because I like her and haven't found any other girl better yet. Also, being that I consider myself inexperienced with dating, meeting girls, and relationships with the opposite sex in general, this is why I am serial-dating. I always like to feel like I've experienced enough of something before I say to myself, "move on".

Currently, I have two prospects: C and another girl who pursued me at work. Interestingly enough, the girl from work is like 16 years old! And before you guys start yelling out "pedophile", this girl looks like she is 20. Also, in the state of Ohio where I live legal age of consent is 16. Also, when I first saw her at work she looked freakin 20, no lie. Her personality matches that of a 16 year old though, and I do not plan on having anything "serious" with her--I'll probably fuck her once and move on. The interesting thing about this is I'm fucking 26! Not that I'm particularity interested in banging barely legal girls (cause I'm not), this is PROOF that younger chicks dig older dudes, even at age 16! It's pretty interesting shit if you ask me. I definitely do not plan on dating this girl--even her texts annoy me to a degree, but I can't be an asshole about it because shes only 16 for christ sake. When I was 16 I guarantee I was dumber than her. She's legal, and she looks 20 so I'ma hit it quit it...next...

If you go up a couple of my posts, you'll see the approach I did with the girl in the video in which I got her number. That girl I had a date with last Monday. We went to a local bar. After about 30-40 minutes we left the bar and came back to my place to "watch a movie". There wasn't anything physical escalation. I figured I'd wait till after the movie. As she got up to leave I basically said, "Here, give me a hug". She of course gave me a hug and I kissed her. I then started kissing her neck and sucking on her ear and I heard her breathe heavy--what girls do when they are into it--and her eyes were closed and she was squeezing me closer into her--all indicators she liked it. So I picked her up and took her into my room. From there I experienced a unique kind of LMR: when I was basically about to fuck her she started going into seizures. I asked what was wrong and she said the doctor can't pinpoint it. But then as soon as I stopped she stopped having seizures. I tried again and even pulled her panties down and pants and was fingering her in which she was really into and would of had me keep going until I put a condom on and was about to fuck her--bam, the seizure shit she started to do again. At this point I figured she was just doing that so I didn't fuck her which really turned me off and pissed me off a bit. I didn't act mad but instead asked if she wanted to go as she indicated it herself. After she left I knew I would never call her again. Our chemistry wasn't all that great anyway. The whole LMR-seizure thing really turned me off. Don't know if it was real or not but it seemed definitely fake if you asked me. Weirdest LMR I have ever seen and I suspect it to be the weirdest LMR I will probably ever see lol.

So yeah, I haven't approached since I got the videos up on this thread (the latest videos). I feel like I come to understand a better perspective on my fears and approaching which I plan on implementing next time I go to approach. Basically, when I start to get all the "fears" randomly popping up in my head I'll default them all to a thought of "social momentum/state shifting", and what this will do is remind me that after the approach my anxiety will be reduced dramatically and I'll also learn to appreciate it. My biggest problem was not having any positive "hope" when I experienced the illogical fears and doubts that came right before an approach, so when the negative fears/thoughts came up I often let them overtake me and I'd chode out. But now I'll be running off a default idea of positive "social momentum/state shifting" which gives me something to look forward to and to help me get into that positive state.

I plan on recording more of my approaches. I am favoring day game over night game because it fits my style more (calm, relaxed). Also, the girls seem to be friendlier.

Till next time :)
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#75

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Been wanting to hit it hard lately. Been going out the kast couple days for day game and having a harder time finding girls i would approach due to college not even having summer classes yet. I guess i just need to be more creative. Jeffy said in one of his videos to be 100% player or nothing at all and lately that really has hit home for me. Too many years spent being only half a player with hardly anything to show for it so im going to go beast mode and get my head back into it
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#76

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WALMART GAME (waiting in the parking lot)

Alright, so I've decided to be as boring as I want with this thread; some days I will treat this thread as a journal because I enjoy expressing my thoughts regardless. I'll try to start adding titles to the entries so if you do want to read it you can see what the subject is about before wasting your time I guess.

Been doing a lot of grocery store hunting for girls. Like I said, summer school for college hasn't even kicked in and so it is pretty much empty as my favorite local campus to meet girls. I really have no other options on a Sunday or Monday to meet girls beyond "store game". I honestly feel like it is my best shot because that is where I see most the girls around where I live on off-nights. It'd be almost pointless to go anywhere else on certain days.

Anyway, it is slow on certain days but it's interesting nonetheless. There are a few things I've learned to do on off-days/nights. I am learning that it is a waste of time and energy to drive around all over the place to go to store to store to store and MAYBE see a girl I'd approach in there--i've done this a lot and it always drains me and is almost depressing and expensive on gas! So instead of doing all that, I find it easier to just park in a busy store parking lot and wait and watch for the girls who I'd like to approach to enter (lol). To me, it's genius. I'm sure other people are like, "wtf? Really? Waiting in a parking lot for girls to enter a store!?" Well yeah! It sure beats driving around and hoping another store has a girl I'd approach in it! It's like fishing or hunting. You find a place to camp and just wait for the prey to come along lol. Fuck spending all the energy trying to seek them out! haha.

Waiting in a parking lot on off-days is pretty boring sometimes. I've been doing this for about 3 days now with about 30 minute waits because i get pretty bored. I should stay longer and wait it out. What is really interesting about doing this is sometimes I'll go do this and there is NO girl I'd approach for the longest time, and then other times I'll go and it's packed with hotties! It's almost exciting to see what walmart has sometimes waiting for me! lol. Idk, I'm glad I get excitement from such a mundane thing. I've actually had a couple of good opportunities the last couple days but I haven't approached in a while so I'm building my mentality up for it again. It takes me about a day or two of going out to be really hit home my determination to hard progress. It may not take others so long but this is where I'm at in the game so w/e. The good thing is when I get determined and focused and I hit it hard I am really solid and I usually get what I want because I approach more.

So yeah, that's my walmart game for ya at the moment lol...

As far as technique and everything, I have that down....mainly because I don't use "techniques". My game is as followed: say what i want...when i want..how i want...where i want... if the girls isn't into me then no worries because there are plenty that are, so next. I try not to bother myself with what to say or how to say it because I realize that doesn't really matter. What I've noticed that matters is how I feel because it determines my aggressiveness to make it happen--that's it! It's all on me and my inner-world, not the girl. It took me a long, long time to figure that out.

I did approach a girl friday at the dead university (amazingly she was there). BF decline. For some reason, even though summer school isn't going on for another couple weeks, there seems to be a small population of students that are around, but it is a very small population, and I find myself needing to sit and wait at a busy college sidewalk intersection to even see any students.


Alright, good things are bound to happen soon if I persist! I'll more than likely have some more video recordings of my approaches as well!
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#77

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Been trying to get back into this approaching stuff again.  I know I have to approach a lot to make things interesting again, so I've been dabbling around with the idea of doing 20 approaches a week for as long as I can.  Technically, it is possible, but it'll take some dedication for me.  A lot of guys can do that no problem but I have a hard time sticking to that number.  I will try though.  Anything to keep me motivated and feeling like I'm progressing; doing something.

I just need to stick to the numbers game for now.  My "girlfriend" is trying to hang out with me a lot, and she knows that I'm looking to experience more dating because I told her.  It's a complicated situation but I'm learning from her.  I don't want to hurt her so I told her the truth a long time ago.  I don't know why she sticks around.  But anyway, my mentality approaching girls is pretty simple: numbers game.  That's it.  I know it isn't really much what I say or where I say it.  80% of it is just approaching.  We put so much emphasis on thinking we did soemthing "wrong" when we approach and then we think too much about the approach than actually approaching, which is a waste in my opinion, so I'm just going to focus on the numbers game from now on.  Routines are fine for openers (i.e. "do you know where the main library is? Your cute.  What's your name?" etc)
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#78

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Thanks man! I appreciate the feedback! I am definitely not a noob anymore. I would consider myself intermediate.

As far as any reports, I haven't been posting much because my internet has been messing up a lot lately. My current status is approaching at college and bars. I have made a chart of all my approaches since April. I have only approach near 17 girls during that time which is really nothing considering some do that in one night!

Anyway, will keep posted. My approach at school is walking around campus either asking where a building is then saying they are cute then small talk and number or just flat out telling them they are cute and talking with them. I see no reason not to be direct.

One of my main goals is to get comfortable with the act of approaching in front of other people. Bars don't bother me that bad but it is college campuses and grocery stores that still make me self-conscious. I think my best chance of beating this fear is doing it repeatedly and proving to myself no one really cares.

Will keep posted.
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#79

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NO MORE WALMART GAME
If you scroll over the last page you'll see that I was trying to pick-up girls at walmart. Well, I'm going to stop trying to pick up girls at stores for a while. The main reason isn't so much that I don't mind waiting in the parking lot for a cute girl to enter; the main reason is because I think the cops are getting suspicious of me, especially since I often enter the store and walk around buying nothing. It may be my paranoia speaking, but the last couple times I went to walmart cops were in the parking lot. I went to walmart today and when I got out of the store the was an undercover in an unmarked car who was parked in the lot and then followed me out. There was also two other cop cars in the lot as well. Idk man, fuck that shit. I can almost bet someone from within the store called them and told them about me either because I'm always in the parking lot or because I'm walking around the store buying nothing trying to find girls. Fuck store approaches. I'm staying away from it for a while; maybe forever. It hasn't really produced much results anyway but I'm not sure if it is because of my skill level. No more walmart game lol.

PICK UP SCHEDULE
As far as day game goes, I'm pretty frustrated. I have scheduled time everyday of the week besides sunday to approach girls either via day game at college or at bars on the weekend. So far it has been extremely frustrating day game walking around campus. My schedule is pretty busy, but here it is for meeting women (opt to change):

Monday - between 5 - 6pm at college
Tuesday - between 5 - 6 at college
Wednesday -between 5 - 6pm at college
Thursday - between 5-6pm college
Friday - day game at local university and/or bars at night
Saturday - bars at night
Sunday - off

As you can see, I designate everyday besides sunday for gaming girls. Once again, for the most part, I have been frustrated at my lack of approaches and attempts. Some days there will literally be no girls I'd approach at college and then other days I'm too chicken-shit to approach. I am constantly re-framing my mind trying to gain the confidence I need to make it happen. I know that it is simple technically and most of the shit I say to myself are excuses. I know myself, however, and I know that I just need to keep pushing and I'll get the mentality straightened out. One of the most frustrating things with day game is walking around campuses and the randomness that comes with not knowing if any girls are going to out that specific day. I HATE walking around campus and wasting my time. It gets to me every time.

I think I understand now what Owen meant by saying, "Picking up girls is both the easiest and hardest thing you'll ever do". I can understand that now, but it's just my own personal interpretation anyway.

Plan on going out tonight.  Will keep posted.
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#80
newstuff18

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shit man.  I'll take a drive down there and we'll pimp it real hard. i'll get back to ya in a few weeks.
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