THE FORUMS

Thanku (i fuse them now, because i like it) Tyler!!!! i found myself resonating with everything u said in this one.  Looking back over the last couple of years, i'd have to say that exposure to the pickup community has damaged me in as many ways as it has helped.  The urgent need to speak to n be around flocks of beautiful women long preceded my exposure to the pickup community n i've always had a certain compulsive drive to approach.  i've definitely turned heads in coffeeshops with awkward banter before, but i've also found myself in peak-experiences, vibing with strangers, overflowing my ecstasy all over them n listening to squeaky girls delight with the feeling of making a new connection.  The pickup community n its perverse habit of compelling people to calculate their batting averages, or rather the tendency to generate really manipulative people who use contrived techniques as a stand-in for genuine personality, infected me with beliefs about what i had to do to build attraction.  Where my body n mind had been listening naturally to subtle vibe qualities that women presented, new (or at least more pronounced) judgments began to crop up about what good responses looked like, as well as new judgments about what the responses i was getting meant about me.  Of everything that i've ever heard u talk about, i'm finding this new thread about scanning for chemistry while being in the flow n having fun to be the deepest n most useful.  Over the last couple of days, i've met dozens of women, laughed n smiled with them n collected a handful of numbers -- the only girls who i even asked for a number from were those that i had fun chemistry with.  Some were pretty average looking, tho one of them is intensely beautiful.  The only thing that i'm planning to do is continually ask whether or not the chemistry is fun n vibrant... Actually, i'll probably also be asking (internal dialogue) whether we would be more or less comfortable if we were wearing less clothes, partially because if the answer is more, we will be wearing less clothes, but also partially because its funny. lol. 

This does, however, all lead me into a bit of a quandry concerning how to let my natural chemistry grow more potent.  It even seems to be worded awkwardly, because on the one hand, "letting" seems like taking my hands off of the wheel, while on the other hand i clearly want to direct it to grow more potent.  The way that i am thinking about it right now is that the more potent it becomes, the more deeply satisfying it'll be for any woman that i choose to electrify... i guess i just don't want it to degenerate into another technique... the closest that i can come at the moment is perhaps just to trust even more deeply in the natural chemistry to take care of everything... n then trust a little bit more than that... but if u can come up with something beyond this, i would be deeply appreciative... thanks again for this internet-cache of awesomeness.