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TheRealTiger

TheRealTiger

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Join Date: 10/22/2011 | Posts: 25

Oi!
I am a student living in Switzerland in a city of about 300 000 inhabitants. I will be leaving this country in 5-6 months so I want to expand my reality as much as I can! Burn it to the ground! Try everything and have as much fun as I can.

BURN THE BOATS and GET AS MUCH AS REFERENCE EXPERIENCES AS POSSIBLE

So here we goooooooooo.....

No excuses mindset.
TRY IT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS.


Two excellent videos from Alex on expanding your reality:




I am also doing this challenge:
KISS REJECTION CHALLENGE
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/83708
4/25
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Join Date: 10/22/2011 | Posts: 25

Yesterday 18.02.12:

I met a few friends and we went in the streets for day game.
I approched direct 3-4 girls and then I saw a beatufiful blonde woman with her dad and mom. In my head: " This is fooooooor me!": I ran to them and then turned:

Me: Hi! Do you speak French? (speaking with the parents)
Them: Yes
Me: Is it your daughter? (speaking with the parents)
Them: Yes
Me: I was walking and I thought she was really cute I had to come to say "Hi" to her. I know that can be a strange situation but I am here. ( Speaking to the daughter) Hey, I am Alain, who are you? *shake hands*

Then my mind was blank and they went away . I was so stressed, I could hardly speak because this was a new situation for me.
MISSION ACCOMPLISHED: Reality pushed.
For next time, I have to isolate the girl from the parents with a " I just want to talk to you here "and grab her hand and lead her 2 meters away.

Side note: when a girl says she has a boyfriend, I can answer : " do you want another one" with a big smile .
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In the evening,
I went solo gaming in a bar, I approached 3 girls who did not find place in the bar. It was an situational opener " Ohhhh, you do not find place!"
Then I bounced them to another bar with " Oi, there is this bar down the street, it is cool, LET'S SKOOOOOOOOO" and lead. The followed :)
Then at the bar I was talking, chatting , my voice was powerfull and loud my eye contact was good but here are my sticking points:
- I have to be physcial with the woman. I was doing zero kino.
- Man 2 Woman Conversation. I was talking about things but I could have talken of these subjects with my grand ma. I was talking chode conversation. iT WAS FAKE EXCHANGE. I was not authentic.  I was spekaing for her not for me, I was not self amusing myself. I wanted to fit in the social conditioning and that she likes me.
- I was not being sexual.
- My reaction time between the moment I see her and I go has to be shorter ( here 20 seconds)...
- I also approached to test my routine and the sequence of my game plan but it was not to get her...


Then I was on the dance floor, I saw a blonde cuttie dancing alone near a social group. I approached her direct " Ayyy, you are cute, I had to say Hi, who are you?". It hooked but then a man grabbed my arm and said " get the fuck off". I calmly asked " Is it your girlfriend?". He answered " yes". Then I replied ", ok cool man I was just socializing!" with a neutral voice.
MISSION ACCOMPLISHED: Reality pushed.
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On the dance floor, there was this fatty and a lot of persons were looking... I approached her, exchanged 1-2 words then grabbed her head and makeout.
* I did it in order to not give a fuck abour what anyone thinks of me and this ego about being good with girls*
For next, time I have to use this move again, grab the head of the girl with my two hands and makeout. It works well.

Tomorow I will think about how to improve my game and how to overcome my sticking points.
Cya;)
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Today 3 approaches in the street, direct game.
I feel that I am more unstifled more confident, ym voice is getting better. I am having macro momentum. approach 2-3 girls a day.
I have to push my confort zone. I can approach easily but I have to always ask for a drink if I find the girl cool.
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i was in a metro this afternoon and listened to two girls who were debrieifing their nights.
They said they were appraoched by a lot of guys and that the men who did not make a move on them were gay. They love sex and they want to be bent over.
It is very different when you see conditionned people talking about that and two girls talking about that in an intinamte environement.
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I was approaching in the street when a homeless man approached me and my friend. He said he saw we did fewe approaches and that was very cool because life is short and we have to act when we want something. HE said ma friend was right to approach that random cute girl beause he wanted and who knows she can be cool or the sife of his wife. This homeless dude gave me a lot with his wisdom. I offered him some money!

I also feel that approaching every day and pushing ma confort zone makes me feel more comfortable in the social interactions with girls and that I can start doing what I really want aka self expression.
Alex says that:

The more you push your comfort zone, the more you experience life, the more you can really be yourself because you are indifferent.

FOCUS ON THE ACTIONS YOU TAKE AND NOT THE RESULTS YOU HAVE.
When you have that fear feeling. If you act you have a reference point of you acting and the magic can happen. If you do not act, you have this reference point of you not acting!
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Yesterday:
I had a date with a girl I met in a bar. She has a boyfriend and wanted to meet me just to network not for my cock.
SHIT. I understood where i did wrong. When I met her she told me she has a boyfriend when I asked her phonenumber. I answered " with ok cool no problem".
For next time, answer with " do you want another one?"
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This evening,
I went to a club with two friends. We entered the club and I saw a real cuttie dragging her friend away. I remember jeffy saying that your reaction time should be zero. I saw her and ran at her with full intent. I taped her shoulder and said " I thought you were cute bla bla". My voice was assertive, positive domiant and she was quite and attentive ie IOI. Then I started  just fluffing and she went away.
What did happen here?
1) Spot a hottie and run at her without hesitation, imagine her naked.
2) Tell her what was on your mind when you saw her.
( with loud, positive and challenging voice and lazer eyes)
3) Then I only talked
THE PROBLEM IS THAT I LOOSE MY INTENT and start CHODING. And you can see that in the girl's eyes.
With 1) and 2) My intent is here because my words, thoughts and actions are aligned. But then I fall into normal conversation. Kino are ok. I do them.
WHY AM I TALKING TO HER? BECAUSE I WANT HER; I SHOULD HAVE THAT IN MY MIND.

Key question: If I want her, what will I want to talk about and do? How would I behave and move things forwards?

I met a girl outisde who was alone with her phone, " hey! I love what you are doing, can I be sad with you?", we talked and I did kino and then she said " you know I kissed 2 guys  tonight and I am in a trouble.".
THEN I HAD THE EPIPHANY.
Lazer eyes and I grabed her head with my two hands and said " do you want to make out with 3 guys tonight?" and tried to kiss! Rejected and no emotional reaction , i pluged. Then tried again to kiss her while doing hugs. Not yet. Then, I told her, ryou look stresses,
"look me in the eyes and everything will be ok, I won't kiss you , I promise, Close your eyes".
She closed her eyes and then smack, she opened her eyes and pushed me away. Then she was leaving and I grabbed her and Plugged. Persistance. Was fun.

If you have any advices or comments, do not hesitate! :)

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KISS REJECTION CHALLENGE: 6/20
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Note to myself:
Do not invst too much at the start of the interaction. You are doing it for yourself not her. YOu must feel in club as good as if you are in your own room.

Tonight:
LEVEL UP
Stduent party.
I did not drink at all. Only watter. teeth
I was chatting with som people and then started talking with a blonde cheerleader. i was feeling very centered and purely expressed myself. I felt that something was happening. Then I told her that she has to grab her things and we are moving to another club. She agreed. Baby steps & Leading.
I knew at that time that I could have kissed her because I was able to enter her personal space. But I did want to maintain the tension. We drank watter and a beer for her. Then I proposed to give her a ride home with my car. I clawed her in the streets, she clawed me back. It was ON.
In the car, while driving, make the situation comfortable, carzy musci, crazy sounds, only fun, love and dance moves.
Then we arrived at her place. before arriving, i asked her to show me some videos.
I parked the car, we went into her appartment and the the room. She showed me the video.
Then I said something random about the wall we stood up and we started fighting each other and the hugging. Positive and negative emotions.
Then grabbed her head, make out, she pushed me back, said " we only met". side note : haha yes 3 hours ago!
Then Kissed her again, makeout and then she said " I do not want you to take me for a slut, i am not this kind of girl". i answered, " I understand non judgmental+ we are young + bla bla+. Then makeout again and I double clawed her legs and threw her on the bed and we started making out. Then she stoped and gave me a tons of LMR. She told me she was uncomfortable because it was going too quick. I chilled and said " ok it is cool, you do what you want, we are adults, it is cool!".
Then kiss on the forehead and left.

Then drove my car to the club again but there was no interesting girls there. :(

BUT REALITY PUSHED.
For next time, maybe spend more time with her? because i qualifified, comfort, emotional conenction and shit.?
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Street fighter wrote:
Good shit you have going here man.
You are focussing on the right things (constantly be pushing your comfort zone) rather than the specifics of how to do it or the outcomes you get or not. at the end of the day it's the only thing we have control over and good stuff happen as a side results.
Inspiring. Keept it up.
Haha yes, it is was I am trying to do but it is hard ;)

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Tonight was a shitty night. Student party. I did not dirnk. Only watter. ( I love drinking but I have to push my CZ as much as I can). Too high enery environement. I did no approaches.
It is funny how in one night you can blame yourself and the night before you tried to pull a cheerleader at her appartment. Haha funny.
WHAT I AM MISSING ARE OBJECTIVES:
- Approach 100 women during day time starting today (02.03.2012), end (31.05.2012). 3 motnhs. It can be direct or indirect but if I like the girl I have to ask for the instant date / and/or number. In my uni or in the streets, shops, metro, in traffic? haha
- I also have to define my objectives for night game. I will set it tomorrow.


See you!
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News:

I stoped trying to impress the girl. But the problem is that I literaly do not know what to say. It is weird, I have a new feeling  where I feel I am centered in my reality. I stopped sying stuff to impress the girl or to be polite or to say something because the society tells me to do that. It is weird because I feel that something is changing. I lost my confidence in what I say and how I behave. But I think it is a good thing because it means that i am going level up. Being centered.
Now that I am at this stage, I have to developp two things:

1) Doing/ saying things for me not for the girl. Literraly, Focus on my voice and not hers ( like Julien says). Doint if for me. Celebrating me with me. What fuels me when saying it? But still be responsive to the situation.
2) INTENT. Why are you talking to her? If the answer is other than I want her in my bed naked tonight, you are going nowhere.

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This afternoon, day game, numbers and i also approached  a chick with her mum in direct game. it worked well. Side note: The mum is not a person you game, it becomes your wing.
But also I approaach a chick in direct, it works well but it goes nowhere. What I can do better:
1) Always ask for an instant date
2) If I think I can kiss her, kiss her
3) Why am I talking to her?

Day game approaches 4/100.
If you want the rules of direct game, here there are ( Inbox from one of my wing this morning):

"really important for direct game is that it's the same as any game. just go in like a realy motherfucker and genuinly express your interest.
really like her, say what you feel be honest, look at her with love, appreciate her beauty and really find her beautiful. don't do sets to practice. just approach the girls you like.

make it fun and spontantous. touch the girl move her away from the busy side walk to the side of the street and stuff like that.

tocuh her but lightly. just do what comes naturally. all the basic pu principles apply.

make her comfortable by being real, authentic and genuine. smile at her but mean it. love to spend time with her. be interested to get to know her.
make it fun, make statements instead of asking questions."

This is all you need to know for direct day game. i started learning techniques or principles in order to get a better reaction but you loose the magic with it. Follow these principles and you will feel the MAGIC.

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Tonight, a lot of approaches.
I met two girls at the bar, they were drunk and I was there. They started hugging me and I knew that if I take the head of one of them I was able to makeout. I was really attracted to them. But I did not ask, instead I watched them making out with each other.
Why did I not act?
- I know that one has a boyfriend and the other one has a FF who was in the bar.
- They are in my class and I will see them everyday
- i did not want to make the move because I could have been rejected from the group. I wanted to play it safe.
How funny is it when you belong to a group and you do not want to make something that can kick you out of the group or lowers you value in the group. it is funny because my approach anxiety is very low and I try to kiss almost every girl I see but I was paralysed with theses two girls. Interesting.
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I have to improve my INTENT ( claritiy in words, actions and thoughts).
I can approach, fluff for hours, spin girls in the air, do a lot of crazy shits. My approach anxiety is pretty low. But the problem is that I realised that I had lost my focus on why I was here : be naked with the girl and spend awesome time.
When going out, I was focusing on how to approach well, how to hook etc, how to get physical etc but I relaised today that I am missing the big picture of it.

WHY ARE YOU TALKING TO HER? BECAUSE YOU WANT HER NAKED IN YOUR BED TONIGHT. ANOTHER ANSWER THAN THAT AND YOU ARE GOING NOWHERE (Tim rsd).

Having had this epiphany I realised that my game lacks of INTENT ( clarity on your thoughts " want her tonight", actions and words). And for now it is not alligned.


So here are a few tools:

THE APPROACH:

1. (refer to above point, get that cheeky smile on the inside)
2. Spot a hottie, walking by or standing somewhere, or in a group or wherever
3. Allow yourself to be “Lovestruck” STOP. PAUSE AND DRINK HER IN FOR A SECOND. DONT FIGHT IT… inside you should be saying things like
“Damnnnn she is HOT”, “WOW look at that ass”, “Whoa YUM”, “MMM MMM MMMMMMMM YESSSSSS”



4. Harness the lovestruck energy inside BE POSSESED BY IT for a split second – feel it burning you up as a man… imagine her NAKED in YOUR BED
5. Listen to your inner MAN… like “Ohhhh I GOTTA get that”
6. JUST GO without anything else on your mind. LITERALLY. NO THINKING of ANY SORT – even what you are going to say. Its actually BEST if you DONT KNOW what you are going to say to her.
7. You must trust in that energy 100%

ESCALATION:
with Ozzie's structure.

1,2,3 under 1 minute then continue in the hierarchy. If she does not respond well, take 1-2 moves back.
1) Shake hands
2) Hi5
3) HUGH
4) Spin
5) CLAW
6) Lift girl in the air
7) GO for makeout


VERBAL:

" Who are you? What is your story?"
" Are you shy? Are you spontaneous?"
" Tell me three things that make you cool"
" I love you, i hate you,no it's ok , make me a hugh"
" Do you like orange juice? So it wont' work between us. it is good we found out that now!"
Look at her and say " You could not imagine what I would like to do to you right now but the bouncers would kick us out"MANDATORY TO SAY


MAKE OUT:

" Are you a good kisser?" "let's find out!"
Has to be tried less than 20 minuts in set. If it does not work, it is not a big deal, it is fun :)


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MAGIC QUESTION
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I think I an having an interal shift. When I speak to a woman it is because I want her naked in my bed tonight. And everything changes. Also do not forget to express intent and let go, do not be needy.
Tonight, I met M., at a party, we clicked naturally, everything was flwoing then we went to a bar and I started excalating hevaily, we were dancing, she was gridingme and I was having a boner for the entire time of the interaction. Man 2 woman conversation. I knew I could have kissed her during that moment but I wanted to keep the tension, I was literally at 1 cm from her lips . Tension was there.
Then we moved to another club and the tension was getting lost.
1) we changed the environement
2) There was a lot of friends
3) I was getting outcome dependent?
I tried 3 times to isolate her. Comfort zone pushed.
During the entire time, I was thinking I want her tonight in my bed, i was being sexual.
We danced, no go for makeout, then it was 2 am, I was tired , She was also dancing with 2-3 men. I did not want to stay until 5 am and not be sure to get her home. So, I told her I was leaving, she wanted me to stay, so I did a forced makout ( you grab her head and makeout). Numberclose and we will see.

What could I have done better?
When the tension was being built, I think I lost the tension by waiting to long, I bumped her buying temperature too quickly and too high and then I was not able to maintain it.
There was literally 5 men in the bar trying to pick her up. I was dominant, chill, I did not care ( when there was a man approaching her, i went speaking with friends but keeping an eye on them if i have to go and amog him).
For next time, build the buying temperature slower, maintain it.

Very excited about tomorrow, 4 hours of daygame and then night game.
Yeah.

Ps: when you are going out, why are you going out? If you do not know that it is because you want a girl in your bed tonight ( with non outcome dependance), then you are waiting your time. You have to make the comitment to do everything in your power to make it happen and to have the girl you want in your bed. You are not talking to your grand mother. You are talking to a chick than can give erections to a 99 years old man.
MAKE THAT COMITMENT AND KNOW WHY YOU GO OUT ( To have a naked girl in your BED).

Sex is so pleasant for both of us, so why don't make it happen?
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Tongith, vibe chill with JW.
Opener;
Hey, tendre le bras, la fixer dans les yeux. Etre full moment présent. Elle met sa main dans ma main. Tu la tires vers toi. Who are you?. NE PAS S'INVESTIR ET RESTER CENTRE SUR SOI MEME.Ou lui taper sur l'épaule, claquer des doigts et victoire signe puis tendre main. Ou lui taper sur l'épaule la fixer et sourire.
- Canne à pêche
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