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December 10th, 2016
Girl keeps acting shy PULLS AWAY FROM MAKEOUT
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JoeStriker

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Join Date: 12/17/2011 | Posts: 136

Hey guys, I've been going out consistently for about a month now... And I met this cutie.
The club I met her at, we danced, made out, and I left with her number.
We've gone out a few times, Coffee, Movies, and more recently her place....

Problem is, whenever I go to make out with her.... SHE FUCKING STARTS GIGGLING AND PULLS AWAY, and WHENEVER I GO BACK IN FOR A KISS, she turns her head...
This has happened ATLEAST 3 times, and its rediculus. I TELL HER its rediculus! I literally grab her head and pull her in, you know, dominate approach... Which worked the first couple times I tried it, but she still pulls away... Whenever I question her about it, she can't give me a straight answer, or she says shes tired... Which means shes rationalizing an emotion shes feeling..

I mean we get along fine, she texts me a lot, and I'm pretty sure she wants my dick... However there have also been times where I have been choady and had a few awkward silences in the beginning.

I think its along the lines of
-I intimidate her
-She doesn't go out with guys like me a lot
-Shes afraid I just want to fuck her and ditch (LMR?)
-My game isn't incredibly solid

I'm an outgoing young man, fit, clean cut, good style, socialable.... I really can't understand this.

Either way I've made it a point to withdraw my attention from her. I see no point in wasting my time on her (When she clearly doesn't know what she wants) when I could be spending it on a girl who will shag the fuck out of me...

Any advice?
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Turok

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Join Date: 06/08/2010 | Posts: 588

that sucks.  Eat more Kale and this will go away she can sense you are vitamin deficient
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15Step

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Join Date: 01/30/2010 | Posts: 126

No offence, could it be your breath?

Just putting it out there.
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Letgoyo

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Join Date: 02/19/2012 | Posts: 18

You have it right. Don't waste your time and focus on her. Also, its hard to turn your head away when you have a hand on the back of your neck. Nothing a "hey, relax.. it's cool" can't fix. And dude, you have been going out for only a month, maybe you have some problems that you can't see yet. And I don't think it is that your game is so fucking solid that she doesn't want to make out with you haha. Just keep at it dude, nothin that finding new girls can't fix.
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SawesomeAuce

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Join Date: 03/08/2010 | Posts: 55

 Three times. LOL. You're probably acting like a whiney sad after it too.

Here's an unconventional but fun thing to try instead

You gotta go for the makout 15 consecutive times in a row without  even caring. Like start talking about the sun or some random bullshit while getting closer to her face. Kiss nr 1. No go. Say the sun is fuckin awesome. Kiss nr 2. No go. The sun makes you feel good. mm. sun. Stupid smile on your face. Kiss nr 3. No go. Who could ever not like the sun? I mean its warm and yellow and shit, hell yeah! Kiss nr 4. No go. The sun orbits you know.. around us.. like *lift the up and spin her around*. Giggly times. Kiss nr 5. Probably makeout by now. 

You just do this til you tire the out and she gives up the makeout of destiny... or maybe she just fucking leaves. By now you've either 1) Gotten what you wanted or 2) Gotten clear indicator to spend your time on someone else. All in 5 minutes! YAY!
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Twolife

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Join Date: 01/07/2012 | Posts: 511

^ that & 1/3, 1/3, 1/3 rule: 1/3: fuck you, 1/3: hahaaha but no, 1/3: into you.
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JoeStriker

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Join Date: 12/17/2011 | Posts: 136

"No offence, could it be your breath?
Just putting it out there. No offence, could it be your breath?

Just putting it out there. "

I thought of this, and its a valid point. I doubt it though. I'm a real stickler for personal hygene... I brush twice and floss once a day, I chew gum frequently, and I had a drink minutes before we kissed.


"You have it right. Don't waste your time and focus on her. Also, its hard to turn your head away when you have a hand on the back of your neck. Nothing a "hey, relax.. it's cool" can't fix. "

"or just grab the back of her head and fuckiinng force her, stop playing games"

Haha I literally did that!  She still pulled away.
I do like the reassurance of "Hey, relax" though, I'll use that in the future.

And dude, you have been going out for only a month, maybe you have some problems that you can't see yet. And I don't think it is that your game is so fucking solid that she doesn't want to make out with you haha. Just keep at it dude, nothin that finding new girls can't fix."


Haha true, I didn't mean to come off as bragging that I'm some pimp.. I definitely agree that I'm new at this and there is a lot more I can improve... What I was trying to communicate was that she seemed very inexperienced, and that I assume shes a virgin. This would make her a little more intimidated because I'm coming off as a confident guy.

Three times. LOL. You're probably acting like a whiney sad after it too.

LOL kind of. It was suprising to me and so I probably over reacted... By saying OK thats it! And leaving, in a playfull way, I tried to communicate that I don't like this teasing bullshit, and that I like girls who know what they want (ie. Sex).

"You just do this til you tire the out and she gives up the makeout of destiny... or maybe she just fucking leaves. By now you've either 1) Gotten what you wanted or 2) Gotten clear indicator to spend your time on someone else. All in 5 minutes! YAY! "

Make out of destiny... Lmfao!
If she pulls this shit again thats exactly what I'll do. I'll be sure to let you know how it goes wink

"maybe you need to do more physical escalation to lead up to it... If you just suddenly go for it it's like a big moment..."
I'm really not sure on this one. The whole night was really an escalation... Sitting beside each other, then her sitting on my lap, then my arm around her (and vise versa), laying on her bed beside her, having her rest her head on me... SHE STARTS GIVING ME THE KISSY FACE... LOL I figured that was enough of an escalation.


I talked to a friend of mine at work today, he joked that she was playing a game on me... Everytime I'd go to make out with her... DING! Clubgirl : 1, Joe: 0,
Which I thought was humorous. The plan, as it stands, is to
A) Meet more girls
B) Be completely non sexual with her, let her show the interest, let her do the planning
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The only theory you need:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k51zX4kIoGs
Stories I write after I come home from the club. Lessons learned and interesting nights:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/211825
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