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March 22nd, 2017
ABSOLUTE BEGINNER Socially Overall, Where to begin??
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Drewskee

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Join Date: 11/24/2011 | Posts: 15

   Hey,
    Okay, so i'm wondering if any of you guys have also started off right here. Jeff had mentioned he had to start addressing some serious issues in a video briefly where he mentioned having to work his way up socially from looking into peoples eyes when he was speaking to them or saying hello to random people while walking outside. I've got the same deal, for sure. I'm definitely not anywhere near completely comfortable with myself and was hoping some of you guys (maybe even Jeff) could give me a couple of places to start in order to get myself together socially and get withit. 
    I mean, sometimes a female friend (the only one I have to give an indication of where I'm at) will come over and even if I'm massaging her, rubbing her ass, even going into sucking on a tit, it leads to nothing. I mean, my skills are such that even with that I get shut down. Won't let me kiss her, ever.what chu talking about Where should I start? I'd really appreciate it guys, thanksidea
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PowerMan

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Join Date: 01/26/2012 | Posts: 303

 start being a gangster and do what you want when you want
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feelthefear

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Join Date: 11/26/2011 | Posts: 49

You are sucking on girls tits how the fuck are you a beginner? I didn't even flirt with a girl till the age of 19 and I am still better than some other guys I know
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Drewskee

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Join Date: 11/24/2011 | Posts: 15

Noted :)
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Drewskee

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Join Date: 11/24/2011 | Posts: 15

Well I didn't game that shirt off her, that's for sure; and it's only one girl, not plural...yet lol. I was trying to make the point that even with that, I can't get further because I lack the skills/not congruent or centered enough. I dunno, maybe it's a comfort thing that needs to be built overtime,
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roadrally

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Join Date: 10/12/2009 | Posts: 2030

 Start by going out as much as you can. Talk to as many girls as you can. Do things that scare you as much as you can. 
Dont worry if your doing it "right". If you are out, and you are talking to girls then you are doing awesome. 
If you are not talking to girls then thats "wrong" but anything else is good.
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Pree

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Join Date: 01/20/2012 | Posts: 139

I'm kind of in the same boat, maybe a tad more ahead.

Just honestly access where you are at and push that threshold. I used to hate the nightclub/bar scene. So I simply forced myself to go out and be comfortable in those social environments. My goal was to just have fun and be social.
Once I got comfortable with that I then started holding eye contact with women without flinching like a bitch. Now I'm striving to be an approach machine. Heck some of my apporaches I aim to get rejected. Just to remind myself that a womens opinion doesn't mean shit to my long term goals. 

I think you know where your threshold is, fear is your internal compass.
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Drewskee

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Join Date: 11/24/2011 | Posts: 15

Thanks a million for the tips and encouragement, and for the video response man! Definitely going to just get better socially overall to have that "spillover" into other areas of my social life.
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MacTzu

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Join Date: 11/11/2011 | Posts: 41

 Get your arse over to www.alexattitude.com and read everything you can in the articles section, and then go out

Best of Luck
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