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May 27th, 2017
Thoughts on Rejection
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Fresh Prince

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Join Date: 02/01/2012 | Posts: 59

Everyone on here and in RSD obviously loves to talk about their successes, but what about their failures? I go through waves, sometimes I do pretty well. Other times, I suck. Lately, I have been sucking. It is rough. I am trying to have an internal locus of control and not take it so personally. But it's rough when you go up to 2 chicks full of confidence and energy and they literally pretend they dont hear you and ignore you. I went to a bar last night with a 2 to 1 guy to girl ratio and I got shut down like honestly 10-15 times. It was ridiculous. However, I have read a lot from Owen about how you need to accumulate screw ups and that you need to take pain to be successful? Any rejection stories or advice you guys can share? Any stories on rejections that ultimately led to great successes? Would love to hear about it, thanks.
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Turok

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Join Date: 06/08/2010 | Posts: 582

on nights I get laid i still get blown out easily 10 times.  Sometimes you just suck because you need to wam up, other times you are cool and SHE sucks.  Then you approach a girl 5 feet away with the same shit and she loves you.  Go to hotseat and you will see even owen and julien getting blown out left and right its part of the game sorry your little feelings are getting hurt homo
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MastahDeft

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Join Date: 04/08/2011 | Posts: 1352

Maybe im a sick fuck but I like rejections, they tell me this shit is not THAT easy and that I have to be stronger as a man.

I go like, Oh yeah, little mommas boy, gotta step the fuck up!.

Peace.
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soldier11

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Join Date: 09/10/2010 | Posts: 7

i got rejected hardcore from a warm up set of ugly girls.. and at the back of my mind i was like.. you fucking serious ??? you have no chance meeting another hot dude like me and you already throwing it away.  But ja.. Rejection is part of the process.. it sucks major balls !! but its something you jst have to accept as  part of becoming good.
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#4

Playboy

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Join Date: 06/02/2010 | Posts: 556

Pretty much been shot down regularly for 1 month now, kinda sick of it... hahaa
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Letgoyo

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Join Date: 02/19/2012 | Posts: 18

Rejection happens man, don't let it get to you. Just think about all of the girls you reject within .5 seconds of seeing them. Laugh it off, because it really is pretty funny most of the time. Maybe I am wierd but I kind of find it enjoyable for some reason, kinda fuels me by making me not give a shit. Its like.. wow. worst case scenario just happened and not only was it not bad or painful at all, but it was also pretty amusing. And remember, they aren't rejecting you as a person, because they don't actually know you lol.
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abconetwothree

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Join Date: 12/06/2011 | Posts: 740

Had an episode last night where some wannabe-wag mother hen was mouthing off for no reason atall. Instead of engaging her, I listened and just stared at her, untill she just stopped and heard her own self speak, and then I just sniggered. I'm playing to win, most of the time, especially with the uglier-friend butting in and speaking up for your girl, it's coming from a place of "butthurt". This is why meditation helps. You get to observe peoples own insecurities whilst being comfortable in your own skin. Unfortunately, my target-girl was more influenced by the mother hen than I.

Incorporate rejection in your game.
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Zer0.Point

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Join Date: 02/06/2012 | Posts: 492

If you're looking for validation you'll get rejected. Pickup isn't about getting validation. It's about getting out of validation seeking and getting pussy.

Plus, when you talk to a lot of different chicks in general you'll realize they really can't give you anything you can't get for yourself. So frankly you stop giving a shit what someone who doesn't even know you projects onto you. It becomes a very impersonal process until you actually get to start knowing the human being behind the facade. This doesn't happen in the first few minutes, hours, or days, or even weeks.
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Pree

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Join Date: 01/20/2012 | Posts: 139

Drama wrote:
You should never take a girl's reaction towards you personally. The best way to handle rejections is by reframing them as being fucking hilarious -- which I firmly believe they are. Even the fucking harsh ones make me laugh. 

It doesn't happen overnight, but when you get rejected, reframe it as being funny. I honestly don't give a fuck if the girl likes me or not -- even when I'm pulling her home. It is all funny. That is the best way to view pickup -- just like a big inside joke with yourself.
So money. Plus the harsh rejections are sometimes a good story with the mates.

I've been slapped a couple of times....
My harshest one so far was going up to this girl who was eating a corn cob, grabbing it from her and just start eating it in front of her....hand  it back. Pull the claw and she just went absolute mental. Like nuts...friends started running over and shit. Couldn't hold the frame on that one...
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alienantfarm

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Join Date: 01/21/2011 | Posts: 1353

I don't think I've ever had a night where I wasn't rejected at least ONCE where I do a few approaches+.

I think I might have had a very few nights where the first approach I did I ended up pulling, but besides that, almost any night I do MULTIPLE approaches I'm gonna get rejected.

It's a foregone conclusion - it doesn't even bother me.

Like, I KNOW I will be rejected that night, I'm not shocked when it happens, it just is, it doesn't phase me, infact it gets me into state.

Watch this below clip from 2:40
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My personal philosophy: You need to step to every single girl like a fucking bomb. You need to have presence. You need to stand out, and not in a surface level way such as what you're wearing, but as who you are and the way in which you communicate. You need to be unforgettable. You need to create a sense of urgency, that you are now or never. You need to push and at the same time be completely willing to walk away. It is essential to disidentify with the ego, otherwise the inherent rejection associated with pickup will destroy you.

"You need to let them know what kind of man you are, so they know what kind of woman to be."
"Fear is always a constant, but accepting it...makes you stronger."
"Once you done slayed 20-30 of them hoodrats, now you ready to go up to the upper echelon type ho."
"I've got no game. And every face looks the same. They've got no name. So I don't need game to play. I just say whatever I want to whoever I want. Whenever I want, wherever I want, however I want."
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PowerMan

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Join Date: 01/26/2012 | Posts: 303

 rejection melts away your ego
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