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What are some good core values to have?
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Energy18

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I dont want the external world around me to tell me how I should feel, to do this im going to need some good core values, What do u suggest?
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Andrewbeats

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chris1093

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You should value your opinion over others. Try sitting down and think of your perfect life. Dont leave anything out. Truly your version of the good life. What kind of values would you hold if that was your life?

This path is one you have to discover yourself.
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UtopiaFive

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I value:
- physical health (getting buff, choking motherfuckers)
- emotional well-being (not crying when jlaix calls me a fagot or a girl says my hairy chest is gross)
- when I think shit out for myself
- being able to find the right places to get help with what I want (this used to be a huge issue for me, e.g. when I needed a bootcamp the most for example I was most stubborn about that kinda stuff fearing being ripped off or taken advantage of) (aka humbleness)
- reading good books
- 80s music
- smiles
- pleasantness
- new people, places things (adventure, novelty)
- moving forward in your own life every day
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Ballgames

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Wait, I don't know if this is a troll or not. But did anyone read his question? 

It goes something like this.

I don't want others to tell me what I should value....Hey guys, What should I value?

I get where you're coming from man. I think the ultimate thing you gotta do is figure out what you enjoy in yourself, what you expect from yourself. Figuring out what you value this late in life is a SUPER INTERESTING and sometimes CRAZY process.

But if you want it on your own, go through the process and let us know what you figure out on the way through. I'm in the process of doing that myself man. Still not entirely sure what I value. But I do know I have certain things that I value and they are very concrete.
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evident

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 The irony is that you are looking to a forum to create your core values. If you want to stop letting the external world tell you how you should feel, look inwards.
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Doge~

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Pavlina listed "Supremacy" as a value? ROFL

I personally don't have a huge list of values and you're values change over time. What's most important is the integrity of your values, which unsurprisingly should be your number 1 value. Integrity.

Doing what you want. Meaning what you say. Living up to your values. Sticking to your beliefs even if being challenged.

This is where your confidence is going to come from. That your not some interally weak little that let's the world decide how you think, feel or act.
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Andrewbeats

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Haze~ wrote:
Pavlina listed "Supremacy" as a value? ROFL

I personally don't have a huge list of values and you're values change over time. What's most important is the integrity of your values, which unsurprisingly should be your number 1 value. Integrity.

Doing what you want. Meaning what you say. Living up to your values. Sticking to your beliefs even if being challenged.

This is where your confidence is going to come from. That your not some interally weak little that let's the world decide how you think, feel or act.
well if u look at the us states supremacy as a value is all over the place, integrity values are acquired through childhood, and they are given by your parents, outside home values are kinda different for me. 
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Twolife

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 I don't know why do we even anwser questions anymore when we can just make Tyler do it.
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Trent3Reznor

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These guys are right, even if its coming from RSD you're still looking towards the world to tell you what to value.  I highly recommend that you take the time out of your day to really focus on what you value and approve of and what you despise and won't tolerate.  This applies to your own personal standards and how others should behave around you.  Take this VERY SERIOUSLY, if you don't get in touch with your values you will forever be a chode plugged into group think and allowing social conditioning to dictate how you live your life.  Sounds pretty miserable to me, but its that SERIOUS. 

When I first started developing my identity and coming into alignment with it, I wrote down five things I respected in myself and others and five things I refused to tolerate.  Write down each principle, and then go into detail about why it is important to you.  For example: "I respect authenticity.  It's easy to put on a mask to hide your insecurities, but it takes true courage to put your personality on the line and express it authentically."  It could also be as simple as: "I do not tolerate tardiness.  I put forth the effort to be on time, so if the other person doesn't comply then I won't waste my time associating with them."  Write these down on a daily basis and you'll start to see your behavior naturally come into alignment with these values.  You'll be more assertive, but also more unreactive to conflicting frames that others impose on you because you're in touch with who you are on the deepest level. 

When your reality becomes concrete solid, you can start verbalizing your standards and expectations and this is when your results get FREAKY.  The majority of my verbal game now comprises of me setting expectations for how the girl will behave around me and what I will not tolerate.  I'm essentially screening the girl, she is the one qualifying herself and I am the judge.  I establish what's cool and acceptable to say, what behavior is unacceptable, what behavior I approve of, and what type of vibe I accept from the girl.  It's an authentic and effortless push/pull, you draw boundaries on what you dislike but also validate her for qualities you value.  You're exposing her to a full range of emotions while simultaneously drawing her into your reality.  This is all completely natural by the way, because it's an EXPRESSION of WHO YOU ARE.
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PowerMan

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 authenticity
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