THE FORUMS
Day 40:
so these are just some general thoughts in my head; i actually wasn't very successful this week. --there was no real action this week
about a week ago , I was able to get a girl to date me in toronto knowing i would be gone in 5 days. This could not have been a serious relationship - but there was attraction. attraction isn't an option irregardless of logic . The way that I got her was simply the following: 1 ) seriously not giving a fuck at all because i knew i would be leaving in a few days and that it did'nt matter and 2) pushing the interaction as far as possible. I believe in this set i set the m to w communication by holding her hand and escalating verbally. it was the act of pushing myself that got me the attraction. escalation is attraction quote jeffy.
two days this week, my buddy steve sarges with me, and its a good experience because steve has balls and can open up any set. there is an indian set in piano. my new way of opening sets post-hot seat, is as jeffy says that he is loud as fuck, and completely confidently owns the interaction like he is the boss. get attraction and then there will a man to a woman communication , setting that romantic/sexual frame from the get-go and escalating executing the program until makeout.
the last day i was in toronto we were on a break at the hot seat, and i practiced game. i open this chick with beautiful hair, and as i walk up to her i am completely not nervous making full eye contact . i notice in the beginning my voice is loud and dominant, but trails off slowly and slowly as the interaction goes on until i become completely weak and soft-spoken. After that point, i realized i needed to be loud throughout the conversation from point a to the end and like Jeffy have that br tonality and speak clearly and prouniate my words. ( this is something i noticed last wed as well ) I wouldn't speak clearly.
also the last day i was there in madison, i open sets loud and confidently, and just socially dominant the interaction and i open one set like
me: " hey you, you who are you "
her: "who are you ?"
me: " I asked you first" then blah blah
me:"did you guys just walk away from us ? lol"
her:"were having a girls night out"
me:"bullshit , were having a boys and girls nite out"
i could see it in her eyes, as well as i could see it in the eyes of the girl with beautiful hair that i approached. their eyes become fixated on you like and like big kitten eyes and they just stare at you. its something that i noticed moe.
three sets that week before i got sick thursday night;
miss indian:
open something about the scarf, and i am being loud here, and just talking and talking on and on as confidently as i possibly can about all sorts of bullshit like food and shit like that. at this point i notice that she is attracted because i am confident as fuck. this taught me the power of opening hard and just talking in the set like you know them.
miss dance floor girl:
I get right in like 2 inches from her face and yell "its my birthday", claw, hug. tell her to hold my beer, and pick her up and spin her , and then i give her multiple kisses on the cheek as i am clawing her. Her friend eventually takes her away. I am doing all these steps well, but I need to work on the next parts which are escalating and actually pulling and getting them home.
miss indian from the street: ( got footage )
I open with 'you look adorable...' No rapport seeking but neutral and keep on talking. at this point, i know i have to fucking tease the girl, so she volunteers austrailia and i tease her incesscantly about her eating kangaroos. at this point shes attracted. I switch to the comfort and escalation , i stop her, grab her hand and tell her at this point that i am not trying to be your butt buddy friend, but i want to her gf. at this point she tells me she has a boyfriend, and i respond with " i just dont care" . after this point she is super attracted shit test passed and i even did teh spin move and even took the phone away from her when she was dialing number.
The biggest thing i take away from this week is two things as jeffy says 'think with your dong'. and any girl who has been escalated to a certain point will be attracted to the guy who is up in her . e.g. "any dick with do for them ". that literally in the last set i was doing, i wasn't focused on anything else but how great would it be to have been fucking this bitch right now..and escalating to the point to figure out whether shes down or not.
+ being loud
+ owning the conversation dominanting
+setting the m to w / sexual frame in all interactions
+approach with 100%
- i dont approach the hottest girls
-not give a fuck even more
-extremely wing dependent --cant really go out and do it
- need to be more results focused ( going for the close vs number)
I ve decided that i need to get more coaching / as much help as can from guys who are more advanced.
so these are just some general thoughts in my head; i actually wasn't very successful this week. --there was no real action this week
about a week ago , I was able to get a girl to date me in toronto knowing i would be gone in 5 days. This could not have been a serious relationship - but there was attraction. attraction isn't an option irregardless of logic . The way that I got her was simply the following: 1 ) seriously not giving a fuck at all because i knew i would be leaving in a few days and that it did'nt matter and 2) pushing the interaction as far as possible. I believe in this set i set the m to w communication by holding her hand and escalating verbally. it was the act of pushing myself that got me the attraction. escalation is attraction quote jeffy.
two days this week, my buddy steve sarges with me, and its a good experience because steve has balls and can open up any set. there is an indian set in piano. my new way of opening sets post-hot seat, is as jeffy says that he is loud as fuck, and completely confidently owns the interaction like he is the boss. get attraction and then there will a man to a woman communication , setting that romantic/sexual frame from the get-go and escalating executing the program until makeout.
the last day i was in toronto we were on a break at the hot seat, and i practiced game. i open this chick with beautiful hair, and as i walk up to her i am completely not nervous making full eye contact . i notice in the beginning my voice is loud and dominant, but trails off slowly and slowly as the interaction goes on until i become completely weak and soft-spoken. After that point, i realized i needed to be loud throughout the conversation from point a to the end and like Jeffy have that br tonality and speak clearly and prouniate my words. ( this is something i noticed last wed as well ) I wouldn't speak clearly.
also the last day i was there in madison, i open sets loud and confidently, and just socially dominant the interaction and i open one set like
me: " hey you, you who are you "
her: "who are you ?"
me: " I asked you first" then blah blah
me:"did you guys just walk away from us ? lol"
her:"were having a girls night out"
me:"bullshit , were having a boys and girls nite out"
i could see it in her eyes, as well as i could see it in the eyes of the girl with beautiful hair that i approached. their eyes become fixated on you like and like big kitten eyes and they just stare at you. its something that i noticed moe.
three sets that week before i got sick thursday night;
miss indian:
open something about the scarf, and i am being loud here, and just talking and talking on and on as confidently as i possibly can about all sorts of bullshit like food and shit like that. at this point i notice that she is attracted because i am confident as fuck. this taught me the power of opening hard and just talking in the set like you know them.
miss dance floor girl:
I get right in like 2 inches from her face and yell "its my birthday", claw, hug. tell her to hold my beer, and pick her up and spin her , and then i give her multiple kisses on the cheek as i am clawing her. Her friend eventually takes her away. I am doing all these steps well, but I need to work on the next parts which are escalating and actually pulling and getting them home.
miss indian from the street: ( got footage )
I open with 'you look adorable...' No rapport seeking but neutral and keep on talking. at this point, i know i have to fucking tease the girl, so she volunteers austrailia and i tease her incesscantly about her eating kangaroos. at this point shes attracted. I switch to the comfort and escalation , i stop her, grab her hand and tell her at this point that i am not trying to be your butt buddy friend, but i want to her gf. at this point she tells me she has a boyfriend, and i respond with " i just dont care" . after this point she is super attracted shit test passed and i even did teh spin move and even took the phone away from her when she was dialing number.
The biggest thing i take away from this week is two things as jeffy says 'think with your dong'. and any girl who has been escalated to a certain point will be attracted to the guy who is up in her . e.g. "any dick with do for them ". that literally in the last set i was doing, i wasn't focused on anything else but how great would it be to have been fucking this bitch right now..and escalating to the point to figure out whether shes down or not.
+ being loud
+ owning the conversation dominanting
+setting the m to w / sexual frame in all interactions
+approach with 100%
- i dont approach the hottest girls
-not give a fuck even more
-extremely wing dependent --cant really go out and do it
- need to be more results focused ( going for the close vs number)
I ve decided that i need to get more coaching / as much help as can from guys who are more advanced.
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check out my journal called : Into the Fire.
The game is designed for you to be exactly what you think you are. ~ Rosebudd Bitterdose
The game is designed for you to be exactly what you think you are. ~ Rosebudd Bitterdose
Febuary 1, 2012 wed
build some attraction tease some comfort grab her hand spin her and i want to take you here and there and kiss her , its a romantic escalation. always getting them to stop and being able to have a conversation with them.
my rules are i do not take a number. and if i get a day2 its made perfectly clear i am going to be a m to w with her. i am even thinking of "losing the keys" when i go out, kinda like how the romans burned their ships when they landed on the island in the movie Troy.
i just remember two scenes from jeffys hotseat where he shows us him expressing himself completely . one was a daytime scene and after he describes his van in a loud br tonality througout she gets super attrcted to him. the 2nd was the robocops daughter where he is full on expression and she says something like you are cool after jeffy says somehting about rape van and fucking sluts in there.
I thought the day would be waisted by it didnt
hanging out with scott, i like his smile, open in their personal space, and basically talk their fucking ears off. like for example i would go in hard as fuck.
first set ;
girl lights up when she sees me, i walk with her to the train, and basically bullshit . she is really into me. we talk about what she studies. i made a joke about her look ing like a high school student, but it didn't go well so i should have corrected myself like jeffy said.
not real, i couldnt let out the real confidence because of that. i lied about going on the train. she was super attracted but i and i wqanted to kiss her , but because i never escalated i felt a pressure point where i had to stop her grab her hand and escalate and i need to tell myself being 100% .
2nd set;
hot italian girl. street stop about hair. shes into it again, but the problem is that
asks a boyfriend question and i respond with i am going to be your boyfriend tonight, i am going to take u to les to -- just keep on talking , full free expression, i open something about her hair --- get her drunk and take her around the corner and have wild and crazy sex with her
3rd set;
open again with the you have adorable eyes statements, i think these girls can tell i am being more geniune..start vibe about her clothes and shit, and then i say what are you doing now, lets go get a drink right there , and she just doesn't have enough attraction. doesn't bounce, not interested in me enough and i want to know why not, do i need to do more shit testing, be talk some more bullshit.
learn from taj
-when u have attraction stop and switch to qualifying getting her to invest
-cycle back to attraction when the compliance hoop fails
-and correct yourself instantly emotionally attunement.
-got to hang around this guy more to learn more about frame test, shit tests
- h and 5th and 6th set
inside of whole foods , she likes me but i am not attracted.
5th & 6th set:
a few girls , just chatting them up.
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be fucking louder, always own the frame full fuckin free talk, and plow like 3 o 4 times each set
Febuary 2, 2012 thurs
day 2 shes like a 6.5 at best. anyway the old me vs the new me. she mets up goes to get a drink at gangesvorst hotel and spends like 3 hours with me, and when i escalate tells me after spending like 70 bucks man. tells me she not a touchy feely sexual person. the old me would have listen to her bullshit . not the new me, i escalated kissed her held her hand and made statements of intent all the fuck night long. tried to bounce her to my place. i tried to kiss her -- she backed away and i knew i had to backoff at that point but i didn't ala Jeffys emotional correction point. anyway, at the end of the time she puts me in a frame of 'hey, as the guy who wants a relationship but that shes the one rejecting me, and that thanks i had the balls to approach her, and that she has problems doesnt get into relationships'.(disqualifying herself as highe value ) my mistake was allowing her to set that frame, instead i should have said something like, look honey, i am a sexy italian mafia stud, i really dont care to have a relationship with anyone , and i never said i wanted relationship with you'. its 11 , cold as fuck and i am done. didn't stay out even though i was drunk. i should have never let her talk to me like that that is accepting a shitty frame of her "putting me down". even gave me the hand sorry shrug..." honey, honey i dont give a rats ass whether i see u again or not, i just think you need a massage right now"..my voice is louder, my sexual intent is like every line, and i escalate and dont accept the asexual bullshit she tells me . I knew she was on because even after i escalated- she accepted my escalations.
good : loud, sexual intent - next time: dont waist a time, escalate hard and fast, right from the get go get her done in 40 minutes or less. dont waist a thursday on a girl whose not going to bait.
the new me, has a definite plan of action, has a definite goal and i escalate on them, make statements of intent, i take them home and i dont give a fuck otherwise.
Febuary 3, 2012
nothing really just choded as i watched my friends chat in the club.
build some attraction tease some comfort grab her hand spin her and i want to take you here and there and kiss her , its a romantic escalation. always getting them to stop and being able to have a conversation with them.
my rules are i do not take a number. and if i get a day2 its made perfectly clear i am going to be a m to w with her. i am even thinking of "losing the keys" when i go out, kinda like how the romans burned their ships when they landed on the island in the movie Troy.
i just remember two scenes from jeffys hotseat where he shows us him expressing himself completely . one was a daytime scene and after he describes his van in a loud br tonality througout she gets super attrcted to him. the 2nd was the robocops daughter where he is full on expression and she says something like you are cool after jeffy says somehting about rape van and fucking sluts in there.
I thought the day would be waisted by it didnt
hanging out with scott, i like his smile, open in their personal space, and basically talk their fucking ears off. like for example i would go in hard as fuck.
first set ;
girl lights up when she sees me, i walk with her to the train, and basically bullshit . she is really into me. we talk about what she studies. i made a joke about her look ing like a high school student, but it didn't go well so i should have corrected myself like jeffy said.
not real, i couldnt let out the real confidence because of that. i lied about going on the train. she was super attracted but i and i wqanted to kiss her , but because i never escalated i felt a pressure point where i had to stop her grab her hand and escalate and i need to tell myself being 100% .
2nd set;
hot italian girl. street stop about hair. shes into it again, but the problem is that
asks a boyfriend question and i respond with i am going to be your boyfriend tonight, i am going to take u to les to -- just keep on talking , full free expression, i open something about her hair --- get her drunk and take her around the corner and have wild and crazy sex with her
3rd set;
open again with the you have adorable eyes statements, i think these girls can tell i am being more geniune..start vibe about her clothes and shit, and then i say what are you doing now, lets go get a drink right there , and she just doesn't have enough attraction. doesn't bounce, not interested in me enough and i want to know why not, do i need to do more shit testing, be talk some more bullshit.
learn from taj
-when u have attraction stop and switch to qualifying getting her to invest
-cycle back to attraction when the compliance hoop fails
-and correct yourself instantly emotionally attunement.
-got to hang around this guy more to learn more about frame test, shit tests
- h and 5th and 6th set
inside of whole foods , she likes me but i am not attracted.
5th & 6th set:
a few girls , just chatting them up.
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be fucking louder, always own the frame full fuckin free talk, and plow like 3 o 4 times each set
Febuary 2, 2012 thurs
day 2 shes like a 6.5 at best. anyway the old me vs the new me. she mets up goes to get a drink at gangesvorst hotel and spends like 3 hours with me, and when i escalate tells me after spending like 70 bucks man. tells me she not a touchy feely sexual person. the old me would have listen to her bullshit . not the new me, i escalated kissed her held her hand and made statements of intent all the fuck night long. tried to bounce her to my place. i tried to kiss her -- she backed away and i knew i had to backoff at that point but i didn't ala Jeffys emotional correction point. anyway, at the end of the time she puts me in a frame of 'hey, as the guy who wants a relationship but that shes the one rejecting me, and that thanks i had the balls to approach her, and that she has problems doesnt get into relationships'.(disqualifying herself as highe value ) my mistake was allowing her to set that frame, instead i should have said something like, look honey, i am a sexy italian mafia stud, i really dont care to have a relationship with anyone , and i never said i wanted relationship with you'. its 11 , cold as fuck and i am done. didn't stay out even though i was drunk. i should have never let her talk to me like that that is accepting a shitty frame of her "putting me down". even gave me the hand sorry shrug..." honey, honey i dont give a rats ass whether i see u again or not, i just think you need a massage right now"..my voice is louder, my sexual intent is like every line, and i escalate and dont accept the asexual bullshit she tells me . I knew she was on because even after i escalated- she accepted my escalations.
good : loud, sexual intent - next time: dont waist a time, escalate hard and fast, right from the get go get her done in 40 minutes or less. dont waist a thursday on a girl whose not going to bait.
the new me, has a definite plan of action, has a definite goal and i escalate on them, make statements of intent, i take them home and i dont give a fuck otherwise.
Febuary 3, 2012
nothing really just choded as i watched my friends chat in the club.
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The game is designed for you to be exactly what you think you are. ~ Rosebudd Bitterdose
The game is designed for you to be exactly what you think you are. ~ Rosebudd Bitterdose
February 4 : Massive plataeu exceeded Saturday
the beginning of the night, i noticed that the level of my social pressure was i used to think that just because i was always approaching in the street, that was just my comfort zone. it was because anthony pushed me past the and made me approach 4 sets , 3 sets, and over and over i noticed i wasn't exactly what i protrayed in my mind , i wasn't as aggressive again.
there were sets in there that were attracted to me right off the bat and wanted to talk, and i noticed there was this girl from boston who actually opened me, but because i felt i wasn't willing to lose her, i didn't escalate. even though in my mind , i saw the point in the interaction where i had to turn it man to a woman and start chatting with her in that sense.
the main takeaway is fucking execute the program over and over again, go for the make out, dont have fear, go for the kiss. WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE IT, when you see a window jump. hesitation and fear of awkward ness is a killer.
what made the difference for me, and not for other time, is that i would literally in the past do my opener chit chat and she would be cool and then i would walk away. tonight with anothony there there was 2-3 times, where i was in the set, i looked over at him, and he made this expression like ' go for it she wants to fuck you'.
at first in the beginning of the night my conversations were kinda of gamey in the sense that i just kept talking not to get blown out, and then anthony started to come in and say the silliest shit ever and just fucking put your fucking personality on the line the girls because attracted to a guy who is congruent to his personality.
after that i begin to escalate on her, kiss, and at this point , firstly the escalation itself causes her to get attracted but because
i learned from anthony that he is actually doing something to create that attraction for example he would say the weirdest and craziest and keep a straight face that creates the attraction for him. and at the same time, i can also do this say the wackiest wildest shit also and also in the case of the blondie that was down to fuck, just use that fucking romantic escalation to stay in set, and also creates attraction because i am plowing and talking and making her laugh. With the blonde chick i was cutting the space.
there was a combination of factors going on ; basically i was being loud as fuck and had good body language, secondly, i 've reached a full on expression point where i am internally looking out, as jeffy said when your ful on expression one it creates polarizing attraction to the girl either she likes u alot or hates your guts, if she hates your guts then you can let her go not happening or you can pass on shit tests or escalate hard and create attraction if she likes you .
basically those three things 1 loud and fucking great body language, 2 full on expression to the fucking tilt 3 putting the fucking sex on the table from the get go. for example, even
Anthony told me i have to be more in charge, take charge and dominant command my wing, and make the interactions work for me as if ia m the boss literally. that thought process carried itself on thru the rest of the night to the rest of my interactions.
when i m on full expression mode, the girls are either laughing their asses off or i am saying the most sexual and aggressive shit to their face and it comes off funny as fuck.
there were several times in the night where anthony would say you need to be a leader her eyou need to take command and tell me shit like i need to pull steve aside and tell him to come wing me, take steve and lead into a conversation. and that just was another realization for me because i wasn't . dominant enougght, it wasn't about me, about how to get what i want like a dominant man, but more about how to not to fuck it up.
once i start getting day2s -- i feel there were certian times last night, i could have gone even more further in the sense that i could have fucking taken her hand and -- the one in the pizza place, taken her outside and maybe bounced her to my place. in stead i get a number and settle for a day2 which is vey weak imo.
the main point , is that , i am not giving up in the interaction too quickly. i get a lot of attraction by confidence in the unwaivering ness off which i approach, and my ability to just say whatever the fuck i need to say, at the same time be able to tease and make them laugh, but now i have that i am able to channel that into something happening. i see the window, where shes attracted but i dont make that move sometimes, or i walk away.
-- I have to move to the next stage ,which is keep on plowing the set down even after a point of escalation. moving the interaction forward to the point where you are trying to close that same night that same day , to push even farther. You got few numbers again where you should have tried to close her. However I am getting to the point where i have done this enough i can move it further from here.
My goal is to make this shit happen for me in February. I've moved on to a new level, but i need to keep on pushing harder.
the actual evening went something like this:
anthony told me to open a four set. my nerves are wretching. do another 3 set, nerves and my heart is now beating but after this point i am invincible.
the first bar is called cakewalk, at this bar, one girl opens me. and i didn't want to lose her so i just talked with chodey questions, there was an escalation window, again i didn't take it.
there is a french girl really into me as well, with my opener, i feel there is an escalation window again and i fail to take it.
at this point, I tell anthony that i am opening well but not getting anywhere it feels like i am fizzling out. he tells me that i need to work on . his girl friend tells me that if she is still standing around in 30 seconds , then she expects you to move the interaction. if you fail , she will think you are a chode. you get points for trying to escalate and failing bad and like i said you can handle the shit tests without flinching or just start bouncing her out of the bar.
at this point, we walk towards the 2nd bar, and this is when anthony tells me i 've hit state. state is a full on expression mode, loud open, and puttin sex on the table right away and just talking and talking your brains out.
anthony says open two set by the bar, i do. but again my chode questions she is feeling me try hard and not intersted. anthony tells me to escalate and attempt a half assed hand holding and tell her i want to like a man to a woman and she seems uninterested.
i am literally talking almost all of the fucking time and just vibing with them. according to jeffy's method what i am supposed to do is for the first 10-20 minutes , attraction and get to the fucking point of makeout as soon as fucking possible, keep trying to get the makeout in a cyclical fashion build attraction go for makeout until i get it, and then at some point and then take her somewhere and chat for like 30-40 minutes just keep talking to her and then pull her home. thats jeffys plan.
go for the 3 set near the
basically the lesson is that this two fold;
you aen't pushing yourself in the sense that you aren't going forward into more socially awkward situations like 3 sets 2 setes etc or having the real confidence like you did a year ago to stay in the set no matter what and keep on talking about whatever you fucking feel like it.
2nd of all, like you aren't accept the fact in teh beginning of the night you will be shitty and uncalibrated and feeling liek crap, and you will burn sets after set, but eventually the light will show its brightness on you and will see the glory at the end of the night like 2-3 hours later when you are so confident and in state. so trust the process
third thing is , dont ever leave an interaction and give in. take the shit stay in set, and like iron mike tyson just keep slogging away like you did with the blonde one.
so after the 3rd set by the bathroom fizzles out, i then approach a set of two and they are receptive as fuck, i am standing like 2 inches from her face, and i sense that she is down to fuck because whatever i say and this also helps builds my confidence at this point because i am able to i dont expect failure, i expect whatever is given to me, at this point, i see shes not going anywhere or telling me off so i proceed to , after looking at anthony , try to make out wiht her, and then i try to get her number and tell her i am going to pick up her up and take her away like a caveman if she doesn't give me her number, and she is a big attraction switchin one shes is laughing and secondly she i just passed a shit test . i am in state now.
and i open two more girls on the way out. at first i wasn't feeling it, but i just execute the fucking stack hand holding, trying to dance her, and kiss her, and i sense she is very loose because her body movements are very limb, and i hve to figure out a way to get them to have sex that same night though lol.
at this we break, and then when we go back we continue the stack. i feel an almost visceral connection with the stack and my sexual innenoudos are coming rocket fire. at this point i work on this point which is that
we goto spitzer i want the fat blonde , i get the fat blonde, it was basically me open confidently tease and chat bout shit tell her i m going to take her on an adventure date and walk off.
at the fucking pizza place, this is golden anyway,
i just dont care, and just full exprssion at this point, and i tease this girl, she is lauhin and im in state so i m fucking just talking and everything is hitting he like gold. i have no fear in going for the kiss within like 20 seconds now, if i feel like the escalation at that point is right i will go for the escalation right away and get physically dominant her. i glance over at Steveand he mouths go for it. at this point, i go in for the kiss, and full body hug, and tell her i am going to take her number and met her on tuesday. i should have fucking closed that bitch that same time too. I need to stop this mental bullshit where i tak her number and walk off, i want to drag that interaction to the fucking ground.
February 5, 2012 sunday
Did nothing really just wanted the football game and jerked off, i am getting upset that progress hasn't been fast enough.
the beginning of the night, i noticed that the level of my social pressure was i used to think that just because i was always approaching in the street, that was just my comfort zone. it was because anthony pushed me past the and made me approach 4 sets , 3 sets, and over and over i noticed i wasn't exactly what i protrayed in my mind , i wasn't as aggressive again.
there were sets in there that were attracted to me right off the bat and wanted to talk, and i noticed there was this girl from boston who actually opened me, but because i felt i wasn't willing to lose her, i didn't escalate. even though in my mind , i saw the point in the interaction where i had to turn it man to a woman and start chatting with her in that sense.
the main takeaway is fucking execute the program over and over again, go for the make out, dont have fear, go for the kiss. WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE IT, when you see a window jump. hesitation and fear of awkward ness is a killer.
what made the difference for me, and not for other time, is that i would literally in the past do my opener chit chat and she would be cool and then i would walk away. tonight with anothony there there was 2-3 times, where i was in the set, i looked over at him, and he made this expression like ' go for it she wants to fuck you'.
at first in the beginning of the night my conversations were kinda of gamey in the sense that i just kept talking not to get blown out, and then anthony started to come in and say the silliest shit ever and just fucking put your fucking personality on the line the girls because attracted to a guy who is congruent to his personality.
after that i begin to escalate on her, kiss, and at this point , firstly the escalation itself causes her to get attracted but because
i learned from anthony that he is actually doing something to create that attraction for example he would say the weirdest and craziest and keep a straight face that creates the attraction for him. and at the same time, i can also do this say the wackiest wildest shit also and also in the case of the blondie that was down to fuck, just use that fucking romantic escalation to stay in set, and also creates attraction because i am plowing and talking and making her laugh. With the blonde chick i was cutting the space.
there was a combination of factors going on ; basically i was being loud as fuck and had good body language, secondly, i 've reached a full on expression point where i am internally looking out, as jeffy said when your ful on expression one it creates polarizing attraction to the girl either she likes u alot or hates your guts, if she hates your guts then you can let her go not happening or you can pass on shit tests or escalate hard and create attraction if she likes you .
basically those three things 1 loud and fucking great body language, 2 full on expression to the fucking tilt 3 putting the fucking sex on the table from the get go. for example, even
Anthony told me i have to be more in charge, take charge and dominant command my wing, and make the interactions work for me as if ia m the boss literally. that thought process carried itself on thru the rest of the night to the rest of my interactions.
when i m on full expression mode, the girls are either laughing their asses off or i am saying the most sexual and aggressive shit to their face and it comes off funny as fuck.
there were several times in the night where anthony would say you need to be a leader her eyou need to take command and tell me shit like i need to pull steve aside and tell him to come wing me, take steve and lead into a conversation. and that just was another realization for me because i wasn't . dominant enougght, it wasn't about me, about how to get what i want like a dominant man, but more about how to not to fuck it up.
once i start getting day2s -- i feel there were certian times last night, i could have gone even more further in the sense that i could have fucking taken her hand and -- the one in the pizza place, taken her outside and maybe bounced her to my place. in stead i get a number and settle for a day2 which is vey weak imo.
the main point , is that , i am not giving up in the interaction too quickly. i get a lot of attraction by confidence in the unwaivering ness off which i approach, and my ability to just say whatever the fuck i need to say, at the same time be able to tease and make them laugh, but now i have that i am able to channel that into something happening. i see the window, where shes attracted but i dont make that move sometimes, or i walk away.
-- I have to move to the next stage ,which is keep on plowing the set down even after a point of escalation. moving the interaction forward to the point where you are trying to close that same night that same day , to push even farther. You got few numbers again where you should have tried to close her. However I am getting to the point where i have done this enough i can move it further from here.
My goal is to make this shit happen for me in February. I've moved on to a new level, but i need to keep on pushing harder.
the actual evening went something like this:
anthony told me to open a four set. my nerves are wretching. do another 3 set, nerves and my heart is now beating but after this point i am invincible.
the first bar is called cakewalk, at this bar, one girl opens me. and i didn't want to lose her so i just talked with chodey questions, there was an escalation window, again i didn't take it.
there is a french girl really into me as well, with my opener, i feel there is an escalation window again and i fail to take it.
at this point, I tell anthony that i am opening well but not getting anywhere it feels like i am fizzling out. he tells me that i need to work on . his girl friend tells me that if she is still standing around in 30 seconds , then she expects you to move the interaction. if you fail , she will think you are a chode. you get points for trying to escalate and failing bad and like i said you can handle the shit tests without flinching or just start bouncing her out of the bar.
at this point, we walk towards the 2nd bar, and this is when anthony tells me i 've hit state. state is a full on expression mode, loud open, and puttin sex on the table right away and just talking and talking your brains out.
anthony says open two set by the bar, i do. but again my chode questions she is feeling me try hard and not intersted. anthony tells me to escalate and attempt a half assed hand holding and tell her i want to like a man to a woman and she seems uninterested.
i am literally talking almost all of the fucking time and just vibing with them. according to jeffy's method what i am supposed to do is for the first 10-20 minutes , attraction and get to the fucking point of makeout as soon as fucking possible, keep trying to get the makeout in a cyclical fashion build attraction go for makeout until i get it, and then at some point and then take her somewhere and chat for like 30-40 minutes just keep talking to her and then pull her home. thats jeffys plan.
go for the 3 set near the
basically the lesson is that this two fold;
you aen't pushing yourself in the sense that you aren't going forward into more socially awkward situations like 3 sets 2 setes etc or having the real confidence like you did a year ago to stay in the set no matter what and keep on talking about whatever you fucking feel like it.
2nd of all, like you aren't accept the fact in teh beginning of the night you will be shitty and uncalibrated and feeling liek crap, and you will burn sets after set, but eventually the light will show its brightness on you and will see the glory at the end of the night like 2-3 hours later when you are so confident and in state. so trust the process
third thing is , dont ever leave an interaction and give in. take the shit stay in set, and like iron mike tyson just keep slogging away like you did with the blonde one.
so after the 3rd set by the bathroom fizzles out, i then approach a set of two and they are receptive as fuck, i am standing like 2 inches from her face, and i sense that she is down to fuck because whatever i say and this also helps builds my confidence at this point because i am able to i dont expect failure, i expect whatever is given to me, at this point, i see shes not going anywhere or telling me off so i proceed to , after looking at anthony , try to make out wiht her, and then i try to get her number and tell her i am going to pick up her up and take her away like a caveman if she doesn't give me her number, and she is a big attraction switchin one shes is laughing and secondly she i just passed a shit test . i am in state now.
and i open two more girls on the way out. at first i wasn't feeling it, but i just execute the fucking stack hand holding, trying to dance her, and kiss her, and i sense she is very loose because her body movements are very limb, and i hve to figure out a way to get them to have sex that same night though lol.
at this we break, and then when we go back we continue the stack. i feel an almost visceral connection with the stack and my sexual innenoudos are coming rocket fire. at this point i work on this point which is that
we goto spitzer i want the fat blonde , i get the fat blonde, it was basically me open confidently tease and chat bout shit tell her i m going to take her on an adventure date and walk off.
at the fucking pizza place, this is golden anyway,
i just dont care, and just full exprssion at this point, and i tease this girl, she is lauhin and im in state so i m fucking just talking and everything is hitting he like gold. i have no fear in going for the kiss within like 20 seconds now, if i feel like the escalation at that point is right i will go for the escalation right away and get physically dominant her. i glance over at Steveand he mouths go for it. at this point, i go in for the kiss, and full body hug, and tell her i am going to take her number and met her on tuesday. i should have fucking closed that bitch that same time too. I need to stop this mental bullshit where i tak her number and walk off, i want to drag that interaction to the fucking ground.
February 5, 2012 sunday
Did nothing really just wanted the football game and jerked off, i am getting upset that progress hasn't been fast enough.
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sometimes progress is fast, sometimes its not at all. the truth is you can do a zillion approaches before you have the next conscious realization or epiphany thats holding you back...and then 'everything clears up and gets perfect' for a while...
February 5, 2012 sunday
Did nothing really just wanted the football game and jerked off, i am getting upset that progress hasn't been fast enough.
Did nothing really just wanted the football game and jerked off, i am getting upset that progress hasn't been fast enough.
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RSD Misinterpreted: A Series of Posts on Popular RSD Ideas and How I Used to Misunderstand Them
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Day 25 ( tough week full of sickness and rather just forget this shit)
Monday Febrauary 6th -- like a few hours with Taj
Tuesday Febraury 7th -- sick
Wednesday Frebraruy 8th -- sick
Thursday Febraury 9th -- met the ex for our monthly meeting
Friday Febraury 10th -- out with brian & coby numbers game
Saturday February 11th-- hot seat mainly
Sunday February 12-- hot seat mainly
Main recap:
+monday i worked with taj on push pull, by friday i did some more with brian. friday saw a fight.
I am going to use push more often, my subcoms i think will become more escalate-quicker.
i think i will take things more seriouser this week, and lay out directly to them that i want to lick theiir pussy or something. to setup day2
need to like i said take charge of the interaction and become more dominant ( realized the price for being a pussy in mindset)
work on getting your state from side vs outside
work on like i said being polarizing, finding that set that hooks, and getting her out asap
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Monday Febrauary 6th -- like a few hours with Taj
Tuesday Febraury 7th -- sick
Wednesday Frebraruy 8th -- sick
Thursday Febraury 9th -- met the ex for our monthly meeting
Friday Febraury 10th -- out with brian & coby numbers game
Saturday February 11th-- hot seat mainly
Sunday February 12-- hot seat mainly
Main recap:
+monday i worked with taj on push pull, by friday i did some more with brian. friday saw a fight.
I am going to use push more often, my subcoms i think will become more escalate-quicker.
i think i will take things more seriouser this week, and lay out directly to them that i want to lick theiir pussy or something. to setup day2
need to like i said take charge of the interaction and become more dominant ( realized the price for being a pussy in mindset)
work on getting your state from side vs outside
work on like i said being polarizing, finding that set that hooks, and getting her out asap
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The game is designed for you to be exactly what you think you are. ~ Rosebudd Bitterdose
The game is designed for you to be exactly what you think you are. ~ Rosebudd Bitterdose
Basically l this week.
February 15, 2012 -- just ran some day game.
Recap from anothonys talk: why should you offer a girl a date who you just fucking metwhy would you put her on a pedestral show her so much respect that you just fucking met like 5 minutes ago.even though your lke dying to see her like a crazy maniac, you should not get desperate not get to the point where you are sendin her massive texts or contacting her .. There is no such thing as no success for you , take the pain and move forward. his friend sayd " a woman knows within 30 seconds of seeing you whether she wants you or not. why are you trying to get a date with someone you just met like 5 minutes ago
Spoke to Tom and basically told me I need to work on the fundamentals. The basics eye contact, loud voice, getting in their space, and fucking being out of your head, and focused on the interaction.
Saw Taj and basically he made me do sets and I remember him telling me that set is not done, keep going back into it. Shes not running away that physe told him that he would never let him walk away from that set.
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February 16, 2012 & February 17, 2012
Class with Anthony: Anthony makes me go out there and open up a fatty, I scruge. He tells me to open up that 3 set of girls, and I start off geniune and then I squander when the test me. This is clearly evident that my internal belief system of myself is pretty weak. I need to not drop state like that.
basically you are being too careful to not rock the boat, too careful to not let any damage happen.
dont say very aggressive things or uncomfortable things, you can always apologize
Failed a shit test because I couldn’t really own what I said.
I failed to escalate or be aggressive, held myself back, and didn’t push
My state was weak and self –belief because them joking around I didn’t have a come back is weak.
Friday get into state, start getting numbers right and left again but this time . it took like 3 hours to get into state. By tthis time its like 3am and I m sittin with joe in spitzers were talking to this one girl.walked up to her while shes dancing, she even goes for the makeout with me. She is into me, I held back what I wanted to say. I didn’t escalate the state where I go for a complete make out. Held myself back from completely doing what I wanted.
Get into state, execute the mission, don’t hold back , as long as your as focused on the interaction and not in your head , you want to be fucking polarizing as fuck. I am thinking that I need to work on completely fully 100% belief in myself and what I say, put them thru the funnel which and which means put them thru the fucking program. Do the fucking program as well on the day 2, and like Armath said, if you can get to the point of romantic connection they will sleep with you. Unless you say everything with your 100% belief, unless you escalate , you will never put her thru the funnel.
Looking back at my past successes came like this:
“basiclly i only get success when i actually push myself. when i was in toronto a lightbulb clicked off in my head and i believed i could say whatever the fuck i wanted to and i wont see ths bitch again and it doesnt fucking matter so push this interaction as far as you can so i held her hand and told her straightup that so you made cocky statements. like when i am the boss they can sense it right away when i have the command”
two things that staied on my mind; 1) is that what you truely wanted to say ala Anthony 2) are you saying what you truly feel like saying or are you acting ffrom your head .
I just didn't execute the fuckin program. Get the makeout first.
February 18, 2012
sick and no sleep and tired. i tried doing some daygame but it just fizzled out. went and slept it off. started feeling like my times running out again lol
February 19, 2012
was supposed to met this really hot chick i liked but she flaked on me.
went out to met my friend adn just talked an hour, about how i need to improve my tonality and be more expressive and then be able to fucking vibe. and gave me a solid structure to my day2 , 1 hour full on vibing owning and escalation. do it smoothly. Just couldn't do any sets, was very sick.
in summary; my internal belief system is pretty weak. my vibing and my skills at expressing myself past for more than 1 hour need improvement. My ability to verbally spare like jullian need improvement. I see my progression like this, work on just vibing work on developing my energy and expressive ability vibe with them for longer than 10 minutes each, then work on the strong frame that jullians has and building that internally belief system. that poloarzing effect
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Game plan:
Get into the fuckin state , drink your coffee , goto the gym, don’t drink, go out there be fucking loud as possible. Your only goal in the first few sets is to fucking push yourself hard to a point, and get into a fucking social mode.
State is when you are fully expressive, 100% out of your mind, and also focused on the interaction. Momemtum and entitlement are enabled.
The objective is to be totally fucking expressive in your personality so that like armath said if you express something and keep on talking there is something someone will latch onto. If you keep yourself fucking hidden, then there is nothing they can really see attractive about you . Get into state
The first part your approach has to be 100% out of your head, and you have to be focused on the fucking interaction like sense the emotions.
Fucking completely expressive, and dominant, and fucking polarizing . stop being worried to not rock the boat,.
Goal This WeeK:
>completely say what you feel like with 100% conviction put your personality on the line.
>be able to fucking vibe or express yourself like with energy , with aliveness, and with a variety of tonality
>be able to fucking sit there and chat with her for like hours like mehul
>work on thend escalating hard on these dates , put them right thru the funnel. dont waist time like last time.
> if possible incorporate Julians Your Reality wins, forcing, being persistence, and basically be able to develop that strong internal dialed in. to be able to verbally dual.
February 15, 2012 -- just ran some day game.
Recap from anothonys talk: why should you offer a girl a date who you just fucking metwhy would you put her on a pedestral show her so much respect that you just fucking met like 5 minutes ago.even though your lke dying to see her like a crazy maniac, you should not get desperate not get to the point where you are sendin her massive texts or contacting her .. There is no such thing as no success for you , take the pain and move forward. his friend sayd " a woman knows within 30 seconds of seeing you whether she wants you or not. why are you trying to get a date with someone you just met like 5 minutes ago
Spoke to Tom and basically told me I need to work on the fundamentals. The basics eye contact, loud voice, getting in their space, and fucking being out of your head, and focused on the interaction.
Saw Taj and basically he made me do sets and I remember him telling me that set is not done, keep going back into it. Shes not running away that physe told him that he would never let him walk away from that set.
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February 16, 2012 & February 17, 2012
Class with Anthony: Anthony makes me go out there and open up a fatty, I scruge. He tells me to open up that 3 set of girls, and I start off geniune and then I squander when the test me. This is clearly evident that my internal belief system of myself is pretty weak. I need to not drop state like that.
basically you are being too careful to not rock the boat, too careful to not let any damage happen.
dont say very aggressive things or uncomfortable things, you can always apologize
Failed a shit test because I couldn’t really own what I said.
I failed to escalate or be aggressive, held myself back, and didn’t push
My state was weak and self –belief because them joking around I didn’t have a come back is weak.
Friday get into state, start getting numbers right and left again but this time . it took like 3 hours to get into state. By tthis time its like 3am and I m sittin with joe in spitzers were talking to this one girl.walked up to her while shes dancing, she even goes for the makeout with me. She is into me, I held back what I wanted to say. I didn’t escalate the state where I go for a complete make out. Held myself back from completely doing what I wanted.
Get into state, execute the mission, don’t hold back , as long as your as focused on the interaction and not in your head , you want to be fucking polarizing as fuck. I am thinking that I need to work on completely fully 100% belief in myself and what I say, put them thru the funnel which and which means put them thru the fucking program. Do the fucking program as well on the day 2, and like Armath said, if you can get to the point of romantic connection they will sleep with you. Unless you say everything with your 100% belief, unless you escalate , you will never put her thru the funnel.
Looking back at my past successes came like this:
“basiclly i only get success when i actually push myself. when i was in toronto a lightbulb clicked off in my head and i believed i could say whatever the fuck i wanted to and i wont see ths bitch again and it doesnt fucking matter so push this interaction as far as you can so i held her hand and told her straightup that so you made cocky statements. like when i am the boss they can sense it right away when i have the command”
two things that staied on my mind; 1) is that what you truely wanted to say ala Anthony 2) are you saying what you truly feel like saying or are you acting ffrom your head .
I just didn't execute the fuckin program. Get the makeout first.
February 18, 2012
sick and no sleep and tired. i tried doing some daygame but it just fizzled out. went and slept it off. started feeling like my times running out again lol
February 19, 2012
was supposed to met this really hot chick i liked but she flaked on me.
went out to met my friend adn just talked an hour, about how i need to improve my tonality and be more expressive and then be able to fucking vibe. and gave me a solid structure to my day2 , 1 hour full on vibing owning and escalation. do it smoothly. Just couldn't do any sets, was very sick.
in summary; my internal belief system is pretty weak. my vibing and my skills at expressing myself past for more than 1 hour need improvement. My ability to verbally spare like jullian need improvement. I see my progression like this, work on just vibing work on developing my energy and expressive ability vibe with them for longer than 10 minutes each, then work on the strong frame that jullians has and building that internally belief system. that poloarzing effect
------------
Game plan:
Get into the fuckin state , drink your coffee , goto the gym, don’t drink, go out there be fucking loud as possible. Your only goal in the first few sets is to fucking push yourself hard to a point, and get into a fucking social mode.
State is when you are fully expressive, 100% out of your mind, and also focused on the interaction. Momemtum and entitlement are enabled.
The objective is to be totally fucking expressive in your personality so that like armath said if you express something and keep on talking there is something someone will latch onto. If you keep yourself fucking hidden, then there is nothing they can really see attractive about you . Get into state
The first part your approach has to be 100% out of your head, and you have to be focused on the fucking interaction like sense the emotions.
Fucking completely expressive, and dominant, and fucking polarizing . stop being worried to not rock the boat,.
Goal This WeeK:
>completely say what you feel like with 100% conviction put your personality on the line.
>be able to fucking vibe or express yourself like with energy , with aliveness, and with a variety of tonality
>be able to fucking sit there and chat with her for like hours like mehul
>work on thend escalating hard on these dates , put them right thru the funnel. dont waist time like last time.
> if possible incorporate Julians Your Reality wins, forcing, being persistence, and basically be able to develop that strong internal dialed in. to be able to verbally dual.
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The game is designed for you to be exactly what you think you are. ~ Rosebudd Bitterdose
The game is designed for you to be exactly what you think you are. ~ Rosebudd Bitterdose
"like armath said if you express something and keep on talking there is something someone will latch onto."
Who is armath? This is coming from a "I will work to get them to like me," frame. When I'm rocking it, I hardly need to say anything, because everything I say is like heroin to a girl's veins. I don't worry about what I say. I simply am looking to see if this girl is cool enough to rock with me.
Are girls cool enough to rock with you?
Who is armath? This is coming from a "I will work to get them to like me," frame. When I'm rocking it, I hardly need to say anything, because everything I say is like heroin to a girl's veins. I don't worry about what I say. I simply am looking to see if this girl is cool enough to rock with me.
Are girls cool enough to rock with you?
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I now live in BKLN.
in the past months , i have managed to get into state four times.. basically pushing myself to do harder sets, losing the hat, more akward situations. I have a bunch of people helpin me out too lol
monday- had a debrief with anthony
tues-- another chode day where i tried to go out and did like 1-2 sets
wed - rain stayed in
thursday chodey night though i tried with Dom
Friday walked around with Rich chodey night
Saturday March 3rd
The first set when you open, you are like weak sad and afraid leaning in to talk to her.
Anthony takes the hat and wants me to jump , yell, and i am like literally gripped unable to do it; that was pushing my boundares. ve realzed i have some social fear, stifled n the club. for example anthony tells me to puts my hands up and spin around, without my hat, i just couldn't. I had thought that i was this fearless guy, but i realize now i still have socai fear/anxiety.
+1 be the leader : this really forces me to start owning the interactions, as were going thru spitzers i tell rich, were gong to open that 2 set, you sit here, and i got the curly one. he was very coopperative and helpful mainly bc he was getting ggirls too with my lead, but me being the leader at first i felt indecisive looking to anthony for direction, after a while i felt i was the boss. I realize that this translated into my sets as well. i owned the sets more.
? can i be the leader without anothony? can i be more comfortable in fighting the fear myself and being social awkard as fuck, have fun. the level of state that i am in during the other days when i ma not with anthony was miscule to what i actually was with Anthony. I need to be able to truely expressing yourself what you want to say, trust my verbals fully. Develop that intent.
+1 I did feel like i grew from week 1-3 , there was a level of confidence ffrom talkin to people that i noticed i was able to stay longer in sets. I got a first sober instanadates on week 2. the confidence has grown with working out, plus the sunday date, and being in state last saturday feeling like a motor-mouth.
+1 the most helpful feedback -- was that i didn't looked like i wanted it bad enough.. afraid to get physical , Arnab told me to get physical and i all i did was hold her hand -- afraid to get physical , didn't grab her waist, didn't grab her neck, waist. afraid little shy not aggressive weak pussy boy, in my head. stifled. Anthony told me that we had a process we were supposed to get push ourselves get into state immediately but i didn't listen to the plan of action anthony tells me you look like you dont want, and reminds me what i told him, that i want this more than i want to breathe. and i look like a guy who is not hungry. i felt more lke it was a confidence issue that i didn't believe i could get the girls i wanted.
-1 I didn't listen or follow the plan Anothony laid out for me. we had a plan to talk until we get social momemtum.
-1 you see your not agressive not you dont lead you dont take risks, you are not aggressive. In one week things can move so fast , some of my friends even pulled a girl in that time.
on a side not , also not very disciplined. you dont put in the effort sometimes, i said i would workout before work , you dont get out at 5 pm and practice lke you said you would, you dont work hard to get into state
side note: I also received some feedback from Arnabh -- stay in the set no matter what. for as long as you can.
i give up with a bad reaction, i have to stay in the set for the frst 2 minutes, i want to stay in the set for as long as you can. i want to get closer because i dont want lean in all the time and not lean in. third thing, stop ask questions to keep the conversation going. you need to treat them like your little daughter. I dont look like i want it -- like you wanted that ass. and i need to escalating on the girl. this guy told me to escalate in I need to go back to working the fundamentals -- loud voice, open hard as fuck, and cut the space, and more importantly --execute the program.
PLAN:
More intent, More state by myself, More risks/aggressiveness, more getting in their face. Want it more.
After bootcamp with Anthony me and Rich goto union pool. here is where i noticed, i really hit state, i beeline for a girl sitting in the corner, and tell her you look beautiul and keep on talking to her i noticed i truely did not give a fuck, and guess what the sets hooked. and i was without haiir.
Sunday March 4th first Lr of the year big feeling of positivity and self boost
-- Met her thursday , but spoke on the phone fri/sat/ and met today. This was at barnes and nobles. Ballesy . After this interaction I gianed a lot of conffidence in talking and rambling to girls.
this was an older gorgourous african american milfy one. Had the boner shark. basically it was a combination of persistence, i had the boner shark, and i knew i could get her for some reason. I wasn't afraid to respond to her hesitations.
i just kept talking to her ffor ten minutes, i kept the sexual tone on the entire time, saying . and then i say we'd be a wild and sexy couple. at one point she was like your too touch feely, and i continued to touch. she called me back a few hours later we met up had a drink and she was ready to go.
The thing is she gave me good feedback and i realized that it may be true ; is that she told me two things to my own face and i didn't believe it until she told me, that was the supportin evidence. that i need to be vincent to the core and let the chips fall where they may and let it be my movie , my enjoyment, my time and your part of it. i am having the fun time here.
the two things she told me were. she told me that i am an very confident person like 80% confident and 20% emotional. she told me that i have a great personality, funny, that i am very smart and have an equally smart eq. and that i am attractive guy but should shave off the hair.. after that i start believeing in myself more, and i start feeling lke the boss and i start talking to out long interactions like i can hold it.
confident, and smart, great personality, iff this outside person said these things , how come i dont believe it that i am awesome? lol that was a big question mark for me. I remember with Anothony he told me, the only thing going thru his head in set, is " I Am A w e some".
p.s anthony took my hat.( sometimes I feel they give me poor reactions bc of my hair, they get turned off right away or something, but even with the hat i wasnt getting much success anyway lol
p.p.s Anthony please take good care of my hat. :0
monday- had a debrief with anthony
tues-- another chode day where i tried to go out and did like 1-2 sets
wed - rain stayed in
thursday chodey night though i tried with Dom
Friday walked around with Rich chodey night
Saturday March 3rd
The first set when you open, you are like weak sad and afraid leaning in to talk to her.
Anthony takes the hat and wants me to jump , yell, and i am like literally gripped unable to do it; that was pushing my boundares. ve realzed i have some social fear, stifled n the club. for example anthony tells me to puts my hands up and spin around, without my hat, i just couldn't. I had thought that i was this fearless guy, but i realize now i still have socai fear/anxiety.
+1 be the leader : this really forces me to start owning the interactions, as were going thru spitzers i tell rich, were gong to open that 2 set, you sit here, and i got the curly one. he was very coopperative and helpful mainly bc he was getting ggirls too with my lead, but me being the leader at first i felt indecisive looking to anthony for direction, after a while i felt i was the boss. I realize that this translated into my sets as well. i owned the sets more.
? can i be the leader without anothony? can i be more comfortable in fighting the fear myself and being social awkard as fuck, have fun. the level of state that i am in during the other days when i ma not with anthony was miscule to what i actually was with Anthony. I need to be able to truely expressing yourself what you want to say, trust my verbals fully. Develop that intent.
+1 I did feel like i grew from week 1-3 , there was a level of confidence ffrom talkin to people that i noticed i was able to stay longer in sets. I got a first sober instanadates on week 2. the confidence has grown with working out, plus the sunday date, and being in state last saturday feeling like a motor-mouth.
+1 the most helpful feedback -- was that i didn't looked like i wanted it bad enough.. afraid to get physical , Arnab told me to get physical and i all i did was hold her hand -- afraid to get physical , didn't grab her waist, didn't grab her neck, waist. afraid little shy not aggressive weak pussy boy, in my head. stifled. Anthony told me that we had a process we were supposed to get push ourselves get into state immediately but i didn't listen to the plan of action anthony tells me you look like you dont want, and reminds me what i told him, that i want this more than i want to breathe. and i look like a guy who is not hungry. i felt more lke it was a confidence issue that i didn't believe i could get the girls i wanted.
-1 I didn't listen or follow the plan Anothony laid out for me. we had a plan to talk until we get social momemtum.
-1 you see your not agressive not you dont lead you dont take risks, you are not aggressive. In one week things can move so fast , some of my friends even pulled a girl in that time.
on a side not , also not very disciplined. you dont put in the effort sometimes, i said i would workout before work , you dont get out at 5 pm and practice lke you said you would, you dont work hard to get into state
side note: I also received some feedback from Arnabh -- stay in the set no matter what. for as long as you can.
i give up with a bad reaction, i have to stay in the set for the frst 2 minutes, i want to stay in the set for as long as you can. i want to get closer because i dont want lean in all the time and not lean in. third thing, stop ask questions to keep the conversation going. you need to treat them like your little daughter. I dont look like i want it -- like you wanted that ass. and i need to escalating on the girl. this guy told me to escalate in I need to go back to working the fundamentals -- loud voice, open hard as fuck, and cut the space, and more importantly --execute the program.
PLAN:
More intent, More state by myself, More risks/aggressiveness, more getting in their face. Want it more.
After bootcamp with Anthony me and Rich goto union pool. here is where i noticed, i really hit state, i beeline for a girl sitting in the corner, and tell her you look beautiul and keep on talking to her i noticed i truely did not give a fuck, and guess what the sets hooked. and i was without haiir.
Sunday March 4th first Lr of the year big feeling of positivity and self boost
-- Met her thursday , but spoke on the phone fri/sat/ and met today. This was at barnes and nobles. Ballesy . After this interaction I gianed a lot of conffidence in talking and rambling to girls.
this was an older gorgourous african american milfy one. Had the boner shark. basically it was a combination of persistence, i had the boner shark, and i knew i could get her for some reason. I wasn't afraid to respond to her hesitations.
i just kept talking to her ffor ten minutes, i kept the sexual tone on the entire time, saying . and then i say we'd be a wild and sexy couple. at one point she was like your too touch feely, and i continued to touch. she called me back a few hours later we met up had a drink and she was ready to go.
The thing is she gave me good feedback and i realized that it may be true ; is that she told me two things to my own face and i didn't believe it until she told me, that was the supportin evidence. that i need to be vincent to the core and let the chips fall where they may and let it be my movie , my enjoyment, my time and your part of it. i am having the fun time here.
the two things she told me were. she told me that i am an very confident person like 80% confident and 20% emotional. she told me that i have a great personality, funny, that i am very smart and have an equally smart eq. and that i am attractive guy but should shave off the hair.. after that i start believeing in myself more, and i start feeling lke the boss and i start talking to out long interactions like i can hold it.
confident, and smart, great personality, iff this outside person said these things , how come i dont believe it that i am awesome? lol that was a big question mark for me. I remember with Anothony he told me, the only thing going thru his head in set, is " I Am A w e some".
p.s anthony took my hat.( sometimes I feel they give me poor reactions bc of my hair, they get turned off right away or something, but even with the hat i wasnt getting much success anyway lol
p.p.s Anthony please take good care of my hat. :0
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The hat is BULLLLLSHIT. I love how you are doing +1 and -1, good stuff.
Listen dude, me and my friend grew mustaches a couple years ago just for fun. EVERY GIRL told me i looked disgusting with my mustache. Funnily enough, I got laid the most that month, and the girls that told me I looked disgusting were the ones that i fucked.
WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE THINK. As long as you are confident in who you are, ESPECIALLY your weaknesses, people will value and respect it... no matter if they like you or not.
Have you noticed that on Sunday, even after you thought that you weren't able to hit state without me, you 'beelined' towards a girl and hooked? What's going on buddy, is that I am revving up your little boat motor in your mind, until eventually it will be able to run on autopilot without me. It's a process.
Listen dude, me and my friend grew mustaches a couple years ago just for fun. EVERY GIRL told me i looked disgusting with my mustache. Funnily enough, I got laid the most that month, and the girls that told me I looked disgusting were the ones that i fucked.
WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE THINK. As long as you are confident in who you are, ESPECIALLY your weaknesses, people will value and respect it... no matter if they like you or not.
Have you noticed that on Sunday, even after you thought that you weren't able to hit state without me, you 'beelined' towards a girl and hooked? What's going on buddy, is that I am revving up your little boat motor in your mind, until eventually it will be able to run on autopilot without me. It's a process.
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drive and ambition; comparing before and after last week. was that last week i was undriven lazy ass, bucking under pressure, sleeping alot, eating shitty, and no mental "strength". i am now different i dont buckle i am very driven i want this is my goal. If i go out
mon/tues march 5-6
basiclaly anthony lights a fire under my ass via text mesage but i dont really go out.
Wed, march 7 2012
walked around with Taj. the main points i learned from him is to stop chasing the girl or qualifying yourself. basically again focused on a normal conversations with girls and had like 3 normal conversation with them at pianos. if i ask them out and they say they are busy i dont chase them by asking them how about the next day etc. I dont
Thursday march 8 2012
i basically felt really bad, like i had a goal i would find a girl like my ex who i could settle down with by now and live happily ever after. at present i am not there, so far from being able to experience tthat because i can't even get girls to date me lol. how far i was from my dream. lol. made me motivated
made plans to be more disciplined, less unhealthy and take all the pain. Promised myself that i would be active even if i feel a littl lazy depressed, tha ti will use my time effectively.
friday march 9 2012
the focus was on being real with them. interactions where i was real and not fake lasted more. like i wasn't teasing bc i was gaming but because it was a real tease was the most effective I would ask the most chode questions but they are coming from a different point. basically i worked on 'calling out her on her bullshit', expressing moment to moment exactly how i fell and expressing to her. there was a sense that and what i feel at that momment i needed to open and expand my senses and notice particular details about her facial expressions. to develop that more balancing act where i can sense how they feel, at the same time know how i feel and express that to them too joe is an actor .
basically the lesson is the following: trust that state will come. that state will come , in other words, the first hour i was makin excuses to not do this. my mental programmin was crappy. after being blow out hard, i became in state and i opened like a madman i didn't care. trust that it will come in time.
Saturday, March 10 2012
basically this is this like 5th time i hit state in a month. this is is the highest ive have been in state. these are the distinctions anthony tells me giving vs taking value. entertainer vs interacting. my movie vs their movie. having fun vs trying to suck value. enjoying the person . loud boom authoriative voice. i would talk bout what i wanted and instead of trying for a conversation or asking chodey questions. anthony tells this is the way and only way is to have fun and express this.
why state? pushed my boudaries walking the dogs before. felt like a leader. I felt good about me living to my standards i had. i was eating healthy and working out. even if i can't sleep, even if i feel slightly depressed i made it a goal to force myself to be active. and i did tat
distinctions;
my movie vs their movie; i was talking about stuff that interested in me. and i was saying things i wasnted to not trying to impress them or get them into a conversation.
secondly,
mental strength. i forced mysel to stay active whether sleepy tired and exhausted or i dont feel like it. that is what causes me to be ridiciolously strong in set.
+ alot of confidence came back from the positive feedback from anothony. him telling me what i was doing well , usually i have more of negative feedback loop and then i dont have fun, and i end up shuting my self down. but by anthony pointing out it wasn't bad at all , i felt more confident in what i was saying and more comfortable as the night went alone.
basically the lesson from walking the dogs was how unnatural or how not my usual state it was being dominant in me. i couldn't even lead a dog, how the hell am i supposed to lead a girl? that walking the dog mindset carried over into my interactions the following night. two things: is that when the dog goes out of line you have to straighten him right away, and thirdly, i wouldn't take the lead for example when he started to pull away i then i would panic. instead i should be like, were not leaving until i say so i was the leader the boss, i am the authority here.
although we didn't learn any real game concepts. i think most importantly he( anthony) instilled in my a self belief and self confidene -- stop the self doubting yourelf, be yourself there is nothin wrong in what you are saying. stop self-kicking or defeating yourself with fear. that there is nothing wrong with what i am saying or doing . in my mind, there is no one or right way but i need to be confident in doing so my way.
i thought he was going to teach me game concepts, but actuallly hes more like instilling in me to be a leader and giving me a self confidence i never had before.
can i continue from here on out to continue these interactions with women and get the lay wihtout anthony?
A3 set in diablio, i open a group of three girls and keep talking about my movie telling them about my adventure with the dogs, and i eventually executed the program aka got really physical . Execute the program, shark boner, whatever. If she had madeout, it would have been a done deal. The thing is if i continued to execute the program with all the sets i did that night i would have pulled.
Goto the bar across the street, as were walking out, i grab the blonde girls and tell her all sorts of sexualstuff in her ear and execute the program.
two hot blonde girls really hooked into me, one at hifi and other at max fish, just pure confidence in how i opened them. i wont put all the details here.
+ theres more like expressing how you feel, i made it a point of saying to say things like "you sound like your being fake". more of a focus on actually feelings and a "real connection with them". in all my interations the feeling is communicated, no filter though it may be inappriariate or sexual. being completely vunerable to them. saying the littlest things like i wanted to talk to you but seem shy. or i sense you dont want to talk to me puts me in more touch with expressin myself.
+ I 've become narcissitic but in a good way in a set. I would say stuff like you will regret giving out your number when you go home to that good looking sexy indian guy lol.
--i couldn't really get physical fast or makeouts quickly during the twilight hours.
--when an attractive girl comes along i freeze up a bit and dont quite execute the program.
i've put more trust in anthonys teaching . this is a big step for me to trust someones process so much to give my efforts to them . because usually i dont until i am 100% positive they are right.
other things anthony tells me
get the number if you enjoyed teh interaction not because she gave you attention
your there to have fun
the biggie is what you tell yourself ; if yourself we've used up the place vs we've giving it value. your behaviors change with it.
when you escalate or grab her hand you hesitated or escalated by gettin in her space you hesitate
when you talked to her you didn't give a fuck about where shes from and shit like that.
he wanted me to get physical but i got afraid time again.
all luv for Luna. )
ITS DAY 27. Goal is 30 days in .
mon/tues march 5-6
basiclaly anthony lights a fire under my ass via text mesage but i dont really go out.
Wed, march 7 2012
walked around with Taj. the main points i learned from him is to stop chasing the girl or qualifying yourself. basically again focused on a normal conversations with girls and had like 3 normal conversation with them at pianos. if i ask them out and they say they are busy i dont chase them by asking them how about the next day etc. I dont
Thursday march 8 2012
i basically felt really bad, like i had a goal i would find a girl like my ex who i could settle down with by now and live happily ever after. at present i am not there, so far from being able to experience tthat because i can't even get girls to date me lol. how far i was from my dream. lol. made me motivated
made plans to be more disciplined, less unhealthy and take all the pain. Promised myself that i would be active even if i feel a littl lazy depressed, tha ti will use my time effectively.
friday march 9 2012
the focus was on being real with them. interactions where i was real and not fake lasted more. like i wasn't teasing bc i was gaming but because it was a real tease was the most effective I would ask the most chode questions but they are coming from a different point. basically i worked on 'calling out her on her bullshit', expressing moment to moment exactly how i fell and expressing to her. there was a sense that and what i feel at that momment i needed to open and expand my senses and notice particular details about her facial expressions. to develop that more balancing act where i can sense how they feel, at the same time know how i feel and express that to them too joe is an actor .
basically the lesson is the following: trust that state will come. that state will come , in other words, the first hour i was makin excuses to not do this. my mental programmin was crappy. after being blow out hard, i became in state and i opened like a madman i didn't care. trust that it will come in time.
Saturday, March 10 2012
basically this is this like 5th time i hit state in a month. this is is the highest ive have been in state. these are the distinctions anthony tells me giving vs taking value. entertainer vs interacting. my movie vs their movie. having fun vs trying to suck value. enjoying the person . loud boom authoriative voice. i would talk bout what i wanted and instead of trying for a conversation or asking chodey questions. anthony tells this is the way and only way is to have fun and express this.
why state? pushed my boudaries walking the dogs before. felt like a leader. I felt good about me living to my standards i had. i was eating healthy and working out. even if i can't sleep, even if i feel slightly depressed i made it a goal to force myself to be active. and i did tat
distinctions;
my movie vs their movie; i was talking about stuff that interested in me. and i was saying things i wasnted to not trying to impress them or get them into a conversation.
secondly,
mental strength. i forced mysel to stay active whether sleepy tired and exhausted or i dont feel like it. that is what causes me to be ridiciolously strong in set.
+ alot of confidence came back from the positive feedback from anothony. him telling me what i was doing well , usually i have more of negative feedback loop and then i dont have fun, and i end up shuting my self down. but by anthony pointing out it wasn't bad at all , i felt more confident in what i was saying and more comfortable as the night went alone.
basically the lesson from walking the dogs was how unnatural or how not my usual state it was being dominant in me. i couldn't even lead a dog, how the hell am i supposed to lead a girl? that walking the dog mindset carried over into my interactions the following night. two things: is that when the dog goes out of line you have to straighten him right away, and thirdly, i wouldn't take the lead for example when he started to pull away i then i would panic. instead i should be like, were not leaving until i say so i was the leader the boss, i am the authority here.
although we didn't learn any real game concepts. i think most importantly he( anthony) instilled in my a self belief and self confidene -- stop the self doubting yourelf, be yourself there is nothin wrong in what you are saying. stop self-kicking or defeating yourself with fear. that there is nothing wrong with what i am saying or doing . in my mind, there is no one or right way but i need to be confident in doing so my way.
i thought he was going to teach me game concepts, but actuallly hes more like instilling in me to be a leader and giving me a self confidence i never had before.
can i continue from here on out to continue these interactions with women and get the lay wihtout anthony?
A3 set in diablio, i open a group of three girls and keep talking about my movie telling them about my adventure with the dogs, and i eventually executed the program aka got really physical . Execute the program, shark boner, whatever. If she had madeout, it would have been a done deal. The thing is if i continued to execute the program with all the sets i did that night i would have pulled.
Goto the bar across the street, as were walking out, i grab the blonde girls and tell her all sorts of sexualstuff in her ear and execute the program.
two hot blonde girls really hooked into me, one at hifi and other at max fish, just pure confidence in how i opened them. i wont put all the details here.
+ theres more like expressing how you feel, i made it a point of saying to say things like "you sound like your being fake". more of a focus on actually feelings and a "real connection with them". in all my interations the feeling is communicated, no filter though it may be inappriariate or sexual. being completely vunerable to them. saying the littlest things like i wanted to talk to you but seem shy. or i sense you dont want to talk to me puts me in more touch with expressin myself.
+ I 've become narcissitic but in a good way in a set. I would say stuff like you will regret giving out your number when you go home to that good looking sexy indian guy lol.
--i couldn't really get physical fast or makeouts quickly during the twilight hours.
--when an attractive girl comes along i freeze up a bit and dont quite execute the program.
i've put more trust in anthonys teaching . this is a big step for me to trust someones process so much to give my efforts to them . because usually i dont until i am 100% positive they are right.
other things anthony tells me
get the number if you enjoyed teh interaction not because she gave you attention
your there to have fun
the biggie is what you tell yourself ; if yourself we've used up the place vs we've giving it value. your behaviors change with it.
when you escalate or grab her hand you hesitated or escalated by gettin in her space you hesitate
when you talked to her you didn't give a fuck about where shes from and shit like that.
he wanted me to get physical but i got afraid time again.
all luv for Luna. )
ITS DAY 27. Goal is 30 days in .
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check out my journal called : Into the Fire.
The game is designed for you to be exactly what you think you are. ~ Rosebudd Bitterdose
The game is designed for you to be exactly what you think you are. ~ Rosebudd Bitterdose
Colt
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Join Date: 03/17/2008 | Posts: 1229
1) to keep me accountable for each day
2) and to push myself each day past aka "intermediate pertory" past this point where am not on a fucking plateau of chodey non-escalation in set.
3) 1 lay per week
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problems:
> i am not aggressive, dominant, and vicious enough in my voice
>EXECUTE THE FUCKING PROGRAM: ala Jeffy
DON"T LET HER GO , UNTIL YOU GET THE FUCKING MAKEOUT and HOLDING HER HAND.
>dont push the interaction enough
> full 100 % expression point
>keep my new habits of talking loud as fuck, always asking for the instanadate, always plow til she fucking says fuck off.
total lays so far: 1
The game is designed for you to be exactly what you think you are. ~ Rosebudd Bitterdose