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LethalLex

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Did a video blog wooooo!

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Brad's Webinar Notes - Mastering Your Emotions and Finding Your Life Passions

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Was running along the promenade earlier behind two stunners. They had these perfect asses in those tight running shorts. I immediately thought "damn it would be so easy to bang these girls". Thought it was awesome that I have those kinds of thoughts nowadays, a far cry from thinking I'd never be able to get a girl like that a few years ago. Last night I had a successful date. Things that were cool about it were:- Focused on creating a fun, adventuress night. Took her to a playground at night. Took her down to the beach and drew giant penises in the sand.- Created a rollercoaster feel by only staying at venues for a short period. Kept up a sense of urgency, leading a lot. Leading and escalation is so key.- Really embraced the night myself. It wasn't about getting laid but about making the night as cool as possible for myself.- I re-ignited my excitement about attaining mastery picking up girlsGoing to be doing a cool long post about a weekend festival I did sober and pulled to my tent a couple times. I'm busy editing a cool vid I made about it which I'll post up too. 
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In Search of Peak Experiences

Rocking the Daisies is a festival in the beautiful city of Cape Town in South Africa with over 17000 attendees. My experience there was a rather unique one. In an attempt to attain a peak experience I spent the whole weekend sober. No stimulants. No uppers. No downers. Nothing. 

Most people would wonder why the hell anyone would choose to do such a thing. Well, here's a quote from Oliver Stone's cult classic Platoon that sums up my attitude to (most) substances:
 
"You smoking this shit so as to escape from reality? 

Me, I don't need this shit.

I am reality. "

- Sgt. Barnes (the symbolic personification of evil in the movie) 

I realize making a statement such as that may start things off on an awkward note. It may make me sound arrogant and superior. However, it's necessary that I be straight up with you from the get go. That's kind of the point. 

As for for the sober thing, it's probably not what you think. It's not about getting older and more responsible. It's not about deciding to be more chilled and relaxed. In fact, it's the exact opposite. I've recently uncovered a manic streak of passion for life. There is so much god damn stuff to do! And so, so little time. Booze and substances just seem to slow me down. I just don't have time for that shit.

Life is speeding by me at an alarming rate and I feel the need to grab it by the balls and make something of it. Every second I'm not doing that is a second wasted. Of course I haven't always had this relentless enthusiasm for life - I know the reasons why I now do very clearly but that's a story for another time.

So how the hell did I go to a weekend long festival if I wasn't planning to drink?

Peak Experiences

One of my major drives in life right now is the search for peak experiences. 

What is a peak experience? Well, I'll tell you what it's not for starters. It's not anything that's comfortable and easy. It's usually not something that comes easily. It's not something most people will experience very often, if ever. It's definitely doesn't come from sitting in front of the television, smoking a cigarette, getting ego validation, buying shit, or hedonistic pleasures. 

What IS it then? Well if you've ever had a moment where you're deeply engaged in an activity and you catch a glimmer of a feeling of pure presence in the moment, without thinking, just FEELING, then you've had a glimpse. Peak experiences, however, often only come when you have become a master of a given field of interest. It's takes years to gain the skill necessary to access this state of flow on any kind of consistent basis. It's kind of crazy - as you get more glimpses you start to crave them more and want to seek out ways to access that state as much as possible.

"That's all very well... but shit man... I just want to go the goddamn party and have some fun! Want a peak experience? hand me that beer!"

Well, yeah. The euphoria you get from substances is pretty great. However, its short lived and quickly forgotten. You 'come down' from it. The thing about true peak experiences is they ENERGIZE you and move you onwards. There is a synergistic effect when you are pushing to attain peak experiences in all aspects in your life - they compound each other and propel you forward in life.

Rocking the Daisies also contained a peak experience of another sort. It wasn't the same type as the one that comes from mastery. This was brought about by a pure abandonment to a moment that I'd been excited about for a long time. What usually happens to me is I build up the event and when it finally comes I have the horrible experience of my expectation overshadowing reality and making it a pale comparison to the magnificent spectacle that unfolded in my head.

For some reason this wasn't the case and The Hives, my favorite alternative-come-punk-rock four piece, put me into a frenzied state of straight up bliss. I think my friends were a little scared. I was manic. 

We pushed to the front, maybe three people from the railing. This was no mean feat in a festival with such an attendance. Man, there were a few pissed off people when we squeezed in there like sardines. But once the band started playing, I managed to clear a space around me due to my crazy jumping. It was pure abandonment to the moment.

I think seeing a band whose songs you know every word of is usually a good experience. I'm not sure if everyone experiences what I experienced though. I was transported. Whisked away to a different plane. I rememember being glad I'd be hitting the deadlifts and squats lately or my legs would have been destroyed from jumping up and down non stop for that long. The cool thing, though, was that I somehow tapped into a zone where I felt more alive than everyone around me. I'm not sure if it was some form of self hypnotism or a trance like state but I was clearly the person enjoying the show the most out of the entire crowd. I was so in the zone that I lost my sense of self: all I could feel was the energy of the performance running through me. 

These guys were amazing. The lead singer Howlin Pelle has a high energy, showy presence. His stage character is extremely narcissistic. He somehow manages to pull it off and I felt myself buying in completely. At one point he made the whole crowd sit down and be silent - the power and control he had over the audience was staggering - nobody thought twice about it.

Afterwards I felt drained and content, like I'd just had a marathon sex session. The weird thing is I couldn't really remember the performance. There were flashes but that was it. It felt like when you wake up and you know you just had a great dream but you can't remember what it was about. 

That was definitely the highlight of the weekend for me, although there were other good moments. 

Pimpin It

My favorite thing to do in life is to talk to members of the opposite sex. That may sound like a strange thing to say is my favorite thing. And it's not even a euphemism. Literally meeting, and interacting with girls is my favorite thing on this planet. It's not about hooking up for me, although that can be fun, it's about the thrill of stepping up to a stranger of the opposite sex and opening up to whatever arises from that. I'm not sure if it's the feminine energy, or the flow of the conversation or unpredictability of it. Sometimes there's a flash of something between you. Sometimes it's just an interesting conversation. Sometimes you'll click and sometimes you won't. Sometimes there's a raw primal attraction between you. I could give you a million reasons why you should engage with strangers of the opposite sex. Mostly it's just fun and I don't know why people aren't doing it all the time, in all situations.

Rocking the Daisies is a perfect example. Most people go with a group of friends and spend the majority of their time interacting with them. Obviously your friends are your friends cause they're bad ass motherfuckers who you like spending time with, and so this is a good thing. However, a lot of people stick to what they know because it's the safe, easy thing to do. Not a lot of people make the effort to meet new people. It's kind of strange really, with all those freaky and cool people out there you could be jiving with. It's almost as though there's this barrier between people. A socially constructed perspex wall that prevents us from getting into each other's worlds. Best to smash it and climb into your neighbour's bubble (especially if they're a cute neighbour) and show them the experience you have to offer with a grin and a good vibe. The worst case is a refusal to get to know you. It's their lose though - you're the one offering a chance to experience a unique moment with a unique human being.

There's a strange kind of peak experience you get going round meeting, vibing and flirting with strangers. There's a kind of social energy you build up. You're inspired to create a new moment with a new person and the more you go from person to person, some hot some not, no worries either way, the more you become present to the moment and really experience the person in front of you. The more you appreciate it.

Here is a video of me propositioning girls in a sailor hat at RTD:



Yes, I'm sober in that video.

Okay but I like the hooking up with girls part too. In fact, I pulled 2 different girls back to my tent over the weekend. Here are the delightful little tales for your entertainment.

Pull #1

I met the first girl within an hour of setting up. We start pimping straight away and find a bunch of girls by their camp site. I'm feeling happy because I'm running around with a water pistol and a sailor hat and talking to hot girls, so when I talk to this girl she gets the puppy dog eyes right away. She's short, blonde and has blue eyes. She's also eating a hotdog. Nevertheless, it's on and I pull her on to to my lap on a nearby camper chair. Within 10 minutes I take her to "see my campsite" and we makeout by my tent. Hmm hotdog. Pull her inside and things get steamy. Finger her but she doesn't want the pants to come off. She gives me head. Since I sense the ADHD in her, I feel I'm better off letting her make me come than going for broke and then her leaving me with the blue balls, so I let her jerk me off till I come as she stairs into my eyes and moans. I go back to her campsite where my mate has valiantly occupied her friends and drop her off.  I should have gone back to her campsite later in the weekend but I guess I forgot.

Pull #2

This girl had pink hair and was wearing a trench coat. She had an interesting look, soft skin and a curvy figure. My friend and I were pimping it in a section of the festival where there was a lot of people traffic. I stepped out from the fence I was leaning against as I saw her coming and pulled her in. It was on from the get go. She'd lost her friends so she came with my friends and I. We just hungout and acted stupid, racing each other and skipping and laughing. We went to the electronic stage and danced. Then we went back to her tent. Inside we fooled around. She was coming down from molly she got a little out of it. I wanted to fuck her but not like that. She did have a comfortable mattress, though, which beat my blanket on the floor of my tent.
 
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It's official. Going to live in South Korea next year. Goddamn it's going to be amazing.

Just getting out of a serious work cycle right now and gonna get back into some serious pimpage.

One realization I had from this period is that I don't need to go out all the time to be happy. After a month working pretty much non stop I felt pretty chodey but not depressed. That's probably the longest I've gone without hitting it up regularly for the past 3/4 years. It felt really good to know that I've reached a level of self esteem where I don't need to pump my emotions up a few times a week just to get by.

The result of this is not that I want to go out less. In fact it's the opposite. I've realized that I don't need pickup as a "self medication" band aid for my self esteem. In other words, I don't need to go out on the regularly as a habit like gym or meditation. Instead I can just see what pimping it is really all about: the most fun hobby you could possibly have. And of course still a growth tool. It's just not something I "need to do" anymore.

What's cool about this is I've realized that going out for the sake of good emotions has been a sticking point for me. I haven't been going as hard as I did in my first years of the game, where I ran around like a maniac trying to get laid.

Now I know I want to go out, have as much fun as possible but do the badass pushing-my-comfort-to-the-extreme shit that's going to land me with the true stunners. Truth is I want to be a motherfucking CLOSER.

Aaaanyway

Excited as always

Peace
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one of my favorite frs to read. wise beyond your years...
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Thanks man. I actually think my self reflectiveness and thinking on deep paradigms is my biggest strength. That and a drive to be the best you can possibly be is all you need :)

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UPDATE

Left Cape Town, the place where I spent the last 5 years with my #1 focus being GAME!


I also managed to get a Bachelor's degree and try my hand at a startup biz. But let's be real, those were not my real focus. I've spent the last 5 years (about 3.5 of them doing RSD shiz) pimping girls and getting my life together.



Cape Town, South Africa

It's been an amazing time. I went from social anxiety and only 1 girlfriend, to full abundance with girls and losing track of the number of girls I've slept with. Tried 30 day challenges, pulled 3 nights in a row, pulled a 3some, banged 3 different girls in a day. Man, got so much out of this place and the game that it's sad to say goodbye.

Spontaneously decided to go teach English in South Korea: Hustled and found a job in the space of 3 months!

Actually it wasn't that spontaneous - it's all part of the plan to be location independent and traveling the world within a few years.

But I heard about the idea, took action, and a few months later I'm sitting here waiting to fly out in a month to a place where girls like this are waiting for me:




Earning $30 000 a year, tax free, free accommodation and with dirt cheap living expenses. Plan to save quite a lot over 1 - 2 years of teaching... Then go live in a shack with an internet connection in Thailand, to work full time on internet marketing projects, which I've already begun working on.

Said goodbye to my Girlfriend of 9 months

Two days ago I said goodbye to a girl who is hot, fun, super easy to be around... And was also okay with me banging other girls. We also went out and a few times and threeway madeout with girls a few times. I'm sure most guys would agree that's a pretty good situation.

Over that though, i really got to know her and connect with her. It's easy to get carried away when you learn how to pull and forget how building deeper relationships with girls can be great. Over the last few months we were super cherishey and I enjoyed it. Got to say I'm pretty sad to say goodbye. Like proper. Oh well.

Getting LAYS and being creative with pulling in my hometown - I banged a girl in a bush!

I still banged a few new girls over the last couple months though, even though I'm staying with family till I leave. The problem there is clubs are super far away from where everyone stays so logistics are always terrible

The solutions?

#1 - HOUSE PARTY PULL 

I banged a girl on New Years Eve at my friend's house party. I actually got proper drunk for the first time in ages (5 litres of beer plus more). There was a cute girl who was a friend of a friend at the party. I arrived late, kind of stole the show, and was making out with her in the bathroom within the first half hour. Sealed the deal for later, then had an epic party and then banged girly till sunrise.

#2 PULL TO SECLUDED LOCATION

The other awesome lay I got was at a club that was right by a soccer stadium (I actually went to see a couple World Cup games there when we hosted it in 2012). 

This was awesome - I hadn't even being going out much but I just arrived and started killing it. Actually madeout with a mega hottie right before I pulled this girl, who wasn't as hot lol, which obviously helped. 

Pull was textbook: went in strong, move around, escalated hard. Actually I remember I was focusing on smooth, dynamic escalation that night and it was going amazingly. I was basically finguring this girl like 15min in. Then she says "if we only had somewhere to go". I am constantly happily suprised when girls say stuff like that. I say "well lets just go outside for a bit".

Then the mission to find somwhere to bang started. Pulled her to a barely concealed alley and start fingering her. We're about to fuck right there and then and then some dude walks past and we realize how obvious the spot is. I then take her across the road to the stadium and we go into the bathroom, lock the cubicle... and then security comes in and polite asks us to leave. LOL

So finally we find a nice little park area, sheltered yet right by the road. Cars are going past right by where we are but nobody can see anything. Proceed to bangtime. She comes super quickly... We lie on our backs and I deal with a mild "woah what am I doing" moment, after which she gives me a blowjob until I come in her mouth.

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So things have been good lately, but different from my lifestyle in Cape Town. 

Looking forward to Travel, Adventures and Korean Girls!

Anyungkeseyo!
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Super high quality reports brother.
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FIELD REPORT 
No words INSTAMAKEOUT with freaky hottest girl club then PULL PETITE BLONDE GERMAN for fun timez

Having some fundamental shifts in my game, number one being THERE IS NOTHING TO PROVE. Every guy is trying to prove something, whether it be how nice he is, how smooth he is, how much he doesn't care. Most RSD guys probably have more to prove than a regular guy.

As soon as you drop that and just do what you want t do girls will be putty in your hands..

FOR EXAMPLE, the girl I insta made out with.. I walked up to her, said nothing, looked into her eyes, grabbed her hair and pulled into her. She was freaky as fuck... jumping on me and wrapping her legs round me etc.. Tried to go for bathroom pull but no dice.

Then I find a super cute blonde german girl who is petite but curvey. I tone it down a lot but escalate suuuper smoothly. I leave with her and her friends, drive half her friends to there house then take her and her flatmate to her place. When we get there she tries to say goodbye but I say I'm coming in 

Get a blowie and she falls asleep. Plan to try get it in again in the morning but a friend is stuck at the club without money for taxi so I go rescue him and we drive off into the rising sun

Fuck I love the game!
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