THE FORUMS

Wednesday

Anton Taylor is something of a local celeb at University of Cape Town. The other day he apparently lost 10 followers on Twitter for tweeting "Where are all the american sluts at?". Well all the american sluts are at Stones in Observatory on Wednesdays.

Hit it up with 3 buddies. Text girl who was my first sober makeout (Sobi-wan) cause she lives in the area. She is there. Say cool i'll see you in 20.

Note: I was feeling very average today after 5 hours sleep. Hit a two hour nap later though which helped.

Get to the place feeling good. I'm 100% comfortable in bars/clubs now sober. In fact I feel even better as I walk through the door than I did outside.

For a second we kinda stand around awkwardly (my friends initiate the awkward standing around and i follow suite). But this just feels weird so I just stop being like that and take initiative to find a pool table for my mates.

See sobi-wan at the bar. Go in and its on as usual with her. Seen her twice now since I met her so its pretty on. We've been trying to make plans to "hang out and watch a dvd" but she was away and stuff.

Play pool with her, a friend of hers and a buddy of mine. My buddy fails to take initiative. Also, my mate form monday night who got the hot blonde is with me but he can't even talk to girls today (last night he got pretty drunk). That's why I love not drinking now. I just get better every night whereas alcohol just destroys peoples souls.

Hit up a bunch of girls on the way to the bathroom. I joke about how they're in the corner with the fire hydrant fro company. We vibe. I lock in with the one. She has a tight body, ok face. Chat a bit then tell her to find me just now. We then argue about what "just now" means. I tell her americans usage of it is retarded =)

Sobi-wan has work in the morning so is leaving after lots of cuteness and making out between us. We agree its high time we hang out alone.

I hit up two of the most gorgeous girls ever. They are SO HOT. I am not scared at all. I go in hard, charming as fuck. They love me. Can't even remember what I was saying but it was all witty and charming as hell. I teased them about them putting on fake american accents to fit in and other equally awesome shit. Mistake I made was trying to hold both of their attention + the third friend who arrived instead of locking in with the one when the other as talking to the third girl. Still, great set. The third friend made them head to another club. The only remotely bad part of the set was when i hugged them both goodbye, which was probably cause i wasn't 100% congruent with it.

See the girl from earlier again. I tell her we should go outside. We do. Sit down on a bench and talk. She askes how old I am. I say i'm 17. She says I'm lying. I say yes, I'm actually 26. I find this funny. Finally tell her I'm actually 21.

We talk about a whole bunch of stuff. I cut the threads I find boring/not condusive to where i want this to go. Especially when she mentions crime in South Africa... Americans LOVE talking about it when they come here. Nope, none of that thanks.

When she says there's lots of cool stuff in SA I say, "yeah like cute guys". She says no that was a surprise. I imitate a girls reaction to the discovery of hot guys here. Then I tell her SHE'S cute. Then I makeout with her.

I think she throws some tests at me when I'm getting her number but I don't even register them. I did however get the vibe that it was a "here & now" kind of thing and that calling her wouldn't get me anywhere. Logistics were bad for pull though as she mentioned how she always walks back with her whole group of friends, and also i'm driving my mates. Or maybe I was just pussying out. Pulling is definitely where my sticking point is at now. Or, more specifically, not even trying to pull. Like this probably would have went down. As I was leaving I saw her talking to some other guy and remember thinking, this chick just wants to be taken.

Also, something that may be a problem is that friend of sobi-wan saw me making out with the other girl. Maybe my worry about friends of girls you've hooked up with seeing you kissing another girl and telling on are legitimate afterall. Kinda felt bad actually and gave the friend a "well this is awkward" kinda look as I walked past her. I hope that doesn't screw up my chances with sobi-wan. I feel like I've gone over to the dark side here... 

Thursday 

Horribly out of state - push through and get two makeouts - pull girl from before home

Stood in the line for over and hour so am pissed when I get into the club. It's also REALLY full.

Worst state I've been in since I started going out every night. 

First approach I do, i come up from behind as she's watching the dancefloor. When she turns round I realise she's probably the hottest girl in the club. She's really nice and endures my super boring conversation. She even starts it up again when I fizzle. I leave casue I was boring myself and nagging voice in my head telling me to approach to get into state. Probably not a good way of looking at it.

After this I get destroyed. SO many blowouts. And it really got to me because its the worst i've been blown out for a long time. Everything I've opened recently has gone either really well, or at least ok. Girls were just ignoring me, saying hi and then walking off... I was like "BUT WHY??". I noticed that I was way more affected than i normally am.

Endure this for what seems like forever. Finally I decide to get some shots with friends because its so packed and people pushing into me was just getting to me. Then I felt bad because I "failed at my no drinking thing". In retrospect it wasn't all that bad, i only had 3 or 4 shots. However thats enough to make me lathargic.

Either way the alcohol didn't really make all that much of a difference physically. If anything it gave me a mental boost - like "ohhhh I can do this now", even though i didn't even feel a buzz or anythng. 

Eventually at some point I snap into some form of state. I approach a cutie in a flower dress who is walking the other way behind her friend. The friend carries on walking. I get physical straight away, put her against the wall. Say one or two words that weren't really important. Then I tell her I'm going to kiss her and do so. I don't really want to stick around for some reason so I get her number. For some reason this felt wrong, and think she felt it too. It was probably to do with the fact that i went in hard and was this cool guy... And then POOF that dissapeared and I was asking for her number.

My state is pumped, so I immediately hit up the next girl i see. She's hot. Go in hard again. She hits me up with this volley of questions. I answer each one like a boss and look at her like NEXT! Then I tell her to shh and kiss her. We makeout, talk, makeout more. Nice vibe. After a while i grab her number and mission.

Hit up some girls on the dancefloor with my mate. This is his prefered way of hooking up cause he gets drunk and doesn't need to be be able to talk properly. I also used to be like this but have found that approaching a chick and talking is way more effective. 

I see M on the dancefloor. Go over to her and we say hey, dance a bit, makeout. Spend the next half hour or so with her. 

I'm pretty tired at this point. I feel like going to pull her home is going to take a lot of energy so i'm resistent to doing it. I think i have this sticking point of note trying to pull girls cause in my mind I see all these insane pulls you PU freaks pull off and am like "well I'm going to fail at that". What i realised here is that you're basically just leaving together. She said i could stay at her place after I say i'm tired and want to go and asked if she wants to come with me.

Get to her place and her flatmate is passed out at their door. Me and this other dude carry him in and put him on his bed. He was completely out the whole time, LOL

Get in bed with her, we fool around. LMR again. Get top and bra off. No go with getting the bottoms off even though i was rubbing her through her pants and she was loving it. Washed, rinsed, repeated like a gazzilion times. Eventually i settle for a BJ (which was pretty fucking awesome). She tells me I'm really hot.

Good reference experience for pushing through to state. At one point I experienced this feeling of complete hopelessness and wondered how I had ever done this sober before. I couldn't even remember what it was like to be on.