THE FORUMS

December 3rd, 2016
Juggernaut's FRs: confessions of a chode (Currently on a 4.5 month challenge)
Your rating: None
Bookmark and Share
Juggernaut92

Juggernaut92

Senior Member

Join Date: 12/25/2011 | Posts: 225

 Alright so I am finally going to start a field report here to keep track of my progress. First, I will give a little background info on my self. I have been a chode pretty much all my life but I have made the commitment to change myself at the ripe age of 19 lol. I am a five foot seven brown guy with a slim build. Like I said I am 19 but a lot of people told me I look older like around 22-24 lol probably cause im a hairy dude with lots of facial hair.

I live in Mississauga, Canada. I live close by to Toronto and will reach there once I get better. I will mostly be doing daygame because my parents are retarted and dont want me to be out past 12 lol. I will make the best of what I have.

I have almost zero experienc with women (never had sex, never had a kiss, etc.). I have been reading material for like 7 months now and I am finally putting it into practice. I made the decision to change myself because on new years eve I just stayed in my own house secluded from the world and really depressed about how I didnt have any girl to kiss at midnight. That is when I knew I didnt want to experience any other new years eve like that. 

Anyways here is my first FR

January 9, 2012



Today was the first day of college for me and I was really excited to go. Once I got there I noticed that there were more cute girls than I had previously expected.

I wanted to approach at college but I was hanging out with a guy I met in my class and we were just chilling so I didnt approach.

I went to the mall twice actually lol and I still didnt approach and I felt so shitty. 

Then my friend ( who is also into pickup and is a memeber of this thread) told me to go out once again and he would force me to approach lol.

Little did I know he actually did force me to approach one girl lol. We were walking towards the mall and my friend poitns and a girl and tells me to go talk to her. I was scared shitless so my friend being the awesome person that he is runs up to the girl and says "hey my friend over there thought you were really cute" LOL. I felt like crap haha but it did motivate me to approach.

The next girl we saw I went in and approached her:

Me: Hey I thought you were really cute and I just had to meet you
HB: that is great (she keeps walking as I deliever my opener)
Me: Dont you want to stop and talk to me. ( me not following her and just standing and continuing talking to her)
HB: No not really

LOL. So yeah that did not go too well. Upon going up to the girl she was actually kind of ugly lol so she probably didnt believe me when I said she was cute and I didnt either.

Anyways, tommorow is a new day and I will go apeshit on this pickup thing and talk to girls in my college and also hit up the mall again too.

Also, does anyone know a good way to stop a girl with out touching her? like should I just raise my voice? Any advice would on this or any general pickup stuff would be great.
__________________
"Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still"

"Success consists of going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm"

"In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing, the worst thing you can do is nothing"

My Journal - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/208583/forum
Login or register to post.
#1
Gravity

Gravity

Trusted Member

Join Date: 07/06/2011 | Posts: 1681

 LOL thanks i try my best bro
as for the last question i told you that THE FORCE is the way to go bro! fucking works sooooooooooooooooo nice <3 
Login or register to post.
#2
Juggernaut92

Juggernaut92

Senior Member

Join Date: 12/25/2011 | Posts: 225

January 10, 2012

So today is another new day for me at college.

I get on the bus to go to college. I sit next to a girl on the bus and decide to chat her up. She looked cute from the side. I ask her if she knows where I can sign up for clubs for our college. She says she doesnt know. It turns out she isn't cute and also her breath stinks! so i just cut off the conversation right there LOL. I also meet my friend's ex on the bus. She looked cute before but now she just got fat and has lots of acne. Maybe that is why my friend broke up with her lol. Anyways we chat a bit and I tell her we should hang out sometime. She says sure just text me sometime. I hope she has some hot friends...

I get to math class and realize that my math professor is hot! This could prove to be a serious distraction from my learning. I also notice there is really cute blonde girl seated behind me. The teacher made us all meet eachother so I introduced myself to her and we chatted briefly. I am going to game her for sure next time I see her.

Also, it was nice to be interacting with strangers at school since I was taking a year and half off from school. I was getting my comfort level up and felt great about it.

Fast forward and I am going for my work out at YMCA. I go to the washroom and needed to use the stall. Some guy comes out and his bag is still hanging inside. I say "hey are you done?" . He tells me yeah sorry just give me a minute. Then out of nowhere he just start a conversation and keeps plowing. He tells me how he goes to some college downtown to become a personal trainer and how he ate only one pizza slice for the whole day and how he cant wait to go home and eat. Then this guy just says enjoy your workout and take it easy and then just leaves. This interaction leaves me in amazement because although we were strangers, this guy just talks for a minute and a half and then it seems like I am his bestriend and I could feel that rapport being established. Anyways I will remember this interaction and try to replicate it with women because it was really cool to see someone establish rapport so quickly. 

I was really tired after my workout and did not feel like approaching so I just went home.
__________________
"Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still"

"Success consists of going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm"

"In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing, the worst thing you can do is nothing"

My Journal - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/208583/forum
Login or register to post.
#3
Juggernaut92

Juggernaut92

Senior Member

Join Date: 12/25/2011 | Posts: 225

 January 19th 2012

Alright so I went to my school Pub night and it was alright. 

Me and my friend got into the pub at around 10 pm and it was completley bare. It was cool though because in the line up I met two friends who I went clubbing with a while ago.

Back inside I saw these two cute girls just standing there and after much persistence from my friend I finally opened my first 2 set. They were kind of chubby but I could use the practice lol. Anyways this was the shittiest approach ever haha. So basically I opened with "hey I just had to come over here cause I think you girls are cute". They seemed pretty receptive and one girl was teasing me saying "yeah our boyfriends think we are cute too". The short girl asked me what program I was in. I had a really hard time talking with them cause I am not used to raising my voice so I have to work on the vocal projection. The conversation I had was really choppy and filled with tons of awkward pauses. After a few minutes I just said it was nice meeting you and then got out of there. 

For the rest of the night it was kinda dowh hill. I formed a chode cluster with my buddies and that was it. I also saw Kristina Maria perform live so that was cool. My parents are pretty restrictive me staying out so I decided to leave at midnight and good thing too because I caught the last bus. The pub was open till 2 but I felt I lost my drive to approach so good thing I left.

I think I want to focus on more daygame because I find club game kind of difficult. As I can barely hear what girls are saying and also because I can not stay out that late. 
Need to work on:
-vocal projection
-building momentum and approaching
-not caring what other people think about me
__________________
"Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still"

"Success consists of going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm"

"In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing, the worst thing you can do is nothing"

My Journal - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/208583/forum
Login or register to post.
#4
Cat

Cat

Trusted Member

Join Date: 12/03/2010 | Posts: 2359

Dude.

Great work.

Don't give up.

And don't let yourself believe that bullshit, there is NO SUCH THING AS A BAD APPROACH.  Why? 

BECAUSE YOU APPROACHED.

I am so dead serious about this.  

Also I think a direct style is really good.

I would encourage you to work on as much social activity as you can within pickup as well as without pickup, e.g. sports, study groups, clubs etc.  

The more time you spend during the day talking the better.  Seriously.

Keep going.  It's easy to give up, fuck that.
__________________
Login or register to post.
#5
Juggernaut92

Juggernaut92

Senior Member

Join Date: 12/25/2011 | Posts: 225

@Cat- thanks a lot man. You are right. I gotta change that negative mindset. I am getting better at aprroaching is what I should say:)

January 23 2012

Today I went out to college and arrived early before my classes to get some sarging done but I just choded around and then I needed help with some math problem so nothing really happened. 

When I was taking the bus home there was this cute girl sitting next to me. It took me 5 minutes to finally get the courage to open her.

I asked her for her opinion on what I should do when a girls asks whether or not her clothes make her look fat. She kinda smiles and gives a response. I am practicing eye contact and I am staring into her eyes the whole time and then I forgot to continue the convo LOL. She had nice eyes and I kinda just got lost in them lol. Anyways, the rest of the bus ride was just silent. It was not as awkward as I thought it would be.

This one approach seems miniscule but I am going to try and build momentum off of this.

Need to work on:
-continuing the conversationg and not dropping the ball
__________________
"Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still"

"Success consists of going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm"

"In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing, the worst thing you can do is nothing"

My Journal - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/208583/forum
Login or register to post.
#6

boggles

Junior Member

Join Date: 12/31/2011 | Posts: 19

Dude, don't forget about the power of touch. It helps me a lot.
When you exchange your names, just shake her hand with a smile and intense eye contact. Also try holding the handshake while talking to her for a little longer than normal, just don't creep her out.

Then slap her lightly with the back of your hand when you say something. This is especially good when you are hopping to a different topic. Just don't look at the place where you touch her.

Then you can start touching her on the shoulder for brief moments. And just keep escalating like that. Oh yeah and the high fives, remember to throw those in.
__________________
 
Login or register to post.
#7
Juggernaut92

Juggernaut92

Senior Member

Join Date: 12/25/2011 | Posts: 225

 @boggles- Yes I should incorporate touch as well. The thing is that I suffer from hyperhydrosis which gives me sweaty palms. Whenever I am in a situation that makes me anxious my hands just start sweating lol. Today shook a girls hand because my hands were not sweaty for some weird reason. Whevever my hands will allowe it I will incorporate touch.

January 28, 2012

So today I went to square one mall and then first I go in and then walk around and I just feel way too scared to approach. I go around the mall once and then head to the bus terminal. I see a cute girl and I contemplate for a full 5 minutes whether or not I should approach her. I chode around and decide to go for it but at the last second I get too scared. I just go out of the terminal centre and wait for my bus outside. I see another cute girl and this time I dont want to out. So I approach her and it goes like this:

J: Hey, I thought you were really cute and I just had to meet you
HB: *starts giggling* hey so is that your pickup line?
J: No. Im serious I thought you were reallly cute.
HB: ok well my name is ******
J: My name is ***** (I smile and shake her hand)

We talk for a minute or two. She tells me she is coming from work and is waiting for a bus to go home. I tell her I am going to get a haircut and waiting for the bus. She seems pretty receptive and even asks questions when the conversation kinda hits a break. She asks me where I go to school. A little while later my bus comes and its time to go. She is like my second good interaction I EVER had so I didnt go for the phone number lol. Maybe I was just afraid of rejection or maybe I thought it was too good to be true for her to give me her number so I didnt ask. I just said it was nice talking to you and then got on my bus.

After my haircut, I get back on the bus and upon entering I see these two cute girls. I sit kinda behind them. For around 10 minutes I contemplate how to open them. Finally I go with this:

J:Hey excuse me
HB:*both girls look back and only one talks* Hey
J: Hey I need a quick female opinon on something. *I pull off my hat* So what do you think about my haircut?
HB: It looks really nice.
J: okay thanks

That is the whole interaction LOL.

I need to work on continuing the interaction. I was too focused on her opinion of my haircut that I totally let the ball drop lol. Something that I must work on. 

Anyways, I get back in the mall and want to do some approaches but I really dont want to, however, this time I am not as nervous as the previous times. I am just walking around thinking if I can approach more girls today then that will be great but if i dont then that will also be fine lol. I just felt really tired and hungry now since I had not eaten for almost 4 hours and decide to finally go home.

All in all, today was a good day. My first interaction went well and I enjoyed talking to her and she looked like she was enjoying herself as well so that was really good. I need to work on approaching moving sets. It seems like I am scared to stop a moving person for some reason lmao. 

Need to work on:
-continuing the conversation
-number closing
-less hesitation and more action
__________________
"Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still"

"Success consists of going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm"

"In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing, the worst thing you can do is nothing"

My Journal - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/208583/forum
Login or register to post.
#8
Juggernaut92

Juggernaut92

Senior Member

Join Date: 12/25/2011 | Posts: 225

 January 29th, 2012

Just another regular day at college.

I have time off and I go eat lunch with some of my firends. I spot a cute blonde across the cafeteria and she is just sitting alone. I really want to approach but I just keep thinking about how many ways I could mess up lol. I decided I would go to the washroom first and then on my way back I would approach her. 

On my way to the washroom I bumb into this girl I knew from highschool. She is a really cute filipino girl who I sat next to in english class. We walked and talked for a bit. She tells me she works at the college. I stop in front of the washroom door and she keeps walking. Then I say give me your number, we gotta hang out some time. She gives me her number.

That right there would be my FIRST number close. It was not like a cold approach but whatever. First number close so I was pretty happy. 

On my way back I wanted to open the cute blonde to continue my momentum. She was talking with some guy and I really wasn't confident enough to go in there and interrupt them lol. I just though I will do this some other time.

On my way home I get on the bus and then there are these two cute girls sitting to the left of me. I hesitate for like 5 minutes and then I finally open them up with "hey do you know how to apply for jobs at college?" 
It was a question I actually needed an answer to lol. We talked and I found out that they are both sisters even though they dont look alike. After like a minute I just kinda stopped talking lol. It kinda felt like they were getting uncomfortable so I just stopped. Which was pretty stupid now that I think about it. 

My friend told me that they got uncomfortable because I started feeling uncomfortable when talking to them. Kind of a mindfuck but I am guessing that is what happened.

I head over to sportcheck to buy a skipping rope. I get my skipping rope and head to the counter and I notice this chick who works there used to work at this grocery store I used to work at. I told her she looked really familiar. Then I saw did you ever work at *******?
She goes yes. Then Im like cool that is where I have seen you. I wanted to game her but she looked super creeped out lol so I just left. The thing is while working at this grocery store, I used to be a super chode even though all the cashiers were smoking hot lol.

Anyways I am happy wiht my first number close and I am actually starting to like approaching girls because whatever happens is always unpredictable.

Need to work on:
-less hesitation (maybe follow Mystery's 3 second rule lol)
-more approaching/ seizing oppurtunities
-plowing the conversation
__________________
"Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still"

"Success consists of going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm"

"In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing, the worst thing you can do is nothing"

My Journal - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/208583/forum
Login or register to post.
#9
Juggernaut92

Juggernaut92

Senior Member

Join Date: 12/25/2011 | Posts: 225

 February 7th, 2012

All right. Today I decide that I want to make some solid changes. I start this at my college by going around and just being a bit more social in general. I really keep to myself a lot so this is a big step for me. 

I find it really enjoyable and felt much happier at the end of the day. 

The filipino girl that I number closed did not respond to my text that I sent her. It kinda seemed awkward in the hall when we saw eachother. We just smiled and then kept walking our seperate ways. I will call her up later on in the week.

I am starting a new diet so I felt lazy as fuck and didnt approach any girls at school.

Starting from tommorow I will cold approach 1 girl a day. Preferably 5 if it is possible. 

One problem is that I am always chilling with this guy in school who has no game lol. He kinda hinders mine a bit too. I will either talk to him to make some approaches with me or make some new friends. 
__________________
"Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still"

"Success consists of going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm"

"In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing, the worst thing you can do is nothing"

My Journal - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/208583/forum
Login or register to post.
#10
Juggernaut92

Juggernaut92

Senior Member

Join Date: 12/25/2011 | Posts: 225

 February 15th, 2012

Well today was a good day. I did one direct apporach today. I went up to this cute girl in my cafeteria and had a little conversation going. 

She had some weird name that I can quite remember. There were 2 dudes on either side of her and to disarm them I just said "you are going out with one of these guys right". She is like no we are just friends. The 2 chodes continued on doing their work. The girl said she would talk to me later so it was not quite a blowout. Maybe I should of gotten the number but she is in one of my classes so I can probably grab it later. 

I did another approach and just asked for the time. Girl just gave me the time and life went on lol.

I am basically just practicing being social with both girls and guys and slowly working my way up with apporaching more women as well. I will direct apporach 1 girl for this week and then I will increase it slowly. 

Edit: I went out to do nightgame as well. I head out at around 10 and go to a pub near my local mall. I get in and I am immediately stifled. I walked around the pub for a bit and didnt approach so I just sat down and ordered a drink. Yes I know conformity wins for this time. I literally sat there for an hour before I wanted to make an approach. I finally go in on some two set sitting down. I just ask them how their night is going and we just have a short conversation. After that I look around and its midnight and every girl has some chode talking to her so im like fuck it and just leave. I was planning on going bar hopping but I found out that the other bar I was going to charged cover and I said fuck that for some reason lol. I felt pretty tired and felt drunk cause I never drank for months so I just decide to head home. 

Not the night gaming session but atleast I approached. I knew I could approach the girls in the pub but I didnt for some reason. I guess I might just be scared of success. Next time I go out will be different.
__________________
"Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still"

"Success consists of going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm"

"In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing, the worst thing you can do is nothing"

My Journal - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/208583/forum
Login or register to post.