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December 8th, 2016
Questions are stronger than statements
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Fingerman

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durrrrrrrr
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Apostle

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Fingerman wrote:


Do you want to go for a walk?
Can I go with you?
Do you want to see me again?
Do you want to hang out this week?
What do you think about me?
Do you think I would make a good boyfriend?
You're building a Yes-ladder but nonetheless some of these questions IMO lack assertiveness, do you balance the lack of assertion by using a neutral to break-rapporting seeking tonality when asking them?
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Assertiveness without complience makes you a delusionnal douchebag that noine likes
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Fingerman wrote:


Do you want to go for a walk?
Can I go with you?
Do you want to see me again?
Do you want to hang out this week?
What do you think about me?
Do you think I would make a good boyfriend?
You're building a Yes-ladder but nonetheless some of these questions IMO lack assertiveness, do you balance the lack of assertion by using a neutral to break-rapporting seeking tonality when asking them?
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I see what you're doing. I like it.
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 i will try
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 That's good, I will try this.
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Fingerman wrote:
They say in the community not to ask questions, to make statements.

It is true that it will be better to say "You look like you're from California" instead of saying "Are you from California?". It is also true that it would be better to say "I like to ice skate." instead of saying "Do you like to ice skate?"

The reasons for that are obvious.

Though, asking questions that can be answered by YES or NO builds complience. People always wonder how I can pull girls and build so much complience by just standing there and talking.

I don't lead. I don't say "Let's do this". I don't say "You look like an independant person." I ask the question. Instead I inception myself in their mind. I plant the seed, and let it grow.

Do you think I'm handsome?
If we had been dating for a while, would you fuck me tonight?
Do you want to go for a walk?
Do you want to come home with me?
Can I go with you?

All those questions serve one purpose, to build complience slowly. If she agrees to a question like that, her mind will start thinking that way because every person is always striving for consistency in their behaviors. If she agrees that you're handsome, it will not make sense for her to not want to kiss you. If you ask her do you want to kiss, it will not make sense for her not to do it. If you ask her, do you want to come to my house and she says yes, it will not make sense for her to freak out halfway through or to decide to go home all of a sudden when her friends call her.

Build complience, build consistency.

I always ask girls:

Do you want to see me again?
Do you want to hang out this week?
What do you think about me?
Do you think I would make a good boyfriend?

They don't always answer, but when they do, they rarely answer negatively, because they are scared of offending you, so the fear of offending you is stronger than the fear of having to be consistent with her past behaviors.

You obviously want to start with smaller questions that she will answer "yes" for sure.
Hmm. you dont lead. that is so wierd because brad is so huge on leading, and ive been trying to lead and kinda failing alot and not getting compliance. maybe i need to try this and build compliance slower.

this does not look like attraction material to me. When do you start asking questions? like when the comfort phase begins?

So often I will just go for the makeout, and sometimes it is indeed uncalibrated and shes not ready. so will you ask her if she wants to kiss you and then go for the makeout?

Also, this looks a slow pull style, so if you have an hour to kill with the friends, do you just chill and be comfortable with the girl and her friendS? you wont try to entertain to much or run attraction? or will you stay in comfort phase for like an hour or two? sorry if these are dumb questions, I just dont have alot of experience with your very different style.
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 FUck I rmember reading this when he first wrote it and it helped me a lot. THANK YOU FOR THE BUMP! ANd Finger man COME BACK TO TDOT MUTHAFUCKA!
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 This shit is gold.
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