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Sounds about right - thanks amigo.
Sounds about right - thanks amigo.
No worries maing.
Alright, since I'm a newb at this (a month in from going out most nights), I've got a couple more Qs about this.
1) I had a Day 2 planned on Wednesday night for 6pm (we planned this out on Tues). Girl doesn't show up. I wait a bit, drop her a couple of calls. It finally reaches 6.45pm and I can't be bothered to wait. I get a little frustrated, but not that crazy. I drop her a text saying:
"I'm heading over to meet my buddies instead. Next time give people advance notice if you're not coming."
She replies back with...
"Omg sorry...I forgot. And I just woke up."
This is after 6.45pm, lol. I just ignore it completely because it sounds silly.
Was this a bad reaction on my part? I wasn't too fussed about it in my text. I even had back-up plans in case she flaked. I was just setting down a mild boundary. I would be cool with it if she told me in advance.
2) When do you guys text the girl the first time around when you get their number. I've had very little success getting girls to text back if I text them on the same night. Maybe I didn't generate enough attraction in the interaction (I do street game).
Cheers.
1) I had a Day 2 planned on Wednesday night for 6pm (we planned this out on Tues). Girl doesn't show up. I wait a bit, drop her a couple of calls. It finally reaches 6.45pm and I can't be bothered to wait. I get a little frustrated, but not that crazy. I drop her a text saying:
"I'm heading over to meet my buddies instead. Next time give people advance notice if you're not coming."
She replies back with...
"Omg sorry...I forgot. And I just woke up."
This is after 6.45pm, lol. I just ignore it completely because it sounds silly.
Was this a bad reaction on my part? I wasn't too fussed about it in my text. I even had back-up plans in case she flaked. I was just setting down a mild boundary. I would be cool with it if she told me in advance.
2) When do you guys text the girl the first time around when you get their number. I've had very little success getting girls to text back if I text them on the same night. Maybe I didn't generate enough attraction in the interaction (I do street game).
Cheers.
Alright, since I'm a newb at this (a month in from going out most nights), I've got a couple more Qs about this.
1) I had a Day 2 planned on Wednesday night for 6pm (we planned this out on Tues). Girl doesn't show up. I wait a bit, drop her a couple of calls. It finally reaches 6.45pm and I can't be bothered to wait. I get a little frustrated, but not that crazy. I drop her a text saying:
"I'm heading over to meet my buddies instead. Next time give people advance notice if you're not coming."
She replies back with...
"Omg sorry...I forgot. And I just woke up."
This is after 6.45pm, lol. I just ignore it completely because it sounds silly.
Was this a bad reaction on my part? I wasn't too fussed about it in my text. I even had back-up plans in case she flaked. I was just setting down a mild boundary. I would be cool with it if she told me in advance.
2) When do you guys text the girl the first time around when you get their number. I've had very little success getting girls to text back if I text them on the same night. Maybe I didn't generate enough attraction in the interaction (I do street game).
Cheers.
1) Don't ever do that again. It's a good idea to confirm the SAME DAY that you still have plans. Say if you have plans at 6. Text her a few hours before saying..1) I had a Day 2 planned on Wednesday night for 6pm (we planned this out on Tues). Girl doesn't show up. I wait a bit, drop her a couple of calls. It finally reaches 6.45pm and I can't be bothered to wait. I get a little frustrated, but not that crazy. I drop her a text saying:
"I'm heading over to meet my buddies instead. Next time give people advance notice if you're not coming."
She replies back with...
"Omg sorry...I forgot. And I just woke up."
This is after 6.45pm, lol. I just ignore it completely because it sounds silly.
Was this a bad reaction on my part? I wasn't too fussed about it in my text. I even had back-up plans in case she flaked. I was just setting down a mild boundary. I would be cool with it if she told me in advance.
2) When do you guys text the girl the first time around when you get their number. I've had very little success getting girls to text back if I text them on the same night. Maybe I didn't generate enough attraction in the interaction (I do street game).
Cheers.
"Hey! I got a couple errands I have to do after work, I'll meet you at X place / I'll pick you up / pick me up at 6. Look cute, I will".
This way you prevent that whole, "I'm sitting here waiting at this place, and she just stood me up" kinda thing. I would never just do that. I need confirmation. Cause if she flakes, I'll go hang with my buddies / another girl / make music instead. If she responds to the text I told you and it's on, then that's cool. If she doesn't, then I'd call her a couple hours before the date and say the same thing in the text. "Hey! Just calling you to say that I have a couple errands to do, but I'll pick you up / meet you / you can pick me up around 6". If I've texted, AND called and still NO response, then she's prob gonna flake. I don't contact her again for a whole week.
2) I'll usually text them like an hour after I meet them. Something like, "Hey! it's jRad (that cooool dude you met at the mall / street / cafe today)". That's it. If the interaction went well, she'll text you back. If she doesn't, I'll wait a week and call her. If she picks up, cool. If not, I leave a voicemail and delete her number.
Hope that helped.
You da man.
jRad
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Is this when you drop it - I'm not sure when to be relentless and when to call it quits.
Cheers.
I'd wait a week. Then call her. Leave a voicemail if she doesn't pick up. Then text her saying, 'check your voicemail'. Then leave it at that. Let her come to you. If she does, cool. If not, delete it.
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