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December 8th, 2016
Give me MOTIVATION. PLEASE
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HaydenM

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Join Date: 04/12/2010 | Posts: 69

 I'm starting to get pissed off now. I'm currently tipsy, but i'm ALONE.

You see, what I sometimes do is GET DRUNK AND GO OUT ALONE AND HOPE THAT IM GONNA DECIDE TO APPROACH GIRLS

BUT I FUCKING NEVER DO

I JUST GET DRUNK, AND END UP WITH LIKE NO MOMENTUM, AND CAN'T DO SHIT.

SO

TOnight is the night. I'm going to use the instant - you see you go- approach. I'm gonna approach, without even thinking beforehand of what to say, because I know that when you approach, you become alert, and more things come to you.

THis is not some self-esteem issue

It's just me not being used to approaching issue.

So any advice on how I can force myself here? MUCH APPRECIATED. Thanks
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AlexV

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Join Date: 11/12/2011 | Posts: 1537

don't analyse unless you're taking action

If you're not taking action, go take action. YOU'RE GOING TO BE DEAD SOON.

As for motivation, you like pussy, right?
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AlexV

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Join Date: 11/12/2011 | Posts: 1537

 Actually, here's a better reply:

go do it and then you'll want to keep doing it :)
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duenher

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Join Date: 06/04/2010 | Posts: 246

hello im the motivation fairy



i grant your wish for motivation, go and fuck girls now
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MHawk

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duenher wrote:
hello im the motivation fairy



i grant your wish for motivation, go and fuck girls now
HAHA 
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Tyler

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You're losing within the first 30 seconds.

Three hours later you're wondering why you can't approach, but it's because in the first THIRTY SECONDS you entered the club you established a rhythm of "I'm a loser who doesn't approach".

Nobody who stales out can suddenly "Jump back into action".  You're brow beating yourself for not approaching, when it's impossible to approach if you have no momentum as your brain blocks you with emotional impulse controls.  You must take control of your brain -- be the horse rider and riiiiide the fucken horse -- and prove to it soon as you get in the venue that it's okay to hit it up hard.

The time you've gone out hasn't been a waste.  You've learn what DOES NOT WORK.  (Seriously.)

Take all that emotional pain you gained from going and NOT approaching within the first 30 seconds.  Approach IMMEDIATELY FUCKING IMMEDIATELY RIGHT FUCKING NOW and DO NOT BE OUT OF SET FOR MORE THAN 30 SECONDS THE FIRST HOUR.

The second you stop approaching you are DONE for the night.  FUCKED HARD.  You are a LOSER.

All you want to do is immediately approach as soon as you get in, scamper up those two "hills" the video talks about, and you will pull the finest girl in the fucken club by the end of the night.

**Remember:  if you don't approach within the first 30 seconds and maintain that the first hour, your night will be a waste.  If you haven't hit it up immediately upon entry just leave and go to another bar, because otherwise you'll sit there getting drunk and wasting your night.

Tyler
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HaydenM

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Tyler wrote:


You're losing within the first 30 seconds.

Three hours later you're wondering why you can't approach, but it's because in the first THIRTY SECONDS you entered the club you established a rhythm of "I'm a loser who doesn't approach".

Nobody who stales out can suddenly "Jump back into action".  You're brow beating yourself for not approaching, when it's impossible to approach if you have no momentum as your brain blocks you with emotional impulse controls.  You must take control of your brain -- be the horse rider and riiiiide the fucken horse -- and prove to it soon as you get in the venue that it's okay to hit it up hard.

The time you've gone out hasn't been a waste.  You've learn what DOES NOT WORK.  (Seriously.)

Take all that emotional pain you gained from going and NOT approaching within the first 30 seconds.  Approach IMMEDIATELY FUCKING IMMEDIATELY RIGHT FUCKING NOW and DO NOT BE OUT OF SET FOR MORE THAN 30 SECONDS THE FIRST HOUR.

The second you stop approaching you are DONE for the night.  FUCKED HARD.  You are a LOSER.

All you want to do is immediately approach as soon as you get in, scamper up those two "hills" the video talks about, and you will pull the finest girl in the fucken club by the end of the night.

**Remember:  if you don't approach within the first 30 seconds and maintain that the first hour, your night will be a waste.  If you haven't hit it up immediately upon entry just leave and go to another bar, because otherwise you'll sit there getting drunk and wasting your night.

Tyler
Thank you Tyler, I've not really thought of it that way -- 'You're losing within the first 30 seconds' --

Too often when I enter, I go to the toilet first, or when with friends I go talk to them for a bit, or go buy a drink etc. I find it difficult to force myself to just do it as soon as I enter.

Any tips on ways I can make it inevitable?, for example, when I was with friends, I played the '30 second game', which worked quite well. But that only works when I have friends around :/

Guess I just gotta do it...Maybe amp myself up before? Like Tony Robbins before the firewalk.
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HaydenM wrote:

Tyler wrote:


You're losing within the first 30 seconds.

Three hours later you're wondering why you can't approach, but it's because in the first THIRTY SECONDS you entered the club you established a rhythm of "I'm a loser who doesn't approach".

Nobody who stales out can suddenly "Jump back into action".  You're brow beating yourself for not approaching, when it's impossible to approach if you have no momentum as your brain blocks you with emotional impulse controls.  You must take control of your brain -- be the horse rider and riiiiide the fucken horse -- and prove to it soon as you get in the venue that it's okay to hit it up hard.

The time you've gone out hasn't been a waste.  You've learn what DOES NOT WORK.  (Seriously.)

Take all that emotional pain you gained from going and NOT approaching within the first 30 seconds.  Approach IMMEDIATELY FUCKING IMMEDIATELY RIGHT FUCKING NOW and DO NOT BE OUT OF SET FOR MORE THAN 30 SECONDS THE FIRST HOUR.

The second you stop approaching you are DONE for the night.  FUCKED HARD.  You are a LOSER.

All you want to do is immediately approach as soon as you get in, scamper up those two "hills" the video talks about, and you will pull the finest girl in the fucken club by the end of the night.

**Remember:  if you don't approach within the first 30 seconds and maintain that the first hour, your night will be a waste.  If you haven't hit it up immediately upon entry just leave and go to another bar, because otherwise you'll sit there getting drunk and wasting your night.

Tyler
Thank you Tyler, I've not really thought of it that way -- 'You're losing within the first 30 seconds' --

Too often when I enter, I go to the toilet first, or when with friends I go talk to them for a bit, or go buy a drink etc. I find it difficult to force myself to just do it as soon as I enter.

Any tips on ways I can make it inevitable?, for example, when I was with friends, I played the '30 second game', which worked quite well. But that only works when I have friends around :/

Guess I just gotta do it...Maybe amp myself up before? Like Tony Robbins before the firewalk.


Dude this was my sticking point for about 5 months.  This is what you need to do.  Make it your ONLY GOAL FOR THE ENTIRE NIGHT TO APPROACH THE FIRST GIRL YOU SEE, Thats it, if you don't do that, GO HOME, LEAVE, GIVE UP, MASTERBAIT, PLAY X-BOX.  That is your only mission until that becomes a habbit. and totally automatic.  If you fuck up and still want to try again, leave the bar, go sit in your car and listen to music for 20 minutes.  Then try again until you can approach the FIRST GIRL YOU SEE after leaving your car.  Even if you just say Hi and introduce yourself and ask boring interview questions.  You only goal is to talk to her. Pickup starts as soon as you leave the car, not in the venue.

AFTER you have completely integrated that behavior, THEN start chaining approaches together.  Just approach EVERY GIRL you see with no hesitation, don't worry if she is hot, just keep your mouth moving, use the claw and make it stronger, and get the ball rolling. Your only goal now is to remain in set for as long as you can with no longer than 1 minute of not having a conversation with a stranger.  I even joke around with other dudes in the bathroom if I am in line to take a piss or even while taking a piss.  Its GO GO GO all the time.  Eventually you won't need to go this hard, but until then this is the fastest way to learn how to build momentum.  Do this untill it becomes automatic and you don't have to apply conscious effort to it.  Once you can do this, its just a matter of going out, escalating, and going for the phone/facebook/pull/etc.  This is when all this game shit will actually help you.  Untill then, don't worry about the specifics, most of your problems will autocorrect themselves just by being social.  If you run into a problem in set over and over, then look for the answers here or attend an RSD Hotseat/Bootcamp, or read Physical Game by Ozzie.
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pepelepewjr

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Join Date: 01/03/2012 | Posts: 9

Look dude.i'll make it real fucking simple for you.if you want to send me a private message i'd even give you a fucking call if you had the balls to talk to me.the longer you sit there at your computer reading this shit the less you are going to have.it's about goddamned time you remembered you had a ballsack.reach in your pants.feel that?yea those are your nuts.now this should be the last message you read on RSD until you've gone out and approached non stop for at least 15 minutes.come back here and tell us all to fuck off afterwards,because your a man now.feel the power of stepping up.it feels fucking good doesnt? ;)
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#9

PatrickBateman17

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Join Date: 03/24/2011 | Posts: 290

 Motivation doesn't appear from nowhere, it is built from consistent hard work so you become a highly motivated PERSON.
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#10

HaydenM

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Join Date: 04/12/2010 | Posts: 69

RockNRollPUA wrote:

HaydenM wrote:

Tyler wrote:


You're losing within the first 30 seconds.

Three hours later you're wondering why you can't approach, but it's because in the first THIRTY SECONDS you entered the club you established a rhythm of "I'm a loser who doesn't approach".

Nobody who stales out can suddenly "Jump back into action".  You're brow beating yourself for not approaching, when it's impossible to approach if you have no momentum as your brain blocks you with emotional impulse controls.  You must take control of your brain -- be the horse rider and riiiiide the fucken horse -- and prove to it soon as you get in the venue that it's okay to hit it up hard.

The time you've gone out hasn't been a waste.  You've learn what DOES NOT WORK.  (Seriously.)

Take all that emotional pain you gained from going and NOT approaching within the first 30 seconds.  Approach IMMEDIATELY FUCKING IMMEDIATELY RIGHT FUCKING NOW and DO NOT BE OUT OF SET FOR MORE THAN 30 SECONDS THE FIRST HOUR.

The second you stop approaching you are DONE for the night.  FUCKED HARD.  You are a LOSER.

All you want to do is immediately approach as soon as you get in, scamper up those two "hills" the video talks about, and you will pull the finest girl in the fucken club by the end of the night.

**Remember:  if you don't approach within the first 30 seconds and maintain that the first hour, your night will be a waste.  If you haven't hit it up immediately upon entry just leave and go to another bar, because otherwise you'll sit there getting drunk and wasting your night.

Tyler
Thank you Tyler, I've not really thought of it that way -- 'You're losing within the first 30 seconds' --

Too often when I enter, I go to the toilet first, or when with friends I go talk to them for a bit, or go buy a drink etc. I find it difficult to force myself to just do it as soon as I enter.

Any tips on ways I can make it inevitable?, for example, when I was with friends, I played the '30 second game', which worked quite well. But that only works when I have friends around :/

Guess I just gotta do it...Maybe amp myself up before? Like Tony Robbins before the firewalk.


Dude this was my sticking point for about 5 months.  This is what you need to do.  Make it your ONLY GOAL FOR THE ENTIRE NIGHT TO APPROACH THE FIRST GIRL YOU SEE, Thats it, if you don't do that, GO HOME, LEAVE, GIVE UP, MASTERBAIT, PLAY X-BOX.  That is your only mission until that becomes a habbit. and totally automatic.  If you fuck up and still want to try again, leave the bar, go sit in your car and listen to music for 20 minutes.  Then try again until you can approach the FIRST GIRL YOU SEE after leaving your car.  Even if you just say Hi and introduce yourself and ask boring interview questions.  You only goal is to talk to her. Pickup starts as soon as you leave the car, not in the venue.

AFTER you have completely integrated that behavior, THEN start chaining approaches together.  Just approach EVERY GIRL you see with no hesitation, don't worry if she is hot, just keep your mouth moving, use the claw and make it stronger, and get the ball rolling. Your only goal now is to remain in set for as long as you can with no longer than 1 minute of not having a conversation with a stranger.  I even joke around with other dudes in the bathroom if I am in line to take a piss or even while taking a piss.  Its GO GO GO all the time.  Eventually you won't need to go this hard, but until then this is the fastest way to learn how to build momentum.  Do this untill it becomes automatic and you don't have to apply conscious effort to it.  Once you can do this, its just a matter of going out, escalating, and going for the phone/facebook/pull/etc.  This is when all this game shit will actually help you.  Untill then, don't worry about the specifics, most of your problems will autocorrect themselves just by being social.  If you run into a problem in set over and over, then look for the answers here or attend an RSD Hotseat/Bootcamp, or read Physical Game by Ozzie.

I like this alot bro

Don't have a car though..maybe I can just go sit somewhere away from the venues for a bit to retry. 

Gonna try it, thanks for the tip :)
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