THE FORUMS
Glad you enjoyed it. I realize it's shitty compared to the others. But I think you're pretty spot on with your advise. I also realized that my goals for now are not pulling or any of the shit, but just learning that rejection doesn't matter aka crossing the good ol' indifference threshold .
Again minimal on the approaching last night. i keep telling myself: nah brah this is your relaxation time, why would you push yourself now? This would probably be fixed by going out more, as nobody goes out 5 times a week for the purpose of relaxation.
I did get a make out however. I spotted this chick I pulled about 9 months back. No go because of whiskey dick then. We do run into each other from time to time, but it's never more than a short hi. For some reason I felt 100% entitled with this girl, probably because she's a fatty :p but I really got a sense of what Tyler talks about. Just went in talk silly shit, self amuse, escalate, back off a bit, escalate again, pass shit test,escalate, say ''just a kiss! just a kiss!" She was uncomfortable with making out in front of her friend, so I had to send her away to get some shots for us. At one point she started to become weird so I ejected.
Approach #2
I looked to preserve the momentum by quickly approaching another set. I kind of doubted, so my friend pushed me in which caused me to bump into one of the girls:
her: Wow real subtle!
me: (instead of saying: "Oh no I was pushed!") I know right, this is my way of picking up girls, you like it?
Some more silly banter and mild escalation, I do remember saying I looked like a movie star at some point at which she threw a weak ass shit test about how she didn't see it. She was smiling and giggling all the time, but no real attraction. So I move on to her friend (maybe not the best idea) and open with: ""Hey you have short hair. Do I observe this correct? Short hair right?" Just looking to be silly till she hooks, but then the fatty midget friend shoves me out of the way. The fatty midget friend is not a stereotype, it's true!
Me: Oh hey Smurfette, whattup?
She: What did you call me?! Say that one more time!!!
Me: Smurfette.
At that point she started punching me in the face, luckily I did not even feel them so I invited her to throw some more and get it all out. Then my friends pulled me out and I had to explain what happened. After that I kinda gave up on approaching and the momentum faded. Good night out tho. I was with a friend who is somewhat of a natural, awesome vibe around this guy. I think the vibe in your group is crucial for pick up.
I did get a make out however. I spotted this chick I pulled about 9 months back. No go because of whiskey dick then. We do run into each other from time to time, but it's never more than a short hi. For some reason I felt 100% entitled with this girl, probably because she's a fatty :p but I really got a sense of what Tyler talks about. Just went in talk silly shit, self amuse, escalate, back off a bit, escalate again, pass shit test,escalate, say ''just a kiss! just a kiss!" She was uncomfortable with making out in front of her friend, so I had to send her away to get some shots for us. At one point she started to become weird so I ejected.
Approach #2
I looked to preserve the momentum by quickly approaching another set. I kind of doubted, so my friend pushed me in which caused me to bump into one of the girls:
her: Wow real subtle!
me: (instead of saying: "Oh no I was pushed!") I know right, this is my way of picking up girls, you like it?
Some more silly banter and mild escalation, I do remember saying I looked like a movie star at some point at which she threw a weak ass shit test about how she didn't see it. She was smiling and giggling all the time, but no real attraction. So I move on to her friend (maybe not the best idea) and open with: ""Hey you have short hair. Do I observe this correct? Short hair right?" Just looking to be silly till she hooks, but then the fatty midget friend shoves me out of the way. The fatty midget friend is not a stereotype, it's true!
Me: Oh hey Smurfette, whattup?
She: What did you call me?! Say that one more time!!!
Me: Smurfette.
At that point she started punching me in the face, luckily I did not even feel them so I invited her to throw some more and get it all out. Then my friends pulled me out and I had to explain what happened. After that I kinda gave up on approaching and the momentum faded. Good night out tho. I was with a friend who is somewhat of a natural, awesome vibe around this guy. I think the vibe in your group is crucial for pick up.
I definitly feel like I have improved since starting this journey. I really feel like I've "gone up a level." It's awesome. Got a make out again last night. Although this may not be a big deal, it is the first time I got a make out on two consecutive nights out. You remember when Tyler said in BP or something: "You know how you can approach and talk to a girl and your friends think you're the biggest pimp?" That is what I get now. One of my friends going: ""Did you know her already?" Me: ""Nope." Him:"Wow!" or some shit.
Once you have to holy trinity of eye contact, voice and bodylanguage down, you will not be ignored anymore when approaching. She may not fuck you behind the dumpster or some shit, but sets will open and you can just talk about basic shit. One of the girls I approached was pretty hot and really my type, was cool talking to a girl like that. It feels fullfilling being able to.
I drank pretty heavily last night, I just found myself waking up with all my clothes and contact lenses still in. But I really don't think it matters that much whether you drink or not. The self is always coming through. I don't know any chodes that suddenly become hardcore players when they drink. I myself in the past still had massive AA even if I was drunk as fuck. So yeah that's my 2 cents on the pick up and alcohol debate. As for specific things... well I did not approach that many sets, mostly dancefloor game. I have to say my physical game has significantly improved as well. For me it's just about enjoying the girl and it kind of comes natural to you. Also the stuff I said infield was really basic.
Had an awesome time and will be out on saturyday and monday again, so should be SAWEET!
Have a good day!
Once you have to holy trinity of eye contact, voice and bodylanguage down, you will not be ignored anymore when approaching. She may not fuck you behind the dumpster or some shit, but sets will open and you can just talk about basic shit. One of the girls I approached was pretty hot and really my type, was cool talking to a girl like that. It feels fullfilling being able to.
I drank pretty heavily last night, I just found myself waking up with all my clothes and contact lenses still in. But I really don't think it matters that much whether you drink or not. The self is always coming through. I don't know any chodes that suddenly become hardcore players when they drink. I myself in the past still had massive AA even if I was drunk as fuck. So yeah that's my 2 cents on the pick up and alcohol debate. As for specific things... well I did not approach that many sets, mostly dancefloor game. I have to say my physical game has significantly improved as well. For me it's just about enjoying the girl and it kind of comes natural to you. Also the stuff I said infield was really basic.
Had an awesome time and will be out on saturyday and monday again, so should be SAWEET!
Have a good day!
Hey RSDN whattup!
Just got back from going out, guess what's the first thing I do? That's right mofo's posting mah fr on tha RSDN. First of all two messages:
1. Thank you Alexander for making the video content available, love it and love you. Very much homo.
2. I love the gym. Lifiting weights is mandatory to anyone who is into this shit.
When you are new at this stuff, like myself. Your primary purpose is to LEARN!!! Not to get laid, not to get make outs, LEARN! In fact getting results too soon can slow you down. Approach, approach, approach. People think you're a creep? Fine, it learns you to be indifferent. Girl rejects you harcore? Excellent, it learns you to deal with those emotions. Etc. Etc. As you know I don't like to go into detail about every single interaction. But I do know this from tonight on: I need to approach my ass of and become the creepiest guy alive for the sake of learning experience.
Game on, motherfuckers!
Just got back from going out, guess what's the first thing I do? That's right mofo's posting mah fr on tha RSDN. First of all two messages:
1. Thank you Alexander for making the video content available, love it and love you. Very much homo.
2. I love the gym. Lifiting weights is mandatory to anyone who is into this shit.
When you are new at this stuff, like myself. Your primary purpose is to LEARN!!! Not to get laid, not to get make outs, LEARN! In fact getting results too soon can slow you down. Approach, approach, approach. People think you're a creep? Fine, it learns you to be indifferent. Girl rejects you harcore? Excellent, it learns you to deal with those emotions. Etc. Etc. As you know I don't like to go into detail about every single interaction. But I do know this from tonight on: I need to approach my ass of and become the creepiest guy alive for the sake of learning experience.
Game on, motherfuckers!
Went out last week thursday, but it wasn't worth mentioning approach wise. I do feel like I give less of a fuck, which probably comes from going out more. If you are used to being in club environments you won't 'let the club get on top of you' as they say. Retarded dancing, loud falsetto singing and tooling guys is something that I would not have done to this extent a while ago. However 'not giving a fuck' is not something that really works for me. It can completely crumble in front of a girl. You can go from: "I don't give a fuck!" to "Please like me!" real quick.
For the next nights out I wanna focus on being more internally validated aka not reaction seeking. Looking back this is something that I ALWAYS do. I hope to get a good reaction to pump my state and get my pick up skill set validated. Playing NOT TO LOSE. There is a reason RSD keeps on hammering on this shit in different terms and only now I realised it. Hopefully this will reflect back in the field. It is something so profound that it is hard to put into words, but I really hope to reach this point in field tomorrow and get familiar with it. From that point I can start working on accessing it fully.
I also asked a girl that I've known for a while out on a date. Just to see what happens, how knows. Put yo ass out there.
Also I have been strict on the meditating lately. I'm gonna do 20 minutes a day, 30 days in a row. NO MATTER WHAT! The effect is obvious, but it is only a small part of succes with women.
For the next nights out I wanna focus on being more internally validated aka not reaction seeking. Looking back this is something that I ALWAYS do. I hope to get a good reaction to pump my state and get my pick up skill set validated. Playing NOT TO LOSE. There is a reason RSD keeps on hammering on this shit in different terms and only now I realised it. Hopefully this will reflect back in the field. It is something so profound that it is hard to put into words, but I really hope to reach this point in field tomorrow and get familiar with it. From that point I can start working on accessing it fully.
I also asked a girl that I've known for a while out on a date. Just to see what happens, how knows. Put yo ass out there.
Also I have been strict on the meditating lately. I'm gonna do 20 minutes a day, 30 days in a row. NO MATTER WHAT! The effect is obvious, but it is only a small part of succes with women.
Whattup RSDN it's 6.30 in the morning over here. There is one place that is open until 9, wtf! I was gay as fuck tonight. One proper approach, one number. But i won't be doing anything with that. No1. Lesson:
Do whatever the fuck you wanna do. Don't wait for you friend to approach or w/e. Go, go, go yourself get rejected. it will up the indifference threshold.
Morning after...
Alright so I'm gonna do an edit as I don't wanna bump this thread up, with nothing happening in it. I'm pretty pissed off at myself. No fucking approaching? What is this faggotry? Ok so I did one approach and got a number. Think of what could have happened had I approached non-stop. Rejection is completely irrelevent, it's not about one single girl liking you or not, it's about putting in max effort so you can learn and grow. The whole dillema is about my identity not being solid enough. I steel need reassurance I'm a cool guy, so when I get rejected it fucks with my identity. The meditation is definitly helping me to see through such things. Hoping to go out again to a big club near my hometown this saturday. Remind me to approach my balls off.
Oh yeah and not to forget: I did learn a lesson from the one approach I did. You can have the most basic conversation with a girl as long as you are not going into your head you will create massive attraction
Do whatever the fuck you wanna do. Don't wait for you friend to approach or w/e. Go, go, go yourself get rejected. it will up the indifference threshold.
Morning after...
Alright so I'm gonna do an edit as I don't wanna bump this thread up, with nothing happening in it. I'm pretty pissed off at myself. No fucking approaching? What is this faggotry? Ok so I did one approach and got a number. Think of what could have happened had I approached non-stop. Rejection is completely irrelevent, it's not about one single girl liking you or not, it's about putting in max effort so you can learn and grow. The whole dillema is about my identity not being solid enough. I steel need reassurance I'm a cool guy, so when I get rejected it fucks with my identity. The meditation is definitly helping me to see through such things. Hoping to go out again to a big club near my hometown this saturday. Remind me to approach my balls off.
Oh yeah and not to forget: I did learn a lesson from the one approach I did. You can have the most basic conversation with a girl as long as you are not going into your head you will create massive attraction
Heyheyhey RSDN,
Very proud to add another installment to these series. Which means I wasn't too afraid to be a BAWS. Thruth is I was until towards the end of the night when I got it on. I will describe my two best interactions to you:
Chick: Can you take a picture of us?
Me: Only if I can wear your hat. (purple sparkly cowboy hat)
She: durrdurrr no!
Me: Ok cewl let me take a pic.
Me: Aw fuck my camera phone sucks, not enough light.
We start talking, I start kino'ing. At one piont we start talking about my eyes, which are pretty big. I tell her: "Did you know eyes don't grow? You should have seen me as a baby, I had fucking HUGE eyes."
She's like: There's no way I could have seen you as a baby, how old are you? I reply Alex's reply: Old enough to party! But evenutally reply: 19. She turns out to be 22. I call her my big sis. I tell her nothing is going to happen, cuz that would be incenst. That ends up screwing me over, because even though we touched pretty hard, she won't give me her number. She keeps saying "ïll be in xyz bar" tho.
Quickly approach another chick say: Hey look at you all dressed up in houte cauture, lady Gaga style.
Opens perfectly she tells about how she just came of her bosses wedding and asks if I wanna dance. I say: Let's do this. I start walking towards the dancefloor and I see she isn't following me, because some other dude grabs her. I walk up and he says he is her bf, I call bs and she confirms he is not. He gets pissed and starts threatening, I react too strong and get kicked oiut. So does he and she,because she caused all this. She apologizes profusely to me for getting me kicked out. One guy says: I don't see any problem, the other wants to fight. He's skinny as fuck so I say I'll take it. Later I decide to walk away after all. This chick was down like a clown imo FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUuuck. Why did some faggot have to screw it up?
Meditation times now.
Ok so a little 'the day after' edit. just real quick what I learned and what I could have done better:
-Lead. I basically failed to lead when she suggested to go dancing and I should have grabbed her hand, so those douchy guys couldn't have pulled her away in the first place.
-Stop playing escalation games with dudes. Just do what helps you get the girl. If you feel like out-alpa'ing will do it, do that. If you feel like ignoring will work do that. Don't try and tool dudes for the sake of it.
-Approach MORE. Who knows what opportunities could have opened up.
Very proud to add another installment to these series. Which means I wasn't too afraid to be a BAWS. Thruth is I was until towards the end of the night when I got it on. I will describe my two best interactions to you:
Chick: Can you take a picture of us?
Me: Only if I can wear your hat. (purple sparkly cowboy hat)
She: durrdurrr no!
Me: Ok cewl let me take a pic.
Me: Aw fuck my camera phone sucks, not enough light.
We start talking, I start kino'ing. At one piont we start talking about my eyes, which are pretty big. I tell her: "Did you know eyes don't grow? You should have seen me as a baby, I had fucking HUGE eyes."
She's like: There's no way I could have seen you as a baby, how old are you? I reply Alex's reply: Old enough to party! But evenutally reply: 19. She turns out to be 22. I call her my big sis. I tell her nothing is going to happen, cuz that would be incenst. That ends up screwing me over, because even though we touched pretty hard, she won't give me her number. She keeps saying "ïll be in xyz bar" tho.
Quickly approach another chick say: Hey look at you all dressed up in houte cauture, lady Gaga style.
Opens perfectly she tells about how she just came of her bosses wedding and asks if I wanna dance. I say: Let's do this. I start walking towards the dancefloor and I see she isn't following me, because some other dude grabs her. I walk up and he says he is her bf, I call bs and she confirms he is not. He gets pissed and starts threatening, I react too strong and get kicked oiut. So does he and she,because she caused all this. She apologizes profusely to me for getting me kicked out. One guy says: I don't see any problem, the other wants to fight. He's skinny as fuck so I say I'll take it. Later I decide to walk away after all. This chick was down like a clown imo FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUuuck. Why did some faggot have to screw it up?
Meditation times now.
Ok so a little 'the day after' edit. just real quick what I learned and what I could have done better:
-Lead. I basically failed to lead when she suggested to go dancing and I should have grabbed her hand, so those douchy guys couldn't have pulled her away in the first place.
-Stop playing escalation games with dudes. Just do what helps you get the girl. If you feel like out-alpa'ing will do it, do that. If you feel like ignoring will work do that. Don't try and tool dudes for the sake of it.
-Approach MORE. Who knows what opportunities could have opened up.
Hey guys crazy night last night.
I've been watching a lot of Alex's stuff I and must say I digg it big time. The focus is just on relaxing in the club/bar, giving yourself time and making things fun. This has helped me last night, constantly I was like "how can i make this fun?" And fun was created. Ended up making out with this chick, she was from another town so I was like PERFECT, PULL TIMEZZZ. Her friend was cockblocking mad hard though. So I did classic RSD move where you pick the girl up and run off with her, but I was way too drunk to do that shit so we ended up falling over and I think she hit her head on the streets.. oops. A police officer helped me up and luckily they aren't very strict. So the girl urged me to hop in a cab with her, but it was packed already. I jumped in anyway, but somehow got into an argument with a guy in there and got kicked up by the cab driver.
But I'm pretty happy regardless, I'm still on my 'make out a month for 2012' schedual and although this may not seem impressive to a large part of you, it's way better than any average in the past. Funny thing is, as march was ending I thought I wasn't going to make it anymore and I think that letting go made it happen. Anyway, fun night, I digg Alex's stuff and more craziness to come.
PS. I should drink less. I've been planning not to drink a lot for the last couple nights, but I fail all the time. FUUUU.
PPS. I started my MMA classes yesterday, It's so awesome how many new things RSD has sent me on to try. Pick up wise I defeintly have not taken full advantage of the teachings yet, but life wise I have!
I've been watching a lot of Alex's stuff I and must say I digg it big time. The focus is just on relaxing in the club/bar, giving yourself time and making things fun. This has helped me last night, constantly I was like "how can i make this fun?" And fun was created. Ended up making out with this chick, she was from another town so I was like PERFECT, PULL TIMEZZZ. Her friend was cockblocking mad hard though. So I did classic RSD move where you pick the girl up and run off with her, but I was way too drunk to do that shit so we ended up falling over and I think she hit her head on the streets.. oops. A police officer helped me up and luckily they aren't very strict. So the girl urged me to hop in a cab with her, but it was packed already. I jumped in anyway, but somehow got into an argument with a guy in there and got kicked up by the cab driver.
But I'm pretty happy regardless, I'm still on my 'make out a month for 2012' schedual and although this may not seem impressive to a large part of you, it's way better than any average in the past. Funny thing is, as march was ending I thought I wasn't going to make it anymore and I think that letting go made it happen. Anyway, fun night, I digg Alex's stuff and more craziness to come.
PS. I should drink less. I've been planning not to drink a lot for the last couple nights, but I fail all the time. FUUUU.
PPS. I started my MMA classes yesterday, It's so awesome how many new things RSD has sent me on to try. Pick up wise I defeintly have not taken full advantage of the teachings yet, but life wise I have!
MartinD
Junior Member
Join Date: 02/01/2012 | Posts: 4
i had fun in reading this. seems like you are committed to this
you need more fuck you all i don't give a shit mentality But don't let it escalate into anti social behavior :)
also get physical with girls within 10 seconds of opening if you feel attraction for that girl. thats what clarity of intent is (to me atleast)
i trick i use is just shake her hand. hold her hand while taking. see if she's ok with that. if she 's not just let go, if she is escalate from that by spinning her arround or draw her closer to you and hold her back or give her a hug. you know anything that gets her state pumped so her buying temperature gets higher and then you can escalate even further ;)
grtz
me: are you going to say that the whole night or are you finally going to kiss me?
girl: OMG. slap! kiss