THE FORUMS

1. Interacting with...children

You've heard it over and over again:
"Would you be nervous about saying whatever you felt like to your little niece?"  

Go hang out with your niece.  Learn how to keep their attention.  Harder: learn how to do it without being a dancing monkey.  Hardest: learn how to interact with a baby who doesn't even talk.  No clue if "baby talk" is really only women's jobs to do or not, but I know I've felt awkward "hanging out" with infants.  (I hope this line gets quoted in your signature FYI.)  

2. Interacting with...dogs

Again, I'd heard Jeffy's WALK THE DOG.  When you pull/lead back to your place, you're basically walking a dog.  If the dog wants to stop and smell some poop, do you stop and negotiate with the dog "Here doggie, we are going to teh house now..."?  Or do you just keep walking and use teh BR tonality to tell it whose boss?  I've honestly only really been able to "hang out" with canines in a man-to-dog (lol) way more recently.  Like they'd either like bark at me or not be interested, and now, somehow, it seems that they seek my approval.  Again, I know you're laughing at how gay this sounds, but...its true.  I guess it makes sense that dogs can tell when another mammal (human) has fight-or-flight hormones or is calm AKA the alpha dog.  

I thought Jeffy was being hilarious AKA misogynistic but this shit is EXTREMELY TRUE.  

3. Interacting with...HOMELESS PEOPLE

Another example we always hear...would you care if a homeless person said you sucked?  Tonight I encountered a variety of homeless people with interesting 'game.'  One guy was like playing funky music out of his car, dancing, and holding out a cup to passersby.  I actually feel retarded for not giving him money.  (WTF why did he have a car lol.)  Another homeless lady was just witty as fuck on Luke, first asking for $$$ then declaring that she accepted change, then laughing and telling him to go home, its past his bedtime little boy (he looks super young so it was pretty amusing I thought) and he didn't even have any money.  I thought it was pretty good as far as berating someone goes.  I felt that in that moment it was actually a funner vibe with this homeless woman interrupting our shit (Koolaid man style barging into the "male 2 set" too).  

4. Last but not least...YOUR PARENTS

Yeah...probably touchey for some guys.  For me too.  

Here's one little "tactic" I started doing recently, first thinking I was being annoying back to them, then realizing...uh...damn I misread a lot of shit.  

The tactic is called ROLE REVERSAL.  

e.g. I'd get annoyed with my dad because he asks dumb and irrelevant questions.  For example:
Dad - lets talk about something (as im about to walk off...him in front of the tv)
Me - oh...[hesitant...thinking huh?]
Dad, a minute later - So...what time have you been getting into work?  
Me - THIS...is what you want to talk about?  I'm gonna go read...

To me this is like "WTF you really care about this information?  What a fucking waste of everyone's time."  

The general thing he'd do that I find annoying is "ask a question that sounds valuable or interesting but really is irrelevant."  

So I realized from getting annoyed, "I'm just going to be the parent and do this to him."  

And whats funny is...HE EXCITEDLY TALKS ABOUT THIS DUMB SHIT.  I guess I just learned that
He likes to "vibe" by talking about dumb stuff, I guess as long as he gets to sit around and talk about anything with me he's happy.  
I like to "vibe" by talking about more "inner world" stuff, emotions, ideas, beliefs, etc.  

So why is this last one (parents) so relevant?  A few reasons --
1. less emotional reactiveness
2. helps to 'kill your parents' in the Jed McKenna sense of the word (when you fill their role to them and see thats fine too you realize they're just people who aren't like "God" that your brain may still hold them to be)
3. you might also start "modeling" other people's behavior more quickly too, if you consciously do it with someone you know better, just for the so called learning experience I claim you'll get

BTW like another example is when my mom will say stuff like "We're worried about you are you OK?"  

A while back I actually started asking her these questions "What are you doing?  Are you OK?  I'm worried about you...glad you're safe" and saying this shit to my mom....SHE STOPPED IT...not because she tohught I was being a dick or anything, not realizing what I was doing...she just...I think she was just "looking for that which she was trying to give" or something weird.