THE FORUMS
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RSD Misinterpreted: A Series of Posts on Popular RSD Ideas and How I Used to Misunderstand Them
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Tiger charge
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Do you like Death Cab for Cutie? I do. And I just thumbs downed some Beatles song on Pandora, which then brought up my favorite song as of late, which is the one I posted most recently on here, but since noone probably reads this anyway, I don't feel like too much of an asshole
Anyway, today I'm going to tell you a little bit about how I broke my dry spell. See, I wasn't really on a dry spell to start with. I was somewhere else.
I kind of think I was a little bit inside of somewhere, like a cocoon, oh yeah, that old transformation metaphor. But I think I just spent the last 4 months really coming to terms with the fact that the picture in my head doesn't at all match the picture of real life. I've had a habitualized way of seeing myself. And that way was as "Not Enough" and also like "I'm Late." Its not that I looked at myself and thought "What a loser" or some shit. But instead its that I always felt "behind" for some reason. I felt like I should've gotten so and so thing handled yesterday and paid this bill last week. There was some fear of "Missing Out" on something. Of course, by fearing "Missing Out" on that thing thats "Out there" The irony is that I end up missing what happens right in front of my face.
I think the biggest understanding (I mean anderstanding, heh heh, I'm not too old for RSD jokes) I've come to lately is that I'm "right here where I'm supposed to be."
Anyway, I think yesterday I kind of just decided that it was time to stop trying and start being. This still involves doing, but now the doing is not based in proving that I can do it, but instead in expressing it.
You know what, I think initially I wanted to write something super long. Then, I decided "Naw, this is not what I need to do right now." I was about to delete this stuff so far, but hey, let's not. Let's just GTFO and I'll see you later.
Anyway, today I'm going to tell you a little bit about how I broke my dry spell. See, I wasn't really on a dry spell to start with. I was somewhere else.
I kind of think I was a little bit inside of somewhere, like a cocoon, oh yeah, that old transformation metaphor. But I think I just spent the last 4 months really coming to terms with the fact that the picture in my head doesn't at all match the picture of real life. I've had a habitualized way of seeing myself. And that way was as "Not Enough" and also like "I'm Late." Its not that I looked at myself and thought "What a loser" or some shit. But instead its that I always felt "behind" for some reason. I felt like I should've gotten so and so thing handled yesterday and paid this bill last week. There was some fear of "Missing Out" on something. Of course, by fearing "Missing Out" on that thing thats "Out there" The irony is that I end up missing what happens right in front of my face.
I think the biggest understanding (I mean anderstanding, heh heh, I'm not too old for RSD jokes) I've come to lately is that I'm "right here where I'm supposed to be."
Anyway, I think yesterday I kind of just decided that it was time to stop trying and start being. This still involves doing, but now the doing is not based in proving that I can do it, but instead in expressing it.
You know what, I think initially I wanted to write something super long. Then, I decided "Naw, this is not what I need to do right now." I was about to delete this stuff so far, but hey, let's not. Let's just GTFO and I'll see you later.
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RSD Misinterpreted: A Series of Posts on Popular RSD Ideas and How I Used to Misunderstand Them
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
1. Enter venue
2. Go to bathroom
3. Approach some girl right outside of bathroom
4. She asks "So what do you like about me?" or some shit (was weird cuz I never used to get "qualification shit" before). I am slightly physically escallating (I mean its the first set so it feels unnatural but it is fine) with her slight resistance. She tells me "Oh my friend there needs to get laid" or some shit. He looks very chode, I pull her there, stop some other girls, then say "Dur, this is Ryan." I continue with this set, and then oddly she wants to go do some shit.
5. Second set of the night, is the one I pulled. I start talking, don't remember about what (lol 2 weeks ago now).
6. Eventually we're just standing there, I say something to indicate lets go dance.
7. On dance floor I think I talk to someone else for a second. She walks away like a phaggot. I go back and drag her back. Continue talking to mysterious person. (Maybe it was you? Dunno.)
8. I find logistics. (Oh where do you live? Oh who are you here with?) I realize its semi bad logistics cuz she lives 45 minutes away (Palo Alto) and is here w like TEN DUDES. (I never see or meet them, just hear about this from her.) But she also only knows them all from one week ago. My instincts say to "stay in." Also I am pretty anti- "I'm afraid I will waste my time." I hate that shit. "Uhh what if I'm wasting my time?" What...this whole pickup thing is...in some sense...a waste of time. Tic toc bitch. You just wasted an hour having sex. Anyway...
9. I pull her outside to quiet smoking section. Talk, makeout, talk, makeout. She feigns embarrassment (oh my friends must have seen this oh no!) and shit. I see the first girl who I wanted more, she is talking to some phaggot. Meh whatever.
10. She claims to not believe some retarded fact (like my name or age). I "bet" her that I'm right and she must buy me a drink.
11. She buys me a shot (bleh, oh well).
12. "Lets go outside and smoke!" Neither of us smoke.
13. No re-entry. (Girl tries to argue w fat Johnny Depp.)
14. We hang a bit.
15. Eventually she is doing some bullshit mental dillydallying. So I pull out the SOI: "I want you to ditch your friends tonight. I want you to instead come back with me. You can tell them I'm dropping you off at home and that I also live in Palo Alto. I will take you home tomorrow." Then I find out she's staying in a hotel in the city. Which is WAY more convenient. (No annoying drive tomorrow.) The 2 words I WANT are the key here.
16. She talks to some dude friend for a bit. I see and re-engage the first girl of the night while this happens LOL. Try to get the # but its clear that I'm pulling and this girl ain't having it.
17. I don't think I even need to talk to this guy friend.
18. "OK lets go!" Then we just go to the car and bounce.
19. Her LMR tactics. Right as I'm getting her pants. "Wait...so did you read the book 'the game'?" Oh yeah she asked if i read the game earlier in the bar. I said 'yeah sure good read neil is a great writer.' And then I'm continuing w the pants and she's all "One more question...do you have condom?" Of course I still try and stick it in without (good job Tom, good job...) but then grab condom and place over kok.
20. Bang.
21. After banging, just for kicks..."So you asked if I read the game. I actually was IN the game." (lie) You should have seen the LOOK on her face. full lol. like a ghost. "Just kidding."
2. Go to bathroom
3. Approach some girl right outside of bathroom
4. She asks "So what do you like about me?" or some shit (was weird cuz I never used to get "qualification shit" before). I am slightly physically escallating (I mean its the first set so it feels unnatural but it is fine) with her slight resistance. She tells me "Oh my friend there needs to get laid" or some shit. He looks very chode, I pull her there, stop some other girls, then say "Dur, this is Ryan." I continue with this set, and then oddly she wants to go do some shit.
5. Second set of the night, is the one I pulled. I start talking, don't remember about what (lol 2 weeks ago now).
6. Eventually we're just standing there, I say something to indicate lets go dance.
7. On dance floor I think I talk to someone else for a second. She walks away like a phaggot. I go back and drag her back. Continue talking to mysterious person. (Maybe it was you? Dunno.)
8. I find logistics. (Oh where do you live? Oh who are you here with?) I realize its semi bad logistics cuz she lives 45 minutes away (Palo Alto) and is here w like TEN DUDES. (I never see or meet them, just hear about this from her.) But she also only knows them all from one week ago. My instincts say to "stay in." Also I am pretty anti- "I'm afraid I will waste my time." I hate that shit. "Uhh what if I'm wasting my time?" What...this whole pickup thing is...in some sense...a waste of time. Tic toc bitch. You just wasted an hour having sex. Anyway...
9. I pull her outside to quiet smoking section. Talk, makeout, talk, makeout. She feigns embarrassment (oh my friends must have seen this oh no!) and shit. I see the first girl who I wanted more, she is talking to some phaggot. Meh whatever.
10. She claims to not believe some retarded fact (like my name or age). I "bet" her that I'm right and she must buy me a drink.
11. She buys me a shot (bleh, oh well).
12. "Lets go outside and smoke!" Neither of us smoke.
13. No re-entry. (Girl tries to argue w fat Johnny Depp.)
14. We hang a bit.
15. Eventually she is doing some bullshit mental dillydallying. So I pull out the SOI: "I want you to ditch your friends tonight. I want you to instead come back with me. You can tell them I'm dropping you off at home and that I also live in Palo Alto. I will take you home tomorrow." Then I find out she's staying in a hotel in the city. Which is WAY more convenient. (No annoying drive tomorrow.) The 2 words I WANT are the key here.
16. She talks to some dude friend for a bit. I see and re-engage the first girl of the night while this happens LOL. Try to get the # but its clear that I'm pulling and this girl ain't having it.
17. I don't think I even need to talk to this guy friend.
18. "OK lets go!" Then we just go to the car and bounce.
19. Her LMR tactics. Right as I'm getting her pants. "Wait...so did you read the book 'the game'?" Oh yeah she asked if i read the game earlier in the bar. I said 'yeah sure good read neil is a great writer.' And then I'm continuing w the pants and she's all "One more question...do you have condom?" Of course I still try and stick it in without (good job Tom, good job...) but then grab condom and place over kok.
20. Bang.
21. After banging, just for kicks..."So you asked if I read the game. I actually was IN the game." (lie) You should have seen the LOOK on her face. full lol. like a ghost. "Just kidding."
hey bro i wanted to see how you got that girl from an outer game perspective (read: no need to write long psychoanalysis). I only caught a glimpse of it before I bounced but it looked like one of the situations that I've been talking about where I get "impatient" and just wanna beast and if the girl isn't ready to be beasted i just do it anyway and blow myself out. Ofc I cud be wrong but I wanna hear how u made it happen. Or u kno, if u don't give a feel u don't have to.
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RSD Misinterpreted: A Series of Posts on Popular RSD Ideas and How I Used to Misunderstand Them
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
He's back bitches.
Friday and Saturday been out again. Feelin like I'm full-time again.
Y'know I'm starting to realize that this shit is exactly like fitness.
When a dude goes from a full-on fatty to lean ass man, he starts to think "Oh, this shit is just ME. I'm the IN SHAPE GUY."
And then as a RESULT he slowly returns to old habits. Months later finding "Oh shit. Did I just lose my frikkin abs? Damn...I thought I had this HANDLED." You can get into a fatty slump again, and be depressed and eat shit for a while. Then you realize "Uh I did this shit before, and now I'm going to do it 100x better."
I need to slowly isolate the little habits that make me kick ass.
My honest evaluation of my weakest points right now which need fine-tuning:
(i) emotional expressiveness
(ii) tryhard crap
(iii) needy behaviors
Emotional Expressiveness
Dude, I mean I guess back on Miami Bootcamp Owen was saying "drawing state from within" -- I think for me I just have to word it differently, but from restarting "The Magic of Thinking Big" what I see as what he must have meant as "drawing state from within" is a combination of ideas like
- "belief is a deliberate choice" (refering to "belief in one's self")
- "believe it before you will acheive it"
- the idea of "a man's drive" -- do you sit around like a little faggot, or do you do shit on your own ACCORD
- shamelessness
I think I'm actually good at this "faking emotions shit" and that's because at some point I got disconnected from my true core self (who the fuck you really are), and instead responding in ways to please others. I need to regularly reconnect with "my core self" -- ironically 90-95% of all "pick up knowledge" is just enhancing the social self, rather than core self, which is fine, I just need the 5-10% of core self stuff.
action:
- meditation
- "feel in your body"
- other stuff from thenewmanual.com/start-here
Tryhard crap
Basically this comes out when I get frustrated for some reason either by the environment or whatever people are around me. I feel a lot more keenly aware of when people are "leaning on me, emotionally" so to speak, and honestly, these days, I'm not really "there" to be leaned on, so to speak.
Also this comes from an interest in the results not process (deep down I'm kinda wanting to keep the "once a week habit" and be able to just pull a new FB like once every however often so I can just have more sex while going out less) I think.
action:
- go out alone more
- be more ADD and don't latch on to girls ("oh yay this one hooked!")
Needy behaviors
I've kinda reacclimated to the comfort zone.
Actions I need to take:
- remember I'm not interested in whatever fucken random girl
- more NICE TO MEET YOU shoulder pats
- go out not thinking about "getting laid" and more thinking about "finding girls I like" (e.g. if I go out every night for a month and find 3 girls I want to pull into my pussy kingdom, and I'm super down w these girls, that's goddamn amazing. No need to think "dur got some 6 or 7 in bed tonight." That said, I just want to be finding chicks I actually think are solid rather than "I thank I could fuck that one tonight" kinda shit)
- more serious SOIs
Cool stuff mang.
Friday and Saturday been out again. Feelin like I'm full-time again.
Y'know I'm starting to realize that this shit is exactly like fitness.
When a dude goes from a full-on fatty to lean ass man, he starts to think "Oh, this shit is just ME. I'm the IN SHAPE GUY."
And then as a RESULT he slowly returns to old habits. Months later finding "Oh shit. Did I just lose my frikkin abs? Damn...I thought I had this HANDLED." You can get into a fatty slump again, and be depressed and eat shit for a while. Then you realize "Uh I did this shit before, and now I'm going to do it 100x better."
I need to slowly isolate the little habits that make me kick ass.
My honest evaluation of my weakest points right now which need fine-tuning:
(i) emotional expressiveness
(ii) tryhard crap
(iii) needy behaviors
Emotional Expressiveness
Dude, I mean I guess back on Miami Bootcamp Owen was saying "drawing state from within" -- I think for me I just have to word it differently, but from restarting "The Magic of Thinking Big" what I see as what he must have meant as "drawing state from within" is a combination of ideas like
- "belief is a deliberate choice" (refering to "belief in one's self")
- "believe it before you will acheive it"
- the idea of "a man's drive" -- do you sit around like a little faggot, or do you do shit on your own ACCORD
- shamelessness
I think I'm actually good at this "faking emotions shit" and that's because at some point I got disconnected from my true core self (who the fuck you really are), and instead responding in ways to please others. I need to regularly reconnect with "my core self" -- ironically 90-95% of all "pick up knowledge" is just enhancing the social self, rather than core self, which is fine, I just need the 5-10% of core self stuff.
action:
- meditation
- "feel in your body"
- other stuff from thenewmanual.com/start-here
Tryhard crap
Basically this comes out when I get frustrated for some reason either by the environment or whatever people are around me. I feel a lot more keenly aware of when people are "leaning on me, emotionally" so to speak, and honestly, these days, I'm not really "there" to be leaned on, so to speak.
Also this comes from an interest in the results not process (deep down I'm kinda wanting to keep the "once a week habit" and be able to just pull a new FB like once every however often so I can just have more sex while going out less) I think.
action:
- go out alone more
- be more ADD and don't latch on to girls ("oh yay this one hooked!")
Needy behaviors
I've kinda reacclimated to the comfort zone.
Actions I need to take:
- remember I'm not interested in whatever fucken random girl
- more NICE TO MEET YOU shoulder pats
- go out not thinking about "getting laid" and more thinking about "finding girls I like" (e.g. if I go out every night for a month and find 3 girls I want to pull into my pussy kingdom, and I'm super down w these girls, that's goddamn amazing. No need to think "dur got some 6 or 7 in bed tonight." That said, I just want to be finding chicks I actually think are solid rather than "I thank I could fuck that one tonight" kinda shit)
- more serious SOIs
Cool stuff mang.
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RSD Misinterpreted: A Series of Posts on Popular RSD Ideas and How I Used to Misunderstand Them
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Also some shit to jot down in here.
Every result in my life is my responsibility.
Things I don't particularly like:
(1) my living situation
(2) the people I'm surrounded by at my workplace
(3) the kind of "balance" I have to try and manage working a job plus working on my internet project
(4) my response to my parents' beliefs and values and how this plays out in their disapproval for my choices
(5) the resultingly not quite so damn awesome "vibe" I put out due to being surrounded by people I don't particularly care for
These things are all things I gotta accept and just deal with when appropriate. Nothing here is something I should be bitching about. However in the past I had done these things.
Time to own up and realize specific instances where I had just plain fucked up, and move forth while taking those lessons. Time for me to take responsibility bros.
Every result in my life is my responsibility.
Things I don't particularly like:
(1) my living situation
(2) the people I'm surrounded by at my workplace
(3) the kind of "balance" I have to try and manage working a job plus working on my internet project
(4) my response to my parents' beliefs and values and how this plays out in their disapproval for my choices
(5) the resultingly not quite so damn awesome "vibe" I put out due to being surrounded by people I don't particularly care for
These things are all things I gotta accept and just deal with when appropriate. Nothing here is something I should be bitching about. However in the past I had done these things.
Time to own up and realize specific instances where I had just plain fucked up, and move forth while taking those lessons. Time for me to take responsibility bros.
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RSD Misinterpreted: A Series of Posts on Popular RSD Ideas and How I Used to Misunderstand Them
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Oh shit- this really IS good timing dude...
You're just coming out of super advanced, "I got this handled no need to go super hard anymore" mode
And I'm in, "I'm a beginner and want to be amazing at this so I'm going super rediculous hard" mode
This is gonna be a huge winwin. Good times to come.
BTW- that song is epic... one of my faves, for sure.
You're just coming out of super advanced, "I got this handled no need to go super hard anymore" mode
And I'm in, "I'm a beginner and want to be amazing at this so I'm going super rediculous hard" mode
This is gonna be a huge winwin. Good times to come.
BTW- that song is epic... one of my faves, for sure.
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90 Days Challenge (Currently in the Final Third): "It's Just Something You Have To Do If You Want To Be Great"
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/233192/forum
The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars
A man may fall down many times, but he won't be a f ailure until he says someone pushed him"
Buddha
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/233192/forum
The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars
A man may fall down many times, but he won't be a f ailure until he says someone pushed him"
Buddha
Sunday night
Went out for like 15 minutes.
Talk to 2 girls. Short interactions.
I decided to wear a seersucker blazer.
Some guy was all "Oh is that yours?" (pointing to some hottie)
I respond "Nope."
He says "Oh, you should make her yours, tonight."
Me: "Oh, well, thanks for the encouragement man."
I thought this was weird. I felt almost put on a pedestal, but I guess its a reference experience that "I look fucking money" or something.
Also I front squatted 165 lbs today, which I thought was gangsta. (I weigh 180 lbs, but still, front squats are super hard for me.)
I then had a 2 hour conversation with DICK which was pretty sweet.
And my thing to focus on for the coming 2 weeks is going to be VIBING. Something I really don't get...
LOL BTW I found this video while googling "how to vibe" and found the first 3 seconds so hilarious cuz of how gay and weird this guy's first word (the placement and tone) is...
Love the useful MAIN FORUM thread here lol:
How to Vibe?
Went out for like 15 minutes.
Talk to 2 girls. Short interactions.
I decided to wear a seersucker blazer.
Some guy was all "Oh is that yours?" (pointing to some hottie)
I respond "Nope."
He says "Oh, you should make her yours, tonight."
Me: "Oh, well, thanks for the encouragement man."
I thought this was weird. I felt almost put on a pedestal, but I guess its a reference experience that "I look fucking money" or something.
Also I front squatted 165 lbs today, which I thought was gangsta. (I weigh 180 lbs, but still, front squats are super hard for me.)
I then had a 2 hour conversation with DICK which was pretty sweet.
And my thing to focus on for the coming 2 weeks is going to be VIBING. Something I really don't get...
LOL BTW I found this video while googling "how to vibe" and found the first 3 seconds so hilarious cuz of how gay and weird this guy's first word (the placement and tone) is...
Love the useful MAIN FORUM thread here lol:
How to Vibe?
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RSD Misinterpreted: A Series of Posts on Popular RSD Ideas and How I Used to Misunderstand Them
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
I like this video but he sounds annoyed.
I ENJOY HAVING A GOOD TIME (while slightly annoyed lol)
http://www.davidwygant.com/kill-approach-anxiety.html
I ENJOY HAVING A GOOD TIME (while slightly annoyed lol)
http://www.davidwygant.com/kill-approach-anxiety.html
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RSD Misinterpreted: A Series of Posts on Popular RSD Ideas and How I Used to Misunderstand Them
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
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Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]