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roadrally

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Join Date: 10/12/2009 | Posts: 1920

This is relevant for me. I get bored alot.
And then I sometimes don't feel like going out

UtopiaFive wrote:
"Humor and positive expectations activate both adrenaline and dopamine."  From "Your Brain at Work." 

Apparently if you're under-arounded (aka bored) you want to increase dopamine and adrenaline, which you can do by looking at positive expectations and finding humor in situations. 

Not that this is some revelation, but I guess this means when you don't yet feel like taking action, ask what good can come of this, and what fun/amusement can come of this.  Not at all relevational here but, a good reminder of shit to do. 
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My adventures in Dallas - 2013
 My adventures in Austin - 2012 
  Tyler/Julien, Honolulu Bootcamp July 2011 Tyler hotseat2 x5 (2011-2012) Alex hotseat x2 (2013)
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Beast Von Gandi

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u fucked up bro.

i was burnt out...not wanting to gym it up. slammed couple of coffees and headed there. did a kick ass workout.

felt great.
UtopiaFive wrote:
BURNED OUT

I slept 10-12 hrs last night and feel a bit more drained of emotional energy lately.  

I think it has to do with ALWAYS BEING DOING SOMETHING.  

This is making me question doing this shit every day.  
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Boners not kino man. My entire crew is basically composed of retards and sex addicts. There's not a whole lot of "thought" going on per se. Just beastmode and dong. Why do we fuck these girls? Because they get our dick hard and it is also a great form of exercise. DURR Never ask. Never narrate. Mumble gibberish and take your dick out. Some girl looked at you this one time at Starbucks HURRAY
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UtopiaFive

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Mental masturbation type post, feel free to skip/ignore

Jesus looking at this shit my grammar is getting worse than Konstantine's lol.  Everytime someone quotes me I see I wrote some totally wrong word.  

Hrmm, I feel so directionless now.  

This song on Pandora made me feel like listening to it 3-4x now --

Save me from being confused
Show me what I'm looking for

Yet I feel like even as I say, feel, type, this shit I'm doing as Jed Mckenna calls playing a role in a soap opera (and as I call being a wannabe martyr), and its also the first time since like back in November where I've "questioned myself by quoting a self-help author" --> I remember back in November reading something by Steve Pavlina, stepping back for a second, thinking about it, and then hearing in my own head a quote from like Brad Branson, then in response, some hearing in my head a quote from Tyler, then in response some other quote by like Eckhart Tolle, like 6, 7, 8 times...then laughing and thinking "WTF...well...What do *I* think?" which kind of got me "thinking for myself for quite a long while."  

Then soon after I started this 365 days of game and stopped a lotta the self-help shit, and now for the past little bit feel like I've been questioning things quite a bit.  

Emotionally I know I'm not quitting this endeavor I've embarked on, but I AM starting to question things, like what I expect to get out of it, am I just doing it just to do it?  I feel like maybe I started out feeling I had something more to prove (To whom?  Not sure...  Probably just to me, which I guess is cool, though, now I don't even know if I still feel the need to "prove" anything to me even...) and maybe now that that "need" is gone, I feel a bit more "lost at sea."  

Though weirdly enough looking back at it I was feeling "REALLY GOOD ABOUT THIS" and seemed to be pretty much in state all day long, until hanging out with Evil Stifler once or twice where I felt constantly drawn into spectator mode rather than being teh star of my own movie...  Then more recently I've felt more low-level anxiety and shit creepin back in FOR NO GODDAMN REASON.  

There's some CHOICES I was making before that I probably did not know about, and am no longer making the same CHOICES, or something...

Bleh

I think I'm like reliving a deeper feeling of that separation from social conditioning, like "Escaping Social Conditioning, LEVEL TWO" or something.  
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UtopiaFive

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PART 2:
1: What can you offer a woman?

A different world.  A breath of fresh air.  The presence of a man whose opinions are more important to him than the opinions of random fucks.  The certainty of a guy who allows and looks for the uncertainty, whose let his reality break down and reform itself over and over again.  

A guy who can listen.  

A guy to laugh with.  A guy to laugh at.  

And a guy who fucks her good.  

Someone to chase.  Someone to confuse the fuck out of her.  

A guy who will put her in her place if she gets out of line.  A leader, a closer more intimate set of rules, expectations, world to live in.  (Rather than living under society, she can live under me if that makes sense.)  

Someone to stand up for her in a real way.  Someone to be real with.  





2: Why should a woman choose you?

I have good taste.  
I have fun.  
I don't want other peoples' validation but instead give her and make her feel validation.  
I'm "patient" and don't live in this state of constant anxiety day to day.  
I'm not constrained by the world, by other people's opinions, by what anyone else thinks is real or is possible.  Only by me.  And I KNOW this on a deep level.  
I'm actually a pretty good guy.  
I fully understand that NOTHING MATTERS and so this really does allow me to do things that are in the last 10% of what even really cool guys typically will do w a girl.  
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roadrally

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Bro just want to say, I relate to that last post you made too. I fluctuate between feeling driven/motivated and feeling lost at sea for the past couple weeks.

I guess my advice to me and you... These are just emotions, experience them and whatever they are swirly whirly things. You already have a course of action (out everyday for a year) so just stick to it and ride this out.
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I just want to enjoy amazing girls. Crazy what sort of journey ive embarked on pursuing this quest.

My adventures in Dallas - 2013
 My adventures in Austin - 2012 
  Tyler/Julien, Honolulu Bootcamp July 2011 Tyler hotseat2 x5 (2011-2012) Alex hotseat x2 (2013)
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Doge~

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You know it's interesting. A few years ago, I would've asked the same questions to myself, in some vain attempt at developing some sort of strong reality or trying to define reasons that make me attractive.

What I realize now is that ultimately you're asking the wrong questions. To ask something like, "Why would a woman choose me?" is to approach it from a very reactive standpoint. Instead, ask yourself from a more proactive position.

"What makes me an awesome human being?" or "What makes me a good individual?"

Divorce the external world from your reasoning. This is important to developing core confidence. Confidence completely dependent upon your own personal level of integrity.

No more thinking, "What can I provide for her?" it should be, "What makes me so awesome that she would want to provide for me?"

You gotta flip that buyer/seller dynamic in your mind. Start believe in your value.

An example of a good answer would be, "I'm a hard working individual." "I have integrity in my words, emotions and actions." "I enjoy life, love joking about things and not taking things too seriously."

Value you. Not what you can do for others.
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UtopiaFive

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 PART 3

Last step of this exercise is to get some emotional leverage - Answer each question in 50 to 100 words:
1. Why do you need to get this issue handled?
Cuz as a dude who wants a LOT (And is willing to GIVE and DO the requisite shit to get there), variety with women, abundance of sex, fun, enjoying myself are the way I can help myself the most.  You have to stay healthy with eating and exercise, and sex is another CORE area to be on as well.  
I'm a 27yo fucking man -- there's no need to have fears and insecurities and bullshit like this lingering around this area of my life.  

2. What will you feel if this doesn’t happen, and you dont get this issue handled?
Kind of like a gimp, like a lameo, like I'd be forever a tryhard, etc.  

3. How will you change your limiting belief?
I guess "what I deserve" is the limiting belief.  Not fully 100,000% believing that I can get super hot, cool girls is the limiting belief.  Somehow acting as if I still need ANY validation from others, needing to justify anything to anyone else besides myself, etc.

What I'm doing now:
- going out every day
- hitting the gym and eating big to get big
- Miami bootcamp
- Alex bootcamp
- RSD summit
- probably even the hotseat deluxe + city hopping

What I need to START doing more of again:
- the introspective shit
- the reading shit

4. Imagine your self in the future, when you have this issue solved - If you from 2013, could talk to you of today, what would he say?

(i) As much as you go out, its only when you REALLY CHANGE WHO YOU ARE...by making a DECISION...that's when you'll see "results."  
(ii) You're right to still want to see what kinds of girls you "can" get with, but you have to first BELIEVE you "can" get with them.  ASSUMPTION.  ACT AS IF.  FEEL AS IF.  IMAGINE IT.  
(iii) Never let the negative emotions overwhelm you.  They'll come.  Over time, you'll see you can GO INTO THEM AND THEN GET THE FUCK OUT OF THEM.  Wash yourself in the HAPPY TOM once you're past a "mental block" that you're going to hit every so often.  
(iv) Don't sweat it.  Everything is going to be AIGHT.  Literally every day you're a better more cool more awesome dude.  Even when it feels you're going BACKWARDS its because you're revisiting some foundational assumptions.  When you act on the real world without those foundational assumptions, you're building more realisitc and also supportive assumptions, you might just not know it.  This isn't really a reframe here.  Its you seeing shit through your own eyes and not so much through the foreign set of bearings you'd been trusting in for so long.  
(v) Get excited.  You're just a year away from moving forward into new waters in the money/business/financial world.  Girls...that shit AINT NUTHIN.  Here you're dealing with EVERYONE not just the girl in your face.  :)
(vi) Do remember that YOU come first.  

5. What will change in your life when you do delete this limiting belief from you mind? and how will it make you feel?

- feel relieved
- feel like there is no weight or burder on my shoulders to "do" or to "perform" or to "try" and instead it will be a consistent "expression" and more "natural enthusiasm" and 

6. What kind of woman will appreciate the man you are, and things you have to offer?

- i do feel like the answer is 'all of them'
- naturally im inclined to say 'i tend to like women who are more physical-intimacy inclined' but i think thats just my limitation of being more verbally lazy so i still dont go with that
- naturally im also inclined to say 'i tend to like enthusiastic and smiley women' but agian i think thats my limitation of being more chill than sucking people into MY already smiley and enthusiastic world
- i also want to say 'women not immersed in some special cultural affairs or who are very religious' as i tend to not care about this shit at all...but here i just think that they definitely would APPRECIATE me its just that i'd introduce way too many conflicting emotions for them
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Cat

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Hey man.

Take a break from thinking about YOU so much and go outside and sit in nature and listen to some birds.

Pretty fucking serious.  You're clearly waaaay too in your head about your life.  Time to experience LIFE not "my self-consciousness of life".

Hope this helps / gives you some useful insight.  

Cheers man, want to see you keep owning.
-Cat
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PUA of the Future

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 Yo man for sure if you're going to be drinking...like AT ALL, there's no way you can go out for a year straight.  Just this morning while at work I was wondering why I had so much energy, because theoretically (in my mind) I SHOULDN"T have had that much energy because I didn't get too much sleep and it was early.  And then I was like...o yea...I have so much energy because I eat a great diet and I go to the gym every day...that's why...and that's why we do this shit.  Drinking at all would have killed that.

Have you read The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey?  I recently read just the first part and it completely changed my world and the way I see things and how I want to go about my days.  I'd definitely recommend it if you haven't..
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http://www.rsdnation.com/node/102567?page=40#comment-879488
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UtopiaFive

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Yeah, this is good, thanks man.  

Was just answering some questions that Madison said he found pretty useful.  
One of them seemed pretty good to me, mainly the one about "What would the future you from a year down the line tell your current self, when he had shit more handled?"
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Value you. Not what you can do for others.

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