THE FORUMS
This came along at the right time for me, so there is zero relapse. I read the info, and other people's experiences...and common sense...and just decided to get healthy. I realized at some point I'm going to be a chill guy in a relationship with a woman longterm. I see myself as a successful business that is not going to get anything for free. I am not counting days. I'm trusting the guys who have laid out the map, and I'm going to follow it.
When it comes to brain re-wiring, it's slow. Like working out. I did that for 4 years, five days a week, and now I look like an athlete. I changed my identity. I hope for the same here...apparently after a few months it's done. Comparatively, it's much faster.
Either way, for sure, I'll be different. Maybe for many guys, at this time, it doesn't feel like an issue. I totally respect that. For me, I didn't even imagine such a thing existed, but following www.yourbrainonporn.com convinced me there is a STRONG chance it'll make me a better, happier man who's more successful with women...and that's the image and goal I've got in mind.
Nothing fancy, just choosing something really different...the same thing I did with the gym. And the change was unreal. Huge. Maybe this will be the same.
I'm betting on it. As simple as that. I think it's going to work..based on the efforts of others who I'm choosing to follow for now. I won't go back to the old compulsive way. Long term that won't work for me. Of that I'm 100% sure.
Is it better to not wank consecutively for however number of days? Sex is ok though, but can i still blow? I went to the site, but it doesnt mention if you're supposed to do it on consecutive days or just count however number of days, consecutive or not......I will start today, it will be interesting to see the results..... When it comes to brain re-wiring, it's slow. Like working out. I did that for 4 years, five days a week, and now I look like an athlete. I changed my identity. I hope for the same here...apparently after a few months it's done. Comparatively, it's much faster.
Either way, for sure, I'll be different. Maybe for many guys, at this time, it doesn't feel like an issue. I totally respect that. For me, I didn't even imagine such a thing existed, but following www.yourbrainonporn.com convinced me there is a STRONG chance it'll make me a better, happier man who's more successful with women...and that's the image and goal I've got in mind.
Nothing fancy, just choosing something really different...the same thing I did with the gym. And the change was unreal. Huge. Maybe this will be the same.
I'm betting on it. As simple as that. I think it's going to work..based on the efforts of others who I'm choosing to follow for now. I won't go back to the old compulsive way. Long term that won't work for me. Of that I'm 100% sure.
Keep it simple. Read the FAQ and the "re-booting accounts".
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I think it's really for those who are genuinely addicted, I went a week and saw no results, in fact I felt like I could just give up altogether but why do that? All ill be doing is quitting one of life's little pleasures for no good reason.
Here's a thought though, someone mentioned how porn is a super stimulus, well if it's arguably more visually and mentally stimulating than real sex, surely it's actually better in some ways then the real thing?
Seriously compare the two and tell me what's easier and just as enjoyable, to the brain you're banging super hotties regularly with porn, real world probably not so much.
Here's a thought though, someone mentioned how porn is a super stimulus, well if it's arguably more visually and mentally stimulating than real sex, surely it's actually better in some ways then the real thing?
Seriously compare the two and tell me what's easier and just as enjoyable, to the brain you're banging super hotties regularly with porn, real world probably not so much.
Except from the fact that you're missing the fun, presence and bonding of an ACTUAL HUMAN BEING next to you, then yeah, man, porn is superior to real sex. WTF xD
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I'm jerking it too buddy, high five!
Maybe if you stopped Jerking it might actually help you solve your fear of arbitrary words like Sex, or Girl.www.rsdnation.com/node/206525/forum
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"As our awesomeness grows, I find it difficult to acknowledge things that arent awesome"
Matt.
"Im so hot"
Goran~
"Oh my god, you look like something out of a magazine"
Moderately attractive chick stroking my ego.
"As our awesomeness grows, I find it difficult to acknowledge things that arent awesome"
Matt.
"Im so hot"
Goran~
"Oh my god, you look like something out of a magazine"
Moderately attractive chick stroking my ego.
Wow...it's kind of confirming what I suspected. You don't ( and can't ) go from being unbalanced and compulsive with porn-masturbation-fantasy to being balanced and natural in a REAL sexlife. Unless there's one shitload of denial going on.
It's like saying the guy who's at home eating refined carbs in front of the TV suddenly becomes a different guy in a fine-dining establishment.
That said, if the truth requires me to face and act on something I'm not ready to face and act on, good night. There is no way my brain will detect it. It can't. Crazy stuff!
It's like saying the guy who's at home eating refined carbs in front of the TV suddenly becomes a different guy in a fine-dining establishment.
That said, if the truth requires me to face and act on something I'm not ready to face and act on, good night. There is no way my brain will detect it. It can't. Crazy stuff!
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“When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.”
- African Proverb
- African Proverb
There is a reason our minds create blind spots. We don't see what we are not ready to deal with. It's the same thing when you talk about the pu community and it's ideas to a random dude and it just doesn't register and he immediately changes the topic after you finish your last sentence. Somethings are better kept outside of our reality for our own sanity. We don't want our concept of reality to be shaken too severely, especially not when it will result in us having to face up too difficult challenges.
Thinking that 'fate' and being nice to girls will solve your social problems is easy. Thinking that everyone deserves a little treat once in a while (in terms of tasty foods) is easy. Sitting behind a tv or videogame and having it take responsibility for your experience is easy. Thinking that it's normal and healthy to watch porn and masterbate is easy. Taking a painkiller when you feel a little sick/pain is easy. Agreeing with another person when he/she is lying to him/herself is easy, approval-seeking is easy.
Admitting addiction, quitting stuff that's fucking up your life, sitting thru the low's and disciplining yourself to eat healthy, rest properly, take right action, educate yourself and be authentic with people; somewhat more challenging... :P
Thinking that 'fate' and being nice to girls will solve your social problems is easy. Thinking that everyone deserves a little treat once in a while (in terms of tasty foods) is easy. Sitting behind a tv or videogame and having it take responsibility for your experience is easy. Thinking that it's normal and healthy to watch porn and masterbate is easy. Taking a painkiller when you feel a little sick/pain is easy. Agreeing with another person when he/she is lying to him/herself is easy, approval-seeking is easy.
Admitting addiction, quitting stuff that's fucking up your life, sitting thru the low's and disciplining yourself to eat healthy, rest properly, take right action, educate yourself and be authentic with people; somewhat more challenging... :P
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Game is the utilization of external events, people and circumstances (that life presents you with), by expressing yourself in a way that (re)frames the social context in such a way that it confirms (is congruent with) your sense of reality and anticipated responses. This roughly means you only think, interpret, feel and behave in a way that supports your reality and expectations.
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At my website: www.identityisdynamic.com
There is a reason our minds create blind spots. We don't see what we are not ready to deal with. It's the same thing when you talk about the pu community and it's ideas to a random dude and it just doesn't register and he immediately changes the topic after you finish your last sentence. Somethings are better kept outside of our reality for our own sanity. We don't want our concept of reality to be shaken too severely, especially not when it will result in us having to face up too difficult challenges.
Thinking that 'fate' and being nice to girls will solve your social problems is easy. Thinking that everyone deserves a little treat once in a while (in terms of tasty foods) is easy. Sitting behind a tv or videogame and having it take responsibility for your experience is easy. Thinking that it's normal and healthy to watch porn and masterbate is easy. Taking a painkiller when you feel a little sick/pain is easy. Agreeing with another person when he/she is lying to him/herself is easy, approval-seeking is easy.
Admitting addiction, quitting stuff that's fucking up your life, sitting thru the low's and disciplining yourself to eat healthy, rest properly, take right action, educate yourself and be authentic with people; somewhat more challenging... :P
Thinking that 'fate' and being nice to girls will solve your social problems is easy. Thinking that everyone deserves a little treat once in a while (in terms of tasty foods) is easy. Sitting behind a tv or videogame and having it take responsibility for your experience is easy. Thinking that it's normal and healthy to watch porn and masterbate is easy. Taking a painkiller when you feel a little sick/pain is easy. Agreeing with another person when he/she is lying to him/herself is easy, approval-seeking is easy.
Admitting addiction, quitting stuff that's fucking up your life, sitting thru the low's and disciplining yourself to eat healthy, rest properly, take right action, educate yourself and be authentic with people; somewhat more challenging... :P
This is an awesome post.
Looking one more time at Superman. He's not superman without kryptonite. All this fucked up reward chemistry IS about making changes and "returning to origins". And there's a lot of changes that need to be made.
The big motor of blocking both admitting cause and effect in our lives AND taking action to be better is kryptonite. As long as the painrelievers "work", kryptonite "doesn't exist". But once it gets close enough to you (consequences), there aint much argument, and a whole lot of empathy and humility kicks in. This creates a VERY different life of OFFERING VALUE (service), and an awesome suite of social dynamics.
So it's not only "right action", it's also about lowering the wounded self from God status( either the best fuck-up or the best) to Superman. I don't know of any episodes where he overcame kryptonite.
It's all self-care, limits and LOVE ( self-esteem). You take care (value) what you love and then give...value.
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“When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.”
- African Proverb
- African Proverb
Indeed, healthy shame is knowing your boundaries. No human is free from the way his/her brain works. Tyler named one characteristic of chodes in the blueprint as not knowing how certain choices in life are impacting them and this whole self-medicating craze is a perfect example of this. Even more sadly, it's become the norm. It's how large corporations make massive buck off of the ignorant masses. In today's society, there are so many opportunities to run away and not face reality. A distraction and a new superstimulus are just around the corner. All of them designed to lure you in, to get you hooked with the promise of it's awesomeness. Just another fancy thing that will leave you dissatisfied and looking for the next thing that will give you an excessive rush of brain chemicals. Sooner or later, people may realize that the only way to find enjoyment in life is thru the basic things: just laying in the sunlight, learning a skill, healthy natural foods, authentic social interaction with a fellow human being, passionate sex, Meeting basic human needs.
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Game is the utilization of external events, people and circumstances (that life presents you with), by expressing yourself in a way that (re)frames the social context in such a way that it confirms (is congruent with) your sense of reality and anticipated responses. This roughly means you only think, interpret, feel and behave in a way that supports your reality and expectations.
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At my website: www.identityisdynamic.com
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When it comes to brain re-wiring, it's slow. Like working out. I did that for 4 years, five days a week, and now I look like an athlete. I changed my identity. I hope for the same here...apparently after a few months it's done. Comparatively, it's much faster.
Either way, for sure, I'll be different. Maybe for many guys, at this time, it doesn't feel like an issue. I totally respect that. For me, I didn't even imagine such a thing existed, but following www.yourbrainonporn.com convinced me there is a STRONG chance it'll make me a better, happier man who's more successful with women...and that's the image and goal I've got in mind.
Nothing fancy, just choosing something really different...the same thing I did with the gym. And the change was unreal. Huge. Maybe this will be the same.
I'm betting on it. As simple as that. I think it's going to work..based on the efforts of others who I'm choosing to follow for now. I won't go back to the old compulsive way. Long term that won't work for me. Of that I'm 100% sure.
- African Proverb