THE FORUMS
Completely enjoying the process.
So I'm not good a cold approach pickup. i'm not a gamer yet. I have fucked more chicks than the average dude ever will. I have really solid inner game, i'm a cool motherfucker and I've got a lot going in my life. I can talk to girls, I can stay present and I can truly connect to them. I suck at expressing my sexual intent, I'm outcome dependent and I seem to only be able to escalate hard on the dance floor. i'm not even close to all the sexual experiences i want to have and i'm far from having this area handled. and that's okay. i'm chipping away at these problems every day and I'm getting better from moment to moment. and i will get it, there is no way i'm not going to succeed. to quote tyler: they will have to kill me to make me not succeed.
I'm enjoying this process. It will have many lessons for me, I will grow immensely. it's always your choice what you are going to focus on; either the pain or the pleasure.
You are thinking that maybe someday your shitty dating life problem will work out for you, that someday you will like to approach girls and be able to pull them, maybe if you have consumed enough material, meditated enough or know the tolle books by heart but let me tell you, my friend, this will never be the case. if it is not happening now, why should it happen in the future? really think about it. you are thinking you don't have to step up now because you will get this in the future. but why will you get it in the future if aren't doing jackshit right now? how much REAL progress have you made in the last 6 months? how much could you have made? truly and honestly reflect on this.
working on yourself can make going out easier but in the end there is only one way to go about learning this: start going out.
but i'm sure you have heard this a million times so just try to figure out what it is that is holding you back, maybe you don't want to be a masterful fucker, maybe you don't care about threesomes and having amazing adventures.
i myself am doing it because i want to have this area handled, develop my social personality and this will help me in my future life with my interactions with people for example when networking. and it's a damn cool skill to have to be able to pick up chicks. Not many people have it, how many do you know?
and most of all: i'm in my best years, i want to fuck, i want to live adventures, i don't want to rot away in front of my computer never taking actions. in this stage of life i'm able to live on little sleep, develop my personality easily, change habits quickly, adopt new things and provide the stamina to fuck for hours on end.
do you think this shit is easy for me? fuck no.
i'm pretty hesitant to going out alone. but you need to step up in life to get what you want. are you owning life or is life owning you.
So I'm not good a cold approach pickup. i'm not a gamer yet. I have fucked more chicks than the average dude ever will. I have really solid inner game, i'm a cool motherfucker and I've got a lot going in my life. I can talk to girls, I can stay present and I can truly connect to them. I suck at expressing my sexual intent, I'm outcome dependent and I seem to only be able to escalate hard on the dance floor. i'm not even close to all the sexual experiences i want to have and i'm far from having this area handled. and that's okay. i'm chipping away at these problems every day and I'm getting better from moment to moment. and i will get it, there is no way i'm not going to succeed. to quote tyler: they will have to kill me to make me not succeed.
I'm enjoying this process. It will have many lessons for me, I will grow immensely. it's always your choice what you are going to focus on; either the pain or the pleasure.
You are thinking that maybe someday your shitty dating life problem will work out for you, that someday you will like to approach girls and be able to pull them, maybe if you have consumed enough material, meditated enough or know the tolle books by heart but let me tell you, my friend, this will never be the case. if it is not happening now, why should it happen in the future? really think about it. you are thinking you don't have to step up now because you will get this in the future. but why will you get it in the future if aren't doing jackshit right now? how much REAL progress have you made in the last 6 months? how much could you have made? truly and honestly reflect on this.
working on yourself can make going out easier but in the end there is only one way to go about learning this: start going out.
but i'm sure you have heard this a million times so just try to figure out what it is that is holding you back, maybe you don't want to be a masterful fucker, maybe you don't care about threesomes and having amazing adventures.
i myself am doing it because i want to have this area handled, develop my social personality and this will help me in my future life with my interactions with people for example when networking. and it's a damn cool skill to have to be able to pick up chicks. Not many people have it, how many do you know?
and most of all: i'm in my best years, i want to fuck, i want to live adventures, i don't want to rot away in front of my computer never taking actions. in this stage of life i'm able to live on little sleep, develop my personality easily, change habits quickly, adopt new things and provide the stamina to fuck for hours on end.
do you think this shit is easy for me? fuck no.
i'm pretty hesitant to going out alone. but you need to step up in life to get what you want. are you owning life or is life owning you.
Now, I couldn't write about such a big commitment without having done it at least once. So I declined the invitation to a private party on Saturday and hit up a club all alone.
I was pretty scared before going out but I just stopped thinking about shit, got in the shower, got dressed and started moving while telling myself I'm only going to the club to feel the atmosphere and to check it out. This is how you trick your brain. I learned this from Tyler, because once you are there you are thinking about pushing it further and you tell yourself might as well approach. You need to take small steps: first you talk to some guys, then some uglies then you can hit the cuties and so on. Incremental steps. It really works for me as I'm a person who always wants to grow and I'm pushing myself all the fucking time to the next step.
So I'm getting out of the house and there are people, immediately I start feeling better, sound is playing from a nearby bar, i breath deeply and focus on feeling good from within. i've really come along way in being present and drawing state from within and i was damn thankful for this ability in that moment.
i rock up to a club, a little expat club and i befriend the bouncer. it's so much easier when you are solo to vibe with the bouncer.
in the club i hit the dance floor which is rather quiet and you can talk to people easily. i can push my state pretty well through dancing so i busted out some moves. suddenly i felt this enormous confidence growing from within. then i realized i destroy the first fucking plateau with a huge super bang and that what i was being so scared off (being a lone weirdo in the club) is not accurate at all:
clubs can be intimidating from the outside, they are big, ritzy and exclusive. on the inside, however, there are just a bunch of normal people trying to get by on this crazy little planet we call earth.
further, i realized that there is no fucking body to judge me in this club. i'm out alone? fuck yeah i'm out alone! they have no fucking clue who the fuck i am. i'm out alone by choice because i'm stepping the hell up and i'm owning my life like a motherfucking boss.
further, after having these realizations of grandness, i realized that i'm not afraid of making a fool out of myself. i'm completely present. i know who i am, what i can do and what i have done. what the fuck do they know? it was so freeing to see this truth, that i had to restrain myself from acting like a fucking idiot,creep,weirdo in the club for the sheer fact that i could.
I was pretty scared before going out but I just stopped thinking about shit, got in the shower, got dressed and started moving while telling myself I'm only going to the club to feel the atmosphere and to check it out. This is how you trick your brain. I learned this from Tyler, because once you are there you are thinking about pushing it further and you tell yourself might as well approach. You need to take small steps: first you talk to some guys, then some uglies then you can hit the cuties and so on. Incremental steps. It really works for me as I'm a person who always wants to grow and I'm pushing myself all the fucking time to the next step.
So I'm getting out of the house and there are people, immediately I start feeling better, sound is playing from a nearby bar, i breath deeply and focus on feeling good from within. i've really come along way in being present and drawing state from within and i was damn thankful for this ability in that moment.
i rock up to a club, a little expat club and i befriend the bouncer. it's so much easier when you are solo to vibe with the bouncer.
in the club i hit the dance floor which is rather quiet and you can talk to people easily. i can push my state pretty well through dancing so i busted out some moves. suddenly i felt this enormous confidence growing from within. then i realized i destroy the first fucking plateau with a huge super bang and that what i was being so scared off (being a lone weirdo in the club) is not accurate at all:
clubs can be intimidating from the outside, they are big, ritzy and exclusive. on the inside, however, there are just a bunch of normal people trying to get by on this crazy little planet we call earth.
further, i realized that there is no fucking body to judge me in this club. i'm out alone? fuck yeah i'm out alone! they have no fucking clue who the fuck i am. i'm out alone by choice because i'm stepping the hell up and i'm owning my life like a motherfucking boss.
further, after having these realizations of grandness, i realized that i'm not afraid of making a fool out of myself. i'm completely present. i know who i am, what i can do and what i have done. what the fuck do they know? it was so freeing to see this truth, that i had to restrain myself from acting like a fucking idiot,creep,weirdo in the club for the sheer fact that i could.
Thanks for your input.
Generally I'd agree with your thoughts on keeping the social circle. Thing is, I'm not gonna be here forever and my real friends I am seeing often enough.
I don't know where you get that with the Argentine girls being so different. And that article by rooshv I think is pretty dumb and I would generally disagree with it. I get the feeling that guy just looks for something to write about and who can vouch for his game? Although I'm yet to get more experience with gaming here so I'll see about it. IMO, girls (people) are more or less the same all around the developed and globalized world. We all have the same basic desires, fears, thinking patterns etc.
Generally I'd agree with your thoughts on keeping the social circle. Thing is, I'm not gonna be here forever and my real friends I am seeing often enough.
I don't know where you get that with the Argentine girls being so different. And that article by rooshv I think is pretty dumb and I would generally disagree with it. I get the feeling that guy just looks for something to write about and who can vouch for his game? Although I'm yet to get more experience with gaming here so I'll see about it. IMO, girls (people) are more or less the same all around the developed and globalized world. We all have the same basic desires, fears, thinking patterns etc.
Most people have said that social circle game is key in Argentina and that cold approach game there is far less effective.
Wouldn't it be a better idea to keep developing your social circle instead of rejecting private party invites?
There's nothing wrong with going out solo, but don't neglect your social circle game. You are in Argentina, immerse youreslf in the culture with a great local social circle. Perhaps spend 5 days of the night doing cold approach and 2 hanging out with your social circle.
http://www.rooshv.com/argentine-girls-final-thoughts
"9. Because Argentina does not have an easy pick-up environment, social circle is very important. Gringos who have done well with Argentine girls are ones that have enrolled in school for an extended period of time and built up a social circle. The advice that an American would give a friend to find a wife is the same an Argentine gives to get laid. The average notch count here has to be lower for both sexes."
I'm telling you this because I neglected my social circle game in Toronto last year and I regret it a lot. I wish somebody had told me to build up my social circle last year.
Wouldn't it be a better idea to keep developing your social circle instead of rejecting private party invites?
There's nothing wrong with going out solo, but don't neglect your social circle game. You are in Argentina, immerse youreslf in the culture with a great local social circle. Perhaps spend 5 days of the night doing cold approach and 2 hanging out with your social circle.
http://www.rooshv.com/argentine-girls-final-thoughts
"9. Because Argentina does not have an easy pick-up environment, social circle is very important. Gringos who have done well with Argentine girls are ones that have enrolled in school for an extended period of time and built up a social circle. The advice that an American would give a friend to find a wife is the same an Argentine gives to get laid. The average notch count here has to be lower for both sexes."
I'm telling you this because I neglected my social circle game in Toronto last year and I regret it a lot. I wish somebody had told me to build up my social circle last year.
This is my mate! DUDE YOU ARE SO RIGHT!
" -I want the skill to be able to go out solo. I'll be completely independent from anybody and I will never have to supplicate to people in a new environment to take me out or hang out with me EVER! How free are you if you can go out alone?
-Learning to enjoy the process of learning game more, enjoying going out more
-Learn to express my sexual intent better
-Push myself harrrrd
-Have adventures" (stolen)
I remember we both talked about those problems of doing it half-assedly. I can feel you. I'm going to go out solo without excuse for wing and tear it up on my own, as will you. No more "small progress here and there". Buenos Aires is blowing!! You're being an inspiration. Keep it up and keep us informed on the king sized bed
F
" -I want the skill to be able to go out solo. I'll be completely independent from anybody and I will never have to supplicate to people in a new environment to take me out or hang out with me EVER! How free are you if you can go out alone?
-Learning to enjoy the process of learning game more, enjoying going out more
-Learn to express my sexual intent better
-Push myself harrrrd
-Have adventures" (stolen)
I remember we both talked about those problems of doing it half-assedly. I can feel you. I'm going to go out solo without excuse for wing and tear it up on my own, as will you. No more "small progress here and there". Buenos Aires is blowing!! You're being an inspiration. Keep it up and keep us informed on the king sized bed
F
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Right here we go. I wrote most of this yesterday night as I couldn't sleep and finished it up just now. But POV is yesterday after I came back!
key words: almost jizz in pants, weird sticking point, virgin, what a fucked up STRANGE chick, delusional chick, pull to apt, congruence, jumping through hoops, shit in toilet, etc
i promise with continuation of writing here i'll be able to get the crux of my nights out more easily as i'll learn what to focus on. so don't worry i'm surely not gonna type this much every night and damn i hope so fore myself too. plus yesterday was just a super weird night so i wanted to write about it in detail.
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I just masturbated. It had to be done.
They tell you that you'll have crazy adventures when you go out a lot, that you will experience insane things that you normally wouldn't and as of yesterday, at least, I can vouch for this.
What a crazy fucking chick I met: LOL.
So I went out for the first night of my mission. It was monday night which is the slowest night in Buenos Aires but you can still find a good place if you do your research. I did and decided on a small club 4 blocks from my apartment.
I pay, go in and have a look around the place then hit the dance floor to pump state. The music sucks ass so I dance really badly. I'm sort of in my head. I'm not doing shit so I tell myself I might as well practice to draw state from within and I do with limited success. THen I'm thinking to myself: "I'm either gonna approach now or this is the biggest time waster of my life." I value my time so it works. I tab a cutie right next to me on the shouder and say some shit. BLOWOUTCITY. I'm indifferent. I don't love rejection like some guys on RSDN suggest but it doesn't crush me. I incorporated the mindset that each blowout gives me an opportunity to practice outcome independence and drawing state from within, so that is awesome.
I chode around. I realize that the difficulties I associated with going out solo are completely taken care of. I really don't mind and I kind of like it because you are so independent. I'm also not afraid to make a fool out of myself.
I dance badly and very uninspiredly. I'm starting to think this club wasn't the best choice; it's super small and there are as it seems only argentine people and they all stick around in groups and seem to know each other. I'm worried about me not speaking Spanish. Also I fall into drawing state from environment because usually there are girls checking me out on the dance floor -- or I just imagine it -- but I could swear they are always trying to dance close to me. LOL. Not here though so I'm having some bullshit limiting belief that Argentina must be frigid. (It's bullshit.)
Again, I remind myself that I'm either gonna do something or that this is the biggest time waster ever. It works, I see a girl next to the bar who I was under the impression was checking me out. It's funny I really stood out on the dance floor because I'm basically one of the tallest guys there. I'm not tall, just average. I'm 6 feet tall but here in Argentina that's quite a bit more than average. Gamewise it doesn't help me shit, so don't start making excuses guys but it's just funny to look over most heads. The girl has a tight fucking body, I can't see her face but I dislike her hair (kinda afro look, lol) but whatever. I rock up: "Who are you!!" She is like "what?" I was in a pretty un-fun state when I approached but I owned it and didn't try to be all happy and charming I just focus on being congruent. I tell her I'm glad she speaks English. She is from Alaska and half Ukranian. She tells me: "You are a very shitty dancer - it amused me to watch you". So yeah I got lucky here but also forced my luck by approaching. Girl is out on her own, speaks English and was watching me dance even though she thought I was a bad dancer.
I don't deny her accusation and make no excuses about hating the music etc I just didn't give a fuck. I tell her I'm feeling a bit weird it's my first time out alone. blabla she says she's gonna show me how dancing is done. I grab her arm and pull her to the floor she says stand next to the wall, I do, then she proceeds to start rubbing her fucken golden ass in that thight little soft dress against my dick LIKE CRAZY. I guess it's this brazilian dance where you just stand there and the chick rubs her ass and pussy against your dick. Awesome.
I was still in my head at that point, so I decide to become present by focusing on her female energy and sexuality "I breath her in". I works wonders and I fill great immediately. My dick gets super hard and while she dances my cock is between her ass checks and under her pussy. It feels so fucking awesome she is basically jacking me off with there ass and pussy and I feel the labia on my cock. NICE.
We dance about 30 mins like that with some breaks in-between and by the end I had to control myself in oder to not jizz in my pants! FOR REAL it was that hot.
I was touching her during the dance and kissed her neck. I wanted to make out with her but waited because I could, I thought I'd make it more solid by waiting a bit. (some alex stuff here need to test it more)
Anyway music changes to some pop shit and we go upstairs. She goes to the bathroom and i start chatting up some guys immediately whom I suspected to be foreigners because of their clothing. They are and we talk balbal, I realize again that I'm owning being out alone A LOT. I'm not even trying to suggest that I actually have friends or any of that shit.
Chick goes to the danceflor and dances with another guy. I go down to the dance floor and without ANY doubt just yank her away from the guy. They were close together and embraced, I don't give a fuck. I turn my back to the dude and he VAPORIZED immediately. hahaha awesome! Chick is LOVING it. She bounces I talk to more people (argentinians this time, practicing my shitty spanish.)
Some badass minimal music comes on which I digg and I hit the floor in pure self-amusement and dance my ass off. I fucking own the place. Side note: I have no idea what I'm doing when dancing I'm just feeling the music if I like it, feeling the beats and I'm rocking to it completely in the moment, thoughtless interspersed with the occasional thought of grandness.
This hot tall fucking blonde chick comes up to me, comes in close and is checking me out super obviously while yelling shit like OHYEAH!! She has a dude in tow who is looking a bit hopeless. She wants to dance with me by offering herself.
Here is where I'm fucked up: I think: Its going solidly with the Alaskan chick so I would just fuck it up when dancing with this girl because the Alasaka chick will think I'm some sort of player and will be intimidated etc. II know it's fucking stupid and it would have been great for the jealousy, abundance etc but I have the same problem when I'm out with female friends in the club that I won't approach because I'm in THEIR head thinking I'm a dick because I'm not hitting on them but on other etc.
So there is a sticky. :)
I go back to Alaska, she's been watching me secretly and is saying stuff how I'm dancing a bit better now with a huge smile. Of course she was digging it. I say nothing and I'm unreactive truly not caring to impress. Shoot the shit a bit I want to kiss her, CHEEK, I laugh say some shit and try again. She says you can't kiss me on the mouth, you can kiss my check. I say wtf I don't want to kiss your sweaty check. blabla I'm indifferent as she gets super attracted by my escalation attempts.
She says she is gonna leave as the club is going to close in 15mins and I tell her let's go.
I lead down the street, we walk hand in hand, arm in arm. I have no thoughts like "I'm gonna pull, fuck yeah, will be great for my journal" nope nothing of the sort. I say a lot of random shit if the conversation goes in some fucked up direction. Works charmingly.
She wants to get some food I tell her I know a place and lead her to my apt which is so fucking close LOVE THAT. She says there are no shops here I tell her let's go to my apt grab some stuff and take it to the roof (talked about the roof earlier) but not for too long because I have work early tomorrow.
We go up and she closes the door to the apt. That's right we ain't going to the roof.
We hit the balcony and we talk and here is the fucked up part:
Cick is STRAAAAAANGE as fuck. She'd been traveling in Latin America alone for 3 months and now lives in BA. She hitchhiked with motorbike dudes and shit like that so I'm thinking ok, wild chick is gonna be an easy lay. Then she starts telling me she doesn't drink. --Cool whatever but i'm a bit concerned. continues: She doesn't do drugs and dislikes people who do drugs. I tell her immediately I tried most drugs under the sun. (wanted the experience) she reacts to me and justifies some bullshit. I still own the interaction.
Then she says she doesn't have sex and proceeds talking about some of her rules. I ignore it initially but then expand on it and she tells me super fucked up things how she thinks girls who take off their bras in clubs are sluts and that you should only do this in the private bedroom. I tell her she is judgmental. Then she literally tells me she likes having her cunt licked by strangers and she doesn't think that is slutty. And she once had 3 guys like her pussy within 24 hours. I laugh uncontrollably. and ask if she had sucked cock -- only 2x.
She tells me about her life and how she has everything planned out for the next 30 years and other really strange fucking shit. I'm just having her talk and saying stupid out of place shit.
She is digging me completely because I don't care so she loves everything, like that I have an Aloe Vera plant etc.
I bust out a story about how I instinctively learned to enjoy the moment and becoming present when i was in Australia and was driving around in my car to the most beautiful beaches and that after the 5th beach I didn't enjoy the enourmes beauty in front of me anymore because I was comparing it to the previous beaches and then something clicked inside of me and I learned to become present and I saw everything more clearly and appreciated it more (this is true btw, awesomeness)
She diggs that shit right up of course.
Let's go inside. Ok. We sit on the couch and I want to kiss her and she still refuses and says I should give her a back massage. I tell her no I won't. She says you can't kiss me until you do. I laugh uncontrollably. At this point I get her drift. I forgot about the lay as she was baffling for quite some time about all her rules and way of being so I knew there was no way to fuck her but I'm just enjoying the enormity of the fuckedupness of this situation. I think it's so funny and strange.
I touch her body and naked legs, I tell her I want to show you my bed. (hahahaha how bad is this)
she comes I throw her on it and she spreads her legs, I rub my cock against her panties as she was wearing a dress. I want to kiss her, no.. back massage. lool
Now it gets weirded: her rule was no mouth kissing until back massage. I wasn't gonna buy into her shit. So I tell her relax I'm not kissing you mouth. She says ok I'm trusting you. So I kiss her face and neck and start LICKING HER FUCKINGN TITS (awesome) but no kissing on the mouth HAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHA
I get her undressed, she says she needs to go to the bathroom, comes back and then tells me she washed up. So I'm thinking ok so you think you are gonna get your lil pussy licked now eh.
I kiss her tits more and start rubbing her pussy through the panties. I want to put my hand in the panties she says more shit like you need to work for that first. I'm really just laughing and seeing how far I can go now. Then I touch her pussy through the side of her panties and that works LOL, she is shaved clean I get excited but she says I need to work for it.
So she is thinking:
-It would be my privilege to serve her sexually and I need even to work for it.
-Sex is absolutely out of the question and I only get to play around with her and that's it
-I should be thankful for that
I knew that if I complied and jumped through her hoops I would be able to play with her pussy maybe even get my dick sucked. However I feel I value my masculinity too much and that all this goes against my principles and I just think how absolutely absurd this is and that's not how it works so I decide to try a freeze out and cut everything off completely. She is shaken by this and doesn't know what to do. She says some shit how I'm super confident and too used to getting what I want. I say nothing.
After a while she gets up and starts dressing I go back, kiss her on the mouth, we make out. She says I need to go and I say yeah go.
I kick her out and kiss her again on the mouth. She thanks me for the night and stuff. lol
In the elevator back up I'm literally just laughing and confused by the absurdity of the situation.
Needless to say I'm super fucking horny, this was too much for my dick to handle.
I realize most guys would do anything to just get to play with some pussy and would jump blindly through all her hoops and it's for fuckers like them that we have chicks like her who are completely DELUSIONAL.
I honestly couldn't buy into her shit just for some oral sex even though I was really aroused. I just valued my values too much and this is not how I roll. I would hate myself afterwards, just how you do when you laugh at a joke you don't think is funny or pretend to be interested in something boring somebody says just because you think they are higher value. you will always feel like shit afterwards and I'm just to true to myself and didn't buy into her shit which I think is awesome.
THis is most of it, I'm tired of writing.
Some cool realizations from night1:
-I own going out solo
-I never ever thought about this thread during my night out. Prevousily I was worried that i would be thinking about how awesome it would be if I pulled to post here. But no I don't give a shit and this thread was off my mind all night long.
-My inner game is tight. The years of working on myself are paying off. I'm feeling reasonably entitled, I know who I am, I can draw state from within, I live on my own terms, I grounded in my own movie, I'm unreactive, i'm true to myself, I can hit state quickly just getting this verified feels good and cements it harder into my being.
I hope some people read this and give me their insights
thanks for reading.
porfiry
peace out brothers
ps: cool thing is, back int he day i would always clean my place before going out but now it was kind of a mess (not a lot i'm pretty organized guy, but there was like a bit of shit marks in the toilet, some clothes on the couch, and some pots and pans lying around for air-drying and the bed a mess) and i completely didn't care about it. so it's cool i'm getting more congruent. like i knew she is gonna go to the toilet that's a dirty and i was completely irreverent to that.
it truly doesn't matter if you don't think it does. it's true.
loll the chick also told me: i thought you have to work tomorrow. i tell her no i don't i'm self-employed i do whatever the fuck i want so she is like oh cool so you were just saying that to be able to have an excuse to kick me out in case i'm not cool?
i'm like eeh of course.
key words: almost jizz in pants, weird sticking point, virgin, what a fucked up STRANGE chick, delusional chick, pull to apt, congruence, jumping through hoops, shit in toilet, etc
i promise with continuation of writing here i'll be able to get the crux of my nights out more easily as i'll learn what to focus on. so don't worry i'm surely not gonna type this much every night and damn i hope so fore myself too. plus yesterday was just a super weird night so i wanted to write about it in detail.
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I just masturbated. It had to be done.
They tell you that you'll have crazy adventures when you go out a lot, that you will experience insane things that you normally wouldn't and as of yesterday, at least, I can vouch for this.
What a crazy fucking chick I met: LOL.
So I went out for the first night of my mission. It was monday night which is the slowest night in Buenos Aires but you can still find a good place if you do your research. I did and decided on a small club 4 blocks from my apartment.
I pay, go in and have a look around the place then hit the dance floor to pump state. The music sucks ass so I dance really badly. I'm sort of in my head. I'm not doing shit so I tell myself I might as well practice to draw state from within and I do with limited success. THen I'm thinking to myself: "I'm either gonna approach now or this is the biggest time waster of my life." I value my time so it works. I tab a cutie right next to me on the shouder and say some shit. BLOWOUTCITY. I'm indifferent. I don't love rejection like some guys on RSDN suggest but it doesn't crush me. I incorporated the mindset that each blowout gives me an opportunity to practice outcome independence and drawing state from within, so that is awesome.
I chode around. I realize that the difficulties I associated with going out solo are completely taken care of. I really don't mind and I kind of like it because you are so independent. I'm also not afraid to make a fool out of myself.
I dance badly and very uninspiredly. I'm starting to think this club wasn't the best choice; it's super small and there are as it seems only argentine people and they all stick around in groups and seem to know each other. I'm worried about me not speaking Spanish. Also I fall into drawing state from environment because usually there are girls checking me out on the dance floor -- or I just imagine it -- but I could swear they are always trying to dance close to me. LOL. Not here though so I'm having some bullshit limiting belief that Argentina must be frigid. (It's bullshit.)
Again, I remind myself that I'm either gonna do something or that this is the biggest time waster ever. It works, I see a girl next to the bar who I was under the impression was checking me out. It's funny I really stood out on the dance floor because I'm basically one of the tallest guys there. I'm not tall, just average. I'm 6 feet tall but here in Argentina that's quite a bit more than average. Gamewise it doesn't help me shit, so don't start making excuses guys but it's just funny to look over most heads. The girl has a tight fucking body, I can't see her face but I dislike her hair (kinda afro look, lol) but whatever. I rock up: "Who are you!!" She is like "what?" I was in a pretty un-fun state when I approached but I owned it and didn't try to be all happy and charming I just focus on being congruent. I tell her I'm glad she speaks English. She is from Alaska and half Ukranian. She tells me: "You are a very shitty dancer - it amused me to watch you". So yeah I got lucky here but also forced my luck by approaching. Girl is out on her own, speaks English and was watching me dance even though she thought I was a bad dancer.
I don't deny her accusation and make no excuses about hating the music etc I just didn't give a fuck. I tell her I'm feeling a bit weird it's my first time out alone. blabla she says she's gonna show me how dancing is done. I grab her arm and pull her to the floor she says stand next to the wall, I do, then she proceeds to start rubbing her fucken golden ass in that thight little soft dress against my dick LIKE CRAZY. I guess it's this brazilian dance where you just stand there and the chick rubs her ass and pussy against your dick. Awesome.
I was still in my head at that point, so I decide to become present by focusing on her female energy and sexuality "I breath her in". I works wonders and I fill great immediately. My dick gets super hard and while she dances my cock is between her ass checks and under her pussy. It feels so fucking awesome she is basically jacking me off with there ass and pussy and I feel the labia on my cock. NICE.
We dance about 30 mins like that with some breaks in-between and by the end I had to control myself in oder to not jizz in my pants! FOR REAL it was that hot.
I was touching her during the dance and kissed her neck. I wanted to make out with her but waited because I could, I thought I'd make it more solid by waiting a bit. (some alex stuff here need to test it more)
Anyway music changes to some pop shit and we go upstairs. She goes to the bathroom and i start chatting up some guys immediately whom I suspected to be foreigners because of their clothing. They are and we talk balbal, I realize again that I'm owning being out alone A LOT. I'm not even trying to suggest that I actually have friends or any of that shit.
Chick goes to the danceflor and dances with another guy. I go down to the dance floor and without ANY doubt just yank her away from the guy. They were close together and embraced, I don't give a fuck. I turn my back to the dude and he VAPORIZED immediately. hahaha awesome! Chick is LOVING it. She bounces I talk to more people (argentinians this time, practicing my shitty spanish.)
Some badass minimal music comes on which I digg and I hit the floor in pure self-amusement and dance my ass off. I fucking own the place. Side note: I have no idea what I'm doing when dancing I'm just feeling the music if I like it, feeling the beats and I'm rocking to it completely in the moment, thoughtless interspersed with the occasional thought of grandness.
This hot tall fucking blonde chick comes up to me, comes in close and is checking me out super obviously while yelling shit like OHYEAH!! She has a dude in tow who is looking a bit hopeless. She wants to dance with me by offering herself.
Here is where I'm fucked up: I think: Its going solidly with the Alaskan chick so I would just fuck it up when dancing with this girl because the Alasaka chick will think I'm some sort of player and will be intimidated etc. II know it's fucking stupid and it would have been great for the jealousy, abundance etc but I have the same problem when I'm out with female friends in the club that I won't approach because I'm in THEIR head thinking I'm a dick because I'm not hitting on them but on other etc.
So there is a sticky. :)
I go back to Alaska, she's been watching me secretly and is saying stuff how I'm dancing a bit better now with a huge smile. Of course she was digging it. I say nothing and I'm unreactive truly not caring to impress. Shoot the shit a bit I want to kiss her, CHEEK, I laugh say some shit and try again. She says you can't kiss me on the mouth, you can kiss my check. I say wtf I don't want to kiss your sweaty check. blabla I'm indifferent as she gets super attracted by my escalation attempts.
She says she is gonna leave as the club is going to close in 15mins and I tell her let's go.
I lead down the street, we walk hand in hand, arm in arm. I have no thoughts like "I'm gonna pull, fuck yeah, will be great for my journal" nope nothing of the sort. I say a lot of random shit if the conversation goes in some fucked up direction. Works charmingly.
She wants to get some food I tell her I know a place and lead her to my apt which is so fucking close LOVE THAT. She says there are no shops here I tell her let's go to my apt grab some stuff and take it to the roof (talked about the roof earlier) but not for too long because I have work early tomorrow.
We go up and she closes the door to the apt. That's right we ain't going to the roof.
We hit the balcony and we talk and here is the fucked up part:
Cick is STRAAAAAANGE as fuck. She'd been traveling in Latin America alone for 3 months and now lives in BA. She hitchhiked with motorbike dudes and shit like that so I'm thinking ok, wild chick is gonna be an easy lay. Then she starts telling me she doesn't drink. --Cool whatever but i'm a bit concerned. continues: She doesn't do drugs and dislikes people who do drugs. I tell her immediately I tried most drugs under the sun. (wanted the experience) she reacts to me and justifies some bullshit. I still own the interaction.
Then she says she doesn't have sex and proceeds talking about some of her rules. I ignore it initially but then expand on it and she tells me super fucked up things how she thinks girls who take off their bras in clubs are sluts and that you should only do this in the private bedroom. I tell her she is judgmental. Then she literally tells me she likes having her cunt licked by strangers and she doesn't think that is slutty. And she once had 3 guys like her pussy within 24 hours. I laugh uncontrollably. and ask if she had sucked cock -- only 2x.
She tells me about her life and how she has everything planned out for the next 30 years and other really strange fucking shit. I'm just having her talk and saying stupid out of place shit.
She is digging me completely because I don't care so she loves everything, like that I have an Aloe Vera plant etc.
I bust out a story about how I instinctively learned to enjoy the moment and becoming present when i was in Australia and was driving around in my car to the most beautiful beaches and that after the 5th beach I didn't enjoy the enourmes beauty in front of me anymore because I was comparing it to the previous beaches and then something clicked inside of me and I learned to become present and I saw everything more clearly and appreciated it more (this is true btw, awesomeness)
She diggs that shit right up of course.
Let's go inside. Ok. We sit on the couch and I want to kiss her and she still refuses and says I should give her a back massage. I tell her no I won't. She says you can't kiss me until you do. I laugh uncontrollably. At this point I get her drift. I forgot about the lay as she was baffling for quite some time about all her rules and way of being so I knew there was no way to fuck her but I'm just enjoying the enormity of the fuckedupness of this situation. I think it's so funny and strange.
I touch her body and naked legs, I tell her I want to show you my bed. (hahahaha how bad is this)
she comes I throw her on it and she spreads her legs, I rub my cock against her panties as she was wearing a dress. I want to kiss her, no.. back massage. lool
Now it gets weirded: her rule was no mouth kissing until back massage. I wasn't gonna buy into her shit. So I tell her relax I'm not kissing you mouth. She says ok I'm trusting you. So I kiss her face and neck and start LICKING HER FUCKINGN TITS (awesome) but no kissing on the mouth HAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHA
I get her undressed, she says she needs to go to the bathroom, comes back and then tells me she washed up. So I'm thinking ok so you think you are gonna get your lil pussy licked now eh.
I kiss her tits more and start rubbing her pussy through the panties. I want to put my hand in the panties she says more shit like you need to work for that first. I'm really just laughing and seeing how far I can go now. Then I touch her pussy through the side of her panties and that works LOL, she is shaved clean I get excited but she says I need to work for it.
So she is thinking:
-It would be my privilege to serve her sexually and I need even to work for it.
-Sex is absolutely out of the question and I only get to play around with her and that's it
-I should be thankful for that
I knew that if I complied and jumped through her hoops I would be able to play with her pussy maybe even get my dick sucked. However I feel I value my masculinity too much and that all this goes against my principles and I just think how absolutely absurd this is and that's not how it works so I decide to try a freeze out and cut everything off completely. She is shaken by this and doesn't know what to do. She says some shit how I'm super confident and too used to getting what I want. I say nothing.
After a while she gets up and starts dressing I go back, kiss her on the mouth, we make out. She says I need to go and I say yeah go.
I kick her out and kiss her again on the mouth. She thanks me for the night and stuff. lol
In the elevator back up I'm literally just laughing and confused by the absurdity of the situation.
Needless to say I'm super fucking horny, this was too much for my dick to handle.
I realize most guys would do anything to just get to play with some pussy and would jump blindly through all her hoops and it's for fuckers like them that we have chicks like her who are completely DELUSIONAL.
I honestly couldn't buy into her shit just for some oral sex even though I was really aroused. I just valued my values too much and this is not how I roll. I would hate myself afterwards, just how you do when you laugh at a joke you don't think is funny or pretend to be interested in something boring somebody says just because you think they are higher value. you will always feel like shit afterwards and I'm just to true to myself and didn't buy into her shit which I think is awesome.
THis is most of it, I'm tired of writing.
Some cool realizations from night1:
-I own going out solo
-I never ever thought about this thread during my night out. Prevousily I was worried that i would be thinking about how awesome it would be if I pulled to post here. But no I don't give a shit and this thread was off my mind all night long.
-My inner game is tight. The years of working on myself are paying off. I'm feeling reasonably entitled, I know who I am, I can draw state from within, I live on my own terms, I grounded in my own movie, I'm unreactive, i'm true to myself, I can hit state quickly just getting this verified feels good and cements it harder into my being.
I hope some people read this and give me their insights
thanks for reading.
porfiry
peace out brothers
ps: cool thing is, back int he day i would always clean my place before going out but now it was kind of a mess (not a lot i'm pretty organized guy, but there was like a bit of shit marks in the toilet, some clothes on the couch, and some pots and pans lying around for air-drying and the bed a mess) and i completely didn't care about it. so it's cool i'm getting more congruent. like i knew she is gonna go to the toilet that's a dirty and i was completely irreverent to that.
it truly doesn't matter if you don't think it does. it's true.
loll the chick also told me: i thought you have to work tomorrow. i tell her no i don't i'm self-employed i do whatever the fuck i want so she is like oh cool so you were just saying that to be able to have an excuse to kick me out in case i'm not cool?
i'm like eeh of course.
btw i need to give credit where credit is due, esp cause it is for something so awesome:
the part i wrote about with tricking your brain by saying "i'm just gonna show up to the club" i learned that from trojan- in this comment:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/202625?page=1#comment-793045
it's a really awesome trick, thanks for that man.
the part i wrote about with tricking your brain by saying "i'm just gonna show up to the club" i learned that from trojan- in this comment:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/202625?page=1#comment-793045
it's a really awesome trick, thanks for that man.
Dude, you lost your masculine values to your hand, LOL. Nice beguining for the thread, man. Keep it up, i'l keep reading. Just one thing. Don't you think you are too hooked on your values? I mean, it was just a back massage. I would reccomend you to chill a little more lol.
Thanks for the lessons anyway. By the way, I've started going out ON MY ROMP. Got almost a makeout in the first day. PLAIN DAYTIME Going out solo ROCKS.
SG
Thanks for the lessons anyway. By the way, I've started going out ON MY ROMP. Got almost a makeout in the first day. PLAIN DAYTIME Going out solo ROCKS.
SG
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Nice shit man.
Im in the same position as you... overseas and only going out solo.
You seem to have a way more solid inner game than I do. ie. knowing your values and not crossing them, drawing state from within, being a solid dude,etc.
Im gonna be reading this damn thread with interest mate
well done so far
Im in the same position as you... overseas and only going out solo.
You seem to have a way more solid inner game than I do. ie. knowing your values and not crossing them, drawing state from within, being a solid dude,etc.
Im gonna be reading this damn thread with interest mate
well done so far
Thank you guys. I'll post write-ups tomorrow from the last 2 nights and today as internet is limited. (don't have it in my house)
@SocialGuy: Haha, no it wasn't just the back massage. The entire outlook/mindset from the girl was: "guy must EARN it to be allowed to lick my pussy AND he should be thankful for that". every escalation step I wanted to do she was yapping about some shit how I need to earn it. I smashed some of them withoug jumping through the hoops but her entire shit was ridiculous.
@SocialGuy: Haha, no it wasn't just the back massage. The entire outlook/mindset from the girl was: "guy must EARN it to be allowed to lick my pussy AND he should be thankful for that". every escalation step I wanted to do she was yapping about some shit how I need to earn it. I smashed some of them withoug jumping through the hoops but her entire shit was ridiculous.
7/7? 7 nights a week?
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Porfiry
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Join Date: 05/29/2011 | Posts: 167
I was bored to tears in my small and perfect little European town and I felt I wasn't growing there so I decided to move to Buenos Aires. Other motives were to work on my business and learn Spanish. I didn't know a single person here and my Spanish was limited to the Spanish Learning CD I listened on the plane.
I've just moved to an incredible apartment with jacuzzi on the rooftop and a magnificent view in the absolute best area for pickup in BsAs: Palermo Soho (btw, thanks for the input Tyler. Recoleta is old-fashioned and it's Palermo now where it's at! It's grown hugely in the last few years. Recoleta is for old people) There are like 20-30 clubs within walking distance from my apt that I know of.
First few weeks I focused heavily on social networking and building a social circle. Last week I hosted a party and about 100 people showed up (granted, I didn't know all of them). Just to realize I don't care about having a big social circle. I want quality over quantity. I want to have a handful of really, really cool, amazing, loyal, honest, reliable, interesting and fun friends. I don't want to hang around chitchatting about utter fucking bullshit, wasting my time just for the sake of "being social". I want to bust my ass to get cash and I want to go out to learn how to pull ass.
I've neglected my PU habit. I mean I've gone out and talked to chicks but only in a half-assed manner. I had the excuse that I'm looking for a wing and once I meet a cool wing I'll go at it harrrd. BsAs has been super disappointing in hooking me up with fellow PUAs and I felt I started to become dependent on this.
I decided to fuck it and go out solo.
I'm cool on relying on myself, I'm a very self-sufficient guy. I don't need to hang out with stupid people because it's easy for me to make friends. Although I felt I depended on a wing to be able to go out sarging. I've been out solo a couple of times and it didn't really go well. So like everything in my life I decided to step the fuck up and handle this area. Also I've been in the pua scene for way too long for my levels of success.
So I'm really happy the way it turned out. I'm forced to hit it solo style and it's a good thing:
When I get this ability down to be able to go out alone I'll be the freest man on planet earth. I will need nobody. If I'm fed up with some people I can just leave them and go out solo and find new friends and new girls. Back in the day I would hang out with my friends even though I was bored as hell just for lack of better option. No more of this.
So I can truly be myself, if somebody doesn't like me do you think I give a fucking shit? I don't because I don't fucking need you. So there is no reason to not be naturally expressive, honest and authentic. (Funny thing is, the more authentic you get the more people will start liking you btw)
So I have decided to go out every night starting this monday until Christmas. I don't want to call it a challenge as it shouldn't be much of a challenge but rather a series of sick adventures. The reasons I'm keeping this so short is because I don't want to be obliged to hit the clubs on christmas. Surely I'll continue it after christmas.
In fact I've been playing with the thought of going out every day until the free tour in Buenos Aires.. but one thing after the other, let's first see how well it goes with this mission and weather I can profit as much from it as I expect.
What do I want to get out of it:
-I want the skill to be able to go out solo. I'll be completely independent from anybody and I will never have to supplicate to people in a new environment to take me out or hang out with me EVER! How free are you if you can go out alone?
-Learning to enjoy the process of learning game more, enjoying going out more
-Learn to express my sexual intent better
-Push myself harrrrd
-Have adventures
-Make use of the enormity of my King Size bed
Rules:
-Go out every night and approach every night. Take it seriously. Push it hard, go for the next step. Take massive action
-If I have a first date at night I can count it as going out if I push the interaction to sex. Ideally i'll look to go out after the sex again, here favors the fact that clubs run until very late in BA!
-If I'm seeing a fuck buddy it doesn't count as a date and I would have to do day game or go out after
-I'm also gonna watch a free tour video every night before going out and i will focus on its content while in field.
Challenges:
-Biggest challenge will probably be to shift from "work flow" to "going out flow". I'm pretty disciplined during the day, learning Spanish, reading, working etc so I'm often very enclined to just continue working during the night so I actually will need to force myself to hit that social momentum.
-Language: I'm a bit apprehensive that my Spanish is so bad. Many people don't speak English here
-Sleep: Clubs don't start rolling here until 2-3AM! I've got Spanish classes in the morning so I won't get too much sleep!
-Social circle: I will have to completely disregard my social circle here
-Money: BA is not cheap anymore, while I don't drink clubs charge pretty high cover charges. bars here are lame for gaming as there are mostly just tables with a few groups sitting down
Solutions for challenges:
-Listening to music, dancing, talking to people
-Speak to girls in English. I've read that Brad article that you should just talk English even if you know the native language a bit. I don't completely agree. Right now my Spanish is not developed enough to hold a conversation but as soon as it is I'll only game in Spanish. I don't care about the thought of jumping in her frame and being reactive as Brad suggests -- I do it because I want to practice Spansih so that will be my frame. And they will digg my accent anyway! Plus I feel stupid speaking English in an hispanic country. I speak four languages, soon to be five, I'm not some retarded tourist. Further solution, I'm looking up the pup crawls here in BA and I'm gonna hit the clubs they are going to, so there will be naturally a lot of tourists ;-)
-I'll try to pre-sleep before going out
-I can meet them during the day or early evening, but honestly I don't really give a shit about them. there are only 2 people I truly care about and they'll be okay.
-Try to find cheaper or free clubs, sneak into clubs http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uoIL2x6slC8 ;-), find better bars
Why am I writing this:
I usually don't like telling people what I am doing. None of my friends know about this, although I would like to tell them about it because I think it's fucking awesome and one of the coolest things you can do. IMO, it says a lot about a guy who steps up like that. I choose against it though for psychological reasons (aka don't blow your horn without having achieved anything yet, like you tell people you are doing this and they will give you massive props but truly you haven't done shit, so it's totally undeserved and misleading, plus I'm doing this for myself only).
I write about it here for the following reasons
-Practice my writing in English
-Share my thoughts, to get feedback
-Make myself reflect the nights
-Hoping for people to give input to how I could challenge myself more
I'll probably have some questions so I'd be happy if you could check back on this thread. I'd appreciate it to hear your feedback and tips for how I could make it better. You are also encouraged to submit missions to me if you think I could profit from them.
Thanks for reading.
PS: I hope it won't be boring :D