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Dr Feelgood

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So this is kind of a new quality problem for me - how to keep her around as FB or maybe even as a girlfriend after sex?

Fuck her well and don't show any neediness would be my first guess, any other input? 

This girl from last night didn't want to fuck again in the morning (also, we were pretty tired), but was still qualifying herself to me a little bit ("I usually don't do that, etc."). What's going on in her mind? Blog entry about that evening is coming up.

Every single post from you experienced guys is much appreciated!
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EventH

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Dr Feelgood wrote:
So this is kind of a new quality problem for me - how to keep her around as FB or maybe even as a girlfriend after sex?

Fuck her well and don't show any neediness would be my first guess, any other input? 

This girl from last night didn't want to fuck again in the morning (also, we were pretty tired), but was still qualifying herself to me a little bit ("I usually don't do that, etc."). What's going on in her mind? Blog entry about that evening is coming up.

Every single post from you experienced guys is much appreciated!

Felt embaressed, you pumped her emotions so much it caused her to do something she probably normally wouldn't do. I had it other girl I fucked literally she IGNORED ME for 2 months and I KEPT texting her hahahah then we eventually hung out but she had a fucking bf.....retarded. But same concept i banged her she felt that embaressed about it she ignored me.
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Depend son her situation and how mature she is. I think the best is just to let some time go by and then try...as she is going to backward rationalize everything. If it is something new to her than she is going to be thinking oh boy now he is calling because he wants more sex and I just met this guy..I didnt really know hmm blah blah. If she is experienced and had fun than it will be an easier transition. I have had quite a few of these problems in the past so though it is not as easy as some might think.
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Mack Swagger

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Well I see lots of book theory being thrown at you right now but here is the truth of the matter:

The better your chemistry and connection is the more likely she is to stick around. The more authentic and real you are with eachother, the more real the hookup will be.

Is the hookup the end goal or is it a natural result of the pull you guys have to eachother?

Let me explain this in another way. Here is a list of the last 8 girls I have fucked. The ones I continued to fuck are astericked:

Girl 1: I jumped her out of nowhere with extreme escalation on a sidewalk in front of a hotel after conversing with her for maybe 30 minutes. She shut me down after a bit and I followed her to her room. knocked on the door, and told her I left my phone in her room. (never been to her room). She lets me in. We have shitty drunken sex. We stay friends but play a lot of games and never really hook back up afterwards.

Girl 2: I tricked her into ending up in my hotel room and fucked her. This was a one night stand.

*Girl 3: I spent a good amount of time talking to her and hanging out with her. Then we watched a movie together and I stayed persistent. She got to meet some of my friends too. We ended up seeing eachother quite a bit and have fucked a lot. I knew her for a week before we had sex.

*Girl 4: We hung out quite a bit and the first night we didn't have sex. After that we ended up hooking up quite a bit and even spent a week sharing a hotel room.

Girl 5: I met her in a parking garage and had her come over. We talked about sex mostly and flirted. We fucked, it was a one night stand. She hit me back but I wasn't really interested.

Girl 6: We met through a friend and hung out one night without fucking. The next night we hung out we fucked. I fucked her again later on. Most of the connection was physical. After the second time we fucked I tried to fuck her in the morning and she wouldn't. So I left. That was the last time we talked.

*Girl 7: I had met her, made a connection with her, and fucked her a few times. She looked me up the next time she was in town and came to stay with me. I fucked her silly.

*Girl 8: We talked and texted with eachother for a couple of weeks before meeting back up. We knew eachother pretty well. I went over without the intention of fucking her, just to hang out. We danced, had good conversation, and then fucked. She invited me over again tonight.


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If you read through those I think you can see the difference between a girl I end up keeping around and a girl who is a one night stand. It always will come down to a few basic things and they are usually what leads to the sex. Is the sex a natural consquence of the chemistry the two of you have or is it the goal in why your talking to her?

If your just down for fucking a girl then that is what you will do. You will fuck her and it will probably be done. Fuck buddies and girlfriends are different. There has to be a natural real chemistry or connection going on. There has to be some realness and authenticity. If there is not you better be with the right kind of girl and you better have a really big cock. Overall the majority of you need to realize that the game for this type of shit is different. You often have to play a bit of the game in the beginning to meet her, however to continue to see her there needs to be something a little more down to earth and real. She has to feel like she has a chance to have your heart even though she isn't sure she can have it.
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Dr Feelgood

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Thanks for your input, guys!
As I had suspected, she really isn't returning my texts. This is becoming a sticking point for me now, and I don't like it. I can be a cool guy in the club for a couple of hours, but once the morning comes and can hardly believe a cute girl has just spent the night on my couch, my AFC side comes out full force. I know I was boring and needy in the morning. That will change with growth of my sense of entitlement and more reference experiences. I probably didn't even fuck her too well, because I was a bit drunk. I usually don't drink but had been starting to have some alcohol once I realized that this was going to go down, so I could keep my cool in the taxi etc., ha ha!

Anyways, on we go!
 
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Dr Feelgood

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Waywardson wrote:
Depend son her situation and how mature she is. I think the best is just to let some time go by and then try...as she is going to backward rationalize everything. If it is something new to her than she is going to be thinking oh boy now he is calling because he wants more sex and I just met this guy..I didnt really know hmm blah blah. If she is experienced and had fun than it will be an easier transition. I have had quite a few of these problems in the past so though it is not as easy as some might think.
I don't think letting time go by is going to make it better, because the experience and the connection is cooling off in her mind.
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Dr Feelgood

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@Mack Swagger: True, but a genuine connection is either there or it isn't (in this case it was definitely there). So it would rather make sense to concentrate on things you can influence (or concentrate on how you can influence the connection between the two of you?).
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Dr Feelgood

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Madison~ wrote:
Slow it down, just cause now a days we can pull a girl in 1 hour, dosent mean we cant use the old 5-7- hour rule.

I think you may also need some "Honest Expression" as i call it. 

“Honest Expression”. I just wanna say something because I think it is completely misunderstood. Honest expression is not calling out a girl when she flakes, its not saying she’s hot so you want to get to know her. That’s “boy-man” behavior, so It is none of those things. Honest expression is you talking about your hope, dreams, fears, desires, dislikes, and your lessons learned. NOT you expressing how your caving in to that girl. What you are and what you believe, with no desire to get ANY reaction from her.You talk about your self and your thoughts, dreams, feelings, and share your true life. In fact its what we used to do as chodes that had emotional wounds. but now that were cool moterfuckrs , its cool for us to talk about - for example like 'how we have a cool idea, and decided to take vitamin d and exerside in the morning to stay healthy in the winter because people in north America don get enough sun light in the winter and I wanna be the most healthy awesome man ever -. this is now "self love or narsasit game" but really its just expressing our TRUE self, and not a pickup community game conditioned self. That is “self trust” in my opinion. Underneeth it all this is what the woman are attracted to.

And watch Julien video : http://www.rsdnation.com/node/204990/forum

Madison, I feel like once again you are pointing exactly to the missing links and parts! Having great game doesn't necessarily make one a good teacher, but you sound like you could teach this stuff well too.

So slowing it down to enhance the connection.

Also, honest expression was definitely missing in the morning. She had time, I had time, and we should just have talked for a bit. Plus, I'm probably good at this, it comes to me naturally!
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 i usually just chill and watch tv with her. spend some time with her after sex and be cool. its not hard man.

make sure shes comfortable
get her water if she needs it
light conversation is key
let her go on her own terms
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"i dont just fuck her body i fuck her soul"  Bushwick bill
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Dr Feelgood

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agentdoublej wrote:
"i dont just fuck her body i fuck her soul"  Bushwick bill
Lol, right!
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