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March 26th, 2017
18 YEAR OLD: WHERE TO START?
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BWH

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Join Date: 11/01/2009 | Posts: 36

 I'm 18 and there's a whole fucking lot of information on this site. Where should I start? I'll get a fake and hit up bars, watch the Blueprint and read Tony Robbins, or do whatever... I just need an action plan. Preferably from someone who's been through this process before. 

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Lancelot

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Join Date: 07/17/2009 | Posts: 283

Hey man check this here alexattitude.com/archives/353
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Tezer

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The first thing you should look do to on your action plan is to take MASSIVE ACTION.
The guys who get good at this stuff know when to contemplate, learn theory such as watching BP and Tony Robbins or reading Tolle, and then use this as a supplement for extreme gaming. Approach, approach, approach; learn your weaknesses, see where you're stifled, expand your comfort zone and enjoy a new reality washing over you. Good luck, i'm 18 too and just started going hard at this shit 4 and half months ago.
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Phelim

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Join Date: 10/15/2009 | Posts: 208

 Slow down! A lot of guys ruin their natural ability by reading so much theory. Just work on basic social skills, how to make conversation, be humorous, etc. Go out, be friendly to all, have fun.
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Phelim wrote:
 Slow down! A lot of guys ruin their natural ability by reading so much theory. Just work on basic social skills, how to make conversation, be humorous, etc. Go out, be friendly to all, have fun.
This.

Don't ruin your natural abilities of being a normal dude whose decent enough with girls by reading too much theory.

But either way, check out Drama's Beginners Guide
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CMJake

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I'm 18 too, started 9 months ago or so.

Knowledge about this stuff is just supportive, you won't get ANY better without TAKING action and seeing/ dealing with things on your own. It will rather fuck you up because you will most likely overthink the stuff. But when you do know some theory, you will see things regular dudes don't see, do things regular dudes can't do, understand things about women regular dudes cannot understand and so on. See it as nutrition you need for lifting weights to get stronger. Without the weights, nothing happens. Without the nutrition you won't improve.
You will see where others fuck up and where you fuck up, you become your own teacher, whereas other dudes just try getting girls and don't understand why they get blown out all the time.

Theory just lets you know what's happening in field, why it is happening and how to deal with it. You will autocorrect your behavior naturally over time. The danger is in overthinking all this stuff. This can be when you are on your own or when you are in a social gathering, analyzing people's or your own behaviors. I did this too,it fucked me up. Not as much fucked up as I was under social conditioning and stuff, I was on the right track, but still on a weird crossroad.

What I would do if I were you, in combination with lots of action:
1: Read some down to earth material on Brad's or another instructor's site or on the forum, to taste the theory a little bit. (GOOD stuff, but hard to get down without reference experiences. Your logical mind will know the stuff, but you have to get it down beyond logic in order to 'make it work', because it is all about beliefs and stuff.)
2: The blueprint (To polish your beliefs, assumptions and know what is going on, will fuck you up if you overthink too much)
3: The power of now (Don't take everything seriously, but the main message and practical aspects are truly great, it will make your life better. But don't become some sort of semi-monk or some guy who's lost touch with reality, take the practical aspects out of it )
4: Reading forum GEMS/youtube vids and articles on the frontpage. http://www.rsdnation.com/node/176208, http://www.youtube.com/user/RSDTyler
(combination of the above)
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BWH

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Join Date: 11/01/2009 | Posts: 36

 Thanks for the suggestions. As far as going out...solo? friends? get a fake?

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CBAABC

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Lancelot wrote:
Hey man check this here alexattitude.com/archives/353
+1

Also do daygame. www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/day-game-and-solid-interactions

 Go to 18+ bars.

bradbranson.com/

Reading this is more than enough. Even those 2 Alex´s articles are enough.

Go out a lot...at least 3x a week.

ChinaBoy
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Matt281

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Do your best not to get caught up in excessive theory or any of the other bullshit surrounding this community. The only thing that matters is that you approach a shitload of girls and learn from your mistakes.

Read the field reports forum. Go out as much as possible. Have fun.
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CMJake wrote:
I'm 18 too, started 9 months ago or so.

Knowledge about this stuff is just supportive, you won't get ANY better without TAKING action and seeing/ dealing with things on your own. It will rather fuck you up because you will most likely overthink the stuff. But when you do know some theory, you will see things regular dudes don't see, do things regular dudes can't do, understand things about women regular dudes cannot understand and so on. See it as nutrition you need for lifting weights to get stronger. Without the weights, nothing happens. Without the nutrition you won't improve.
You will see where others fuck up and where you fuck up, you become your own teacher, whereas other dudes just try getting girls and don't understand why they get blown out all the time.

Theory just lets you know what's happening in field, why it is happening and how to deal with it. You will autocorrect your behavior naturally over time. The danger is in overthinking all this stuff. This can be when you are on your own or when you are in a social gathering, analyzing people's or your own behaviors. I did this too,it fucked me up. Not as much fucked up as I was under social conditioning and stuff, I was on the right track, but still on a weird crossroad.

What I would do if I were you, in combination with lots of action:
1: Read some down to earth material on Brad's or another instructor's site or on the forum, to taste the theory a little bit. (GOOD stuff, but hard to get down without reference experiences. Your logical mind will know the stuff, but you have to get it down beyond logic in order to 'make it work', because it is all about beliefs and stuff.)
2: The blueprint (To polish your beliefs, assumptions and know what is going on, will fuck you up if you overthink too much)
3: The power of now (Don't take everything seriously, but the main message and practical aspects are truly great, it will make your life better. But don't become some sort of semi-monk or some guy who's lost touch with reality, take the practical aspects out of it )
4: Reading forum GEMS/youtube vids and articles on the frontpage. http://www.rsdnation.com/node/176208, http://www.youtube.com/user/RSDTyler
(combination of the above)



Im 19, not what I would do.

Step 1. Go to college(State school, no community college buillshit) . Find a degree somehow relating to what you think you might want to do. (Don't get psychology or something stupid, if you want to be an entrepreneur get marketing. Engineering degrees are really practical also but take up a lot of time).
Step 2. Rage your ass off and fuck a lot of girls whilst getting decent grades.

Its like high school all over again but everyones favorite hobby is having sex. People say college is stupid and I kind of agree in some aspects. Don't get child studies or anything gay or youll be making 40 grand a year til you die. You get a lot of connections + a lot of fun and sex. 

Oh and you can also game at bars and clubs too.

Bonus points for a school on this list. And yes, college is sometimes like the movies. 
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/04/14/top-party-schools-playboy_n_849...
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ChinaBoy wrote:

Lancelot wrote:
Hey man check this here alexattitude.com/archives/353
+1

Also do daygame. www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/day-game-and-solid-interactions

 Go to 18+ bars.

bradbranson.com/

Reading this is more than enough. Even those 2 Alex´s articles are enough.

Go out a lot...at least 3x a week.

ChinaBoy
I'm 18 also and this is a pretty good outline. Do lots of daygame. Go to the mall. Always interact with women. At school, friends, just get in the mood and habit of where you'er comfortably talking to women. There's so much information on this site and it's more than enough to get you going and motivated. You need to go out and take MASSIVE ACTION. That's what everybody is saying because from taking MASSIVE ACTION and going out there to approach you will learn more than reading hours of articles and material on here.
 
This shit is simple but it's not easy for a noobie. The first approach is always the hardest. Expect to get blown out. A LOT. Once you do that first approach, approaching another girl won't be such a big deal and yo're going to be a better state. But to get good at this, you have to TAKE MASSIVE ACTION. That means you must have WILL POWER. Check out Tyler's video below. Hope this helps. :)

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