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Feeling shame/regret/being irrational (hard to explain) the morning after a night out?
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It is called a hangover, and yes I have those all the time 
On a more serious note, I only had this when I was in a LTR and went out to beast and closed (make-out or full shabang). I felt guilt/regret the morning / day after because of this stupid social conditioning thing that says you have to be monagomous.
Just deal with it. It just implies that you are changing your mindset and behaviours and your mind is telling you to stay in the same old. It means you are growing and blasting through your comfort zone.
On a more serious note, I only had this when I was in a LTR and went out to beast and closed (make-out or full shabang). I felt guilt/regret the morning / day after because of this stupid social conditioning thing that says you have to be monagomous.
Just deal with it. It just implies that you are changing your mindset and behaviours and your mind is telling you to stay in the same old. It means you are growing and blasting through your comfort zone.
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World Trip Schedule:
Amsterdam: Aug - Dec 2011
Singapore: Jan 2012
Indonesia: Jan 2012
Thailand: Jan - Feb 2012
China (Beijing/Hong Kong): Feb - Jun 2012
Tokyo: Jun - Jul 2012
Los Angeles: Jul - Aug 2012
Vegas: World Summit
Australia 2012 / 2013
Always looking for local wings
Maybe you don't feel entitled to what you are doing? If so, your rooted self image/reality is that of a guy who is not supposed to go out and have fun.
I have this with some other things too, with the most stupidest things. I recently bought myself a new jacket for example, when I get these weird states I don't feel entitled to wear this leather jacket because I tend to believe that this jacket is for cool guys only. I KNOW this is stupid, but it is not something that can be solved in a logical way.
I think you should become more present and work on your reality.
Cliche, but it definetely helps.
I have this with some other things too, with the most stupidest things. I recently bought myself a new jacket for example, when I get these weird states I don't feel entitled to wear this leather jacket because I tend to believe that this jacket is for cool guys only. I KNOW this is stupid, but it is not something that can be solved in a logical way.
I think you should become more present and work on your reality.
Cliche, but it definetely helps.
Hey guys,
I go out quite often and am having some type of success which is good but when I wake up after most nights out I start to get a very deep feeling of panic/shame (I guess, it's quite hard to explain what it is) about what I did the night before. I feel like everyone will judge me on what I was doing and it worries me a lot for some reason.
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I get this when I have gone out and pushed myself into new situations. Sometimes the regret/shame is so strong I can practically taste it. I'm just as befuddled as you are on where it comes from though. Maybe it's your old ego dying as you become a different person? I go out quite often and am having some type of success which is good but when I wake up after most nights out I start to get a very deep feeling of panic/shame (I guess, it's quite hard to explain what it is) about what I did the night before. I feel like everyone will judge me on what I was doing and it worries me a lot for some reason.
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I've been experiencing this too. I think it really is just because your head isn't used to doing this, it's used to being all in love and shit.
Just keep pushing yourself, eventually it should go away
Just keep pushing yourself, eventually it should go away
Thanks guys. I am pretty sure you are all right in a way, this going out often thing is still fairly new to me and a complete 180 from my previous lifestyle. I feel like I am being judged (my ego doesn't want this) for everything that I have done (I don't care while I'm doing it, only the next morning/day) and I need to get over it.
I thought that it would have stopped already as I've been out at least twice a week for the last year or so but I guess not :/
I thought that it would have stopped already as I've been out at least twice a week for the last year or so but I guess not :/
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I go out quite often and am having some type of success which is good but when I wake up after most nights out I start to get a very deep feeling of panic/shame (I guess, it's quite hard to explain what it is) about what I did the night before. I feel like everyone will judge me on what I was doing and it worries me a lot for some reason.
I know it's irrational as I never do anything that would be considered weird and no one has ever said anything about it. I just feel like hiding in my room and having no social contact with anyone and worry about logging onto facebook to see if anyone has said anything/ tagged me in bad photos.
After 4-5 hours it sort of just fades and I go back to normal but it really is a terrible feeling and I would like to try and prevent it from happening. I know it all comes down to caring too much about what people think but I don't know how to address it. I was pretty much a social recluse from 11 - 20 and have only started socialising properly and going out within the last 12 months or so and I have definitely improved since then but this fear seems to be so deep rooted in my psyche that I can't seem to get past it.
Any advice?