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Bzzza7

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Join Date: 02/21/2010 | Posts: 89

Does women actually make this connection in their mind? Or is it a myth?

I've heard about good dancers being good in bed. A friend of mine is practicing salsa and is very good with women. My own dancing is quite horrible (therefor I tend to avoid it as much as possible).
But I think about taking lessons if it could boost my game. It seems fun as well, being a good dancer. Though not instead of practicing my approaches.

Anyway, I have read about women making the connection in their minds, that if they see a good dancer, they immediately think he is good in bed. It seems true in my experience (my dance floor game suck, and most people in clubs pick up girls on the dance floor), but maybe I am rationalizing.

What is your experiences? Is there any truth to this prejudice? wink
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Gumpshmee

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 Every once in a while I'll get opened based on my dancing ability (very rarely), but when I've approached the girl and I'm dancing with I always get the "such a good dancer!" comment, and I know it's accompanied by some level of attraction. It was not always this way. 

As an introvert in highschool I never went to any dances.  After I was out of highschool I would just practice moves I'd seen in the mirror (there are tonnes of youtube videos). Then I got a girlfriend who was still in highschool and by that time I had become a gymnastics coach and learned a few breakdancing moves as well and I went to all of her dances. In all my social circles I have always been "the dancing machine". Trust me... you wanna be that guy. I'm not even really that good as far as I'm concerned. You just have to move. Also taking lessons will get you comfortable about physicality and will up your game on that level (although lots of fucking will probalby do that too).

This can get you started (the videos on that channel look solid too):

www.youtube.com/user/ClubDanceLessons#p/u/9/7LcBgkzNWBY 

And here's a little inspiration:

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Gumpshmee

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 Oh and to answer the question... yes I do believe girls make that connection. It shows that you're liberated in motion, comfortable, physical.
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Mack Swagger

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Of course the girls will be attracted to a good dancer. It's a club, that's what many people go there to do. That's like making the observation that girls seem to be attracted to the skateboarders doing awesome tricks at the skatepark.

I don't think that most pickups happen on the dancefloor however.

It might seem that way because a good dancer is going to get the attention of the girls dancing on the dancefloor, get girls dancing with him ect.

But when the music stops and it's time to go home, it can be a different story. The guys who pull in the club are usually guys who are out there talking to girls, making connections, figuring out the logistics of the various girls and so on.  Overall the dancefloor is generally a trap.

There is no reason NOT to learn how to dance, it can only help. Learning to dance because you think that's the best way to get girls at the club?? Lame.

Learning to dance because you want to learn to dance and would enjoy doing it? Much better.
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Bzzza7

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Points taken. Thanks a lot! It seems a lot of fun to learn to dance, so I will start practice.
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Cloud9

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I have a few bits to add to the good stuff above. Yes dancing is another form of sex for chicks. BUT.

My history wrt dancing: I've taken up dancing a decade ago, got involved with pro dancers (on the business side), never got good at it, completely left the scene, only to return to it this year with a lot more determination. So I guess I have some perspective...I've danced salsa, dancesport - latino and standard, and currently I'm into argentine tango. I have business connections in streetdance and contemporary dance. Grinding in clubs is not dancing so I'm not going to comment on that.

No matter what dance style you choose (I'm talking about partner dances obviously) - DON'T DO IT FOR THE CHICKS. If you go in with a pick-up mentality you will suck double-time: First at dancing as a beginner, and secondly at pick-up. Chicks are there first to dance and secondly to be swept off their feet by Prince Charming (and there's only one or two in the venue at any given time).
Especially in salsa venues there is a brutal pecking order and tight social circles you will find difficult to get in.

So why do it at all....my answer is: FOR MYSELF. It's my path to core confidence. Mastering my body spills over in all areas of my life. I am literally physically more centered. It's my path to becoming unstifled permanently.

Yes the best dancers have a stream on neverending at their feet, they don't need to pick up, the comes to them. Taking up dancing for the is a very bad plan though. Do it for yourself.
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Turok

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IDK but if you want to learn to dance its not gonna HURT you...I wouldn't think twice about it as far as sex goes though...women fuck guys that turn them on much more than guys who "just maybe are good in bed" but aren't cool.  Focus on value and learn to dance for yourself if you think itd be fun but not much more than that
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This is great advice. I initially went into dance to meet girls and hopefully hook up. It did not work for me, not to say it can't. I've gone from salsa to argentine tango, now back to a bit of salsa. There were opportunities in Tango where girls show interest but I was too stupid to realize, too much to take initiative and communicate what I would like from them. Done tango for about 3 years, I was hooked, the connection with women is amazing, :). Anyway all the dancing I did I only end up getting good at dancing, while social skills still lack. And it's impossible to tell when a woman is showing interest, they are too subtle.

Cloud9 how are you using dance to increase your core confidence? I find following a salsa class, I feel amazing, I'm out of my head and feel optimistic. But then I go back to work, and it's not a fantasy life/feeling as salsa is. I get a feeling of aliveness and positivity following salsa, but it's easy when people are meeting together to have fun, lots of laughing, physical thought, and expression to the music. But in the real work, for example at work, people are there to work not to have fun giggling. Do you guys compartmentalize your life? I find if I carry the positive open feeling into the office, people just seem to make fun of me, but perhaps I’m just too sensitive and misreading their communication.

Cloud9 wrote:
I have a few bits to add to the good stuff above. Yes dancing is another form of sex for chicks. BUT.

My history wrt dancing: I've taken up dancing a decade ago, got involved with pro dancers (on the business side), never got good at it, completely left the scene, only to return to it this year with a lot more determination. So I guess I have some perspective...I've danced salsa, dancesport - latino and standard, and currently I'm into argentine tango. I have business connections in streetdance and contemporary dance. Grinding in clubs is not dancing so I'm not going to comment on that.

No matter what dance style you choose (I'm talking about partner dances obviously) - DON'T DO IT FOR THE CHICKS. If you go in with a pick-up mentality you will suck double-time: First at dancing as a beginner, and secondly at pick-up. Chicks are there first to dance and secondly to be swept off their feet by Prince Charming (and there's only one or two in the venue at any given time).
Especially in salsa venues there is a brutal pecking order and tight social circles you will find difficult to get in.

So why do it at all....my answer is: FOR MYSELF. It's my path to core confidence. Mastering my body spills over in all areas of my life. I am literally physically more centered. It's my path to becoming unstifled permanently.

Yes the best dancers have a stream on neverending at their feet, they don't need to pick up, the comes to them. Taking up dancing for the is a very bad plan though. Do it for yourself.
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Panache

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Here's a hint: It's all in the hips.
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Common sense: guys who dance are more self amusing, open minded, non giving a fuck, while guys who stand in the corner are most of the time virgins.

Take dance classes for yourself, not for women.
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