I think of lot of game is knowing how to sucessfully lower a girls value (or correctly dumping her) when youve built them up and things dont go according as planned. Of course you cant just be like (in cartman voice) "I HATE YOU BITCHES FUCK OFF" it has to be more subtle like a simple neg or just simply backhanded so they either are too confused about what was just said or it hits them in just that right area, others have referred to this as a "mindfuck" which I think is aptly put. I would love to give examples but a lot of it is timing and "in the moment" If you dont snag up the moment when it is given to you it is gone forever and its hard to win it back. (of course there are also the type of guys out there who just plain dont care about being the lesser in the interaction and will take all sorts of endless amount of abuse.) But its funny about the value system, because this argument has come up earlier.. when things are going well for you a lot of playful nonsense and things people throw at you DONT EVEN REGISTER, but when things are coming up shit, you hear every little word people are saying about you. I think it is a careful balance of not expecting too much out of any one interaction, but also having the standards to where you will say I will not be allowing this type of behavior in my reality/world/world-view. unacceptable. no place for it. goodbye. But then after youve fucked, there is this whole other ballgame of managing expectations. I usually dont have a hard time dealing with this (from my guy frame of OK, see you later) but honestly IMO most women will demand that there be some sort of explanation after a certain amount of time has occured. Some want you to be their boyfriend, some want to be "in a relationship", some wanna have kids, get married or move in as soon as possible and they are just doing whatever they see fit in their female agenda to get the most they can out of a relationship before it turns stale or sour. But on the same hand, im finding, it is honestly better to end a stale relationship than to sit idly by wondering what the fuck is she doing all the time, if she aint talking to you then it might not actually be your fault, or another guy, it might just be she doesnt have time for you really, or it is just bad timing, or shes moving, or getting a new job whatever really. It is a lot easier not to take things so personally when you understand that it is not always the things you think are happening, you dont know what other people are thinking, and that the real answers are usually things/circumstances are just sometimes out of your control.
somebody posted this on the lair: "2) She doesn't remember who I am. She said she had a lot of men all over her that night. I tell her I was the best one. She said "that's not true, because I slept with the best one last night". What a POS. I think at times actively ignoring somebody is not good enough. Esp. when it comes to women like that. If she wants to play dirty fight fire with fire. Hang up the phone and play the double-flake on her through text.. "Oh sorry, my friend was talking to me, she thinks you are cute, but I think maybe we should just be friends." A lot of the time im noticing is when you get too serious about it - the meetup, which is all that counts, girls tend to back out of it, but if you make a joke out of it right when the moment comes up (think adding lol to the end of any text) she oftentimes just gives you exactly what she wants/is looking for.