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June 19th, 2013
Fred - Pushin' it. Bootcamp edition
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Join Date: 09/02/2011 | Posts: 224

No updates on the POF front. I probably need to redo my profile and try some new messages. Don't have time for that right now.

Monday - Wednesday

Live my awesome life. I'm busy as fuck, but still feel like I could increase my time efficiency drastically. Too much time wasted on things that don't provide any value for me.

Thursday

Bang Hbxmen twice. Takes me a while to get it up for round two. This is new for me. It's almost my 24th birthday, I must be getting to old for sex now. Time for VIAGRA.

But really, I'm not too sure what was going on with my dick. Bad sex on Saturday and then weak boners on Thursday. I won't worry until I start to see this happen more often.

Friday

OMG I TAKE A WEEKEND NIGHT OFF. It's not actually a weekend night, because I'm working 9 hours on Saturday, but normally I would still go out. Roomie and I have a really chill night. I probably needed a night off to recoup, but I still kinda wish I had went out. Even for just a bit

Saturday

Don't finish work until almost 7pm. Yikes. I need to find a form of work that doesn't have me putting in 50-60+ hours a week.

I'm still in an awesome mood and want to get rowdy with some friends. I get rowdy (drunk). We go to Rhino and it's full of little bitties. Did quite a few "opens" although some were incredibly weak. Sometimes I would go up to a girl, "Who are you?" in my boss tonality and it would open pretty well. Then other times I would creep up to girls, tap them on the shoulder, and give them a funny looking face when they turned around. This didn't open up so well, but I found it hilarious at the time. 

There was basically no verbal communication between me and these girls because I was on a mission to get drunk and have as much fun as possible.  Again, at the time I was having a blast, but in hindsight I feel like I wasted a lot of opportunities. I don't get to go out much, so should I spend my time out having a blast or finding the lovely ladies? I think I should try to find a balance.

On the other hand, here is some of the stuff I did do well: (even though I was hammered)

- ChocolateMilk girl: we dance and I grab the shit out of her ass. Grinding. I tease a makeout, but don't go for it.

- ChocolateMilk girl's friend: Later in the night I find ChocolateMilk dancing with a group of girls. Go in and start doing my shitty dance moves. Pull everyone to the stage because that's where cool people dance. One girl is very close, so I dance with her. Makeout and wall slam. This took maybe.... 2 minutes. No words were spoken. Eventually walk off cause I'm bored and it's early. I don't think she was that purdy either.

- HotBrunnette girlie: mid conversation with some buddies, I notice the girl next two us is exactly my type, so I open her with "Who are you". Opens super fucking solid, but eventually my whole group gets sucked in. She talks to my buddy for a while and he's really into her. Asks if he can have this one??? I think he had won her over anyways, but I say "yes" because I'm a philanthropist.

- TwoFriends: I wing Roomie on two beauty's. We somehow isolate and he gets a number. I have a number in my phone and it may have been from my girl. No idea.... I'm going to text it anyways even though it's 3 days later. I don't care.

Text Sent:

Is this <Girlie>? We talked at rhino on Saturday, but this number was punched into my phone with no name. - That dreamy guy with the weird name. <Fred>

- HBex-prude: She came to the bar with us and is hung up on the fact we almost hooked up Valentines day. I honestly give 0 fucks. She won't stop telling me we're just friends, so I get really close and try to makeout with her. It's about 90% joking at 10% real. I basically think it's hilarious. If I had been less drunk and more crafty, I probably could have made this work out in favour of us having a great time in bed. Unfortunately, it would take a ridiculous amount of work. Work which I am not willing to put in right now.

She also tells me, she hasn't had an orgasm in 2012. I assure her I can help with this problem.

....

That's all folks. I feel this is a terribly written FR, but I just don't have the time for anything better.
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Just had a thought that the random number on my phone could very likely be a buddies that just moved to town. Ooops.
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POF sucks.

OKcupid is worse.

My ROI (my investment being time) is very poor. I end up just lurking around looking for cuties. I'm still trying out some new things to get better results. So far I've found that messaging 1. Girls that have "Viewed Me" are more likely to respond and 2. Only message ones that are currently online. I want to keep at this because there are some hotties there, but I'm just not sure if the time investment is worth it.

I might try this: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/214587/forum

If nothing else it would be funny.

As for last weekend, my plan was to go out Friday for a bit and focus on game. Then Saturday would be a "party night". It went according to plan until Friday came...

Friday

Work all day like a boss (a lazy boss that doesn't do shit). Hit up the gym like a real boss and then meet a buddy back at my place. We're going to watch a hockey game then head out for some fun. First, we're going to grab some beers and food. At the liquor store we buy a 24 pack "incase some friends come over".

We watch the hockey game, play Call of Duty, and drink all 24 of the beer. We are fucked. So we go to the bar to meet up with a birthday party. I’m definitely still a newb, but I feel I have internalized a few things at least. When we get to the bar, I approach the first decent girl I see. Probably talked with her for 15 minutes and eventually I bailed to go find my friends. Told her I would come back to find her.

Find friends. Get more drunk. See HBex-prude. Buy us a drink. Party boy all around the dance floor and dance on the speakers. I’m really drunk.

Basically I don’t remember much at all. Here are some random bit’s and pieces

- Found the girl I hooked up with last weekend. Got her number because that’s polite, and then stopped talking to her. She ends up leaving the bar, then randomly showing up at my place at 3:30am for some banging. So we banged.
- Ran into a girl I met at New Years. Spent quite a bit of time with her. Got her number and made out a whole bunch.
- Got another number somewhere and the girl called me at the end of the night twice, but I didn’t hear it. I don’t really remember the girl or the conversation.
- Blew out some dudes talking to HBex-prude because I was a drunk asshole. Basically just grabbed her and made her pay attention to me.
- See my sister at the end of the night. She’s waiting for coat check. I tell her I know the coat check girls and we walk right to the front of the line. I pretend to know the coat check girls and save my sister an hour of waiting in line.
- On the way home, call up HBthailand to meet up. I had sort-of nexted this girl, but some recent developments tell me to just keep trying. She wants me to meet her, but it’s too far and logistics are bad for taking off my pants around her.
- Go home and hook-up with girl from last weekend.

Fin.

Saturday
Probably fell asleep around 5:30 or 6:00am and then woke up at 9 to go to work. Definitely still drunk. I make it through 6 hours of work before I call it quits for the day. Go home and sleep until Sunday.

I’m so cool…

Failures
- Got WAY to drunk to function like a human being

Successes
- Despite being loaded, I executed the program. I was probably really really sloppy, but I did it.

Next Time
- Not get so drunk that I lose control of my brain. I think I can work my magic on girls I already know or girls who are as drunk as me, but anyone half sober probably thinks I’m retarded. Because I am retarded when I’m that drunk.


In other news, I leave to Mexico this Sunday. Springbreak in Cancun!!!111!!! I am le excited. I’ll get hammered, this is for fun only. The girlies will come and want to be part of my fun and awesomeness. When I’m back I’ll work more on this “game” and think over what I really want to do with it.

Cheers,
See you in a week

-Fred
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#44

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Join Date: 02/13/2011 | Posts: 257

Ahh Calgary's a fun city. Rhino and Hudsons. Fucken love those two places.

Like your work though, keep it up!
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#45
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Ayyoooo,

It’s been a while since I’ve written up an FR and even been on RSD for that matter. A few cool things happened since, I’ll paraphrase:

Mexico

- Drunk 100% of the time here. Most of it was controllable drunk. In comparison to most of the people here, I was sober.
- Springbreak is a sausage fest. I would estimate 2:1 ratio. Fortunately, the vast majority of Americans are under 21, don’t have much experience drinking and get obnoxiously drunk. This probably brings the ratio closer to 1:1, but you have to push the drunk retards out of the way. Some try to fight you.
- Logistics are actually a bitch in the clubs here. Unless you’re staying at the same hotel or are willing to pay $50 to bribe your way through the front, it probably won’t work out. I’m not cool enough to do a bathroom pull… yet ;)
- Met quite a few beautiful chicks because I was one of the only guys not slammed, verbally harassing every girl that walks by, and had the balls to approach. Unfortunately, most of these girls didn’t work out because of logistics. I wasn’t willing to put in much effort.
- I’m still kicking myself for not making more of an effort to meet up with this cute Australian. She tried to get my number (didn’t want to turn my phone on and get roaming charges), tried to meet up for predrinks, tried to meet up at a Coco Bongo. None of it worked out. We met on the beach and she was staying at a different hotel. Everything was such a hassle and I was on vacation. ARGH, but she was a babe and really cool.
- LR: Fingered a girl to the point of a loud moaning orgasm in the back of a cab. She was lying down with her feet on the roof. I tipped the cabbie well. Her hotel was a good 30-45 minutes away from mine and in a sketchy ass neighborhood, I was a little concerned for my well being. She was ½ Mexican and she gave me some insane cold. I’m still sick and it’s 10+ days later. Never even got her name. Oops.
- Made out with a bunch of girls at one club. I think it was 3 or 4, this is probably the most in a night for me.
- So many hilarious stories.

Learning experiences
- If I could game without any booze, I would be so much cooler!!! But really, I still rely a bit on drinking to get me over that uncomfortable phase. I would like to be able to go in 100% sober at a club. Or at least 2-3 beers sober.
- Even in a crazy party place like spring break Cancun it was still OK to be a relaxed, chill, fun guy. Some of the girls there are crazy as fuck and will bang the loudest mother fucker they can find, but I think most of the girls are receptive to a laidback approach. Although, I hooked lots of girls doing this, I didn’t bang any of them…. So I could be talking out my ass.
- Strategy for others and next time: Be chill and meet cuties. Then invite them to predrinking and go out. You either have a girl that’s going to be pretty likely to bang or social proof that you’re not a creepy fucker.
I came back and hooked up with HBxmen. Other than that, not too much to report. I haven’t gone out in a while because I’ve been so deathly ill.

Going to go out this Wed, Thurs, Fri, and Sat because I’m cool.

Ooohhh ya

POF

I tried the mass “Meet Me” strategy right before I left. The fatties were swarming!!! Of 10-15 messages from chicks, I wouldn’t want to meet-up with any of them.

In one last effort to get a decently attractive girl to message me, I updated my profile once more. It’s pretty sarcastic, but does tell some things about me. Last night I sent out about 10-15 personalized messages. Each was 2-4 lines. So far, I have 3 responses!!! Now I need to parlay these into numbers and dates.
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#46
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Ughhhh, the last few days were weak sauce. I’m disappointed in myself for not making things happen. I’m a little down with my “pick-up” dedication and some other life-goals that are fizzling right now. Gotta keep plugging away and fight through the resistance.

Wednesday & Thursday

So after I wrote up the last FR, I went to the gym and hit my Crossfit workout insanely hard. I was sick and hadn’t worked out in 3 weeks. Ended up over training my arms so bad that I strained BOTH my bicep tendons. Could barely move my arms Wednesday and Thursday. I looked like a T-rex, holding my arms at 90 degrees.

So go to the hockey game on Wed, don’t hit up any chicks, but it’s a fun night with Roomie nevertheless.

Thursday, bail on HBxmen because I don’t think I could fuck with my arms in such poor shape. Do nothing instead.

Friday

Spend the first part of the night hanging out with my Dad. It’s a blast, he’s a cool guy. I’d really like to make an effort to do more things like this with my family.

Meet up with friends around midnight at a small house party. Everyone here is taken or is a friend. Actually, HBex-prude is here and intro’s me to her new “Boy”, not a boyfriend… She also takes a pretty good verbal swing at me and catches me off guard. I reacted a bit because it was just so harsh. LOL’d after.

I was under the impression we were going to hit up the town, but everyone is pretty drunk and getting high. I try to get someone to come out, no go. At like 3am, some guy I’ve met a few times is heading to another house party. There’s no good reason for me to go, but I do anyways. Adventure timez?

The party is far from my condo, apparently full of kids doing hard drugs, and I’m getting pretty tired. The place has ~10-15 people in it and they all know each other. I don’t want the guy who brought me to feel like he has to entertain, so I start making friends. Nothing notable happens here. I hit on some chicks, but some dude is standing there glaring at me. I don’t push it, because I don’t want some coke head jumping me. I leave and have to walk 20 minutes to find a cab at 4:30am

Satuday

Predrinks at ours then head to Hudsons. I go chode mode. Roomie is killing it tonight. I’m watching shit happen, but not doing anything. Hang out with friends and do a little bit of winging for some of the guys.

Head to the dance floor and Roomie is crushing it there too. He’s insane tonight. I get mouth raped by an ugg. I go along with it and lick her face. Her friends we’re effectively freaked out and I definitely grossed out some of the female friends we were with. Worth it, fucking hilarious.

End of night, I approach two beautiful girls that I’ve been leering at for a while. I don’t think anyone approached them because they were so intimidating. It hooked for a while, then I ejected because… no reason. Went back at the very end of the night on the dance floor and get them both to grind me. Roomie comes in and blows the set up, probably the first time all night he wasn’t on. Also, no credit to myself here, I wasn’t pushing things with these two, so they were probably bored with me too.

Pizza and home.

POF

Got a number from a cutie and going to go for a meet-up this week. Going to try calling her because it makes me nervous – Therefore I should do it.

A few other messages. Lots fizzle out and lots I don’t respond to because I’m not attracted.

Notes
- I need to re-up my effort. More action regarding pick-up and my other life-goals.

I have a fair bit going on this week and then Easter long. Should be an interesting few days.
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Got good things and bad things to report. And some things that could be awesome or terrible depending on how they turn out.

My week in review

Wednesday

Bang HBxmen.

Thursday

Friday is a day off, so we party. Lots of friends are in town for Easter and we end up at Wurst. It’s set up like a German beerhouse (sp?). Has a few really long tables that everyone sits at or people just walk around. It makes for a really social and friendly atmosphere.

We did some heavy predrinking beforehand and now one of my buddies is buying drinks like crazy. Catch up and continue getting progressively drunker and drunker. I really need to cut down on my drinking. It’s fun, but I really shoot myself in the foot if I want to meet new people (ie cute gurlies).

Once I’m sufficiently slaughtered, I start approaching. It goes something like this ??????? I did a bunch of opens and can’t remember for the life of me how they went. It was almost a week ago and I was too drunk. I don’t remember having anything last more than 5-10 minutes. Oh well.

Some shit happens. I ditch Roomie and some other guys because I have drunk ADD.

One of our buddies is with 3 girls. My model-esque friend and I grab the other two. Somehow I end up with the hottest one. Awesome. I speak complete non-sense and it goes over well. I’m also a tiny bit sober now, helps with the wit. My responses are probably a tiny bit funny now vs just “Duuurrrr titties”.

We end up going back to these girls house. It’s right where I ended up last weekend… really far away from downtown. My model-esque friend has a GF and his girl is all over his dick. Shhhhh our secret. He’s not sure whether we should go in or not, his girl literally pulls him inside because she wants his dick so bad.

I raid the kitchen for food and we watch a movie. I fuck up and don’t end up sitting beside my girl. This reminds me of highschool.

OMG!!1!!11! I didn’t get to sit next to my crush /killself.

I end up devouring a good portion of this girl’s food then taking a power nap through the movie.

Friend starts getting a conscience and we leave. That girl loved him. We have a heart to heart and I tell him to ditch his LTR. 

I should have made more of an effort on my girl. She was pretty hot, but I was….. ?retarded? The spot next to her wasn’t open? Sit somewhere else and tell her to join. Easy. As I was leaving, I grabbed her for goodbyes, but didn’t even get a number… and now I don’t remember her name.

We get home at 5am.

Friday

3 hours of sleep and I’m ruined. Most of the day is a write-off. Get a decent run in. 6k in 27mins.

Go watch a movie with my ex-LTR. I think we miss our companionship. I don’t really know why I’m hanging out with her still. We don’t fuck, I don’t make any moves and I’m happy for it.

After movie, I meet a girl from work at Hudson’s. WorkGirl is CRAZY. Actually 100% psycho. I shouldn’t even be meeting her given that we work together and she’s this insane. Think “Fatal Attraction”.

We makeout, grind up on each other, she grabs my cock, and she tells me crazy ass stories. Any sensible person would run.

I only have 2 drinks the whole night. Sober FTW. Drive her home and finger her a bit before dropping her off. Don’t go any further for a few reasons. Next time…

There’s been a bunch of developments on this one and it deserves its own post. They need to be recorded so I actually believe this stuff happened to me.

Get home at 3:30am and I am exhausted.

Saturday

I get a reasonable amount of sleep. ~6 hours. My hockey team has our championship game at 11:45am and we win in a shoot-out. Woop Woop. I’m amped.

Later that day, we have a bunch of people over for Easter dinner. It’s a blast.

Afterwards, a few people are planning on going out. I really didn’t want to, was figuring I would just pack it in and get some sleep. I go out anyways.

I don’t drink much again, maybe 4-5 drinks throughout the night. Unfortunately, I am absolutely exhausted. I don’t approach a single girl. Go to the dance floor to try and get some energy, but it doesn’t work. End up chilling solo at a booth people watching.

I’m a little pissed at myself for not making things happen.

Fin

Positives
- Didn’t drink much two nights in a row
- Went on another crazy adventure
- Still pushing my comfort zone with WorkGirl

Lesson Learned
- Don’t drink so much…. I say this over and over
- I need to push my interactions further. I should have kept going with the girl from Thursday. Maybe get laid or maybe get blown out. Atleast if I try there is a chance of getting laid, without trying there’s 0 chance.
- If I am out, I MUST approach. No sense going out and not doing atleast one

Other news (POF)

Maybe have a date to set-up.

Separately, been texting a girl for a bit, didn’t end up calling. I want to set up a hang-out, but don’t have time this week. I’ll see.

Ramblings and things To-Do…

A little while ago I was going out on my Lunch breaks looking for girls to approach, socializing with everyone, and generally felt happier about life. Maybe I’m just in a down-spell, but I feel down for reasons that I can’t pick out.

Time to get back in action…
- Be more social in day-to-day routine
- Don’t waste time watching tv or browsing the net
- Work on productive things (volunteering, work, hobbies, IM?)

Also, I head to Coachella weekend 2 in one week!
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 UGHGHGHGUGUGH

I need to update this shizzz more often. I'm not even going out that much, but I have too much to report to do just a weekly write-up. Anyways, here it goes Cole’s Notes style.

Wednesday

Fuck HBxmen. Hot sex, but no 2nd boner. WTF this has been happening for a while now. My dick is broken? Seriously. The first time we hooked up in December we had marathon sex, 1 minute break to get water, followed by more marathon sex. This huge refractory period is really new and kinda disturbing. Maybe it’s time to look up some boner health.

Thursday (LR)

Hanging out with WorkGirl.

We fooled around in my car the previous weekend and had “sexts” before the meet up, so I knew what was going down. I was actually worried she might try to fuck during work. I wouldn’t risk my job for a hook-up. Priorities.

Show up at 9 and her kids are already asleep. Phew. I really didn’t want to deal with those.

We sit on the couch and she puts on a movie. Talk for a bit and build a little comfort. I’m not really sure how to initiate physical contact during things like this. Or at least how to do it “smoothly”. I think I just need more reference experiences. I end up sitting close and kind of putting my leg against hers and then having my hands rest on her. Do some playful pushes to get a bit more of the creepy kino (yeaaa retarded PUA language). And then makeout, push her around on the couch a bit, and off to the bedroom.

She had previously mentioned that she likes it rough. I’m starting to think a lot of girls do. As in over-the-top rough. At least rougher than I am comfortable doing right now.

At first finger her, she’s a bit dry, but as things heat up she just pours. Next time, I want to see if she’ll actually squirt. This time liquid was just gushing out, all over my hands and her ass.

As I’m wrapping my dick (she’s clearly very fertile, so I wrap it up good) she mentions not being too loud because the kids are sleeping. 5 minutes later she’s moaning so loud I think the neighbors might hear. End up pinning her against the bed with her legs up and fucking as hard and fast as I can.

This goes on for a while and I end up losing my hard-on. WHAaaat is going on? I have excuses (very wet, kinda loose from all them babies, all the blood was in my muscles from fucking hard) but seriously, this is crazy. I’m actually exhausted, so we don’t bone again. Not even sure if I could have gotten it up again. We chill for a while and I go home around 1am.

I could post up some insane shit about this girl, but I won’t for two reasons. #1) It would take a long ass time to write out all the crazy ass shit. I could put up our entire text and email thread. #2) She’s actually a nice girl who has just made some terrible decisions. I would feel like a hypocritical dick if I tore into her here, but act nice to her in person. That being said, I am staying so far away from a relationship with this one. She’s way to crazy to date, but a good level of crazy to fuck.

***Note**** I am actually worried about my dick health. Not sure what to do here. Kegels maybe? I live a healthy lifestyle and as far as I know don’t have anything wrong going on inside. If this keeps up, I may go to the docs.

Friday

FoozballGirl and her friend come over. In a previous FR Foozballgirl got naked playing foozball and I hooked up with her friend. Tonight Roomie is going for Foozball girl. He’s already banged another of her friends.

Some peeps come over to watch hockey and have drinks. Roomie is shamelessly escalating on his girlie. If she was over at 9pm, I would guess she’s in his room banging no later then 10:30pm. They didn’t even end up coming out.

We go out and my friends proceed to get slammed. I grab a beer and nurse the shit out of it. It ends up getting so warm that I can’t even stomach it anymore. This isn’t a bad idea, because I feel like I need something in my hand.

End up doing a few decent approaches. One girl intro’s me to her friend and she thinks I know the group. We talk for a while, but it fizzles.

I do chode around with my friends for a while here. There were girls giving me the eye, but I didn’t go for it as quickly as I should have. I did eventually go, but not after quite a bit of hesitation.

One girl tells me she’s 32. I tell her I’m 17. She’s actually so shocked she just stares at me. I laugh and tell her I’m 23. Soon followed by a “I have a BF”.

Another one tells me she has two kids, clearly trying to scare me off or something. I laugh again because I have literally hooked up with a mother of 2 less than 24 hours ago. Fizzles out or something.

Run into HBkokanee, don’t think we’re going to bang, she’s a cool girl and I like hanging out with her. She’s with a dude. He’s really cool and they’re in love. Offers to buy me a shot, but I pass and wish them a good night.

Run into a girl I know through a friend, let’s call her ShortHairCutie. Originally he was going for her, but I think it’s dead in the water. Actually end up hanging out with her for quite a while. Grab her a drink and one for me (the one I nurture all night). We talk.

I don’t remember specifics, but I feel like I had a friend-to-friend demeanor. When I have some sort of connection with these girls, I feel like I back off a bit on the escalation and physicality. In this case, I was worried she might think I’m a creep and it would get back to my friends somehow. This is weird because last weekend I groped the shit out of WorkGirl right infront of a bunch of old friends. And I did that sober. Now I’m half drunk and worried about some girl I loosely am connected with judging me.

On second thought, I think it’s more likely that I was being outcome dependent. With WorkGirl, that shit was clearly on. With ShortHairCutie, I thought it was slightly on, but clearly not at the same level. So I was hesitant to escalate because I didn’t know 100% what the response would be.

DAMN I AM SO SMART! Making a mental note of this in my brain and hopefully will remember it next time a similar situation arises. #HappyFred

To finish off, I don’t grab the number because I honestly thought I had it already. Go home and smoke sheesha with a buddy.

Saturday

Take friends to a charity dinner. They think I’m pimp because I bought the tickets. HAHA tricked you, they were only $25. Now they are going to treat me really nice, but probably not.

Afterwards head to a small house party. Very very small house party. There are two girls here. One kind of looks like a lesbian. The other is a cutie.

I intro myself and turns out we met already. As I delve deeper, it turns out we partied together. I swear as I’m having a few beers more and more starts coming back to me about this girl. Sort of like Beerfest, when he has to get drunk to remember the way into the tournament.

I remember grinding, then I remember some groping, and then a few makeouts. We talk about tigers and ant-eatters. Flirt.

I’m not comfortable escalating too much with 4 people in a room. Grab her number before I leave.

Also got the number of some Australian dudes that are traveling Canada. They are sweet. Maybe I will fuck them too?

Sunday

I am a useless bag of shit. Don’t do anything really productive.

Have my parents over for dinner for tacos.

Monday

Date with Sara from POF. She’s a 5’9” brunette with a slim body and a really cute face.

She tries to flake, but ends up rescheduling for 45 minutes later. We’re meeting at a bar for a drink.

As I am driving there, I try to feel if I am nervous or not. I might be 5-10% nervous, just a tiny bit. I honestly expected to be more nervous. I think it’s because I’ve pushed my comfort zone so much that something like meeting a person for the first time isn’t all that nerve wracking. My feelings definitely would have been different a year ago.

The date is decent. It’s a little awkward at times. I say some slightly polarizing and border line offensive things, but that’s who I am. Own up to that shit too. Some small tests on some of it, but I am rock solid on where I stand.

Eye contact was solid. She was looking right back with those sexy brown eyes.

I grab the bill as we head out. She tries to pay part, but I invited her, so I pay.

Walk to her car. Joke around and tentatively set up another date for sometime once I get back from Vacation #2. We do a hug and I grab a kiss. I think the kiss was a bit of a surprise. There wasn’t much escalation on the date, so it came out of nowhere. I laughed it off quickly and then we talked another 2 mins before parting ways.

Overall, fairly happy with the date. Will make an effort to see her again somewhere more intimate. I am still very timid on these dates, but realistically, I don’t have much experience. On my previous dates, I was even more reluctant to get physical. This one was a small improvement and I had never even met this girl beforehand.

Postives
- Had fun with WorkGirl even though my dick wasn’t cooperating
- Had a decent number of approaches at the bar
- Hung out with ShortHairCutie for a while. Planted a few seeds about hanging out
- Hit on the only cute girl at a house party and got her number. Possible fun times to ensue.
- Hot date from POF (1st). Went well enough that I would guess we will meet up again
- Have written out all my positives to start with the letter ‘H’

Mental Notes
- More escalation needed
o i.e better sexting to WorkGirl and HBxmen
o MOAR escalation in my sets. I rarely get blown out because I am just too darned cute and friendly. I am going to read Ozzies book.
o A bit more calibrated physicality on my dates. Not over the top, but more than now.
- Make my dick work better

In other news: I am leaving for Coachella tomorrow. OMG OMG OMG OMG it is going to be a little bit of fun. Roomie and I are so unprepared it’s going to be awesome. We went shopping a bought only super bright cloths. Guess we should probably get some supplies.

See you hoes in 1 week.
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Posting this for later reference.

1) Getting stuck at sea - My experience after winning $60'000 - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/216977

A very thought provoking read for me. I feel like my life is all over the place right now. I'm trying to do 10 things at once and they're all pulling me in different directions. By trying to do everything at once, I end up making no real progress on any of them. I need to sit down and figure out what really is important to ME.

2) Hot Seat 2 - JULIEN IN PARIS - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/218077/forum

Paris Boum Boum is a bad ass mofo. Atleast he is in the field reports. His review of the Hot Seat is eye opening. Really summed up some solid points for me. To summarize:

-Girls respond to clarity of intent, not to hiding your interest and your thoughts.
-The foundation of game is being able to draw state from within, as opposed to hoping you’ll get good feelings from the environment and the people around you.
-Trying to avoid bad reactions will get you nowhere, so switch to be ok dealing with bad reactions.
-Success is not measured by the outcomes you get, but by the action you take.
-As a consequence, there are no rejections, there are only steps to get into the zone.
-The process of the interaction is meant to be enjoyed, not skipped.
-External circumstances don’t matter to approach the girl, they don’t determine the girl’s reaction to you.
-Dictate the rhythm. Maintain it until she adapts.
-If things don't work the way you want yet, try a new angle.
-"Hit hit hit" mentality

Jeez Louise those points are fantastic. Now I just need to work on them. One by one maybe? #1 for me is intent. I need to show these hotties that I want to tear clothes off and stuff my junk into their junk, but in more romantic terms.

An update for Coachella is coming, be patient. It was fucking rad.
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 I've been doing some heavy mental masturbation and reading way to much PUA shit. Here is another post I found on Brad's site. I feel like I should put this shit on my wall so I always keep it in mind.

Hell, most of these things I should be doing at work. Minus the sexual escalation.

http://www.bradbranson.com/the-six-modalities-of-directness-how-to-calib...

There are 6 Modalities of Directness:

1. Eye contact
2. Vocal tonality (as well as pacing of your voice)
3. Proximity between the two of you (includes positioning)
4. Projection of your voice
5. Physicality
6. Verbal escalation (moving the conversation in a sexual direction)
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