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December 8th, 2016
How to improve 'in set'!
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Mrnace

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Join Date: 01/06/2010 | Posts: 489

 Hey!  

If any of you guys read my last topic on here, then you'll know that the appraoch and the opener have become no problem for me.  I can approach and open with alot.  

What my sticking point is though is being able to stay in set for very long.  I struggle to go longer than 5 minutes, no matter what the opener is.  I have approached wth ''hey, how are doing?'' and ''hey girls, have you seen too girls one cup?''.  and approached with instant physical game with hugs, dances, hi5s and all kinda of other stuff.  but still struggle to keep it going.

Any suggestions?

It could be just a case of having a story to tell, or something to say that is interesting.  but I do not know.
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Mrnace

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 So, i have probably just answered my own question.   

But anything you can say that will help would be appreciated.  
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Keep going out bro and watch Foundations
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Mrnace

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 Cheer bot.  Most of the time I am just beng cool having a chat.  Its either the girls aint responding to me or I my mind goes totally blank.  I've always thought that over time, the more I am in sets the better I'll get at it.  I just feel i need something to help me along.
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 I think you have the right idea just keep doing more and more sets.  Also maybe try talking about something your passionate about it usually gets the juices flowing like say for me ill ask if a girl goes to school blah blah then ill explain how im so excited to do what i wana do in college (my major) and it just *woosh's* from there.
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mondo_87swe

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Yes, try talkning about stuff you like and joke around with her. Thats usally "breaks the Ice" for me.
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Mrnace

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 Just start speaking about stuff I like or wait until a relevant subject comes up?  

I've always found it weird myself to random start talking about say, scriptwriting if I am not talkiing about films in the first place.  

You are saying that I can do this straight off the bat?
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i think it depends on the situation. For exemple i like long-distance running and i try to spek about it in like a very passionate way. "I creates freedom for me and i feel contected with nature when i am running.". But it has to be done i a passionate way. But it doesn't work every time, but it´s worth trying.
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 Tyler's most recent advice on being congruent above all and speaking what's really in your mind holds here as well. I'll tell a girl when my brain has just exploded, or I'll do an empty headed approach and say "I've really got no clue what the hell I'm doing, ever had that happen?"

Brad Blanton's radical honesty really does work well, and gets you more into a confessive state of mind where your intent can get out.
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Mrnace

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 Yeah, Tylers video does work in this context I suppose.   I do and say what ever depending on how you are.   my trouble is I get blown out doing that soo much doing that atm. its kinds annoying.  

Looking at it, I am getting blown out either way, so who cares. if I do.  In time it will come together eventually I suppose.
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HappyGoCrazee

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 It sounds like, as Tyler would say, you're "giving too much of a fuck."  Dood you cold approached no problem! Hard part is over. For a little while concentrate on just holding the set without going for a close or anything (unless it naturally comes about- don't wanna turn down a good number!) and just talk.

Like you said, if films or screenwriting is on your mind, talk about that. It doesn't matter if she's interested, if you're passionate about it, it will keep her attention. "I just watched Drive the other night. Ryan Gosling is crazy sexy, no homo. Blah blah." "Did you know there are only like, 15 different stories out there? Yeah, Harry Potter is totally just Star Wars with british accents." Whatever bullshit flows out of your head.
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