THE FORUMS

 1-19-12  Thursday  Bars in downtown LA, 7 grand and La cita

So I havent been out since sunday night. Thats the longest break ive taken, (3 days) in about 2 months now. I have definately achieved a new baseline. I was out tonight, and just feeling so chill. Like nothing is wrong at all. I can walk up and approach all relaxed if I want to. Or I can just chill. Sometimes I find myself just chilling and not approaching. In the past, this action would have made me get a turned up in the inside. Now I can just be chill about it. So thats cool.

Before I went out tonight, hit up free tour LA. Awesome. 
Julien talked about sucking girls into your reality. Getting them to focus their RAS on you. He calls it geniune communication when you just freely express yourself and do not ping off the girls when you talk to them.  I do not do this. When I open, I need the set to hook quickly so that the girl is into me, which pumps my state and then im good to go.  Like I can only take an akward period of 3 seconds before I freak out. Whereas hotter girls, they will test you for maybe 5 seconds or 8 seconds or 10 seconds. The initial period where they stand there and give you wierd looks and see what you're about. To sum it up, I dont trust myself enough to go for 10 seconds or whatever else with a random hottie at the bar or on the street. So thats definately a sticking point I have right now. 

Anyway, after free tour grab a bite to eat, then meetup with Leo1337 and hitmelighting at the standard. For some reason they are not open, so we bounce over to 7 bar or something. Place is small and not crowded. Bounce over to 7 grand bar. I open a couple sets, they last for less then 1 minute. Just warmup. Then bounce over to La Cita at about 12. Place is pretty crowded. I would say ~100 people in the venue. Definately some cuties. 

Scope out the venue. Chode around. Open 1 set. Chode around more. Look at my watch. Chode around. Look at my watch again, fuck its going to be a long night. Chode around more, pretty chill feeling though. 

Spot Leo1337, he says 30 second game. Lol, dont want to play but  I need to. So do that. Open like 3 sets, nothing sticks. I am in a low state and expecting/hoping for the girls to just perk up with excitement and talk to me. Sorry chody man, no mercy! Lol.

I open a girl, shes friendly, hug she smiles. speak about 5 sentences. she says something. Then 1-2 minutes in she leaves. My best set of the night so far, haha. Leo is standing next to me and he swoops in on this girl as she walks away from me, he hooks her and eventually makes out with her. Fuck. Full illustration of my failness at the moment. 

Hitmelighting comes over hes like Owen and Julien are here!! They are on bootcamp, madness ensues. We walk over towards owen, I just want to see if its really him lol. We stand and say hey to him. As he walks by, he says nice to see you have good momentum going. Tooled, lol. I see this super proper looking kinda nerdy guy talking to two hotties, it doesnt look right to me. Later realize it was a bootcamp student doing his thing, nice.

My night is not going great, so I am resigned to just watching Tyler and Julien run bootcamp. Im watching Tyler up on this girl, just holding her standing hip to hip, watching body language, thinking shes uncomfortable he needs to pull back, but owen just stays up on her, so that was a good note. I guess I can push it harder then I thought originally. Julien walks by me and hes like what are you doing, take action! 

Fuck me, I walk over to the girl next to me, open the set. lol. More standing around, the bootcamp assistant give me shit now, so I open another girl. She doesnt hook within 3 seconds, shes a little standoffish. Shes just testing me, if I can keep selftrust for longer she would hook. But she gives nothing to me so I blow myself out. I go back to the assistant and start counting down from 30. lol, hes all like nah im assisting program, that games for you. He starts counting me down from 20. Im like fuck, open another girl, haha.

I was at like 2 sets in the venue before the bootcamp rolled in, suddently ive done about 5 more sets, im starting to get excited and starting to get into state, I still resist and resort to chode mode if someone else is not pushing me into sets. Lame. By now the night is ending and I just watch Tyler game. 

He does some crazy shit, girl walks up from her table, a hottie. Tyler intercepts and within about 10 seconds they are mouth to mouth lol. She runs off in one minute. My one minute sets are like maybe a hug, his are makeouts. Nice. Theres a girl talking with some dude, they look together. Tyler stops about 3 feet infront of her, just looks at her, and she is fully RAS onto him. Guy is standing right next to her, but he fully doesnt exist anymore. Tyler is whispering to the girl, initially she resists but Tyler is irressitable, lol.  

A little later, lights go on, time to bounce, Tyler is holding some girl talking by the exit. Some random dude comes up puts his hands on this girls shoulders and says hey whats up. Tyler just starts cracking up and walks away. Im assuming this was another student sent in by julien to amog Tyler. Lol.

That was a fun night, super spiced up by the presence of the bootcamp.


Something for me to work on:
-Sailing through the initial akwardness while opening, by doing less pinging off the girl.
-Trust the process and just hit hit hit and get some momentum in the night.

Good pt. I forgot about that. When I don't go out for a bit skills get rusty

 saturday night in. Decide to just chill and play video games.

Reflecting on my game right now, and this is what im going to focus on for a little bit, maybe a week or 2 dave7 style.

Taking decisive action. Going for it. Watched tylers most recent hotseat promo video.
-KEY: testing the waters vs going for it. When I was testing the waters with my girl I didn't get shit. When I unapologetically went for it, BOOM. (paris boum boum)

http://www.rsdnation.com/tyler/blog/new-video-tyler-infield-pulling-stun...

The way he pulls the stunner from the taxi. One thing that used to trip me out, I would take decisive action and take fat blowouts and then get gunshy. But if I just take action and trust that the momentum will come, this shit should produce results.

I have no reason not to go out everyday. For the past few days, I just havent really felt like going out though. So thats kind of bullshit. Anyway, I will at least do 1 set a day, no rust day tyler style. So today I went shopping at Trader Joes, got a bunch of groceries and stuff. Opened one girl next to me, asked her about how ripe avocados are. Feels super like a cop out what im doing. It kind of is but at least I did 1. 

I have sort of lost motivation to push myself and go for it for the time being. Is this normal, or am I just being a pussy? Maybe if I keep my mind on the greater vision of sexual abundance with hot girls and being in a position where I dont have to put up with their bullshit.

 1-24-12 Daygame at beverly center.

Today was a super wierd day. I woke up and I had a feeling of like depression. I was not motivated to do anything at all. I have this problem with negative thought patterns. I look at the future sometimes and only can see negative outcomes. This is based on the emotional state that I am in and it goes into a negative downwards spiral. So I meditated for 14 minutes, helped a little bit, but not really. I think the key to snap out of this is just take action. That worked for me today.

I was feeling shit and didnt want to go out, I knew that if i went out and approached nothing good was going to happen. Like, in my state today even the lure of banging girls didnt appeal to me. Like I would be sticking my dick in some girl, but I would still be sad shitty me. Anyway, remebered my commitment to everyday just one set. I can do that. 

Drive about 10 minutes to the beverly center. Get there at 8pm, walk around, see one hottie by herself, dont open. See a couple more cuties dont open. Damn open the first set is really important because it gets you in the mood, otherwise you start to sink further and further into a laziness of not approaching. Walk around for about 30 minutes, finally am able to open some girl about her boots. Super indirect, feels like a cop out again. 

Actually though after accomplishing that I felt alot better, felt like I accomplished something and was kind of proud of myself rather than being depressed man. Todays action was motivated by brute force, and forcing myself into action vs being excited about going out to meet girls. Not ideal but it will do.

For me it seems like out everyday is important for my self esteem and confidence knowing that I am taking action towards my goals. Even if its a shitty day, Ive set the bar for bare minimum requirements and I accomplished that, I feel good. 

Very interesting day.