THE FORUMS
Wednesday 09/21
I was a little down on myself the previous night after miserably detecting shit tests which led to failed interactions. No big deal - I will get it right soon. I just re-read some Brad article on congruence tests that makes so much more sense now.
No night game for me so I head out and do some day game.
First set is some cute black girl. I go in direct and walk with her for a block. I decide to stop the chase and chat for her. I end up chatting to her for about 20 mins. She was on her way to go to work but throughout the course of the interaction i could feel some type of hesistancy. She had a BF. I enjoyed the interaction.
The next set is some chick eye-fucking me as she's sitting on the stairs. I give her the eye but get side-tracked by some chodes trying to bring me to a comedy show. By the time I go up to her she's talking to her friend. Super casual but sexual "Hey how are you doing?" She instantly tells me she's a lesbian. That means I'm approaching right. I tell her i hate penis too and give her a hi-five. She doesn't seem like she's joking. She has chapped lips anyways. I will buy her chapstick.
Go for a little stroll and there's this HOT German blond chick looking at a map. I'm not a fan of blondes like most but this one is so fuckin hot..jheeze. I cross the street and "inadvertenly" meet paths with her. Go in direct. She's immediately alarmed but I keep talking and make her comfortable. We talk for 5 minutes and then we end up spending another 20 minutes slowly walking towards the subway. She doesn't have a phone, so I give her my FB.
On the way back home, there was this girl eye-fucking me on the subway platform. We end up getting in the same car. She had her back turned to me the whole time. She even put on some lipstick. I just durr like a faggot.
Gotta approach em all mann.
Overall good day time stuff. I had long interactions and all the girls were interested in me. Just now more a focus on eye contact the next time I'm out chirpsing birds during the day. Just sprinkle that in, keep going in direct and I'll soon be doing day-time pulls.
I was a little down on myself the previous night after miserably detecting shit tests which led to failed interactions. No big deal - I will get it right soon. I just re-read some Brad article on congruence tests that makes so much more sense now.
No night game for me so I head out and do some day game.
First set is some cute black girl. I go in direct and walk with her for a block. I decide to stop the chase and chat for her. I end up chatting to her for about 20 mins. She was on her way to go to work but throughout the course of the interaction i could feel some type of hesistancy. She had a BF. I enjoyed the interaction.
The next set is some chick eye-fucking me as she's sitting on the stairs. I give her the eye but get side-tracked by some chodes trying to bring me to a comedy show. By the time I go up to her she's talking to her friend. Super casual but sexual "Hey how are you doing?" She instantly tells me she's a lesbian. That means I'm approaching right. I tell her i hate penis too and give her a hi-five. She doesn't seem like she's joking. She has chapped lips anyways. I will buy her chapstick.
Go for a little stroll and there's this HOT German blond chick looking at a map. I'm not a fan of blondes like most but this one is so fuckin hot..jheeze. I cross the street and "inadvertenly" meet paths with her. Go in direct. She's immediately alarmed but I keep talking and make her comfortable. We talk for 5 minutes and then we end up spending another 20 minutes slowly walking towards the subway. She doesn't have a phone, so I give her my FB.
On the way back home, there was this girl eye-fucking me on the subway platform. We end up getting in the same car. She had her back turned to me the whole time. She even put on some lipstick. I just durr like a faggot.
Gotta approach em all mann.
Overall good day time stuff. I had long interactions and all the girls were interested in me. Just now more a focus on eye contact the next time I'm out chirpsing birds during the day. Just sprinkle that in, keep going in direct and I'll soon be doing day-time pulls.
__________________
"To put it in gentleman's terms if you've been out for a night and you're looking for a young lady and you pull one, some weeks they're good looking and some weeks they're not the best. Our performance today would have been not the best looking bird but at least we got her in the taxi. She wasn't the best looking lady we ended up taking home but she was very pleasant and very nice, so thanks very much, let's have a coffee..........A win is like a bird and we take her home. At the end of the day, we want a better looking one than that if we can, if not, we'll take her home anyway".
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean
Thursday 09/22
Head out to the bar solo a little late after playing in a soccer game.
I start talking bullshit with a group of black girls and ending up merging a couple of sets. This Asian girl ends up liking my absurdity about my favorite music and tv. We start talking, good comfort/vibing here. Out the corner of my eye, there's this Italian girl that I keep eyeing while I'm talking to the Asian girl. 20 mins later, In find out the Asian girl has a BF but I'm enjoying the conversation. I get the weirdest "O i have a BF" claims. This is because I'm not over escalating on these chicks physically. I don't care - even in day game - i will do this because I'm finding myself in 30 minute sets and then figuring out they have a BF. We vibe for a bit more, but i say flirty things to the Italian girl.
I was initially hesistant to approach her as she was surrounded by a whole legion of Italian dudes. Like 5 or more of them. As she's leaving, I get up and tell her I want to marry her. Her male friends poof after 5 minutes and she says she's tired so she's leaving. She gives me a "o you do this to all the girls blah blah". I follow her outside the bar and just keep talking. I find out she leaves 3 doors away from me on my street.
It's 2am..so i say fuck it - I'll just drive you to our neighborhood bar. Drive over, find a parking spot - chill out a bit with her, share some commonalities. Looking back I should have been more physical here and been way more persistent with my intent. I should have even really pushed for her to come to the neighborhood bar. I was relaxed the whole time which is a +1 for me but I wasn't leading. I need to be leading in a relaxed manner. She gives me her FB details but won't give me her #. Cool. I'm gonna persist for the meetup because she seems like she's worth it.
Friday 09/23
I get some good insights about text game and buyer/seller dynamic today from Haze. Good stuff to reinforce into the brain.
I'm feeling like shit after not eating properly all day and then going to play soccer. I was ridiculously tired. Not in I really need some sleep because I've been up all day but more like I'm tired beause I have no energy left tired. I couldn't have felt anymore DURR.
I meet up with AS89 in Lower East Side and we eventually head out to Brooklyn. We get to the venue and I'm fuckin tired. Like i sit down in the corner for 15 minutes just trying to achieve some kind of presence lol. I eventually start a convo with a mixed set next to me, AS89 comes and joins in and the guy gets angry and eventually leaves although I'm just chilling and talking. I guess he was no match for me even in my chode state. Eventually leave the girl with AS89 because he looks like he wants her more and I think it's absolutely retarted for 2 guys to talk to one girl no matter how hot she is.
It was good that this happened because I would have eventually durred all night with her. I go around and talk to a couple of chicks and start to build the social momentum. It's 2am now and I still feel like shit. No biggie - still 2 hours left to make things happen.
AS89 is in set with this girl and he pulls me in so I wing him. Both of our chicks love us. I talk to her and isolate. Talk to her for about 20-30 mins. Eventually she has to go to the bathroom. End up losing her and realizing logistics were fuckin shit but in retrospect this girl was DTF if things had panned out correctly.
I go to the dancefloor area of the venue and tell some chick to not even look at me. She covers her face. I'm still durr mentally so I'm like huh but then realize like 10 secs later she's playing along. We talk, dance, flirt. Quick kiss but she says that she has to go find her friend. I eventually run into her as she's leaving like half an hour later so I talk to her outside and win over the friend. We talk for a long time about teaching and probably some other lame shit. Get her #, head back inside since she seems to be leaving with her friend. I eventually run into her again about 15 mins later, and chill with her more and dance.
At the end of the night is when I feel alert and awake. I open some chick, and start talking and for some reason start thinking a lot about eye contact. Because it's coming from the wrong place, the set eventually goes to nowhere. disappointing as the set blew wide open from me just introducing herself. It prolly would have turned into one of those glorious pulls that come out of nowhere.
Eye contact is so crucial. As is buyer/seller dynamic. As is qualifying the girl or whatever.
Head out to the bar solo a little late after playing in a soccer game.
I start talking bullshit with a group of black girls and ending up merging a couple of sets. This Asian girl ends up liking my absurdity about my favorite music and tv. We start talking, good comfort/vibing here. Out the corner of my eye, there's this Italian girl that I keep eyeing while I'm talking to the Asian girl. 20 mins later, In find out the Asian girl has a BF but I'm enjoying the conversation. I get the weirdest "O i have a BF" claims. This is because I'm not over escalating on these chicks physically. I don't care - even in day game - i will do this because I'm finding myself in 30 minute sets and then figuring out they have a BF. We vibe for a bit more, but i say flirty things to the Italian girl.
I was initially hesistant to approach her as she was surrounded by a whole legion of Italian dudes. Like 5 or more of them. As she's leaving, I get up and tell her I want to marry her. Her male friends poof after 5 minutes and she says she's tired so she's leaving. She gives me a "o you do this to all the girls blah blah". I follow her outside the bar and just keep talking. I find out she leaves 3 doors away from me on my street.
It's 2am..so i say fuck it - I'll just drive you to our neighborhood bar. Drive over, find a parking spot - chill out a bit with her, share some commonalities. Looking back I should have been more physical here and been way more persistent with my intent. I should have even really pushed for her to come to the neighborhood bar. I was relaxed the whole time which is a +1 for me but I wasn't leading. I need to be leading in a relaxed manner. She gives me her FB details but won't give me her #. Cool. I'm gonna persist for the meetup because she seems like she's worth it.
Friday 09/23
I get some good insights about text game and buyer/seller dynamic today from Haze. Good stuff to reinforce into the brain.
I'm feeling like shit after not eating properly all day and then going to play soccer. I was ridiculously tired. Not in I really need some sleep because I've been up all day but more like I'm tired beause I have no energy left tired. I couldn't have felt anymore DURR.
I meet up with AS89 in Lower East Side and we eventually head out to Brooklyn. We get to the venue and I'm fuckin tired. Like i sit down in the corner for 15 minutes just trying to achieve some kind of presence lol. I eventually start a convo with a mixed set next to me, AS89 comes and joins in and the guy gets angry and eventually leaves although I'm just chilling and talking. I guess he was no match for me even in my chode state. Eventually leave the girl with AS89 because he looks like he wants her more and I think it's absolutely retarted for 2 guys to talk to one girl no matter how hot she is.
It was good that this happened because I would have eventually durred all night with her. I go around and talk to a couple of chicks and start to build the social momentum. It's 2am now and I still feel like shit. No biggie - still 2 hours left to make things happen.
AS89 is in set with this girl and he pulls me in so I wing him. Both of our chicks love us. I talk to her and isolate. Talk to her for about 20-30 mins. Eventually she has to go to the bathroom. End up losing her and realizing logistics were fuckin shit but in retrospect this girl was DTF if things had panned out correctly.
I go to the dancefloor area of the venue and tell some chick to not even look at me. She covers her face. I'm still durr mentally so I'm like huh but then realize like 10 secs later she's playing along. We talk, dance, flirt. Quick kiss but she says that she has to go find her friend. I eventually run into her as she's leaving like half an hour later so I talk to her outside and win over the friend. We talk for a long time about teaching and probably some other lame shit. Get her #, head back inside since she seems to be leaving with her friend. I eventually run into her again about 15 mins later, and chill with her more and dance.
At the end of the night is when I feel alert and awake. I open some chick, and start talking and for some reason start thinking a lot about eye contact. Because it's coming from the wrong place, the set eventually goes to nowhere. disappointing as the set blew wide open from me just introducing herself. It prolly would have turned into one of those glorious pulls that come out of nowhere.
Eye contact is so crucial. As is buyer/seller dynamic. As is qualifying the girl or whatever.
__________________
"To put it in gentleman's terms if you've been out for a night and you're looking for a young lady and you pull one, some weeks they're good looking and some weeks they're not the best. Our performance today would have been not the best looking bird but at least we got her in the taxi. She wasn't the best looking lady we ended up taking home but she was very pleasant and very nice, so thanks very much, let's have a coffee..........A win is like a bird and we take her home. At the end of the day, we want a better looking one than that if we can, if not, we'll take her home anyway".
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean
Saturday 09/24
Day time:
Recently have had an interest in going out with wings after going out solo for like 2 months. Just drive up that competitive spirit I have and keep me motivated when I'm not feeling it. Hit up ProfessorHughes. Good ol'bloke. Real serious about getting good with the game and he has his lifestyle shit handled. Should be elite soon due to his lifestyle and him being a normal cool dude.
We head out to the park. He's taken BC with Ozzie and i'm curious to what these BC drills are. They're actually pretty intimidating but good to do especially for guys struggling with approach anxiety. At first, I want to walk around and find girls but I realize this is a waste of energy. We end up sitting on a ledge talking about life, how we learned to talk to girls, just shooting the shit while approaching girls that are cute. A couple of approaches later we decide to call it a day. I'm looking forward to chirpsing girls during the day with homies on the weekend.
Night time:
I meet up with ProfessorHughes and MikeNY. I like both these guys. Like the previous night, I'm just not feeling in the zone. I'm tired and feeling like absolute shit to be honest (i think i was bloated). I chode around, pop some sets open but they're all pretty much lacking some passion. For some reason, I'm intimidated by the venue. I usually go to dive bars so my brain is like damn - y are all these chicks dressed up and shit.
Around 2am, I decide to head outside, get some water and take a dump. Lol. Kinda like a halftime sort of thing. I come back and start approaching. I met some dude earlier who was intrigued that I was standing by myself earlier in the night just saying stupid shit. He invites me over to his table and pours me a full cup of whiskey. Awesome. I love it when guys do this. I need some chaser. I end up winging a set with MikeNY but it goes to shit. I should have stayed focused but I lost composure when that Gucci Gucci song came on. Lol.
I wanted to talk to this chick at some chode's table but this gay guy was cockblocking me. I stood around for a bit and decided to bounce. Open a mixed set. Don't talk past the opener. Eventually go back to the girl at some chode's table and sit on the other side of the gay guy. I talk and she's like "ooo..you found your opening". She's into me but i'm having trouble vibing. I hate when this happens. It happens to me kinda frequently. I don't know what it is but fuck it I've realized this is something I can work on when I'm not in the field. She's intrigued by me but I'm not able to express and eventually the set goes to nowhere. I open up some other girls, they go meh as i'm not able to let go.
I see this cute girl on the dancefloor next to her friend, ask her y we didn't make eye contact before. Start dancing with her, and it hooks pretty well. She's this like 4-star Italian girl. Killer body as well. We dance for a bit and she heads out to the bar area of the venue with her friend and some other chode. I chill out with MikeNY and Steve. We talk for a bit and MikeNY and I decide that we're going to do some street sets. The 4-star Italian girl grabs me as I'm leaving. I bounce her over to the dancefloor and start making out with her while dancing. We hang out on the dancefloor, exchange commonaiities. She's actually a pretty solid chick. I still am kind of shit at qualification so I ask her "Why do you dance so well?" or some shit like that. I do tell her that I'm into the fact that she's a PA and looks like a hard worker. I say this about 5 times.
Qualification is the fuckin truth.
I end up getting her # as she is leaving. Good interaction. We've really hit up everything in the venue and decided to call it a night.
Me and MikeNY end up hitting the streets. I love MikeNY. He's a pervert. You need to be a pervert to be good at the game. This guy is the most ambitious pussy hunter I've ever come across. I'm like yo wtf it's 5am but he keeps going and going doing street sets... lol i love it and I do a couple myself even though I'm supposed to be up in 2 hours. The good thing about being in shape is that you drastically need less sleep. I want to keep this up.
Day time:
Recently have had an interest in going out with wings after going out solo for like 2 months. Just drive up that competitive spirit I have and keep me motivated when I'm not feeling it. Hit up ProfessorHughes. Good ol'bloke. Real serious about getting good with the game and he has his lifestyle shit handled. Should be elite soon due to his lifestyle and him being a normal cool dude.
We head out to the park. He's taken BC with Ozzie and i'm curious to what these BC drills are. They're actually pretty intimidating but good to do especially for guys struggling with approach anxiety. At first, I want to walk around and find girls but I realize this is a waste of energy. We end up sitting on a ledge talking about life, how we learned to talk to girls, just shooting the shit while approaching girls that are cute. A couple of approaches later we decide to call it a day. I'm looking forward to chirpsing girls during the day with homies on the weekend.
Night time:
I meet up with ProfessorHughes and MikeNY. I like both these guys. Like the previous night, I'm just not feeling in the zone. I'm tired and feeling like absolute shit to be honest (i think i was bloated). I chode around, pop some sets open but they're all pretty much lacking some passion. For some reason, I'm intimidated by the venue. I usually go to dive bars so my brain is like damn - y are all these chicks dressed up and shit.
Around 2am, I decide to head outside, get some water and take a dump. Lol. Kinda like a halftime sort of thing. I come back and start approaching. I met some dude earlier who was intrigued that I was standing by myself earlier in the night just saying stupid shit. He invites me over to his table and pours me a full cup of whiskey. Awesome. I love it when guys do this. I need some chaser. I end up winging a set with MikeNY but it goes to shit. I should have stayed focused but I lost composure when that Gucci Gucci song came on. Lol.
I wanted to talk to this chick at some chode's table but this gay guy was cockblocking me. I stood around for a bit and decided to bounce. Open a mixed set. Don't talk past the opener. Eventually go back to the girl at some chode's table and sit on the other side of the gay guy. I talk and she's like "ooo..you found your opening". She's into me but i'm having trouble vibing. I hate when this happens. It happens to me kinda frequently. I don't know what it is but fuck it I've realized this is something I can work on when I'm not in the field. She's intrigued by me but I'm not able to express and eventually the set goes to nowhere. I open up some other girls, they go meh as i'm not able to let go.
I see this cute girl on the dancefloor next to her friend, ask her y we didn't make eye contact before. Start dancing with her, and it hooks pretty well. She's this like 4-star Italian girl. Killer body as well. We dance for a bit and she heads out to the bar area of the venue with her friend and some other chode. I chill out with MikeNY and Steve. We talk for a bit and MikeNY and I decide that we're going to do some street sets. The 4-star Italian girl grabs me as I'm leaving. I bounce her over to the dancefloor and start making out with her while dancing. We hang out on the dancefloor, exchange commonaiities. She's actually a pretty solid chick. I still am kind of shit at qualification so I ask her "Why do you dance so well?" or some shit like that. I do tell her that I'm into the fact that she's a PA and looks like a hard worker. I say this about 5 times.
Qualification is the fuckin truth.
I end up getting her # as she is leaving. Good interaction. We've really hit up everything in the venue and decided to call it a night.
Me and MikeNY end up hitting the streets. I love MikeNY. He's a pervert. You need to be a pervert to be good at the game. This guy is the most ambitious pussy hunter I've ever come across. I'm like yo wtf it's 5am but he keeps going and going doing street sets... lol i love it and I do a couple myself even though I'm supposed to be up in 2 hours. The good thing about being in shape is that you drastically need less sleep. I want to keep this up.
__________________
"To put it in gentleman's terms if you've been out for a night and you're looking for a young lady and you pull one, some weeks they're good looking and some weeks they're not the best. Our performance today would have been not the best looking bird but at least we got her in the taxi. She wasn't the best looking lady we ended up taking home but she was very pleasant and very nice, so thanks very much, let's have a coffee..........A win is like a bird and we take her home. At the end of the day, we want a better looking one than that if we can, if not, we'll take her home anyway".
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean
Haha no worries about the qualification, you'll get it down. I think everyone is shit at it but it gets better over time.
Keep in mind that's not necessarily a bad line however, you gotta remember this always, "it's not WHAT you say, it's WHY or HOW you said it." In other words, what is the meaning being conveyed underneath your words?
You can definitely qualify her on her dancing but you gotta do it in a way that validates her but maintains the buyer/seller dynamic.
For a second imagine a chode who's looking up at a stripper and saying, "Ooooh... why do you dance so well?" Obviously, the subcommunication there is that he's a fucking chode and she has all the value.
Now take this second example. Imagine a big, dominant dude and he sees this small girl dancing and turning him on. He says to her, "WTF... why do you dance so well?" In a breaking rapport tonality. What's the subtext of that?
It's basically like him saying, "WTF... why you turning me on? Stop that shit. Stop being so fucking sexy." It's very much like Shock & Awe and it is FUCKING POTENT when done right. I think every time I've gotten laid I've incorporated some form of this.
You're basically validating her by calling her hot but also breaking rapport at the same time. It's super awesome because you can validate her ALOT but not chode yourself out at the same time.
Remember that time you opened a blonde chick who was asking for a cigarette? She ended up kissing you in front of her BF? You opened her like that. It was so fucking perfect.
Her: Do you have a cigarette?
You: No... but why are you so fucking cute? Come here...
Fucking brilliant dude. Get back in touch with that. That shit was alpha as hell.
Keep in mind that's not necessarily a bad line however, you gotta remember this always, "it's not WHAT you say, it's WHY or HOW you said it." In other words, what is the meaning being conveyed underneath your words?
You can definitely qualify her on her dancing but you gotta do it in a way that validates her but maintains the buyer/seller dynamic.
For a second imagine a chode who's looking up at a stripper and saying, "Ooooh... why do you dance so well?" Obviously, the subcommunication there is that he's a fucking chode and she has all the value.
Now take this second example. Imagine a big, dominant dude and he sees this small girl dancing and turning him on. He says to her, "WTF... why do you dance so well?" In a breaking rapport tonality. What's the subtext of that?
It's basically like him saying, "WTF... why you turning me on? Stop that shit. Stop being so fucking sexy." It's very much like Shock & Awe and it is FUCKING POTENT when done right. I think every time I've gotten laid I've incorporated some form of this.
You're basically validating her by calling her hot but also breaking rapport at the same time. It's super awesome because you can validate her ALOT but not chode yourself out at the same time.
Remember that time you opened a blonde chick who was asking for a cigarette? She ended up kissing you in front of her BF? You opened her like that. It was so fucking perfect.
Her: Do you have a cigarette?
You: No... but why are you so fucking cute? Come here...
Fucking brilliant dude. Get back in touch with that. That shit was alpha as hell.
Haha thanks for the vote of confidence. I'm pretty damn impressed with your game and dedication as well. It was a lot of fun hanging out with you guys Saturday, hope to be back to NY soon!
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I haven't been out in 10 days due to some serious sickness. loss of appetite and the poopies. no sex drive whatsoever. shit was depressing. The weather was nice as hell last week too. I don't like being a spectator. Watching a marathon of Californication and Gangland isn't exactly the most productive thing either. This was a good experience because health and wealth definitely comes before relationships because if you're too sick - you won't even be in the mental or physical capacity to have a boner. That being said I'm still so-so but in a good enough state where I would be able to have sex so that means I must go out. It's a lame excuse but I didn't even text a majority of the chicks i was texting so i have to play some catch-up w/that and start going on some dates. I'm broke though. Whatever - if there's a will there's a way
Tuesday 10/04
After my soccer game, I decide to head out for a quick little whorepedition. Walk into the bar, feel unrelaxed and don't feel like opening. Call it anxiety. I still kinda feel like shit from not a reduced appetitie. Decide to get myself a rum and coke. Tell myself to stop being a fag and approach. I just walk up to these two girls and start talking. I'm saying a lot of dumb sexual shit and being unapologetic about it. They love me. This is cool - i never lost the mojo. After like 10 minutes of stupidity, they head back to some guy friends of their's and ask me to join them later. Not a bad first approach after 10 days, not bad at all. Next set, I start talking to this 3 mixed set. 2 girls, one guy. I start talking to the girl. She's isn't even a target because I'm not into her. i I talk to her for about like 25 minutes. More friend to friend instead of man to woman but I let this be the case because I really wasn't interested in her.
While i'm in set with this chick, the girl from the first interaction comes up to me while i'm in set and starts talking to me as she's headed to the bathroom. I tell her to come back and rescue me from the other girl. she laughs. My homeboy has been sending me a lot of shit on buyer/seller dynamic. Cool stuff to be cognizant of. I am the fuckin prize. Long story short - there's not much to do in the bar and I have to be up early for work so I tell her I'm leaving but do some kinda takeaway. She comes after me and hands me her business card. I like this buyer/seller dynamic stuff. I'm fuckin Kobe - I'm cool as hell, got a lot going for me, am honest, and live my life with relative integrity. She should be begging for this dick. Once again - i like this buyer/seller dynamic shit. Can't wait till tomorrow!
Victories:
They say 90% of success is just showing up. To be fair, barely any sets but i did what i could with what i was given.
Lessons:
I kinda wanted to talk to her for like an hour. it would have been easy as we were both interesting people. i liked the girl's vibe but she told me that she was trying to get her friend laid. Seemed like a genuine excuse because her friend was gaming me kinda hard when i was in set with them. I should have talked to her more though. I am really really striving for longer sets. Time is your ally.
Tuesday 10/04
After my soccer game, I decide to head out for a quick little whorepedition. Walk into the bar, feel unrelaxed and don't feel like opening. Call it anxiety. I still kinda feel like shit from not a reduced appetitie. Decide to get myself a rum and coke. Tell myself to stop being a fag and approach. I just walk up to these two girls and start talking. I'm saying a lot of dumb sexual shit and being unapologetic about it. They love me. This is cool - i never lost the mojo. After like 10 minutes of stupidity, they head back to some guy friends of their's and ask me to join them later. Not a bad first approach after 10 days, not bad at all. Next set, I start talking to this 3 mixed set. 2 girls, one guy. I start talking to the girl. She's isn't even a target because I'm not into her. i I talk to her for about like 25 minutes. More friend to friend instead of man to woman but I let this be the case because I really wasn't interested in her.
While i'm in set with this chick, the girl from the first interaction comes up to me while i'm in set and starts talking to me as she's headed to the bathroom. I tell her to come back and rescue me from the other girl. she laughs. My homeboy has been sending me a lot of shit on buyer/seller dynamic. Cool stuff to be cognizant of. I am the fuckin prize. Long story short - there's not much to do in the bar and I have to be up early for work so I tell her I'm leaving but do some kinda takeaway. She comes after me and hands me her business card. I like this buyer/seller dynamic stuff. I'm fuckin Kobe - I'm cool as hell, got a lot going for me, am honest, and live my life with relative integrity. She should be begging for this dick. Once again - i like this buyer/seller dynamic shit. Can't wait till tomorrow!
Victories:
They say 90% of success is just showing up. To be fair, barely any sets but i did what i could with what i was given.
Lessons:
I kinda wanted to talk to her for like an hour. it would have been easy as we were both interesting people. i liked the girl's vibe but she told me that she was trying to get her friend laid. Seemed like a genuine excuse because her friend was gaming me kinda hard when i was in set with them. I should have talked to her more though. I am really really striving for longer sets. Time is your ally.
__________________
"To put it in gentleman's terms if you've been out for a night and you're looking for a young lady and you pull one, some weeks they're good looking and some weeks they're not the best. Our performance today would have been not the best looking bird but at least we got her in the taxi. She wasn't the best looking lady we ended up taking home but she was very pleasant and very nice, so thanks very much, let's have a coffee..........A win is like a bird and we take her home. At the end of the day, we want a better looking one than that if we can, if not, we'll take her home anyway".
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean
Writing field reports are good for you. You need to internalize what you are doing wrong.
Saturday 10/08
Like last night I was out with wings. Not going out solo is so awesome. Tonight I was out with Haze, Turok, and AS89 in my part of town.
I felt like shit all day and was so fucked up I couldn't even do anything, let alone some planned day game. After puking my brains out, I finally felt good enough to go out. African warrior shit....lol which is the problem, I need to learn how to relax.
The night was going so-so, I was trying to do shit instead of relaxing and chilling. So I never really hit my groove all night. We're all pretty much tired by 3:15 but decide to go to another venue for the 4th quarter.
The 4th quarter is really where the game is won people. Chicks are tired of chodes and ready to be pulled. It's essential that you have stamina and are up and alert at this part of the night.
I do a quick walk-around and spot a hot mixed race girl. She was like Asian and white or some shit. Hot girl. Turok comes in right after and talks to her friend. The dude is fuckin good. His sub-comm is so fucking dialed - it makes me look at myself a bit harder in the mirror in the morning now. pure dominance. So I'm talking my girl and I'm feeling like complete shit and i'm so un-expressive so I pretty much go fag/interview mode on her. She understood my intent, but she could also feel that it was stifled. Granted I keep talking and figure I just might make it ineresting and talk to her and hold the set up while Turok games the friends. Turok suggests we go inside so I follow with my girl. His girl loves him - my girl is feeling like "meh this nigga is tolerable". Any other night, I would pulled her. For sure.
Turok is nowhere to be found and I'm in the bar just chilling with the girl. Despite how bad the set was, I still had a chance because I was talking to the girl. She starts talking about how she wants to make love to Turok's girl tonight. I get kinda mad (i.e. don't stay icey) because I'm thinkin to myself "WTF - We've been talking for 20 minutes and now you're trying to pull this immature lesbian act". She calls me out on getting mad. DONE. If you react like a pussy you are DONE. This was a shit test that I failed. If I had just kept my cool, held eye contact and laughed "Yea - I don't blame you. yo I would do her ass too. Go for it".
Instead - I didn't. 5 minutes later, we meet up with Turok. Turok's girl is so DTF. I try to occupy the friend. Eventually my girl pulls Turok's girl away and Turok's girl goes home with blue cunt.
Looking back, good wingmanship would have been for Turok to game my girl and for me to occupy Turok's girl for a bit and do some kind of switch off. Or I could have let Turok manage both girls as his girl was so into him and buzz off. The second option sounds better in my opinion.
Monday 10/10
I go out with my roommate to our little neighborhood bar as he's recently broken up with his girl and is just in a bad bad state of mind. I like the guy but guys like him make me realize that being a chode is the worst. Over the past week, he's been very sulky and it seems like his world has come crashing down. I know he will recover but I'm scared he will continue his chode ways.
We get to the bar and I'm just feeling it tonight. Like accessing that witty fuckin part of my brain. I'm just spitting that fuckin gold game. Granted there are only 3 or 4 chicks in the bar that aren't on a date or something like that. I see 2 mediocre girls - just start spitting gold fire. Now that I've become comfortable with expressing I should should probably start to add a little bit of Alex faux pas deliberate illogicality. Sprinkle some of it here and there. Feels good to express after not being able to do it for awhile. So I end up talking to this chick everytime with frequent breaks talking to my roomie. He keeps talking about his ex and I dont want to hear that shit so I go back into set. I meet her other friend who has been hanging with this guy for most the night. I start talking to her - we exchange commonalities and she's pretty attracted. The frame is set up magnificently - she's set up andI ask her about the guy on her phone and she doesn't really want to claim him. Find out that it's her boyfriend. She asks for my FB and then I eventually leave the bar early with my roomie because there's no chicks to talk to.
Looking back, I should have gamed the girl with the boyfriend as she was totally into me instead of coming up with the rule "well i was talking to her friend and she's single and has been laughing at my jokes all nights - this means i must stay with the friend".
Ehh - wish my job wasnt so demanding - I really miss being able to do day game.
Saturday 10/08
Like last night I was out with wings. Not going out solo is so awesome. Tonight I was out with Haze, Turok, and AS89 in my part of town.
I felt like shit all day and was so fucked up I couldn't even do anything, let alone some planned day game. After puking my brains out, I finally felt good enough to go out. African warrior shit....lol which is the problem, I need to learn how to relax.
The night was going so-so, I was trying to do shit instead of relaxing and chilling. So I never really hit my groove all night. We're all pretty much tired by 3:15 but decide to go to another venue for the 4th quarter.
The 4th quarter is really where the game is won people. Chicks are tired of chodes and ready to be pulled. It's essential that you have stamina and are up and alert at this part of the night.
I do a quick walk-around and spot a hot mixed race girl. She was like Asian and white or some shit. Hot girl. Turok comes in right after and talks to her friend. The dude is fuckin good. His sub-comm is so fucking dialed - it makes me look at myself a bit harder in the mirror in the morning now. pure dominance. So I'm talking my girl and I'm feeling like complete shit and i'm so un-expressive so I pretty much go fag/interview mode on her. She understood my intent, but she could also feel that it was stifled. Granted I keep talking and figure I just might make it ineresting and talk to her and hold the set up while Turok games the friends. Turok suggests we go inside so I follow with my girl. His girl loves him - my girl is feeling like "meh this nigga is tolerable". Any other night, I would pulled her. For sure.
Turok is nowhere to be found and I'm in the bar just chilling with the girl. Despite how bad the set was, I still had a chance because I was talking to the girl. She starts talking about how she wants to make love to Turok's girl tonight. I get kinda mad (i.e. don't stay icey) because I'm thinkin to myself "WTF - We've been talking for 20 minutes and now you're trying to pull this immature lesbian act". She calls me out on getting mad. DONE. If you react like a pussy you are DONE. This was a shit test that I failed. If I had just kept my cool, held eye contact and laughed "Yea - I don't blame you. yo I would do her ass too. Go for it".
Instead - I didn't. 5 minutes later, we meet up with Turok. Turok's girl is so DTF. I try to occupy the friend. Eventually my girl pulls Turok's girl away and Turok's girl goes home with blue cunt.
Looking back, good wingmanship would have been for Turok to game my girl and for me to occupy Turok's girl for a bit and do some kind of switch off. Or I could have let Turok manage both girls as his girl was so into him and buzz off. The second option sounds better in my opinion.
Monday 10/10
I go out with my roommate to our little neighborhood bar as he's recently broken up with his girl and is just in a bad bad state of mind. I like the guy but guys like him make me realize that being a chode is the worst. Over the past week, he's been very sulky and it seems like his world has come crashing down. I know he will recover but I'm scared he will continue his chode ways.
We get to the bar and I'm just feeling it tonight. Like accessing that witty fuckin part of my brain. I'm just spitting that fuckin gold game. Granted there are only 3 or 4 chicks in the bar that aren't on a date or something like that. I see 2 mediocre girls - just start spitting gold fire. Now that I've become comfortable with expressing I should should probably start to add a little bit of Alex faux pas deliberate illogicality. Sprinkle some of it here and there. Feels good to express after not being able to do it for awhile. So I end up talking to this chick everytime with frequent breaks talking to my roomie. He keeps talking about his ex and I dont want to hear that shit so I go back into set. I meet her other friend who has been hanging with this guy for most the night. I start talking to her - we exchange commonalities and she's pretty attracted. The frame is set up magnificently - she's set up andI ask her about the guy on her phone and she doesn't really want to claim him. Find out that it's her boyfriend. She asks for my FB and then I eventually leave the bar early with my roomie because there's no chicks to talk to.
Looking back, I should have gamed the girl with the boyfriend as she was totally into me instead of coming up with the rule "well i was talking to her friend and she's single and has been laughing at my jokes all nights - this means i must stay with the friend".
Ehh - wish my job wasnt so demanding - I really miss being able to do day game.
__________________
"To put it in gentleman's terms if you've been out for a night and you're looking for a young lady and you pull one, some weeks they're good looking and some weeks they're not the best. Our performance today would have been not the best looking bird but at least we got her in the taxi. She wasn't the best looking lady we ended up taking home but she was very pleasant and very nice, so thanks very much, let's have a coffee..........A win is like a bird and we take her home. At the end of the day, we want a better looking one than that if we can, if not, we'll take her home anyway".
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean
Good job recognizing the shit test. Spot on. Your getting better at it.
Damn I need to remember this one. Should make it easy to go into those "scary" ones, well...because its TRUE.
Blowouts are always good for me because I can just hit the next set 10 times harder.
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RSD Misinterpreted: A Series of Posts on Popular RSD Ideas and How I Used to Misunderstand Them
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Tuesday 10/11
Head out with Turok. Good wing....his subcomm and vibe are serious. We hit up some 2 set in the street. We bounce them to some bar within 10-15 minutes. We chill inside w/them. I talk to my girl and I'm feeling v-nasty so i get my girl a drink. Turok doesn't. He actually does a hardcore takeaway from his chick which I love. He even talks to other girls while his girl is like damnn... Note to self....Takeaways are gnarly dude......
We talk to the chicks for a bit and screw around with other chicks. I'm being stupid and obnoxious. Apparently Norah Jones is in the bar. I want to game her just to say i fuckin did it but realize that's a chode man's hype. We decide to leave the bar because it's full of folk singers from Manitoba.
We eventually head to the bar next door.
Pop a 2 set open. One of the chicks swear she knows me - We end up talking to the girl. I'm still being stupid and obnoxious but decide to cut it off a minute into the set. 20 minutes later, the girl I'm talking to tells me she has a BF but is telling me things like "You have no filter...its amazing...When i first met u, you were so fuckin annoying...now you've grown on me" blah blah. I really liked her soon to be cougar ass. The girls end up going outside to smoke, so me and Turok chill. We talk about shit n then like 15-20 minutes later, Turok heads outside to talk to his girl. Soon I follow. He # closes his chick. I don't even ask my girl for the #. I should have went for it. Maybe her telling me she had a BF was a weird shit test of hers or some shit.
Thursday 10/13
Head out with Haze. I get to the bar, I'm feeling all jittery and shit. It takes me like 30 minutes to feel slightly relaxed. Not really much of a story to tell this night because I wasnt out for long.
Hit up a couple of sets, buyer/seller dynamic is off as Haze points out. Nothing really worth pointing out, but really cemented in my brain about when to shift gears (i.e. attraction/rapport and always QUALIFYING the girl) as to why she likes you.
Head out with Turok. Good wing....his subcomm and vibe are serious. We hit up some 2 set in the street. We bounce them to some bar within 10-15 minutes. We chill inside w/them. I talk to my girl and I'm feeling v-nasty so i get my girl a drink. Turok doesn't. He actually does a hardcore takeaway from his chick which I love. He even talks to other girls while his girl is like damnn... Note to self....Takeaways are gnarly dude......
We talk to the chicks for a bit and screw around with other chicks. I'm being stupid and obnoxious. Apparently Norah Jones is in the bar. I want to game her just to say i fuckin did it but realize that's a chode man's hype. We decide to leave the bar because it's full of folk singers from Manitoba.
We eventually head to the bar next door.
Pop a 2 set open. One of the chicks swear she knows me - We end up talking to the girl. I'm still being stupid and obnoxious but decide to cut it off a minute into the set. 20 minutes later, the girl I'm talking to tells me she has a BF but is telling me things like "You have no filter...its amazing...When i first met u, you were so fuckin annoying...now you've grown on me" blah blah. I really liked her soon to be cougar ass. The girls end up going outside to smoke, so me and Turok chill. We talk about shit n then like 15-20 minutes later, Turok heads outside to talk to his girl. Soon I follow. He # closes his chick. I don't even ask my girl for the #. I should have went for it. Maybe her telling me she had a BF was a weird shit test of hers or some shit.
Thursday 10/13
Head out with Haze. I get to the bar, I'm feeling all jittery and shit. It takes me like 30 minutes to feel slightly relaxed. Not really much of a story to tell this night because I wasnt out for long.
Hit up a couple of sets, buyer/seller dynamic is off as Haze points out. Nothing really worth pointing out, but really cemented in my brain about when to shift gears (i.e. attraction/rapport and always QUALIFYING the girl) as to why she likes you.
__________________
"To put it in gentleman's terms if you've been out for a night and you're looking for a young lady and you pull one, some weeks they're good looking and some weeks they're not the best. Our performance today would have been not the best looking bird but at least we got her in the taxi. She wasn't the best looking lady we ended up taking home but she was very pleasant and very nice, so thanks very much, let's have a coffee..........A win is like a bird and we take her home. At the end of the day, we want a better looking one than that if we can, if not, we'll take her home anyway".
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean
Katalyst
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Join Date: 05/16/2008 | Posts: 489
Before I had black Jim Carrey game, as Jeff called it and he called for me to slow it down. Listen, I did not. Alex~ made that the whole focus of program the 2nd around.
Tyler's recent article brought up some things that I need to start implementing more often.....Holding eye contact which is basic shit that I never really actively implemented. Make that and deliberate illogicality a major focus of mine when I go out. Having longer interactions just talking about stupid shit that i find amusing.
Also, I've realized I have to be more ballsy. More mixed sets...more mixed sets..more mixed sets. I actually used to do quite well at these but for some reason I've been one to avoid tense/confortational moments.
Another thing I'm going to start doing..is surprise...meditation. I used to laugh at this shit. I told myself it was heebie jeebie. I'm gonna give it a try. Do it every day for a month - see how shit pans off. Instead of smoking weed for active relaxation, I'll just meditate. Eventually I'll get the hang off it.
I'm also going to focus on just doing some shit that I haven't done before that my brain keeps telling me to do. Fuck it - if it's a group of 3 girls with shopping bags walking on the street or some chick on the subway that's being leered on by 6 guys.....that's the set for me.
Blowouts are always good for me because I can just hit the next set 10 times harder.
In set, I just need to talk about things I'm realistically interested in. Stupid shit like that Kreayshawn chick I'm absolutely fuckin obsessed with. Just fuckin dumb shit but doing it in a relaxed manner, not a hey look at me I don't give a fuck. Start being a bit more romantic in set. Starting being more emotional in a non-faggy way. Focus on long interactions, romantic times and emotional boners.
Cool. Let's push things forward
-Ian Holloway (http://youtu.be/fB9rI7p7vmk)
“My dad's philosophy was (and I think still is) that life is a malevolent force, which seeks to destroy you, and you have to struggle with it. Only those who are hard enough will succeed. Most people get crushed, but if you fight, in the end life will go, "Fucking hell. This one's serious. Let him through.”
-Russell Brand
"GOIN HARD THE WHOLE NIGHT CUZ I AIN'T GOING BACK TO MY OLD LIFE......I PROMISE"
-Big Sean