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Distant Light

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Join Date: 08/22/2006 | Posts: 2390

Roadrally
Thats one of the biggest problems about TRYING, the inconsistency...

Community culture makes you think its alpha to go and take what you want. This is FALSE, the highest value males are GIVEN IN ABUNDANCE.

When you're chasing/trying to get a girl you are essentially NOT GIVING HER A CHANCE to figure you out at all because your sold already and now she is pressured to select. Now you are 1 of a handful of guys all trying to chase her. So now she has to choose between the "best of the chasers". Even funnier is that she doesn't need to hookup with you today, next week or next year because you are still dtf from the get go.

Thats where the inconsistency comes, I noticed ever since I simply stopped chasing and started living chicks were ADDICTED because instantly there was an escape from the pressures of their social/sex life. It wasn't a man hitting them up constantly trying to get a DATE or hookup. Heck, it almost seems like the guy is just too busy to even waste time focusing on her. On top of that there are other women trying to get his attention. So when that opportunity for her to hookup comes up she will lunge.

Assuming sunday is counted as a weekday, thats 18-38hrs a week of TRYING TO GET LAID. I think once you strip the BS all guys want to just have women around them and still have the freedom to do the things they enjoy. I personally don't remember all the women, I remember the moments that I enjoyed highly...
- Getting drunk with 9 or so girls and ending up in a strip club with 4 of them.
- Getting taken to see denzel washington on broadway and then taken out to sushi which was 200pp
- Having free dinner/hookah every sunday
- Hanging with my boys acting stupid and watching my boy 3way makeout and double finger bang these chicks
- Being so drunk telling my boy I'm gonna fuck some girl and 1min later I literally leave to fuck her.
- Partying with the playboys crew and bi-natural trying to crowd surf us but falls on table. Then me wondering how I got to the next venue without cash and ending up at a house party. (I met two girls they paid for taxi)
- Almost having a 5some or some shit, also the many interactions where I act like 1 on 1 sex is boring/lame so I 3way makeout and mess with both chicks at the sametime.
- Edc with my boys, warehouse parties with my gals
- Wild partying, gays, lesbians, bis making out at table. Me fingering a chick, lesbian model pouring alcohol on the table, and utter chaotic energy of fun.
- Trying to ride a bike with a girl on the bike DRUNK
- Hearing dada life, bingo players, porter robinson, r3hab, tommy trash, dash berlin, all play for FREE

I can't tell you a single cold approach I remember from march 08. Now, I don't knock going out it can be fun outside of he community way of going about things. While were at it, I've never truly seen a community guy go to these venues and kill it because...

Majority of groups are, MIXED SETS. I'm just socializing and having fun so this is a cakewalk and more times than not I become friends with the guys. An its Not like friends for the day it ranges from we say hi when we see each other to I hang at there table to I have there number. So when I am solo its like I reunited with long lost friends and now were living it up together. Other times I am just a walking manaic flirting with all and then I am in some seuxal situation.

Why I love living like this...
If you notice I talk about food, travel and partying alot, thats because no matter what I did with my life partying and food would be very important in my life.

Women that I am phyiscally attracted to are always there and around me. The option for sex is there everyday all I have to do is choose a girl and HAVE SEX...

Focusing on women would be so unprofitable and so now I just keep the processes going and LIVE...



My biggest goal is to have the ability to travel to other party destinations either solo recreating my lifestyle OR bringing sand to the beach by rolling in with a crew. Places/Events like...
- South Of France (Monaco, St Tropez)
- Floripa (Brazil)
- Party Islands (Mykonos, Ibiza, Marbella)
- Tomorrowland (Did you see the 20min youtube video amazing event)
- Burning Man Event
- Eastern Euro Party Tour
- Local Region (Miami, Vegas)

Similar to how the guy in the video has 70ppl fly into mykonos, they book out the whole hotel, already have pre-booked tables along with pool parties, daytime parties/brunches, yacht parties, etc. An still you end up cold approaching adding more cool people to the group. Also a few "well off" men who can blow some cash to make the experience even that much more incredible. Not only am I having a blast, eating good food and getting laid. But I am bringing others along to live it up too.

You are changing lives when you bring people along...

Bebopjoker
I probably look into the braddock social circle stuff, vaguely skimmed in the past...

Thing is you don't have to wait 4 years and also your missing out on opportunities. Stand on 14th n 9th infront of the apple store around 12-1, watch as 5-10 hot girls are in a mixed group of maybe 1-3 guys. While your scanning the streets these chicks are all packed in one club. The amount of effort it takes to walk around searcuing is the same needed to meet and roll to the better clubs with chicks so you can simply hand select.

I've always mentioned a community dude in those places have a better chance hooking up than most in those venues because a community dude will atleast give her a chance to meet him. (Noticed I didn't say approach) She will have no other options besides you so even as a tryhard you'll get something. IMO, just getting something is still BS.

Ahash31
Thats the difference between being and doing, you were on right track though...

That frame is a way of life, if you truly wanted to pull out your dick call em out, be creative giving them opportunities...
- Start rambling about how the last time chicks ended up pulling out your dick and it was a whole fiesta
- Call em out, "Where are you from? Ok, xyz girls arent shy be assertive if you wanna see it just ask and I just MIGHT"
- "Really, right here? Well atleast excite me so I make a strong impression when I show
- "Ok, so since I am already kidnapped how do I get free...hand or mouth" (Imply they gonna suck or jerk)

Qualification is abit weird to me since I find ask questions and seeing her traits as very basic. My qualification is more about...
- "Can she handle me?" - Meaning can she keep up and tolerate how I am?
- "Do I enjoy having her around?" - Meaning does her presence add to the overall experience?
- "Does our lifestyle mesh?" - If she isn't capable of partying hard then this will end rapidly.
- "Does she have traits I love" - Based on experience I like those women capable of being very upbeat/energetic who ooze feminine energy and are very nurturing/affectionate. They are highly sexual but aren't clingy, likes atleast flirting with girls.
- "Can she handle my philosophy of life?" - The foundation is if she can accept we only have fun/sex and she is free to do and hookup with whoever EVEN IF ITS RIGHT INFRONT OF ME. This is by far the deepest part since it spills into my truths based on exploration of consciousness. I'll explain later

Regardless if she passes those criterias she still must be...
- 5'8+ (Prefer 5'11) exception to this rule is very unique girls
- Face wise, eastern euro (slavic features) Unless they are what I call "distinct ugly" (not attractive to most but a huge turn on to me)
- Body wise, very slim/petite and long legs

THE EXCEPTIONS
- The French Look, messy full hair and french face YUM
- The German Look, average look that gets me going crazy
- The Edgy Hipsters, its mainly a combination of style, full body tattoos, and short hair.
- Huge Fake Tits, ever since that chicks DDs I have been hooked

This is just to show why I say qualification is more of a way of being stemming from YOUR OWN PHILOSOPHY because even if the chick makes the cut physically and meshes well. She better not continually cross boundaries or I am done. A few major ones...
- She must chase and take responsibility for her social/sex life
- She must not cause any complications, issues or drama to my simple care-free life
- She must not waste my time
- No negativity, keep things fun and free

As my philosophy of life grows, my standards and criteria grows too. If you noticed with friendzone chick I was done because she was fucking up my simpilicity and even worst she later wasted my time.

As for tone thats based on your personality, I tend to do it as throwaways normally or when really going back and forth I say it very jokingly. Where as my boy says it very seriously and confrontantional. My female friends have stated at times he is too intense BUT thats just chicks who weren't will to take responsibilty amyway.

Other girls jump in it and his interactions are much bizaree. Such as chicks basically saying they want him inside of them. I have heard him say "What!?!?! Say I won't eat your right here on the street" She OF COURSE SAYS IT, he wall slams and starts dipping down. Other chicks are looking in fascination til she stops him. In taxi with them she is grabbing his dick the whole time and I did some selective hearing that caused me to say "Wait wait, are you a giver or a receiver?" She says giver which I follow up being shocked at the possibility of my boy and her fucking since 2 givers together can cause a battle of giving pleasure.

As you explore the concepts more and more you'll put your own spin on it. I personally am a partyboy so more playful/childish. I am more likely to kiss one girl then the next as I laugh saying "I told you both of yall want my soul". I also notice I like doing setups such as asking if there bi just so I can state 1on1 sex is boring now.

Two different styles, different experiences, same concepts, same results...

P.S...whats name of that hugh hefner book...

P.S.S...Prob back out again tn, hyped up...Might just roll solo or have these 2 girls who hit me up come along. If thats the case will have a team of crazies. (Invite mr 8.5 and one of my newest crazies to come too)
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Ali_

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Join Date: 12/10/2009 | Posts: 179

Nice.

1) Get standards
2) Be social
3) The girls who fit your standard you bring in
4) You give them an option whether or not they want to have sex...

K.I.S.S

I approve.
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Distant Light

Distant Light

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Join Date: 08/22/2006 | Posts: 2390

Another epic failure...
Welp, first off think me and bi-natural are done, can't deal with the BS. Sorry but my life is crumbling, can't be worried about my boy hanging up cause I am late to go out...

Hung out with model promoter, I should've never showed up. Ironcially before that I ran into THE PLAYBOYS, 18 girls 2 guys. They will own nightlife in the future. Model promoter has food, I chill.

His boy wants to bring THE GOLD MEDALIST SWIMMER WHO MADE HISTORY to the table to hang but we only have 3 models. I brought ZERO GIRLS. He is at the table next to us chillin with dudesn sipping beer. As girls notice they start to flock but my friend friend tells me he has a gf and doesn't give a fuck about any girls. I just wanted my gal to tell him t teach us both how to swim.

Tonight I felt like a VT since I had shrimp and thai wraps for free without bringing people. HOWEVER, i did bring a tranny to the table that I know and 2 hipster chicks. Both girls are on me hard and bounce me to other club...

At other club run into my boy i met through the community forgot his name. I am done, these girls are just dragging me around. I HAVE TO LEAVE. While leaving I like approach 3 different girls, 2nd one actually loves me and is the hottest, last 2 are skeptical but I was leaving so just let it go.

My impression is dying rapidly. A year I was known to know hotties now nothing. Am I running out of steam?
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JofSuperman

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Join Date: 01/24/2011 | Posts: 162

Distant Light wrote:

P.S...whats name of that hugh hefner book...


A lot of people have PM'ed me for the book, so I'll post it here as well.

It's called "Jill Ann: Upstairs". The ebook is available for free.
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Distant Light

Distant Light

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Thanks, bookmarked your blog, good write up...

You caused me to finally buy "dispatches from st tropez" and thankfully it was 3$ on amazon. Didn't go out early due to reading half the book already. I've always loved REAL ACCOUNTS of living it up. I technically could write a book too, maybe should start journaling my memorable moments.

I honestly can say, this book is inspiring for me personally cause its like a 2nd MASSIVE SIGNPOST. During acting school in 08 my 1st private consultation, my teacher stated how she always seen me walk in and inside she could see this personality DYING TO COME OUT but due to fear of people disliking it I kept it under control. After that I tore it up during the other half of 08.

MAJOR SIGNPOST, reading this post, meaningless to others but very moving...
- A mariyln monroe quote, talking about madness is genius and how being ridiculous is better than being absolutely boring.
- A metaphor about splashing our personal canvas with daring strokes and bold colors without thought of what he end result will look like
- "Worry is the distraction of the truest form of happiness"

The Smoking Gun
A story of how the author showed up at his fav brunch party and when a thunderstorm occured almost killing the party he told Dj to keep spinning and danced in the rain. As a result of his group still partying the staff removed all umbrellas because everyone went back to their tables PARTYING IN THE THUNDERSTORM. EVEN BETTER...
- Manager of another club gives him his card stating he's the best guy here and that him n his group are COMPed anytime so longs he BRINGS THAT SAME ENERGY...
- Another guy invites him to join his table at a club
- Invited to join a yacht after party
- Gets opened by an attractive chick, fucks her in yacht

This moved me personally because this used to happen almost every night when I used to just DO IT. This is why I used to love going out and having fun. HOWEVER, I noticed I've been trying to act well behaved instead of just being my usual mental self.

Out tn to cause damage
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-Spaceman-

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Join Date: 07/13/2012 | Posts: 363

Distant light, you talk a lot about not judging girls and just being cool to girls regardless of their vibe/personality/lifestyle. But when I'm probing them with a stream of questions and trying to get them to qualify, it kind of seems like I'm judging them to see if they're cool or not. Where do you find the balance in all this?
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Jayess

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Join Date: 09/08/2012 | Posts: 192

Hey man reffering to your epic failure post...its all good!make sure to keep that never satisfied ego in line though ;) just go out and have fun because honestly thats all that matters. If you think a goal is, Lets say: a big social circle where everyone loves you, going to make you happy; it wont. Be happy in the proccess and the goal will come. Maybe not in YOUR wanted timing, but it will happen. So you might as well be happy and enjoy the plateaus In your game/ life right now. Process orientation>>>>> goal orientation. Achieving your goal will bring short term happiness. Learning to enjoy your life with all the curveballs will be much more rewarding :)
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Streetfighter

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Join Date: 12/31/2010 | Posts: 115

Thanks for this. The rest of your blog is great too.
JofSuperman wrote:
Distant Light wrote:

P.S...whats name of that hugh hefner book...


A lot of people have PM'ed me for the book, so I'll post it here as well.

It's called "Jill Ann: Upstairs". The ebook is available for free.



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Distant Light

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Join Date: 08/22/2006 | Posts: 2390

Long way to go...

No clue why I am so "closed off" but I meet my old friend mix! and hang in the club with him. Its funny because one of his girls says "Hey, DL its been awhike why are you so mellow". I tried avoiding everyone, were hidden in vip so I am propped up on chair not saying a single word. Funny part, 5 of mix! Girls show up, they are sitting next to me so I just get up and walk off.

One of thr chicks CHASE ME, saying you didn't have to leave. I sit back down screen HARD. I am over the venue though, I am spoiled although these girls had amazing bodies THICK white chicks. So I leave but did abit of homo erotic mating dance as a goodbye to mix's girl who knew me. Other chick who had amazing body was shocked and wondered why she didn't get such a goodbye.

Next venue, with model promoter, I don't even say hi to the models just leave area. Run into a short gal who knows me, meet her friends, bring her to table. Run into my hungarian gal also, I am being wild with short chick blond friend...



I am an utter mess, somehow leave with 3 girls which one is very drunk. Get to their apt, piss, makeout with chick in pic, I not even sure how we started fooling around. Later I am fooling with short chick and plan on hitting after hours. Drop off drunk and blondie, take shorty elsewhere. Kissing and fingering, I am trying to bathroom pull SHE IS DOWN but we can't get to a bathroom since living room club closed door. She didnt want me fingering in public so we just parted ways since some dude she messes with was at after hours. Should hungout in car and got a BJ.


-Spaceman-: Having a criteria isn't judging that's just what you like/prefer BUT you respect whatever other paths they choose. You don't have to neccessarily like it, its more like "whatever". Your criteria is more of "this is simply what gets me going and peaks my interest".

Jayness:Its more of a fear of if I don't grow up eventually the window of oppoortunity will close and I will be in no position to even build this lifestyle. I'd be forced to become a 9 to 5er which would kill me inside. Basic neccessity money is a huge need for me just on a logical level of providing for myself. I already see and feel much more amazing when I knew I was making money and able to make decisions. Everything was flowing...
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Distant Light

Distant Light

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Join Date: 08/22/2006 | Posts: 2390

Progress Report: Build A Structure
Its time I blast through my obvious sticking points...
- No habits/rituals to keep everything together and going
- Disorganized cell phone and horrible management
- Not going out during the daytime
- Being "closed off" or better yet having way too much fun internally and really spreading the love.

The only area I've been exploring properly is my ability to fool around with women at the most basic level. I am beating this evidence to death now since past 3-4 months almost all the women who I interact with tend to what me or have fooled around with me. Last night, madeout with 2 girls in same group, been making out with both chicks in 2sets and almost every chick who randomly captured my attention I've atleast madeout with. The models I wanted, fake tits, the hipsters, its all been easy sailing.

Now its really time to explore getting back to the larger picture so for now on everyday...
1. Plan/Invite - Everyday when I wake I must immediately plan out the night and start inviting women to come along into my lifestyle. This is MANDATORY!!!!!!
2. Scouting - During the time for atleast 1hr, I must stop being a "closed off" dick and actually give women the opportunity to meet me again and possibly come along into my life.
3. Own The Venue - I have to be the cocaine again who is a social maniac causing/creating all the fun in the venue.
4. Nightcap - I must manage my phone at the end of each night.

The key lies in my ability to be a social maniac again, keep my phone organized and actually allow chicks to come along. Started cleaning up my phone again...



What I was doing was having chicks text me there names but I would never save them and so I would just have tons of unknown numbers. Because they weren't saved they weren't in any categories. So i didn't know they even existed and on top of that I didn't know if they were model types, tall, hipsters or some chick who was just unique. Whats worst is due to losing contacts i get soooo many texts and calls from unknown numbers and constant "who is this?" Is annoying for me. Atleast when chicks say it to me I just send them a pic of me.

-----------This below was meant to be posted last night before I hit the train BUT I forgot to post it-------

JofSuperman
Thanks, bookmarked your blog, good write up...

You caused me to finally buy "dispatches from st tropez" and thankfully it was 3$ on amazon. Didn't go out early due to reading half the book already. I've always loved REAL ACCOUNTS of living it up. I technically could write a book too, maybe should start journaling my memorable moments.

I honestly can say, this book is inspiring for me personally cause its like a 2nd MASSIVE SIGNPOST. During acting school in 08 my 1st private consultation, my teacher stated how she always seen me walk in and inside she could see this personality DYING TO COME OUT but due to fear of people disliking it I kept it under control. After that I tore it up during the other half of 08.

MAJOR SIGNPOST, reading this post, meaningless to others but very moving...
- A mariyln monroe quote, talking about madness is genius and how being ridiculous is better than being absolutely boring.
- A metaphor about splashing our personal canvas with daring strokes and bold colors without thought of what he end result will look like
- "Worry is the distraction of the truest form of happiness"

The Smoking Gun
A story of how the author showed up at his fav brunch party and when a thunderstorm occured almost killing the party he told Dj to keep spinning and danced in the rain. As a result of his group still partying the staff removed all umbrellas because everyone went back to their tables PARTYING IN THE THUNDERSTORM. EVEN BETTER...
- Manager of another club gives him his card stating he's the best guy here and that him n his group are COMPed anytime so longs he BRINGS THAT SAME ENERGY...
- Another guy invites him to join his table at a club
- Invited to join a yacht after party
- Gets opened by an attractive chick, fucks her in yacht

This moved me personally because this used to happen almost every night when I used to just DO IT. This is why I used to love going out and having fun. HOWEVER, I noticed I've been trying to act well behaved instead of just being my usual mental self.

Out tn to cause damage
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