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December 9th, 2016
Trust in the Process - Use this simple belief system to catapult your close rate INSTANTLY
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scottsdale

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Lately my success rate has skyrocketed. 2011 has truly been my breakthrough year. My game is building momentum. It seems the more success I get the more game I develop, and in turn the more game I develop the more success I experience.

Its like what came first, Game or Success? I'm not really sure. In the past few years I been grinding it out, teetering on the edge, and once the scale tipped over my game started building rapidly like an avalanche.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not declaring myself a master. I don't even consider myself really advanced yet. In my mind my avalanche still has shit tons of building left to do before I reach sexual destruction avalanche size... huh!? Anyhow...

Probably the most important game piece that I have really developed THIS YEAR is an inner game belief system that I call “Trust in the Process”. It's really the embodiment of many RSD belief systems. Although through field experience it has seemingly became my very own system, and I'm going to try and break it down the way I understand it so that it may benefit you too.


...Getting more successes (1-3 pulls per week) I started realizing how fragile my closes were. It seemed like all odds were against me. There were always so many factors working against me to stop the close from happening. Logistics, my state, her state, her friends, etc. There are so many obstacles you gotta jump over and you gotta do it just right or else it will all fall to pieces.... Or that’s how I THOUGHT about it anyhow.

Things started to shift for me after all these moments where I was faced with what I thought was an impossible pull and still pulled thru anyhow. Like I meet a girl and things are going well but then I'm hit with all this crap like “Ok she is leaving in the morning, she is tired, she has a boyfriend back at home, she is on her fucking period... Shiiiit!” and then a few hours later I'm driving home as dawn breaks thinking to myself “holy shit, how did I just pull that off?”.

After lots of interactions like these I started to develop a serious Trust in the Process.

Let me get a bit deeper here and explain what the process really refers to.
The process is simple, its what is supposed to happen. Success is supposed to happen and its supposed to be easy. Your mind body and soul wants you to succeed. Nature wants you to succeed. The universe itself wants you to achieve your greatest potential.
The natural dynamics of a Man and Woman are already set into motion. We are designed to be together. Attraction is a universal law. So really there is nothing for you to do other then let nature takes its course. You are naturally attractive to women, women want you and need you, the universe says so.

AS LONG AS YOU ARE BEING NATURAL.

Trusting in the Process is like syncing with this natural flow. Instead of TRYING you simply ARE.

If you are trying, then you are taken out of the flow and the process will no longer work for you. But when you let LIFE move thru you so-to-speak that’s when amazing shit happens.
So enough of this deep philosophy spill, I like this type of stuff but I know a lot of you don't. Its important though because on a deeper level I believe this is whats really going on.

The truth is it really doesn't matter what you say or do, what you look like, what the logistics are. If you just trust in the process and know that closing is SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN then everything will take care of itself.

I don't have to be this super pimp, I don't have to have stellar game or great looks... I'm a Man, and if a Woman is near me the PROCESS IS ALREADY IN THE WORKS.

Its as simple as that.

This belief is not to discourage you from taking action. Just cause you are being a natural male isn’t going to make a girl run up and jump on your dick. However with this belief I am no longer worried if I'm doing the right or wrong thing. I simply just do and say whatever I want, and I know as long as I'm taking any kind of action at all its likely leading us to where we BOTH want to be.

Trusting in the process has chilled out my interactions a lot too. No longer am I tying so hard to keep her there in front of me and to try and pull her. Now there is so much more breathing room in my game. As a result girls invest majorly into the interactions. Girls game me now.

I don't have to know what to do in this or that situation, I don't have to ever know what the best thing to say is. Rather I take each moment as it is now. I throw myself into interactions and in a way almost just WATCH MYSELF handle everything. Its like a deeper me takes over and is saying shit and doing shit.
This is letting life live thru you. Its your core self shinning through.

Put yourself in front of the girl. Stay in set. Make moves. And know that things are in the works.
You don't have to worry about anything or try and make anything happen. You are a man and a woman together, its obvious where its leading to. Simply keep escalating.

This has made my success rate skyrocket. LMR? Haaa, If I get a girl alone its basically done.
My day2 close rate is pretty much ridiculous anymore.
I have been getting girls OBSESSED with me lately, will not leave me alone, needy stalkers.

Game is a lot more fun and fulfilling now. Everything is just more free flowing and natural.
I still have a lot of room for improvement. I'm also curious to see just how far this mindset can take me. Already things have been intense!!

Let me know if this was helpful to you. It basically is just a bunch of RSD beliefs wrapped up into my own verbage, I know this.... It feels like my own personal inner game method though because of the way it just clicked on its own through field experience.
Maybe it will help you, maybe it wont. Maybe its beneath you, maybe its not.
If you do start to focus on this when going out then let me know of any results you get from it.
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 hey nice man i like it

im at a stage where i kinda feel like i fucking deserve all the results, but when i don't get them i get pissed.

i thought about it, and figured i just need patience. and keep doing what i do.


and i like how you say, you just fucking pull through.

i tihnk that could be my key:

total outcome dependence/trust in the process/relaxing

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pulling through real hard.



i feel like this is emotionally very challenging. but hey, what did girls want? an icey guy, who is really emotionally centred....

well fuck, then i have to become very emotionally stable and focussed.

okay lets do this
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Skyisthelimit wrote:


and i like how you say, you just fucking pull through.

Yeah man thats really the key to boosting my lays. I know it sounds like stating the obvious that by just sticking in there and plowing through til the end is the correct move, Duh. But if you dont have that "sticking" power you aint gonna stick, you're gonna just fall off.

In the beginning I would reject myself out of almost every set... In my head I would be thinking any number of negative things like "she doesnt like me, I dont know what to talk about, her friend is being a bitch, I look stupid, I sound stupid..." All this social pressure would build up and I would just eject. After time and experience this issue got better and I could take sets farther, get pulls but I would still deal with these emotions all the time. This is the opposite end of plowing, by ejecting due to self limiting beliefs and social pressure (read being a fuckin faggot pussy), but this is probably the #1 reason why guys arent getting success, they dont believe in themselves so they do not plow or remain.

Having full blown self trust will let you stay in there and get it done - but thats the easy part... Now that I been pulling a lot of girls my "Trust in the Process" mindset is in actuallity directed towards End Game. Its all about the close.
Hooking a girl - getting a set going, fine. Taking THAT hook to the lay is where the game is at. End game or Closing Game starts with the approach. And the more I trust in the whole process the more I feel like there is no game in the first place.


Whats wild about all my pulls recently is now I'm really starting to believe in trusting in the process and its still TESTING that belief harder and harder everytime. Meaning I keep getting stuck in these situations where I all but give up and think "There is no way I'm getting laid" but I just stay in there and before I know it things just work out.
So many times recently have I had a girl say directly to me "We are NOT having sex", and of course we do (which by the way if the girl ever says that you are not having sex, that means definitely she wants to have sex, you just gotta make it happen).

Most importantly about all this is how simple this is. I have a lot to say about it, and it can be deep. In reality though its as simple as can be. Its all about chilling back, being ultra normal, just being positive and taking what you want... Trusting in the process is not a thought, its not something you think in your mind... Its a feeling you have. Its like an emotion or a vibe. Its something you FEEL and ARE, rather than something you think about and try and be.
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Hell yeah awesome articles! Thanks man.
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 wow scottsdale some really cool reading.

testing your belief to the limits...haha it's funny how i think pickup is a wierd mental game even though it is so physical....the game is all played in the head


you have facebook son? would be interested to check you out
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If only more people read this article...sigghhhhhhh....this is truly a break through right there. Inspiration to success and KNOW that anyone can DO this no matter their looks, financial account and other limiting beliefs that many have.

Gold post mate.

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Scottsdale's TRUST THE PROCESS(A MUST READ ARTICLE): http://www.rsdnation.com/node/198244/forum?#comment-771397
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GOOD SHIT.

I'd also add in meditation if you wanna really explode your results further.  It's crazy how much this has an impact on what I'm able to pull off.

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Optimus_Prime wrote:
Inspiration to success and KNOW that anyone can DO this no matter their looks
What are you trying to say? lol just playin :P

thanks for the kind words guys!

@Tyler, I will definitely take your suggestion on meditation, I've been considering it anyhow just haven't commited to it yet. Early this year for the first time I started reading tolle bro, and taking to heart alot of your newer videos on presence and just going in like ice, its been the real turning point for me. So awesome, so thanks a lot man! Major credit due to you. So yeah if you think the meditation will help I'm game.
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Skyisthelimit wrote:

you have facebook son? would be interested to check you out
yeah pm me your facebutt
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I got to the same conclusion, but through a different way. (:
Good Post, Thanks for the Value. (;
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