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January 21st, 2018
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CBAABC

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Join Date: 02/20/2009 | Posts: 1692

 Yea....Feelgood does something very close to filming...and yet he doesn´t know how to film...

Silly old man.
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CBAABC

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 Uhhhh, exploring american club culture via internet...

Very interesting articles...as the clubs in my town, lol does not really apply. As there´s only 1 club that´s kinda exclusive, and in the other clubs they will let everyone in as long as you are not dressed like a homeless person.

postmasculine.com/nightclubs-part-1
postmasculine.com/nightclubs-part-2
postmasculine.com/nightclubs-part-3

Also this one is pure gold.... www.rsdnation.com/node/204544

Now it´s heavy focus on:

"There´s no reason why I am not enough" and "It´s all good."

I think I am getting better at statements of empathy, I do qualify girls, I do push myself to approach chicks, I am much more relaxed so the conversation is normal (not me trying to fill in blanks)...

Daygame progression

So since starting daygame in January I had really struggled hard with phone numbers...I got quite a lot. But like 90% wouldn´t even respond to texts and got zero dates (no it´s not text message sticking point, my texts are short and on point, with little to no fluff).

Since the end of March I got my 1st date since January. This is when the ball started rolling a little bit.

Starting April I started to have longer interactions, insta dates. Got 2 dates.

Now last week girls actually started to respond back. Thought that I might have like 4 dates this week...but 2 girls flaked last minute...So maybe this is the phrase of girl flaking last minute.

I have a few solid ones...2 solid ones, 3 uncertain ones and 2 new ones. Who know with how many I will actually meet up if none it´s cool as I just broke through into a new level. If I break into another level it would be dates...

1. No response to texts, no dates (Jan- mid March)
2. Insta dates, longer interactions
3. Girls responding to texts, but still kinda flakey

Gotta implement those above mindsets...I wanna have hotter and more qualify girls. Out of those 7 numbers only 3 girls I find pretty hot/cute. Those other 4 are like a little bit above average...

Why you are not getting hotter girls? Cuz you lack the relaxation around them.

Natural intincs method. Romantic revolution. Arousal not attraction. Quiet and attentive. It´s all good. There´s no reason why you are not enough. It´s not what you do but what you deal with. Physical rapport. Relaxed arousal.

Just a few concepts that I do not understand is Innocence and the king frame.

Peace out.
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CBAABC

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 I am sooo full on the self trust mode...I am enough.

No need to worry about my body language, no need to worry about my looks, just no worries....Doesn´t even matter that it was not smooth, nor do mistakes matter...it´s all good. I am enough.

I could say I am enough like 1000x times...

Not worrying about the "little things"

This article also resonated with me...no need to worry when you text, how often you text...postmasculine.com/phone-numbers

"In my experience, 99% of the so-called flake prevention strategies guys implement — calling at certain times, baiting with open-ended texts, pretending to send a text to the “wrong person,” — these will rarely convince a girl who was never attracted to you to suddenly become attracted to you."
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roadrally

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 those nightlife articles were pretty legit. 
I lived in LA for 5 years, sounds like this guy is speaking truth on the whole club scene. At least for LA.

Yeah buddy, there is no reason why you are not enough. You're chinapimp!
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CBAABC

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Curry: ya thanks to you i found that blog.

EZ!!!

Wow feeling really good...shifting between very chill its all good to overexcited about how life is good.

Obviously overexcited is not good but hey at least i am in full positive mode
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CBAABC

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 Kinda badly suprised...

I think I am dropping my expectations to bellow nothing...completely.

1.
So last monday went out with this chick, it was easy, just made out, handjob...tried to meet her again 2-3 days later, but got some excuses so I completely toned it back and have not contacted her for 1 week...until today. She says that she cannot go out cuz she´s got somebody....Lulz in just 1 week???

2.
Something kinda simmilar has happened before...insta date a girl for like an hour...said that next week she has time. I contact her only to find out since I met her she has a new BF (lol just 5 days of no contact)...

I´d be lying if the 1st thing didn´t affected me :D :D...I thought we gonna have sexy times :D :D :D

Nevermind.

It´s all good.

It´s aok.

NEEEEXT!
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AlexV

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looks like progress to me man
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CBAABC

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 PU one of the better emotional gyms :)

Note to self: "There´s no reason why I am not enough" "It´s all good"

Another biggie...Do not undervalue yourself. Screen the girls. Look for attractive qualities. Do not use qualification as a tactic...but as a way to be honest, to compliment her and to show her why you appreciate her.

Fuck neediness, fuck seeking approval, fuck caring about other people´s impressions of me...

Once I internalize the "I am enough" mindset...then I would save myself from frustration and endless sessions with no actual results...I will stay the same and not get girls if I do not internalise this...

Me, my goals, my passions = no. 1

Girls= no. 2

That will save me from caring too much about girls as I have to admit, I still kinda care about that girl and am kinda bummed out...So this is a symptom. Good that I realised :)

End of ramble...tommorow gonna go out and focus hard. I thought I had 4-5 solid ones...now it turns out it´s probably 0 :D
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CBAABC

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 Eyes open again...

Poor results...purely my own fault. I just didn´t wanna deal with my "demons" I didn´t wanna dig deep. I did not wanted to face my emotional baggage.

I realised this after today´s daygame session after a painful experience:

We are just chilling with my wing...I see "the girl". Approached her during the day and then went with her on 1 date, where I fucked up because I was too pushy for sex and generally just inexperienced with women, the later blocked me on FB and ignored all my texts (nearly all). I just made out with her and some crotch rubbing against each other...I fucked up.

But she was in my head ever since, it bummed me out. How can I care sooo much about a person that I barely know for like 1-2 hours??? WTF?

As I was the girl, I told my wing to approach her just for fun and to see what happens...He approaches her and I stand from a distance looking at them...Watching him talking to her and getting her number was painful. I felt really shitty.

This is the moment I realised that....I am extremely needy for women´s affection, validation, sex. If I do not get that handled I will stay clueless and have the same results I am having now.

Also paired together with how yesterday I was bummed out by the girl who did not wanna go out cuz she got a BF in like 1 week of not seeing eachother...it´s fucking retarded. How can I be soo heavily invested in a person who I barely know??? Like 30 of 1st interaction + 2 hours date, we just made out and handjob...How the fuck can I be soo invested in them that I am affected by the fact they do not wanna hang out anymore??

It´s retarded...

I have been extremely lazy and not wiling to dig deep and face my emotional baggage...But after yesterday and today, I think it´s enough pain to leverage me to really step up and face it.

Suuuure going out sooo much and just approaching feels now like an escape...escape from facing my demons.

Caring too much, neediness...writen all over my face.

So after yesterdays "pain" and todays "pain"...I realised that my priorities are all over the fucking place and they are misplaced...I have put GIRLS as the no. 1 priority....hence the frustration with girls/PU.

Gonna dig deep, face the shit I have been avoiding for soo long (and used going out as an escape and excuse not to face my emotional baggage)...

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One exciting news: I got my strength back, hell ya...If I get my appetite handled I can deadlift 300 lbs in a few/several months. Deadlifts make me feel manly.
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Mountaineer-~

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you got it! you have to have other stuff in your life going on. not only PU. to reinforce that read The Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida (strongly recommended!).
Cheers!
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Me, my goals, my passions = no. 1

Girls= no. 2

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