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CBAABC

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@martin crowe: can you expand on what you have just written?

What am i not doing?

My understanding of this article is take social risks aka push your comfort zone, which i am doing.

Thanks in advance :)
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Hey dude. You consider throwing down for a voice recorder? Might help you and us a ton when it comes to helping you out.

Keep going
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Martin Crowe

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ChinaBoy~ wrote:

@martin crowe: can you expand on what you have just written?

What am i not doing?

My understanding of this article is take social risks aka push your comfort zone, which i am doing.

Thanks in advance :)
What you wrote is good. What I'm saying is that if you followed your own advice you'd be doing much better. You may think you are but based on your results it's hard to believe. Fact is it's fucking hard to tell since how good anyone is at this without actually seeing and hearing them in field.
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CBAABC

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@cat: also thought about it. Will do it, but it wont be accurate since me talking in english, talking czech (which i do in my city) and me in a foreign country…i am kinda different and feel kinda chody talking in czech.

@martin crowe: true, maybe i am kinda a slow learner? I remember me doing things and progressing slower than other people. Mental block?

Or maybe i am too obsessed with pu and when i go out girls can feel it in my vibe.

The only progress i have seen in the last month of daygame is that i am more comfortable doing it.

Chinaboy
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Jimbiz

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I reckon it's trying too hard in some way, when you're trying too hard it's like a cycle of no results and you can't step back and see the bigger picture. But it's just guess work based on your field reports. You have to find your own style. Why don't you video yourself doing game, even if the audio is bad we might be able to give you an opinion based on the body language? Get a friend to video you do 5 approaches or something and post them up
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CBAABC

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27.2.2012 Daygame


Went out with this another guy...Don´t really like him so my plan was just to tell him that i do not want to go out with him anymore...He ended up approaching 1x. I am not interested in going out with people who do not take action or/and don´t have a good vibe around them (in this case both).

At first I was pushing him into sets...he didn´t even move. Then I realised that I am being ridiculous by pushing other people to approach but not approaching myself...quickly fixed that.

Approach a girl direct, she was kinda taken aback, then she told me she´s in a hurry, i go for the number anyway...no go.

Then decide to do indirect, even though they feel kinda uncomfortable...

Approach a tall girl, she´s kinda looking away...i am not that attracted so i let her go.

Indirect done properly
I see a small blonde...Ask for directions, wtf she´s in elementary school (15yo), shake hands, talk, just normal, she´s not giving much EC as she´s looking down, I qualify her, some chit chat "hey, let´s go sit down" no go she´s in a hurry...talk, move her a lil bit to the side of the street. get the number and FB, talk for another 2 mins, ask when she has time, maybe tommorow. This was normal, I feel like this may convert into a day2. She was also asking me questions pretty early.

Funny thing was that my wing was standing near us like almost a part of the group, kinda weirded out the girl, but i think it´s all good.

EDIT: Check out her FB...apparently she´s engaged to some guy, so maybe BF (BTW the guy is some chode posting on her wall that she lover her, that he´s gonna break hands of everyone who´s hitting on her....haha some needy chode). Let´s see if she´s up for a day2...very interested as Alex said that this indirect method is better for screening out single girls. We will see hehe :)


Then we go on this short street...I did 4 approaches in like 6 mins. 1st told me that I already approached her, kinda nervous, lied about being in a hurry, 2nd was in a hurry, 3rd had a BF, 4th I had to run up to her, she got creeped out.

Also got a number from another girl...but she´s moving out tommorow, also I didn´t really qualify, left after getting the number and also I didn´t liked the girl that much...deleted the number. Gotta keep those steps in my mind :)


Then approach some more....what´s weird that today I didn´t really went for the hottest chicks. Because I went through those smaller streets where are less people and they are also not in a hurry that much. The downside is there´s not many cute chicks and almost no hot chicks.

Victories:
-Did indirect
-Got 2 numbers
-Those 2 interactions were pretty normal, but definatively not boring
-In one interaction I felt that I did a good job

Conclusion:
-2 hours
-cca 10 approaches
-2 numbers

Lessons:
-Being uncomfortable with indirect (labeling it as not ballsy enough) is all in my head.
-Indirect is ok. It´s not hiding, it´s not sneaky
-The goal is just to be normal and chill
-Never forget these points: 1. qualify 2. keep talking after getting the number 3. push for the instant date
-Take your hands out of your pockets
-Smile

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This is my infield video...I am the lil guy on the left. It´s around 9-10 PM (so I considered it more like daygame than night streetgame where you are much more physical).

I am gonna record audio...probably in a week or so.

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Wow. Deleted another 2 numbers.

1st was like she´s busy on FB, blabla, then not responding to text.

2nd seemed as a pretty solid interaction, she even messaged me on FB, 2x I got the "I don´t have time" then when I asked her when do you have time "I dunno"...So I texted her to be upfront and just tell me if she wants to hang out or not "well, no"

Also the girl from friday...she seem kinda way into me. Not quiet and attentive, but the smile with puppy eyes...No response to text, today didn´t picked the phone. Gonna try 2 more times and then delete.

This has forced me to implement a new concept:
-"There´s nothing anybody can give me that I cannot give myself"
-"Only I can infuence how I feel."
-"Monopolising my emotions"

It just means that I won´t let other people affect how I feel. Doesn´t matter if it´s a blowout a milionth flake...whatever.

Jan 23th-Feb 25th Was the Era of Direct Daygame.

Now It´s the Era of Indirect Daygame


ChinaBoy
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Professor Hughes~

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 LOL, you're like Where's Waldo.  You should just travel around and have little cameos in the background of all the instructor's video blogs.

That looks like a pretty decent daygame interaction to me.  I mean, you've got the girl there talking to you for 5 min and looks like you got the number at the end.  

You look pretty stiff though and you're not expressive with your arms at all (the girl is actually a lot more expressive than you).  Try to relax and move around more.  It does look fucking cold though, so maybe that has something to do with it haha.
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 @Hughes: hahaha. Yep, talked to her probably longer than 5 min as I approached her before Julien started shooting. I hope that there would be the inicial walk up, but it´s not in the vid.

Yep, it was cooold...look at Julien, the weather must be also cold for him (from how he looks) haha.

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Gonna take a few days off. Kinda unusual since I have been hitting in hard since mid January.

I think that the more action I take, the more I push the better results I will get (or deserve)...that makes me stressed and frustrated when I get no results and also the cause of zero results.

I can identify with what Brad wrote...something along the lines that we are thinking in terms of working hard on social skills but for normal people it seems try hard.

Or Tyler had a thread about caring too much...yes, I care way too much about this.

So few days off...gonna start focus on other areas of my life, also gonna spend less time on RSDnation.

ChinaBoy
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Quote:
-"There´s nothing anybody can give me that I cannot give myself"

You can NOT give yourself BJ's :D
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CBAABC

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 @Me-vs-Me: YES I CAN! Just need to get an operation and remove a couple of my ribstounge

Updates, plan for March



WTF??? My english is really funny. "Meditation dailyyyyy"

EDIT: LOL just rewarched it...Kinda camera shy and also need to train talking in english as my speech isn´t really flowing.

ChinaBoy
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