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CBAABC

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 25.2.2012 Daygame


Went out again with my wing....I am pretty tired, very low energy.

The scariest approach ever
For me the hardest sets are when they are sitting down and with their family (including dad)...I see this very cute teenage girl...I had to chase her down to the 1st floor. I look around and finally spot her. She´s sitting down with her mom and dad. I go anyway. Approach her direct, her parents are pretty ok...Her dad "We are not from this city and are leaving soon"...I keep talking and ask her if she comes here often...nope. I wish them a good day.

My intuition is really good
I see this cute girl...she´s not hot but cute. I go up to her direct, she´s kinda shy but obviously into me and I was not weird (aka not putting her on the pedestal). I get this sense that she´s going to a train so I tell her "you are not from this city, right?"...nope, she´s from this city, but later tells me that she´s going to the train to meetup with her BF. Cool approach, made her day...Fuck my instinct is sooo rad. I felt here that if she didn´t have a BF then I´d get the number.


Racist? hahaa
I see a girl with her mom... I am kinda hesitating and my wing insists...I go. I say the direct and she starts leaving "Wait, one more thing, I am Ivi" "well, I am racist" we wave eachother goodbye.



Got a blowout from a daughter mother set...nevermind...It´s always the blowout from the girl not from the mom...probably these teenage girls cannot deal with the social pressure of their mom...nevermind.

I feel like a beggar
Approach this hot chick...I put her on pedestal and walked up to her...say it direct, she maintains her pokerface and I get the feeling that I am about to get blown out. I introduce myself and she´s like "Does it even matter?"...I try again, no go. I leave while laughing at myself of how weird I was in this situation...

I approach her, she cries
I go up to a girl...I see that something is not right about her...she had like tears running down her face...I say my direct opener and she covers her face and starts crying while walking away...WTF? haha

Victories:
-Went from not wanting to approach to approaching
-My intuition is getting fucking rad. Even cold reading people and getting a sense of what type of people they are
-Finally approached a family set with a dad
-Pushed my comfort zone by approaching families and 1 seated set

Conclusion:
-1,5 hours
-cca 10 approaches

Lessons:
-My intuition is starting to get fucken tight
-I can attract a certain type of girl...other type of girl I kinda put them on the pedestal or it´s like we don´t really go well together
-Mom daughter set on a teenage daughter is kinda a lost cause...these girls are too immature to handle the social pressure of their mom being there
-I am putting certain type of girls on pedestal and come off weird as fuck
-I need to switch to indirect style of daygame.


My wing is kinda good looking or at least girls check him out all the time when we are out...so that´s probably why his direct approaches go usually pretty well.

But for me it´s better to go indirect.

Quoting Alexander:
with the direct stuff, i have said it before... it works when you are clearly significantly higher value than the girl, DJ, famous, hot guy whatever. Right now you arent abundant enough to make this work. But i know it works real well for beautiful brad and DJ Tim. The direct doesnt work as well for me as the illogical stuff. For ryan, at first his direct was fail times, but with experience he got real good and now it works well for him. IN the future i can see you going his way.

If you want to get solid results from solid interactions: direct will 'i like you' openers will get you some shock value but yield lots of flakes - like buying temperature at the time but buyers remorse later. With my method and my ways they will usually ignore you instantly only if they have a boyfriend. I went through a stage when I i followed through hard with instant day game blow off and after i got them talking they would genuinely say im so sorry but i do have a boyfriend but you are nice etc. Genuine stuff. So my way is better for screening the relationship girls. And, with my way, if its a good interaction then its usually an extremely good chance you'll get the date.

BTW: About appearance...this is how I dress...in the club it´s without the leather jacket so just a shirt. Just need to gain more muscle and clear out my face and i think it´s all good.
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Teuton

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 A trick is to use semi-direct(low pressure direct). Compliment the girl's style(when they are wearing anything that is nice/cool), even telling they are cute might be too much for you. To me the most consistent direct opening, is to compliment the girls style and make some kind of silly comment on it(pre-frame 'I love your style[pause]You look like a rocker barbie' or some shit) 
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Teuton

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 As far as indirect is concerned the best place I found is the bookstore. It simply rocks, I just ask for a book recommendation(for myself) and start to change topics
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CBAABC

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 @Teuton: yep, bookstores are kewl...Too bad that they are not the best in my small town, when I move to Prague I believe it will be much better over there.

19 days in a row...I think it was like 18 daygame sessions and 2-3 club sessions.

I AM BRINGING BALANCE BACK TO MY LIFE.

Why? Cuz If I would just keep going like this for another 6-12 months I´d just go crazy, be frustrated pretty often, other areas of my life.

Clubs are going to be very limited...probably 1x a week or 1x in 2 weeks. Daygame probably at least 3 longer sessions (1,5-3 hours) + some shorter sessions ocasionally.

This will clear up some time for other stuff and also give me more energy and willpower to focus on other things.

All of this will be till June...after all my exams are finished.

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CBAABC

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 How Natural Game Works

the goal of natural game is to have less anxiety than the girl in any situation. so for any guy that is walking up to a girl and is nervous, that is BULLSHIT. fuck off. your goal is to have so much life experience and such a wide reality that walking up to any girl does not make you nervous at all.

the way you do this is by having a wide spectrum of successes and embarrassments. the more social risks you take, the more your reality will become wider and the more value you will have. remember, what does a girl find attractive in a man? it's a sense of security. the girl will be attracted to you just because, as a man, you provide to her a sense of security.

that is why the more your reality gets stronger and the more successes and embarrassments you accumulate, the stronger your reality will be and the stronger the sense of security the girl gets from you.

the goal is for you to have such a wide spectrum of successes and experiences that nothing the girl can do will embarrass you. she tests you, you pass. guys try to fight you, you've been there. her friends come and want drama, you've been there. you can handle any and every tricky situation. if that is the case, the girl will see "oh shit, this guy is more centered than I am" and will be attracted.

instead of thinking in terms of reference points, I would think more of successes and embarrassments. actively take more and more social risks of every kind in order to have a stronger reality and a wider spectrum of successes and embarrassments.

and naturally this affects all your other game capabilities as well...

if you have a strong reality and you've endured a lot of bullshit, how easy is it for you to have your own fun instead of impressing? very easy. you realize only your actions as a man make yourself aroused. girls' reactions are just this big nothingness, this big vacuum. only your actions fulfill you. the rest is whatever.

if you have a strong reality how easy is it for you to have fun? you provoke people, use deliberate illogicality, instead of being stuck in the social conditioning thinking of bullshit to say to impress the next person. you're like "fuck this whole frame, I live my live differently". you have fun and never get in your own head.

if you have a strong reality your presence becomes much higher. if you don't need to care about causing impressions your everyday life gets better. you joke around, you fuck around with people, you give value and are a positive influence for everybody. there is no playing the game of victimizing, the game of social conditioning, the game of who's got the better car of better girl. there's just human to human warmth. and you projecting your fulfillment onto those that come across you.

so I would say, think in terms of successes and embarrassments. the more of each you have, the more relaxation, authenticity and better game you will have.

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Cliff notes: Take social risks...with more embarassements come successes. The more embarassements and successes you have the wider reality you have. The wider reality you have the more relaxed you are going to be.

ChinaBoy
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CBAABC

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 Check this out smile

Alexander~ Indirect Daygame Method

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roadrally

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Super good post main forum this shizz

ChinaBoy~ wrote:
 How Natural Game Works

the goal of natural game is to have less anxiety than the girl in any situation. so for any guy that is walking up to a girl and is nervous, that is BULLSHIT. fuck off. your goal is to have so much life experience and such a wide reality that walking up to any girl does not make you nervous at all.

the way you do this is by having a wide spectrum of successes and embarrassments. the more social risks you take, the more your reality will become wider and the more value you will have. remember, what does a girl find attractive in a man? it's a sense of security. the girl will be attracted to you just because, as a man, you provide to her a sense of security.

that is why the more your reality gets stronger and the more successes and embarrassments you accumulate, the stronger your reality will be and the stronger the sense of security the girl gets from you.

the goal is for you to have such a wide spectrum of successes and experiences that nothing the girl can do will embarrass you. she tests you, you pass. guys try to fight you, you've been there. her friends come and want drama, you've been there. you can handle any and every tricky situation. if that is the case, the girl will see "oh shit, this guy is more centered than I am" and will be attracted.

instead of thinking in terms of reference points, I would think more of successes and embarrassments. actively take more and more social risks of every kind in order to have a stronger reality and a wider spectrum of successes and embarrassments.

and naturally this affects all your other game capabilities as well...

if you have a strong reality and you've endured a lot of bullshit, how easy is it for you to have your own fun instead of impressing? very easy. you realize only your actions as a man make yourself aroused. girls' reactions are just this big nothingness, this big vacuum. only your actions fulfill you. the rest is whatever.

if you have a strong reality how easy is it for you to have fun? you provoke people, use deliberate illogicality, instead of being stuck in the social conditioning thinking of bullshit to say to impress the next person. you're like "fuck this whole frame, I live my live differently". you have fun and never get in your own head.

if you have a strong reality your presence becomes much higher. if you don't need to care about causing impressions your everyday life gets better. you joke around, you fuck around with people, you give value and are a positive influence for everybody. there is no playing the game of victimizing, the game of social conditioning, the game of who's got the better car of better girl. there's just human to human warmth. and you projecting your fulfillment onto those that come across you.

so I would say, think in terms of successes and embarrassments. the more of each you have, the more relaxation, authenticity and better game you will have.

---------

Cliff notes: Take social risks...with more embarassements come successes. The more embarassements and successes you have the wider reality you have. The wider reality you have the more relaxed you are going to be.

ChinaBoy
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Great fucking post!
ChinaBoy~ wrote:
 How Natural Game Works

the goal of natural game is to have less anxiety than the girl in any situation. so for any guy that is walking up to a girl and is nervous, that is BULLSHIT. fuck off. your goal is to have so much life experience and such a wide reality that walking up to any girl does not make you nervous at all.

the way you do this is by having a wide spectrum of successes and embarrassments. the more social risks you take, the more your reality will become wider and the more value you will have. remember, what does a girl find attractive in a man? it's a sense of security. the girl will be attracted to you just because, as a man, you provide to her a sense of security.

that is why the more your reality gets stronger and the more successes and embarrassments you accumulate, the stronger your reality will be and the stronger the sense of security the girl gets from you.

the goal is for you to have such a wide spectrum of successes and experiences that nothing the girl can do will embarrass you. she tests you, you pass. guys try to fight you, you've been there. her friends come and want drama, you've been there. you can handle any and every tricky situation. if that is the case, the girl will see "oh shit, this guy is more centered than I am" and will be attracted.

instead of thinking in terms of reference points, I would think more of successes and embarrassments. actively take more and more social risks of every kind in order to have a stronger reality and a wider spectrum of successes and embarrassments.

and naturally this affects all your other game capabilities as well...

if you have a strong reality and you've endured a lot of bullshit, how easy is it for you to have your own fun instead of impressing? very easy. you realize only your actions as a man make yourself aroused. girls' reactions are just this big nothingness, this big vacuum. only your actions fulfill you. the rest is whatever.

if you have a strong reality how easy is it for you to have fun? you provoke people, use deliberate illogicality, instead of being stuck in the social conditioning thinking of bullshit to say to impress the next person. you're like "fuck this whole frame, I live my live differently". you have fun and never get in your own head.

if you have a strong reality your presence becomes much higher. if you don't need to care about causing impressions your everyday life gets better. you joke around, you fuck around with people, you give value and are a positive influence for everybody. there is no playing the game of victimizing, the game of social conditioning, the game of who's got the better car of better girl. there's just human to human warmth. and you projecting your fulfillment onto those that come across you.

so I would say, think in terms of successes and embarrassments. the more of each you have, the more relaxation, authenticity and better game you will have.

---------

Cliff notes: Take social risks...with more embarassements come successes. The more embarassements and successes you have the wider reality you have. The wider reality you have the more relaxed you are going to be.

ChinaBoy
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CBAABC

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 @roadally: This one bellow is even better. Check it ou :)

How Natural Game Works

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ChinaBoy~ wrote:
 How Natural Game Works

the goal of natural game is to have less anxiety than the girl in any situation. so for any guy that is walking up to a girl and is nervous, that is BULLSHIT. fuck off. your goal is to have so much life experience and such a wide reality that walking up to any girl does not make you nervous at all.

the way you do this is by having a wide spectrum of successes and embarrassments. the more social risks you take, the more your reality will become wider and the more value you will have. remember, what does a girl find attractive in a man? it's a sense of security. the girl will be attracted to you just because, as a man, you provide to her a sense of security.

that is why the more your reality gets stronger and the more successes and embarrassments you accumulate, the stronger your reality will be and the stronger the sense of security the girl gets from you.

the goal is for you to have such a wide spectrum of successes and experiences that nothing the girl can do will embarrass you. she tests you, you pass. guys try to fight you, you've been there. her friends come and want drama, you've been there. you can handle any and every tricky situation. if that is the case, the girl will see "oh shit, this guy is more centered than I am" and will be attracted.

instead of thinking in terms of reference points, I would think more of successes and embarrassments. actively take more and more social risks of every kind in order to have a stronger reality and a wider spectrum of successes and embarrassments.

and naturally this affects all your other game capabilities as well...

if you have a strong reality and you've endured a lot of bullshit, how easy is it for you to have your own fun instead of impressing? very easy. you realize only your actions as a man make yourself aroused. girls' reactions are just this big nothingness, this big vacuum. only your actions fulfill you. the rest is whatever.

if you have a strong reality how easy is it for you to have fun? you provoke people, use deliberate illogicality, instead of being stuck in the social conditioning thinking of bullshit to say to impress the next person. you're like "fuck this whole frame, I live my live differently". you have fun and never get in your own head.

if you have a strong reality your presence becomes much higher. if you don't need to care about causing impressions your everyday life gets better. you joke around, you fuck around with people, you give value and are a positive influence for everybody. there is no playing the game of victimizing, the game of social conditioning, the game of who's got the better car of better girl. there's just human to human warmth. and you projecting your fulfillment onto those that come across you.

so I would say, think in terms of successes and embarrassments. the more of each you have, the more relaxation, authenticity and better game you will have.

---------

Cliff notes: Take social risks...with more embarassements come successes. The more embarassements and successes you have the wider reality you have. The wider reality you have the more relaxed you are going to be.

ChinaBoy
Why yes, so why the hell aren't you - seemingly - doing any of this? It's like you know what you need to do, but instantly regress the second you go into a set. 
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