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furyx

furyx

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Join Date: 04/05/2010 | Posts: 280

ChinaBoy~ wrote:

After she eats it (i am not hungry), we go to my room to watch a horror movie. Kiss, bite neck, massage, grab her ass. She´s like "you didn´t asked me this question: do you have a BF?" "yea, so do you have a BF?" "yeah, but it´s bad and it´s gonna end soon." I don´t give a shit.

After a while i go at her again, she´s turned on and says she doesn´t want to do this cuz she´d feel guilty. I brush it off, I don´t give a shit.

She gets hot and bothered as I am on top of her, rubbing her with my leg, putting hre hand on my dick. She´s like i shouldn´t be doing this, but i want to...she´s pulling away.

I am sometimes just like "i hate you, i am not talking to you or back turning to her" it amuses me and it´s arousing.

She´s always trying to call this dude, some friend and she´s always helping him when he gets in trouble. Whateva, she´s leaving at 18:30, kiss goodbye, she says see you later, i ask her about freetime, she has time on thursday. Mischel is leaving work at 19:00 so i get this devilish smile and call her up. Now gonna call her up again and see if i can set up another date for this moment.


I smelled a LAY right there. I think if you were just unreactive and took it a step down a little bit. And then  Wash, rinse, repeat, you could have handled the LMR.

I think the "i hate you, i am not talking to you or back turning to her" might have decreased the chances of the lay because you are reacting to her. But some good valuables learned here. I have a day2 coming soon too and it's good to know what to expect to get the lay. Keep it up man! Good job! :)
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CBAABC

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 Nah, I think I hadled it well. No need to push it too far that you burn down the future chances.

Also I was applying the no rush mentality...before I´d be sooo rushing for sex on a date. I keep in my mind that it takes 5-6 hours for a girl to get intimate with you (Alex).

Checkout this article on LMR www.julienlife.com/last-minute-resistance-poking-the-box

"An easy way to do this is can be using PUSH-PULL.
If something doesn’t work don’t just pause and just try again, but actually PULL back. I like to personally do this through the “I love you / I hate you” frame that I constantly use sometimes even from the very start of the interaction when I first meet her."

I am negative and positive...because I am arousing, I am not reacting.

But when she tests you, like she did: "with talking about BF" I just said "hmmm, hmm, ok" in a totally chill way. Also be chill about her resistance.


For myself: key distinction

Being reactive vs. Being arousing

So the right way is to be chill about test (her being negative, teasing you, etc.)

But be arousing (push pull).

ChinaBoy
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Dr Feelgood

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Nice, you were so close!
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CBAABC

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 She deactivated her FB after yesterday´s date...Maybe it was because immediatelly after we parted ways i called Mishel (didn´t picked up) and the blondie though that i called someone to brag about what just happened. I dunno, whatever. Just next time do not do this.

Also Mishel deactivated her FB...weird.

Whatever. It´s all good.

Gonna take a nap and go out now. Still feel sick (sicker than before), durrrr.

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furyx

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 Damn dude I think they know what sup haha
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 13.12.2011 Night

I am sick...originally intended to go for a 2-3 hour club session but my friend flaked so i didn´t wanted to go there with my another wing so we just did some streetgame.

Approached this blondie, she´s not partying, just going home...

Approach these 2 girls "Hey, I am Ivi, what´s your name"...talk to them pretty chill, after 3 min my friend comes in and i introduce him to the girls, they complement me that i remember their name.

We talk, I high five, try to hug but she´s not receptive so i pull back...talk some more, again hug, but not receptive. I am kinda bored so i talk shit, non sense.

"You are very sarcastic does it work with you with the girls?" "yea, it´s fine" completely chill.

We talked for like 10 mins, I go for the FB, she´s looking at my phone and then looks me in the eyes, I don´t react. She says some excuses, talk some more and try to get it from her friend, but also no go. After that they left.

Victories:
-Approached even though I didn´t wanted to
-Didn´t wanted to go for the conctacts (they were 26, 23 and knew that I was 19 and I felt that they weren´t into it) but did it anyway
-Didn´t really cared about the girls, I was like "I approached so much, I don´t really care about the outcome, I just came to do my approaches and to keep my momentum)

Conclusion:
-1 hour
-2 approaches

Lessons:
-Get bored and then arouse yourself
-During night streetgame and daygame it´s easy to see where you are uncalibrated
-Just be chill, be arousing (positive and negative), But never be genuinelly pissed at her for her behavior (that´s called being reactive)

So this was 20th day in a row.

ChinaBoy
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 Hey, few post back you said that your state goes down when u get like 30 blowouts in a row.. atleast you have said it in many reports. So maybe this video http://www.rsdnation.com/node/167112?page=77#comment-807988 can help you. It's about the setting the success criteria for the night. It should always be just approaching. If the criteria is just to approach then your state would not go down if u get blown out. Thought it might help, cheers!
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CBAABC

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 @Me vs Me: I know what causes the blowouts...it´s this mindset "Oh, I lack self trust, I need to sarge the venue to make something happen" which puts me into this anxious state and causes blowouts...the more blowouts I get the more I am thinking of approaching like a madman till something will stick. Well, maybe it works for Tyler. But no for me. What fixed this for me is: "I go out to realise that the girls will come to me, It´s all good, no expectations"

14.12.2011 Night

Never again...went out with my buddy for 1 hour to chill then 2 hours to chill in a pub, then 1,5 hours were club time. I am just gonna join my wings for the club.

So went to 2faces. It´s dead. I am nervous, thinking there is not enough sets.

I go approach these 2 girls, say something and then mention that I have a cold, she gets pissed, tell me to leave, I though of that as a test so I stay but she´s pissed and after her telling me to leave for like 3-4 times i leave.

I approach this stunner dancing alone on the dancefloor. I go up and say what your name? She´s slow on response, avoids EC, is ignoring me. Well, ok I left after 2-3 attempts. I leave laughing my ass off.

Go approch these 3 girls dancing, I introduce myself and she laughs, I ask some screening questions. Then she grabs her friend to block me away, I stay there just chill and I was about to reengage her but she just grabbed her friends and left. I laught my ass off.

We go to Caribic. It´s packed but a lot of mixed sets.

I go approach this girl, she´s not really paying attention, short answers, kinda dismissive, I wasn´t even in the mood to push it.

I approach this blonde walking somewhere. We talk for 3-5 mins. I feel that it´s kinda too friendly and that it´s 50/50 conversation almost right away, so i am kinda suspicious. I ask her what´s the name of her BF, she says the name...shortly after that I wasn´t really interested in talking with her so I stopped and they excused themselves.

I go approach these 2 girls. I tap her, she´s looked suprised/scared so i back off a bit and then say "sorry, I scared you off, My name is Ivi" then turn to her friend and introduce myself after that she grabbed the guy on her right to show me that he´s her BF. Now I say hey to him, how´s your night. I keep talking to my original girl and they keep looking at me. I feel under social pressure but decide just to stay there. I talk, my girl is laughing. Then i brush and lead her a feet away. Then she gets pulled away from her friend to take a pic. I reengage her, I say we should be friends, she bursts out laughing (In my head I am thinking WTF? this wasn´t funny). I pull out my iPhone and she turns around or something and bumps into my hand, iPhone falls on the ground. It doesn´t seemed to be working, I leave the set (do not give a shit about some stupid girl)...I am stressed, after 5 min fiddle with it and it works.

Decide to leave at 1:30 AM. On my way home I didn´t even wanted go beastmode on streets. Today I wasn´t being myself hahaha.

So tonight was a very shitty night. I am still pretty sick, got headache and cold, I felt pretty nervous in the clubs, I felt kinda down and not motivated to take action.

Victories:
-Approached the hottest girl in 2faces on this open area where almost every dude was watching me. Fuck social pressure
-Getting a better feel of if the girl has a BF. I just sense that there´s something a little bit off
-Decided to stay in the set even though I felt social pressure from those 2 looking at me
-1st time my iPhone felt on the ground...it still works. thank god
-Laughed my ass of with some blowouts

Conclusion:
-1,5 hour club time
-6 approaches

Lessons:
-Bring the girls into your space. Don´t be all leaning in and invading their space.
-I still lack self trust...empty club makes me stressed cuz I think there´s not enough girls for me to approach
-Short answers, no EC, ignore-just don´t be lazy and persist. At least try, you have nothing to lose
-Blowouts are funny
-Calibration, if you she looks kinda scared, pull back you pull back/take a small step back...also mixing it with a statement of empathy is awesome

ChinaBoy
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CBAABC

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 Durrrrr.

I have been sick for over 1,5 weeks...going out everyday isn´t the best thing to get healthy. So I decided to stop going out everyday for now.

Yesterday was day 21.

I want to make money. Getting into Internet marketing for real. Pickup is great but it´s time to stop spending my parent´s money.

I was spending too much time reading RSDnation.

Time is limited:
-No more porn (after orgasm I feel kinda disappointed, like this is it? and also waste of time)
-No more RSDnation (just my journal, main page, my threads)
-No online dating (daygame is soo much better)

What I am going to do:
-Go out a lot (maybe getting back to 7x/week)
-Internet marketing (spend like almost all my freetime on this)
-Meditation (20 min a day)
-Read more (doesn´t have to be everyday)
-Studying
-Gym (what I need to change is eat more)


With going out I wanna limit clubs (to 2x), more daygame (2-3x for 2-3 hours) and fill the rest days with short daygame or dates.

Time to hit hard my financial life!!!

EDIT: it´s my mind rationalising why I decided to stop going out everyday...This week felt very unmotivated to go out. But I am gonna bring some balance to my life. Money will allow me to do whatever I want to do (travelling, going out, healthy food, cool clothes, hookers-no just kidding haha)

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CBAABC

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 Haha...True but still I´ll be jet lagged cuz I am commin back from Shanghai on 30th and then the next day gonna take a train to Krakow.

ChinaBoy
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