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March 24th, 2017
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#51

kitty

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Join Date: 01/18/2012 | Posts: 60

 10 years later you will regret it. dont be so childish. you will settle down at some point. you need good money.
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#52

its_starscream

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Join Date: 02/19/2012 | Posts: 255

 give me your job
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#53
Courage

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Join Date: 09/22/2006 | Posts: 2441

The problem isn't your job. I know people that have similar boring jobs and they live just fine. You have to create the change in lifestyle that you want for yourself.
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#54
chinaski

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Join Date: 02/24/2010 | Posts: 500

You have money saved, and your issue is social/approach anxiety... Why don't you take a bootcamp? that at least will help solve one of your problem. you can spend your whole life thinking about "what ifs" scenarios, and what you "could" do with your life, but some things may just be so outside of your control right now that you would just be mentally masturbating. Instead think of what you can do RIGHT NOW to make your life better? Even if you keep your job for say 1 more year, could you improve your pickup, your nutrition, your physique? Maybe learn a new skill on the side? There are tons of things that you can do now that will help big time in the long run, and as you start feeling better about yourself and about your life, more opportunities will arise. If you are depressed, your decision space is probably very limited.
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Yoda

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Join Date: 03/22/2008 | Posts: 1215

Personally, if you find something you rather want to than what you are currently doing, you should go for it.

Could you see a cool guy with a positive mindset who absolutely loved doing your job? Were passionate about it? Came with new ideas? Contributed? Had a great life outside work? Went out at lunch hours and talked to girls?

When our lives suck, we tend to blame our external environment, but quite often the problem is with ourselves. I`m not saying you should not quit your job and find something better, but I think your actual problem has less to do with your job than you actually think.
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#56
Bob-Newbie

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Join Date: 10/24/2011 | Posts: 145

subx wrote:

Shady wrote:
Wtf guys you need to take a chill pill all of you

okay op listen, obviously you're grown up, so you must know some shit about real life, there's nothing enjoyable in being broke as fuck, more or less living in poverty, if you really have a good plane once you quit your job, and you know about it's certainty first hand, then go ahead. If not then stick to your job, rak up some money, invest in something like passive income, and then you can do whatever the fuck you want.
don't listen to no one, they are not you. only you know yourself.
Hot girls are interested in me but this social anxiety thing has held me back so much.    What do I need to do?   Do i need to read stories of people who had crippling social anxiety who have gotten past it and how they did it?   I can't find any success stories like that,  specially on social anxiety disorder forums.  it just a bunch of people complaining, talking about what Rx drugs they take and shit.
I don't think people recover from it.

Even people who say they are "cured" and even teaching people how to overcome it say they still have it to a degree. And if you go on the Social Anxiety "success story" section it's just SO SAD and DEPRESSING. People are writing up "successes" like how they managed to pay for groceries at the store. Like, is that meant to be an achievement? Is that meant to be something to aim for?
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#57
startale

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Join Date: 09/10/2011 | Posts: 190

I think you blame it on the job because you lack the social life that you want. Fix you social life and then see what you think about your job. Build macro social momentum, go out and do approaches everyday. Make a plan to go out and approach for at least 30min a day. They key is to do it everyday. Go out with your friends also.
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#58

TheFinisher

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Join Date: 05/17/2011 | Posts: 861

 Could you venture out and become a consultant?

How is your "inner game"?
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#59

Pardi Gras

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Join Date: 07/07/2012 | Posts: 81

subx wrote:

Shady wrote:
Wtf guys you need to take a chill pill all of you

okay op listen, obviously you're grown up, so you must know some shit about real life, there's nothing enjoyable in being broke as fuck, more or less living in poverty, if you really have a good plane once you quit your job, and you know about it's certainty first hand, then go ahead. If not then stick to your job, rak up some money, invest in something like passive income, and then you can do whatever the fuck you want.
don't listen to no one, they are not you. only you know yourself.


Hot girls are interested in me but this social anxiety thing has held me back so much.    What do I need to do?   Do i need to read stories of people who had crippling social anxiety who have gotten past it and how they did it?   I can't find any success stories like that,  specially on social anxiety disorder forums.  it just a bunch of people complaining, talking about what Rx drugs they take and shit.







Pay very close attention to 0:45-1:10.  Ignore the CONTEXT and focus on the CONTENT of what Deida is saying.  "What men trust in men and what women trust in men is their capacity to remain present throught thick and thin."  Your answer is in those 25 seconds of video.
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#60
RockNRollPUA

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Join Date: 12/14/2008 | Posts: 1955

Yo man.  I am in the exact same situation as you.  I work in IT doing computer programming full time.  All you really need to do is go out solo a few nights a week.  Keep the drinking to a reasonable level.   I'm trying to cut alchohol, but it's hard to get enough momentum working a regular job so I usually have a few beers to loosen up early in the night, then go to the club and just start talking to people.   You just kind of muster up the willpower to do the first few low risk approaches, then gradually ramp it up throughout the night untill you find a cute girl that is drunk and horney.  It takes time to get good at this.  Just about everybody has social anxiety.  Most guys out at the club hardly do any approaching and just hang with their social circle.  The good thing about having a badass job, is that you can actually afford to take programs with RSD.  My wing has done 2 bootcamps and went to a few hotseats.  He basically went from no experience, to being an approach machine who could go up to anyone pretty quickly and have a girl all over him in 5 minutes.  I have been to a couple hotseat programs, learned a bunch of shit, and got laid a ton from it.   Really the only thing about game that is really hard for 99% of guys is getting over the fear of the approach or atleast being able to push through it.

If I have been working alot or haven't been going out for a while, it is hard as to get the ball rolling.  I been at this shit for like 8 years.  Everytime I stop being a and just go for it, I end up having a sweet time and get laid.  It is just hard to bust out of that logical headspace from doing computer shit all day, but it can be done.  You should probably think about taking a bootcamp, just to get some good experience on how to push through that anxiety.  It will open up allot of doors and It actually pays for itself in the long run with the money you save on booze and spending money on women.
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