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Tips on Public Speaking?
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#11
adjunkie

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Join Date: 11/27/2006 | Posts: 720

Didn't read through this to see if it's been said already but you should join a toastmasters group. Probably the best way to get good at public speaking..
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#12

sirex

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Join Date: 04/11/2009 | Posts: 705

 Hi Gfunk:

There is no secrete to public speaking. There is no magic pill or Egheart Tolle, or RSD that is going to help you with public speaking.

The only thing that will help you is by doing it over and over again.

One of the techniques I use is practice. Look your self in a mirror, prefereably one you can stand in front, and do your presentation. Do it over and over again, practice it. The more yuo practice it the more confident you get with your material.
Gfunk wrote:
Ok, so i found out today that i have to do a 10 minute presentation (on my own) for my University class. It will be in front of about 30 people and i am completely and utterly terrified of doing this. My speeches or presentations in the past have always been awful, i get extremely nervous, my voice shakes uncontrollably, my throat gets dry, i stutter and forget what i am going to say.... and so on... Nothing triggers my anxiety more than public speaking.

Any tips? I know some of you will say to relax, and ive tried that before but it does not work for me at all.

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#13
Professor Hughes~

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Join Date: 04/13/2010 | Posts: 587

Long term strategy- take a class in public speaking.  It's generally an easy A and it will help get you over your fear.  I took a public speaking class in college and honestly it was the most beneficial class I took in 4 years of university.

Short term- Talk twice as loud and twice as slow as you think you should.  Practice hard on the first 30-60 seconds of your speech and really get it down perfectly.  If you can get through that first minute, the rest of the speech will be a breeze.
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#14

fathergll

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Join Date: 04/05/2010 | Posts: 8

Nassim wrote:



Seriously they should teach this stuff in schools. Don't try to look confident when you're not. Your audience will appreciate your genuineness and will focus on your content because you convey that transmitting your content is more important to you than the need to appear cool/confident.




I completely disagree with that. Your state is seriously affected by your physiology and acting out fear with your body language is never helpful. You’re basically just reinforcing the negative. “If you want to be powerful pretend to be powerful, if you want to be confident pretend to be confident”

You’re much more likely to have fear magnified if you take up a fearful posture. Cajun from love systems talks about this a ton in the realm of pickup game, but also check out the DVD Physiology of Excellence with Menachem Kasdan which is NLP based but its really a body language DVD. (I don’t even think its sold anymore, just download it torrent)
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fathergll

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Gfunk wrote:


Any tips? I know some of you will say to relax, and ive tried that before but it does not work for me at all.

As everyone said the only true cure is experience. But there are things that can make the journey much easier that give you a head start. As I mentioned in the post above about Physioloigy of Excellence you should also check out the DVD 90 minutes to killer presentation skills. Its actually an excellent DVD on public speaking and basically breaks down why people get fearful as hell with public speaking and shows you easily the difference between good and bad speakers and the habits that they both possess. If you don't know anything about presenting its a huge advantage. Its not cheap DVD around $90 but can be usuful as hell. 
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#16

AttyBoOO

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Join Date: 05/15/2010 | Posts: 441

Bro,

Public speaking is just like game. Self-amusement, freedom from outcome and intent.

Love what you're talking about and have a good time doing it. You can see Tyler in his Free Tour videos.

Imagine how you would describe your best approach to a newbie.

You're gonna kill it.

AK
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#17

Gfunk

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Join Date: 09/18/2010 | Posts: 52

Well, ive got the presentation tommorow. Im feeling ok about it but i always get insane nerves just before i start the speech.

I've practiced it a couple of times and recorded myself to try and fix things that i see wrong.
Ive noticed i fidget a lot, aswell as a lot of uuuhs and ums. - Something i have to work on.
Also noticed my voice starts to shake if i forget to swallow and breathe...

Hopefully i can get through that first 1-2 minutes without to much trouble because it usually kills me.

I will practice a couple more times tommorow morning before so i basically know it off by heart.

As for approaching women and public speaking, they are in an entirely different field to me. I am a lot more comfortable cold approaching women than i am with public speaking....



Thanks for the Advice in this thread :)
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#18
Jack-Stripper

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Join Date: 11/07/2006 | Posts: 1086

The thing with public speaking is it will scare the living shit out of you, especially if you "try to relax."

I solved my public speaking problem FOREVER, the day I decided to literally not hold back. That's the secret to the whole thing. Say to yourself that you're just going to give it your all and go nuts. Fuck the fear, fuck the nervousness, do it anyway, and put your entire heart and soul into it. The reason this works, is because you stop focusing on "what does the audience think of me" and instead you are focusing on just giving your best speech/presentation/whatever possible. Don't fight the fear, it will drive you nuts, just know that it's there, accept it, and then focus on giving your speech your all.

I must say I've also had moments, even after I decided to do this, that I went blank infront of the audience for a couple of seconds. The interresting thing is: "NOTHING HAPPENS." You don't die, you don't lose any limbs, you dont even get made fun of. So there's really fuckall to be worried about. Just bash through that shit mate.

Hope I made myself clear.

- Luv Jack-Stripper
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#19
Professor Hughes~

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Join Date: 04/13/2010 | Posts: 587

Nassim wrote:

[/b]How did it go along?
Post a FR :)

Fuck that, post an LR!

If there wasn't an orgy or a bathroom pull after that speech, I'm gonna be disappointed!!!

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