THE FORUMS

Wow. Shit just hit the fan. So I am actually in Shanghai right now on an international tour and some drama just hit the fan. The question is where do I begin. Recently I decided to change my career path and look into something new. Because I have kept my shit together and have kept my contacts I was able to gain acceptance into an international MBA program. Upon acceptance I was very excited to do this program and now it has backfired in my face. Part of my program was completing a team project. My colleagues in this program are people whom I want to befriend and have a part of my professional network but the more I get to know them the more I try the more I cannot understand them. It has gotten to the point where every social interaction has turned into something more than I can handle. It is something that has gone beyond my control. I do not know if it is my fault or if it is theirs. I am pretty sure it is shared between both parties. Anyways everything was going smoothly until a girl threw a wrench into everything. She was assigned to my group. She was eager and wanted more control over interactions then she was actually competent. At first I was slightly attracted to her and will say I still am but very much on a physical level I think. After all I was just coming out of a relationship and am trying to bear with the solitude and emotional void/scars that I have. She was cute and blonde, however on a scale of 1 to 10 she was about a 7. Her face was botched and pimply but she possessed a nice body and cute smile. I am not going to get into details but I could sense the sexual tension when we first met.

Anyways, I delayed on my game and she ended up fucking a swimmer cut-body dude that was also on our trip and I felt I was scratched off. However I knew that she had interest but I am very counterculture and I think my game and personality is a little foreign to her. Now the state of affairs is completely fucked. Fucked in the sense that I called her on her shit. I told her that she was a 7 and that the only reason she got attention and got away with treating dudes like shit was because she was the only hot chick in our group. I was drunk. I know that is my first fallacy. But I was getting tired of talking shit and not backing it up. We, and by we I mean all the others in my program, went out on an excursion to find a club in a fioregn country. It was about 14 of us. And along the way we assumed that we all had it figured out. We were all going to go out to find the club. It was going to be exciting.

Upon our exciting adventure, me and my friend (An RSD Intermediate) eventually decided to leave the group because it was too many of us and we realized no one had logistics figured out. And we knew that people were going to try to ditch each other. I went to say goodbye to all of the group because I wanted to keep these people as friends and not just disappear on them. So I went to say goodbye to everyone. As I walked towards the blonde she looked at me and just shook her head and would not say goodbye to me. I was offended and muttered "what a bitch" under my breath and proceeded to leave with my friend. (She spited me because she felt that I was trying to control her project work).

As me and my roomate walked home we talked about RSD and how that you just need to learn how to take a shut down. That in all reality, it is only through the pain of being rejected that you are able to not fear nor hate approaching all types of women. We then opened a single set with a gorgeous girl who spoke no English and scared her off. We got nowhere so we decided to head back to our place and cook dinner. On the way back we saw a bunch of the people from the earlier group walking back. It was apparent that the others had ditched this group.

After dinner we were sitting down in front of my apartment window talking about how shity it is for a group to go out and before they even reach the initial destination ditch the others in the group. Its just a sense of common decency that when your leading a group you get to your destination before you wonder off. We also were talking about the blonde and how she shafted me when I respectfully wanted to say my goodbyes to the group. We also talked about how she thought she was the shit because she was the only hot chick in the group and could get away with dissing me. Just after I had expressed my opinions on this she walked into my room with my roomate and others from the exclusive group.

Upon their arrival she walked in and instantly commanded attention from the group who all to willingly gave it up. She began to bitch how the club was awful and that she had gotten bored. While everyone nodded I just looked over at my friend. We made eye contact and decided to have some fun putting her and this group in their place. Perhaps it wasn't the greatest idea as I was drunk and was worked up from the previous conversation.  Emotions flared and insecurities were exploited.

Blonde: OMG the club was so lame.
Me: Really, was it as lame as you guys, like when you ditched everyone.
Blonde: What!? I didn't do that.
Me: I don't really care about lame clubs.
Blonde: Your an asshole
Me: I am the asshole, please what elese do you know about me.
Blonde: OMG how can you say that I took a cab back by myself.
Me: I don't care but I heard Stacy and Lara talking about ditching the group early on.
Blonde: I would never do that. I can't believe you would say that. Your Evil.
Me: Really, go on, what elese do you know about me?
Blonde: (Begins yelling) WTF is your problem.
Me: Nothing I am just not gonna put up with your shit.
Blonde: Fuck you. You are such an ass. This is why I called you a dick in that email. Your such an asshole and you can't con (Previously I had asked her to focus more on setting up interviews for our project instead of research. She mistook that for me trying to take credit for her research.)
Me: Your ridiculous. You think just because you have the best body on the trip you can treat others like shit.
Blonde: Fuck you! Your so full of shit. I am not even drunk right now. I am going to remember this in the morning.
Me: Good. Now get the fuck out of my room.
Blonde: OMG! I want to strangle you right now!
Me: Ohhh really.. Your fucking crazy.
Blonde: OMG! We will talk about this tomorrow. I am not even drunk.
Me: Sure your not. Yes we will talk because your in the wrong.
Blonde: I want to fucking strangle you right now.
Me: Get this crazy bitch out of my apartment.
Blonde: Fuck you. I hate you.

She then leaves.... I am like wow what the hell just happended. All I wanted to do at first was break her down a little. So that she didn't contoinue treating everyone like shit including myslef. Especially, after having talked about it with my firends if I just played a long with her game then I would been betraying myself. So I felt that I had to say what I said. I then started talking to my RSD friend and he said that he didn't expect her to threaten me. It all seemed to happen so fast. He didn't know about the history with the group project and he said that this was something different. It wasn't just social it was now professional and personal. So he told me write a field report. I decided that this would help me straighten my thoughts out. As I was writing this, she ended up coming back with roomate and

If the community has any advice on how to handle girls like this please share.

Follow up: Later that night around 3:30 AM the Blonde came back to my room with my roomate. We talked about what had happen. I validated myself and my assumptions about her and the night. And told her that this was how I felt. We settled our differences and I went to my room. So the trainwreck has damage control on the scene. However I woke up this morning to hear my roomates and another kid talking about the argument. So I do not think that this is going to go away soon. Again, any advice or insight would be helpful.

-PSlice